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[guek]

Hooked up with a close friend once after a party. We've never brought it up since then and it's never felt awkward. *shrugs*

We're both married now. She just had her first kid!

 

[RayMaker]

Everyone's different, There are no facts or rules in this matter.

 

[Version 3.0]

I guess it works for some people, but definitely not for me. And, from what I've seen, a lot of people who would answer "yes" to that question are obviously lying.

 

[Resilient]

Yes there is. And it's a different type of sex. More often than not tho it gets ruined cause somebody catches feelings.

 

[Pai Pai Master]

I guess it works for some people, but definitely not for me. And, from what I've seen, a lot of people who would answer "yes" to that question are obviously lying.

Where does this assumption come from?

 

[The_Hitcher89]

Hooked up with a close friend once after a party. We've never brought it up since then and it's never felt awkward. *shrugs*

We're both married now. She just had our first kid!

 

[dralla]

Yes it's definitely possible. You can be sexually attracted to someone but not romantically attracted to them.

 

[jdouglas]

Yes it's definitely possible. You can be sexually attracted to someone but not romantically attracted to them.

I mean, YEAH, but actually getting to the point where they'd get in bed with you takes a bit more work/comfort/familiarity (I'm looking at women here); I see TONS of women I would sleep with that would sleep with me if I take them out to coffee a few times, have a couple of deep conversations with, then when the sexual tension really builds up they'd just give in to their desires. Basically, you gotta be friends, and at that point, it would be fairly easy to develop feelings on one side.

 

[titiklabingapat]

Sometimes, sex really is just sex, OP.

You are inexperienced, you've only had sex with two people. This will change with time. Enjoy the ride and don't focus too much on the hang ups. It's just sex

 

[Vigilant Walrus]

Are you sure you're not thinking of dolphins again?

 

[Bam Bam Baklava]

I think that sex is too intimate of an act for absolutely no emotional bond to form between the people involved.

 

[guek]

Hah! No, her husband is a beautiful man and another good friend

 

[Sai-kun]

Duh? That was like my entire sex life for a year and a half after getting out of a long relationship. It was great. There were folks I'd see more than once or twice, but it was all really casual and fun.

 

[ZaCH3000]

Once you've had sex with 200 women, the idea becomes broken. That idea boiling down to we had sex and now I love you because sex equals love. I don't subscribe to that at all. As a matter of fact, a few women I've slept are still good friends, while others walked out the front door never to be seen again.

The bottom line is you define what sex means and what love is. My definition of both and lifestyle are likely radically different than yours. We are both entitled to define these things however we see fit.

 

[Version 3.0]

Where does this assumption come from?

It's not an assumption. It's "what I've seen", as I said. People claim they're "no strings attached", but obviously do, in fact, care whether the other person is having sex elsewhere.

I've even personally been involved with someone who, it turns out, wanted what I can only describe as "one-way monogamy". She called it no strings attached.

Anyway, that's my personal observation. Maybe I don't see the no strings situations because they're just less visible to begin with. Obviously, one that turns out to have strings after all can make quite a scene.

 

[stonesak]

eh

That was a pretty glib response of mine, but there is no 100% effective method to prevent pregnancy and STD's, so there is at least always a very, very, very small string attached.

 

[Shmuppers]

Once you've had sex with 200 women, the idea becomes broken. That idea boiling down to we had sex and now I love you because sex equals love. I don't subscribe to that at all. As a matter of fact, a few women I've slept are still good friends, while others walked out the front door never to be seen again.

The bottom line is you define what sex means and what love is. My definition of both and lifestyle are likely radically different than yours. We are both entitled to define these things however we see fit.

I can get behind that.

Spoiler

Heh heh

 

[captainraincoat]

Depends on the woman from experience. ...I had a fuck buddy for a few years in my 20s and we had a mutual agreement that we liked each other only in the fucking sort of way and to use it as means to explore our sexuality

I got to experience orgys. ..bondage. ..strap ons and some of the best sex of my life and I used it to really refine for what I'm looking for in a long term partner. ..at the end of our 2 year fuckathon we had partners lined up to go to so we had one last hurrah and walked away

She got married and had 4 kids ...I'm not married but have 2 kids and we still speak to each other on the odd occasion and reminise on good times

 

[Darknight]

Wow they slept together? Not a huge Seinfeld guy so I havent see all episodes!

 

[TylerD]

Not for me. Tried to do the random hook-up thing a couple of times and hated it. Would much rather spend time to get to know someone, develop feelings, and then have sex. It makes it so much better to me.