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Just kicked out my alcoholic girlfriend

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Good job. You totally did the right thing. Trying to fix someone while in a relationship with them is not easy and most of the time not worth doing. Now you have a chance at living peacefully focusing on you until you want to pair up with someone else that has their stuff together. Easy path to happiness.
 
Don't look back and don't let it get to you. You did the right thing-If she comes back claiming she's clean, don't give her a second look. To those saying they should patch it up...nah, it doesn't work like that for a short relationship like that.
 
tbro777 said:
You have made the right choice.

I married young,both of us were 22. We would go out and she was always getting smashed. I drink til I get a buzz then try to maintain that buzz, she would drink until she would pass out. Knowing what I know now I should have seen the signs of her being an alcoholic but I dismissed it as we were young and young people drink a lot.

We had a daughter a year later, that's when I decided play time is over, but she seemed to get worse. It was like she didn't want to grow up.about 5 years into the marriage it got to the point were her drinking led her to cheat.I really tried to forgive her for it and work through it. I realized that want going to happen. We split and months later she moved out of state with our daughter. 6 months later her parents and her sister called me telling me she was drinking with strangers passing out while or daughter would either be alone or with these strangers after she would pass out.

So I fly my daughter back to me, a few months later my ex called said she wanted to move back to my state to be close to our daughter. I agreed to let her stay with me until she got a job and her own place.I went with her to aa meetings, when she had a relapse I helped get her into a detox center. None of that helped, she continued drinking. I then told her she had to leave, she wouldn't. Police would not make her leave because she received mail, she legally was allowed to live there. Eventually she stole my debit card spent every dime I had in the bank, couldn't pay rent so I had to leave and go live with my.brother.

Like your ex she was the nicest, sweetest person when she wasn't drinking, complete opposite when she drinks. She still calls every nite and then asking to stay with me for a couple days or a few weeks, I will never make that mistake again.

So don't go back on your decision, an alcoholic who does not want to get better will bring you down with them.
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An addict has to want to change, nothing else will get them too.

You made the right choice.
 
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Congratulations, OP. I hope the transition is easy for you.
 
B_Spooky13 said:
OP my girl of 5 years is also Native and she also gets mean when she drinks.

Last night was our 5 year anniversary and she got drunk and literally bitched me out for everything I have done the past 5 years.. It was a special night.. (sigh)
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That's your warning, homie.
 
tbro777 said:
You have made the right choice.

I married young,both of us were 22. We would go out and she was always getting smashed. I drink til I get a buzz then try to maintain that buzz, she would drink until she would pass out. Knowing what I know now I should have seen the signs of her being an alcoholic but I dismissed it as we were young and young people drink a lot.

We had a daughter a year later, that's when I decided play time is over, but she seemed to get worse. It was like she didn't want to grow up.about 5 years into the marriage it got to the point were her drinking led her to cheat.I really tried to forgive her for it and work through it. I realized that want going to happen. We split and months later she moved out of state with our daughter. 6 months later her parents and her sister called me telling me she was drinking with strangers passing out while or daughter would either be alone or with these strangers after she would pass out.

So I fly my daughter back to me, a few months later my ex called said she wanted to move back to my state to be close to our daughter. I agreed to let her stay with me until she got a job and her own place.I went with her to aa meetings, when she had a relapse I helped get her into a detox center. None of that helped, she continued drinking. I then told her she had to leave, she wouldn't. Police would not make her leave because she received mail, she legally was allowed to live there. Eventually she stole my debit card spent every dime I had in the bank, couldn't pay rent so I had to leave and go live with my.brother.

Like your ex she was the nicest, sweetest person when she wasn't drinking, complete opposite when she drinks. She still calls every nite and then asking to stay with me for a couple days or a few weeks, I will never make that mistake again.

So don't go back on your decision, an alcoholic who does not want to get better will bring you down with them.
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Wow that is ridiculous....glad nothing happened to your daughter and you have her safe with you.
 
Wow some of these stories, it sounds like I got off easy after what some of you went through
Sho_Nuff82 said:
She goes out drinking and dancing with dudes who are DTF until 4AM, and then lays the guilt trip on you for being down about your parents divorcing?

She must be smoking hot for you to put up with this nonsense.



Protip: If you're not ready for someone's life burdens, you aren't ready to live together. Don't make that plunge so quickly in the future.
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Well she was at some dumb house party with her coworkers. They're mostly under 21 so they hang out at each other's houses I don't trust quite a few of them but I trusted her judgement not such a good idea I guess.

But we got forced into living together, when we first started dating we both lost our jobs because the Casino we worked at went Bankrupt so to make rent and survive until we started our new jobs we had to move in together. So we lived off my credit cards for a while until we got enough money to pay them off. It was a difficult time.
 
Well done, i know someone like that and its getting to the point where i think she needs to get help or it might end up destroying her.
 
That's sad to hear. Be sure to notify her family and perhaps they can help her. Sometimes you just gotta cut people off to smack them into reality.
 
OP you are a good man, just wait and things will become better and you'll find someone who is better for you. Also do you drink at all?
 
It's nice to read a relationship thread on GAF where the OP already took the necessary action and wasn't looking for an excuse to delude themselves that their SO will change/get better.

Congratulations on being so responsible and having the foresight necessary.
 
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