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[ParticleReality]

Never Give Up. I've loved the same girl since the 3rd grade. She's rejected me and I'm okay with that because I want her to be happy....even if I think all her boyfriends are jackasses who don't deserver her.


She said she likes me too but, doesn't want to ruin our friendship. I'm sure she'll come around, I just gotta believe.

 

[aoi tsuki]

Hey,

It's kind of embarrasing to post this in a forum but I just want to know about other people's experiences so I know what to do with this (though I think I know what the answer will be).

It's as easy as this. I've been dating a guy from a foreign country for a couple of months. He and I knew he was going back to his country 2 months after we started being together. After he left he invited me to visit him in summer and I did. When the time came that we had to talk about the future it was clear: I loved him but he didnt love me back. He likes me. He's attracted to me, but he doesn't love me so we basically split up.

A week after coming back from his country he asked me whether he could come to my place on september to practise the language, leaving clear what we had talked before... So he could basically meet other people and we could as well end up together if things change (but let's face it it's unlikely). The answer should be obvious but I can't help but think 'hey, maybe he'll end up feeling something, even if its extremely unlikely if he doesnt now...'

Have you been in similar situations? What's your say?

ps: i think im just desperately trying to find someone to tell me "go on! you'll make it!" It's sad, it sucks but I'm in love. I have this feeling of 'I'll never find someone like him again' and I don't wanna lose him

So basically you guys had a fling, you felt something for him that he didn't reciprocate, and now he wants you to host him while he goes and ****s other people. Yeah, don't let that happen.

i know people are different, but two months seems like a really short period to actually love someone. You're still in the infatuation stage, and your infatuation is blinding you to the truth.

Forget about him and go date other guys. While you're pining after him, you're missing out on tons of other guys that'll love you back. If it's meant to be, it'll happen. You can't force someone to have feelings for you, and given the situation it's better he admitted that he didn't love you rather than string you along.

 

[ichigo kurosaki]

So basically you guys had a fling, you felt something for him that he didn't reciprocate, and now he wants you to host him while he goes and ****s other people. Yeah, don't let that happen.

i know people are different, but two months seems like a really short period to actually love someone. You're still in the infatuation stage, and your infatuation is blinding you to the truth.

Forget about him and go date other guys. While you're pining after him, you're missing out on tons of other guys that'll love you back. If it's meant to be, it'll happen. You can't force someone to have feelings for you, and given the situation it's better he admitted that he didn't love you rather than string you along.

Well it's not like that exactly. I feel like I'm making him sound like a devil and that's not the truth... he wouldn't come here to ****, it's just that if he met someone else and liked him he can't promise me he will lay back, and I can't really ask him to do otherwise. I think that you may be right about the infatuation thing, though, because I believe I have him a little idealized and stuff... Maybe I just don't know what love is, I don't have that much of an experience.

 

[Tamanon]

Well then welcome to your education. The only way to find out how love works is to see how it doesn't work. The broken heart is the only one that learns!

 

[Instigator]

Well it's not like that exactly. I feel like I'm making him sound like a devil and that's not the truth... he wouldn't come here to ****, it's just that if he met someone else and liked him he can't promise me he will lay back, and I can't really ask him to do otherwise. I think that you may be right about the infatuation thing, though, because I believe I have him a little idealized and stuff... Maybe I just don't know what love is, I don't have that much of an experience.

Is he the reason you made all those topics about the French language?

Trying to connect the dots!

 

[Propagandhim]

I thought it would work, but it really doesn't. I tried for an embarrassingly long time to get my ex to fall back in love with me. Doesn't work. I wish it did.

 

[ichigo kurosaki]

Is he the reason you made all those topics about the French language?

Trying to connect the dots!

Lol not really, none of the languages involved is French actually, I didn't even remember that thread (by the way I STILL need to learn French... have one of my finals in under a month )

 

[Propagandhim]

Never Give Up. I've loved the same girl since the 3rd grade. She's rejected me and I'm okay with that because I want her to be happy....even if I think all her boyfriends are jackasses who don't deserver her.


She said she likes me too but, doesn't want to ruin our friendship. I'm sure she'll come around, I just gotta believe.

Man, I doubt you really care, but I honestly feel bad you think like that. There is no magical man in the background setting things right for you. You need to look at the reality of the situation, and not waste your life on waiting for her. You'll be happier, anyway.

 

[aoi tsuki]

Well it's not like that exactly. I feel like I'm making him sound like a devil and that's not the truth... he wouldn't come here to ****, it's just that if he met someone else and liked him he can't promise me he will lay back, and I can't really ask him to do otherwise. I think that you may be right about the infatuation thing, though, because I believe I have him a little idealized and stuff... Maybe I just don't know what love is, I don't have that much of an experience.

Well, we're only getting one side of the discussion here, but i wouldn't put it past him to take advantage of the planned living arrangement, at least beyond what you assumed. More importantly, how are you going to feel knowing that you're enabling him to go out having fun with other guys?

Also, i'd be weary of letting anyone stay with me for two months, given tenant laws. Call me paranoid.

 

[tnw]

Man, I doubt you really care, but I honestly feel bad you think like that. There is no magical man in the background setting things right for you. You need to look at the reality of the situation, and not waste your life on waiting for her. You'll be happier, anyway.

Enh, let him be. No harm in letting him try.

I sympathize with him. I still meet/date other people (even if I just pretend they're the guy that I like when I sleep with them)