FunkyPajamas
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Does not compute. If skin becomes non-elastic, boobs will keep tightly compressed, no?Zenith said:
(disclaimer: I neither own nor pretend to understand boobs).
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Just caught my 14 year old smoking
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(disclaimer: I neither own nor pretend to understand boobs).
EliCash said:
:lol :lol :lol :lol
Thanks for the laugh.
Seriously though, having a 14 year old daughter is pure hell.
Everything that I ever did as a fuckwit dumbass shitstain of a teenager is coming back to haunt me in spades.
If I can get her through high school without having a baby, I'll do a victory dance on the roof of my house. I'm already starting to have conversations with her mom about putting her on birth control. A dad doesn't want to even think about his daughter having sex, but I'm not going to bury my head in the sand either. All I thought about at age 13,14,15,16,17....etc, was fucking anything with a female vagina and a pulse.
JeTmAn81
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Whoompthereitis said:
Not every kid has to try everything. I certainly didn't. I've never done any kind of illegal drug, and while I have taken both tobacco and alcohol in moderation, I never did so before my 18th and 21st birthdays, respectively. Discipline, yo.
Of course, in my case I had the advantage of two united parents. In this situation your hands are somewhat tied as a father since you can't control what goes on in the other household. The best thing seems to already have been done: express disappointment and set clear boundaries for this behavior.
funkmastergeneral
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JeTmAn81 said:
No, you're just a nerd.
I kinda want to be a parent, but in reality, I'm fearful of shit like this. My parents spanked me when I did something wrong. Granted they instilled dicipline in me when I was young. I can't give you any advice (hey I'm only 18 :lol ) but with the custody thing, any advice would fall on deaf ears. At least in the future, if she goes to shit, you can always tell her you warned her.
MiniBossBattle
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bill0527 said:
Great. This is what I have to look forward to as a parent?
Dreams-Visions
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preach.JeTmAn81 said:If being a nerd means you end up a well-adjusted, happy and healthy adult with no dependency or major mental issues, then count me in. Also, birds of a feather
FunkyPajamas said:
Sounds like you're thinking of "elastic" meaning "stretchy," whereas really it's the ability to snap back into place after being stretched (to behave like a rubber ball rather than clay).
Gravity is always pulling boobs down. If the skin isn't elastic enough, then gravity wins, and you get saggy boobs. If the skin is elastic enough, the skin wins, and you get awesome boobs.
It's science!
The Technomancer
card-carrying scientician
Amen brother. Hell, I still haven't tried smoking at 19 because I really just don't see the point. I have my own ways of dealing with stress, I hate the smell, and I don't want to support an addiction out of my pocket.JeTmAn81 said:If being a nerd means you end up a well-adjusted, happy and healthy adult with no dependency or major mental issues, then count me in. Also, birds of a feather
which1spink
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Last week a noticed a group of teens of about 13 to 14 smoking pot in public space. Now that's alarming if you ask me.
JeTmAn81
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The_Technomancer said:
Good to hear, man. Even when I did smoke it was just a few cigars to add a little panache to poker games with my friends. So it's not that I'm a teetotaller...I just know if I ever have kids I'm going to do my best to instill in them the value of moderation. There's way too much lung cancer, drunk driving, etc. in the world to treat this stuff like it's totally harmless.
Foxy Fox 39
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Dead Man Typing said:
:lol What the? I thought loving parents were supposed to help their kids avoid the same mistakes they went through. Most kids end up hating parents who are "buddy buddy"...
For instance my 10 yr old niece started stealing from a teacher no less because she wasn't feeling she got enough attention (two other toddlers)...Should my sister have "actively approved of the new hobby in hopes she would be bound to take another look at the situation and realize what a mistake she's making?" Be a parent topic person, not a friend, not a buddy, not a neighbor...a parent.
McLovin said:
Seriously. I could never date a smoker.
A couple weeks ago, I was on the patio of a bar/restaurant talking with this girl I met. Someone came outside and lit up a cigarette next to us. Started to smell terrible. We moved away a bit and I mentioned to her, "you know? I don't think I could ever be with, let alone go on a date with, a smoker." I go on for a couple minutes and then go... "oh, wait.. you don't smoke, do you?" Thank God she said no and basically agreed with everything I said! :lol oh it could've been bad.
IronFistedChampion
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Medalion said:
Dead Man Typing
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JeTmAn81 said:If being a nerd means you end up a well-adjusted, happy and healthy adult with no dependency or major mental issues, then count me in. Also, birds of a feather
But it doesn't, nerds can be miserable too. Following all the rules all the time works for some, but not for others. I know plenty of people who "lived the life" while in high school, but were still very successful. I also know nerds who never pushed any boundary in their lives and probably never will.
Something about folks and strokes....
Well I mean it's not really YOUR parenting that's causing this.
It's hard to influence someone when someone as close as her mother is directly influencing the negative behavior.
I don't know what I'd do. I'd just ask what's her reason for smoking and see what they come up with. I think research has shown that young people smoking do it because someone they are close to does or did it... and this seems to be the case with her mom.
It's hard to influence someone when someone as close as her mother is directly influencing the negative behavior.
I don't know what I'd do. I'd just ask what's her reason for smoking and see what they come up with. I think research has shown that young people smoking do it because someone they are close to does or did it... and this seems to be the case with her mom.
heliosRAzi
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Show her a picture of Amy Winehouse and Lindsay Lohan.
Dead Man Typing
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Foxy Fox 39 said:
10 and teenage are worlds apart. Be a parent when their young, but when they're becoming their own person, talk to them like a person. Not a friend, not a buddy, not a neighbour... a person. Because that's what they are.
Treat a young adult like a child and you'll only get more problems. At 14, they've already been told what's right and what's wrong. You aren't going to change someone's behaviour at that age by sending them to their room, or taking away their phone or whatever it is people consider punishment these days (I'm 24, I shouldn't be saying these days).
brianjones
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JeTmAn81 said:If being a nerd means you end up a well-adjusted, happy and healthy adult with no dependency or major mental issues, then count me in. Also, birds of a feather
you sound like a bore
innervision961
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Man, I grew up in a smokers house. Both my parents smoke, and of course I ended up being a smoker around 14 myself... I guess I smoked for about 6 or 7 years 
But I grew up came to a few realizations and I've been smoke free going on 5 or 6 years now, not looking back.
What finally pushed me to quit was a few simple things:
1) cancer... seriously who wants lung cancer
2) money... cigarettes are expensive as hell
3) stink... smokers stink, they stink bad, and once you've quit you realize just how bad. Now when I get near a smoker at the store or something I nearly gag.
Good luck with this man, but you gotta' know, no matter how hard you push, and angsty teen is just going to push back. Let her know you're disappointed, tell her she smells, show her cancer pictures/videos online, but don't get aggressive, that probably won't work. Talk to her like she is on your level and she is more likely to respond.
But I grew up came to a few realizations and I've been smoke free going on 5 or 6 years now, not looking back.What finally pushed me to quit was a few simple things:
1) cancer... seriously who wants lung cancer
2) money... cigarettes are expensive as hell
3) stink... smokers stink, they stink bad, and once you've quit you realize just how bad. Now when I get near a smoker at the store or something I nearly gag.
Good luck with this man, but you gotta' know, no matter how hard you push, and angsty teen is just going to push back. Let her know you're disappointed, tell her she smells, show her cancer pictures/videos online, but don't get aggressive, that probably won't work. Talk to her like she is on your level and she is more likely to respond.
Vigilant Walrus
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bill0527 said:
He had to try it. He is becoming a teen. What do you think is going to happen if you dictate his life, and project it to be some rebellious shit? something as monotone and lame as smoking?
GTFO of here with that man. Your just planting seeds to what he will do when his mind is growing and he becomes really F'ed up in the head.
Baki
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JeTmAn81 said:If being a nerd means you end up a well-adjusted, happy and healthy adult with no dependency or major mental issues, then count me in. Also, birds of a feather
OH SNAPPPPPPPPPPP!
You just schooled him.
:lol
Vigilant Walrus said:
Its a she.
Love how everyone assumed it was his son. :lol
The Technomancer
card-carrying scientician
Yeah, I get that a lot. Funnily enough though, I don't actually find the idea getting hammered at a party or sitting around lighting up with my friends fun. Exactly the opposite, actually. I'd rather sit around and read a book or engage someone in discussion. Just how I'm wired.brianjones said:
FunkyPajamas
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Pterion said:
Oh, that makes sense, thanks! But I'm still going to have to do some research.Ri'Orius said:
DualShadow
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Pein said:
I'm 22 and never smoked anything at all.
I tend to get annoyed when people say things like 'that's what kids do' just because that's what they did. Not all kids are the same and not all try smoking cause it's "cool" or cause of peer pressure.
Dark Octave
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:lol :loldorkimoe said:
Remember: never take shit from your kids. You make payments on the house, utilities, their clothes, school, and their food. You own them. If they don't like it, they can move out. If you love your kids, love them enough to beat them so that they don't grow up to be idiots.
I agree 100%.
To add to this. I like the idea my friend has that his kid's room is not his kid's room. He is simply allowing the kid to sleep and keep their "loaned" possessions in it. Therefore, they don't have a lock on the door. They shouldn't be doing anything in there that would require them to lock the door.
I got beat. Never smoked. :lol
Vigilant Walrus
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JeTmAn81 said:
Sort of true, but that can also be a scapegoat or a way of avoiding things you shouldn't while your wrong. I am saying that with the most contradiction in my fiber as I have some shift of that myself.
Be true to yourself, and find your morale codex, and just go by that. Otherwise you might look back 20 years from now kicking yourself that you didnt more when you were young and stupid.
PetriP-TNT
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edit: blah, I'll rather not go to that route
brianjones
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The_Technomancer said:
have you ever actually tried it?
i hate people who sit around stoned all the time but once in a while it's fun.
how can you really live life if you spend it living inside of a book?
FunkyPajamas
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What about masturbation?Dark Octave said:
The erectile dysfunction bit posted on the first page was actually a good idea, until we found out she's female. Appeal to her vanity, if there's one thing I've learned from my sisters it's that teenage girls are incredibly insecure about their appearance.
Inform her that smoking will harm her skin's elasticity, causing her to face to wrinkle and her breasts to sag. This will at least make her think about quitting, but it'll probably take a while for her to decide completely.
Inform her that smoking will harm her skin's elasticity, causing her to face to wrinkle and her breasts to sag. This will at least make her think about quitting, but it'll probably take a while for her to decide completely.
The Technomancer
card-carrying scientician
its...more the social aspect, really. I don't like parties in general because nothing interesting (for me) happens. I'm definitely not "anti-social", I'm engaging and outgoing, a good conversationalist, but at the same time I really don't like being around people if we're not doing something constructive or engaging. I haven't really tried it, but I've seen friends drunk and high, and it just isn't something that interests me. *shrug*brianjones said:
I have very weird definitions of "fun", something I've come to accept.
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