Mauricio_Magus
Banned
Holy fuck man... you've gone through too much shit, you need help. Don't go through this alone!
-
Hey Guest. Check out your NeoGAF Wrapped 2025 results here!
I've been traumatized and it's depressing me
- Thread starter The Praiseworthy
- Start date
- Status
Alcotholic
Banned
Man, I'm sorry OP.
If I could give you a hug, I would.
But here's a cookie
Feel better. Find someone you trust and confide in. We're all here to listen if you need. But find someone who can be in your presence.
If I could give you a hug, I would.
But here's a cookie
Feel better. Find someone you trust and confide in. We're all here to listen if you need. But find someone who can be in your presence.
While I am very sad about both your and the OP's experiences, isolation is not a healthy solution. there are decent human beings out there that won't backstab you.
Northeastmonk
Gold Member
Invest your time in doing something productive. Don't spend it feeling like you can't go on. Find a place to start and move from there. Take it one day at a time. Don't over indulge either, that can make it worse. Simply find something you want to do, become, or obtain and do it.
Nephitamine
Member
Focus on your work/studies and the things you love to do. It's the best way to get through difficult times like losing your parents. Also, find someone from your family to at least talk about your problems. Even if they can't directly help you, you may feel better and find a place to start getting your life back together.
I know it's a bit late to say this, but going on the vacation was a bad idea even if your "friends" weren't complete jackasses. Spending money that you didn't have would only make things worse after you came back to your normal life. Do not make that mistake again.
I know it's a bit late to say this, but going on the vacation was a bad idea even if your "friends" weren't complete jackasses. Spending money that you didn't have would only make things worse after you came back to your normal life. Do not make that mistake again.
Damn man, really sorry to hear what happened to you. Try not to let it get you down, there are a lot of good people out there too, don´t forget that.
If you ever come over to Holland i won´t leave you alone for even a second, unless you ask politely offcourse
Fuck those assholes.
If you ever come over to Holland i won´t leave you alone for even a second, unless you ask politely offcourse
Fuck those assholes.
This story is awful! If you are feeling low, please PM me or any of the others who have offered on this thread. We are all here if you need to talk.
Also, I'd be down to donate for an iPad or even just some money to pay down his cards or to live with.
As others have asked - where were these people from? What country did you go to?
Also, I'd be down to donate for an iPad or even just some money to pay down his cards or to live with.
As others have asked - where were these people from? What country did you go to?
JimmyRustler
Member
I strongly disagree. It's how you cope with it.
And just so we don't misunderstand each other: I'm not suggesting complete solitude. Have some hobbies and socialize but learn how to live by yourself at the end of the day. I am on good terms with my workmates and with a lot of people in my gym. I often deliberatly drive around by bus and talk to people while I do so. But at the end of day, when I come home, I'm glad I'm all by myself. And I don't trust anyone and basically expect to be fucked over by everybody. Say what you want but I think you're better off going through the day like this.
I can't even imagine.... reading through your opener made my heart break Praiseworthy. You need to first realize how damn strong you are right now. Think about it. You, a single individual, have somehow survived through ALL of this shit through your own force of will. Put aside the fact that you have been wronged and are depressed.... you have a huge load on your shoulders that you have been walking with, and surely a lesser person would not have made it as far as you have.
Recognizing that, never ever think you're alone. Its an easy thought pattern to fall into. But somewhere in your life is somebody who is more than willing to listen to what you've been through.
The best thing to do right now is take life one day, one step, at a time. Dwelling on your past is only going to serve to atrophy those muscles you've flexed for a whole year carrying this burden. Never give up, set some small goals for yourself daily. Something simple, like thanking a worker who is picking up the trash, or exercising for half an hour, maybe finishing a certain task you've been putting off for too long.
I too would like to chip in to buy this poster a new iPad. I'd be willing to go in for a few dollars.... I don't have much of anything to spare but having recently benefited from the generosity of a stranger I'd like to pass the same onto a poster who is struggling. The least we can do for this person is to give him back an iPad. If somebody organizes the page I'll gladly pledge the funds.
Recognizing that, never ever think you're alone. Its an easy thought pattern to fall into. But somewhere in your life is somebody who is more than willing to listen to what you've been through.
The best thing to do right now is take life one day, one step, at a time. Dwelling on your past is only going to serve to atrophy those muscles you've flexed for a whole year carrying this burden. Never give up, set some small goals for yourself daily. Something simple, like thanking a worker who is picking up the trash, or exercising for half an hour, maybe finishing a certain task you've been putting off for too long.
I too would like to chip in to buy this poster a new iPad. I'd be willing to go in for a few dollars.... I don't have much of anything to spare but having recently benefited from the generosity of a stranger I'd like to pass the same onto a poster who is struggling. The least we can do for this person is to give him back an iPad. If somebody organizes the page I'll gladly pledge the funds.
A crazy ordeal.
It sucks that there are people like that out there.
But at least you still have yourself, and know that you are a better person. It sucks to be taken advantage like that, but if all you lost was money or material stuff, well, that stuff isn't what life is about, so hopefully you can move on from there.
It sucks that there are people like that out there.
But at least you still have yourself, and know that you are a better person. It sucks to be taken advantage like that, but if all you lost was money or material stuff, well, that stuff isn't what life is about, so hopefully you can move on from there.
vas_a_morir
Banned
I usually try to lighten the place up, but honestly, your story is serious. I feel like I see a little bit of myself in you; as if under similar circumstances I might feel just like you do now. I know what it feels like to feel lost. I know what it feels like to be ostracized, used, and discarded by people whom I thought of as friends. It really haunts you.
With your parents, it will take time to move on. I have no wisdom here.
As for the betrayal... you have to forgive and compartmentalize what happened. I held onto my anger at some of my friends for years before I finally forgave. And when I did, it lifted the weight of those feelings off my shoulders. Until I decided to forgive and move on, I was haunted by what happened. Every time I thought about it, it's as if it was a new wound. I've had friends steal from me and lie to my face about it because of drugs, too. It might help to say "I forgive this person" and move on. If you sincerely do it, you mightl find that you no longer feel hurt by what transpired, even if you try.
I sometimes think that was the great lesson of The Count of Monte Cristo. Edmond Dantes was a free man, but he remained trapped in that cell as long as he held onto his anger. That's how it feels when you allow someone who has betrayed you to continue to hurt you, I think. You don't have to contact them or anything. All you need to do is say "You know what? I forgive these people. Let them go on and do what they like with their lives, and I'll go on and live my own." If you can't sincerely feel this way about the situation, then there is no point in feigning forgiveness when their betrayal still stings. It took me years... and it may not work for you. But at least, that's what I had to do to heal. However, if I had to do it all over again, I would have forgave my friend much sooner. I let it go on way too long, and it was affecting the way I view the world in a terrible way. Just something to think about.
Hope you feel better.
With your parents, it will take time to move on. I have no wisdom here.
As for the betrayal... you have to forgive and compartmentalize what happened. I held onto my anger at some of my friends for years before I finally forgave. And when I did, it lifted the weight of those feelings off my shoulders. Until I decided to forgive and move on, I was haunted by what happened. Every time I thought about it, it's as if it was a new wound. I've had friends steal from me and lie to my face about it because of drugs, too. It might help to say "I forgive this person" and move on. If you sincerely do it, you mightl find that you no longer feel hurt by what transpired, even if you try.
I sometimes think that was the great lesson of The Count of Monte Cristo. Edmond Dantes was a free man, but he remained trapped in that cell as long as he held onto his anger. That's how it feels when you allow someone who has betrayed you to continue to hurt you, I think. You don't have to contact them or anything. All you need to do is say "You know what? I forgive these people. Let them go on and do what they like with their lives, and I'll go on and live my own." If you can't sincerely feel this way about the situation, then there is no point in feigning forgiveness when their betrayal still stings. It took me years... and it may not work for you. But at least, that's what I had to do to heal. However, if I had to do it all over again, I would have forgave my friend much sooner. I let it go on way too long, and it was affecting the way I view the world in a terrible way. Just something to think about.
Hope you feel better.
reptilescorpio
Member
Fuck that sucks dude. Hope things turn around for you, they will at some point I promise.
The Praiseworthy
Member
As usual... so much love and support, how can I ever return this love and support to you guys?
As for the iPad... thank you so much my friends this is just unbelievable I feel a sudden rush of good feelings in my heart, so much generosity. please I'm really fine and good there are so many more unfortunate people out there who need more important things than a material piece of hardware like cloths and food.... being alone and stranger in another country really made me appreciate what I already own and have. Can't tell you thank you enough... it's really unnecessary but really just the idea of offering to do this already touched my heart and healed me and gave me a big hope that there are plenty of good people around me even If i couldn't feel them all the time.... but when I need them they are here close to me.
I'm sure those people are the ones who took my money because they were the only ones in my room.. and my money were there and then.. it's all gone.
Of course they weren't from Gaf... this is the most friendly community I've encountered online.
What happened to me was really bad, but I'm really glad that it happened because it taught me so many lessons that will only help me to become a better and stronger person... which is a good thing for me.
I've survived the lose of my parents and all the other awful things that happened to me... this is just another push I needed to find a better ways to improve myself.
I have good family members and friends in my life that I isolated myself a little from after the passing of my parents... this experience made me appreciate them more and finally break the isolation wall that stand between us.
I have everything I need.... and I know things will get better over time.
I won't contact these people again, I'm just happy that I'm done with them.
I want to thank every poster that posted here... I've received the care trust me.
Again.... thank you so very much.
As for the iPad... thank you so much my friends this is just unbelievable I feel a sudden rush of good feelings in my heart, so much generosity. please I'm really fine and good there are so many more unfortunate people out there who need more important things than a material piece of hardware like cloths and food.... being alone and stranger in another country really made me appreciate what I already own and have. Can't tell you thank you enough... it's really unnecessary but really just the idea of offering to do this already touched my heart and healed me and gave me a big hope that there are plenty of good people around me even If i couldn't feel them all the time.... but when I need them they are here close to me.
I'm sure those people are the ones who took my money because they were the only ones in my room.. and my money were there and then.. it's all gone.
Of course they weren't from Gaf... this is the most friendly community I've encountered online.
What happened to me was really bad, but I'm really glad that it happened because it taught me so many lessons that will only help me to become a better and stronger person... which is a good thing for me.
I've survived the lose of my parents and all the other awful things that happened to me... this is just another push I needed to find a better ways to improve myself.
I have good family members and friends in my life that I isolated myself a little from after the passing of my parents... this experience made me appreciate them more and finally break the isolation wall that stand between us.
I have everything I need.... and I know things will get better over time.
I won't contact these people again, I'm just happy that I'm done with them.
I want to thank every poster that posted here... I've received the care trust me.
Again.... thank you so very much.
BocoDragon
or, How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Realize This Assgrab is Delicious
^ sounds to me like you have found a wonderful attitude in response to this situation.
This kind of stuff will make you stronger! Best of luck man.
This kind of stuff will make you stronger! Best of luck man.
hydragonwarrior
Member
If there's one thing I'd like Anonymous to do, is to hunt down and humiliate those 2 pricks that took your cash and left you stranded. That's as heartless as they come.
Well, speak for yourself. There's been plenty of times when members of NeoGAF have needed help and I've often thought long and hard - even after closing the browser - about how to help them.
Welcome to the real world. Nothing shocking about that.
---
What OP needs is real talk and a slap in the face. Apparently he is an emotional wreck and doesn't need that sensitive bullshit GAF often delivers. He needs to wake up. He said he was the youngest in his family. Doesn't he have older siblings? Where are they? Why don't they look after him?
The last place i would go and discuss these problems would be on a gaming message board. I bet the next time something happens to him he will again open a thread about it looking for attention and nice words.
The Praiseworthy
Member
No my friend.. They really help me to get over things, and they keep in touch with me for days through private messaging
I'm really grateful for having this support here and it ease things on me.
BocoDragon
or, How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Realize This Assgrab is Delicious
No my friend.. They really help me to get over things, and they keep in touch with me for days through private messaging
I'm really grateful for having this support here and it ease things on me.
I'm happy you said that.
Even through this imperfect medium.. know that you made it through to people who care, and are rooting for you!
Praiseworthy I'm so sorry about everything that's happened to you in the past year. I can't begin to understand how difficult it must have been what's been going on in your life and how it is affecting you but yes we are here for you. GAF has been a very nice place for people in the past few years. Trust me when I say I wish I could do more for you in this situation as well as many people on here reading your story. Being here is good enough I suppose. We got you buddy don't worry.
=GabrielKnight=
Member
I'm so sorry, this is terrible, but it looks like you're strong and will get trough it!
Aesius
Member
What the hell is wrong with you?
mcfishstick
Member
Praiseworthy I don't really post much and usually just lurk, but I've seen your seen your threads and am amazed by your sheer strength of will.
I can't do much to change anything but I really hope things get better for you.
And next time you go on holiday go with Gaffers, that way we can be sure nothing so awful will happen
I can't do much to change anything but I really hope things get better for you.
And next time you go on holiday go with Gaffers, that way we can be sure nothing so awful will happen
velociraptor
Junior Member
Insensitive and completely unnecessary. Your post does not help at all.
I have to disagree, making a thread and interacting with people on a forum can be very helpful. Just look at the overwhelming support he has received here.
it's good advice to be honest
wsoxfan1214
Banned
Not really.
He gives no advice. Get a slap? The fuck kind of help is that?
Going to siblings is a fair point but the post is pretty shit to be honest.
Sorry to hear that man. Really really shitty stuff to have happen to you. Like you said, you can only go up so I would try and be positive (as you are). Soon enough this will be nothing but a distant memory at best. Talk with real friends and family.
JetBlackPanda
Member
Yeah I bet the next time he travels to another country and meets people that he hosted and it goes horrible wrong he will post of gaf about it.
I get what you are trying to do but really? This situation isn't really normal or will happen again. Dude just wanted to share his feeling with people.
- Status