Ok, first thing you do is pool your funds into one account. Then, make sure you always refer to money as "our" money. Quit your job because you have hypertention or back problems and can't work (refer back to expectations for help on this). Push her hard so she goes farther in her career than you ever would(hint: don't have any kids). Sit at home on the couch and enjoy your spoils.dark10x said:Hmm, I'm getting married next year as well, but my experience seems really different.
I'm still nervous about it, but none of those issues seem to be present for me.
My fiancee is pretty independent (like myself), already makes good money (together, we'll be doing very very well), respects privacy (and I respect hers), never places blame where it isn't due (I'm lucky here), and that's not even touching on everything I love about her.
Still, I too have been on my own for years and it's going to be very strange having someone else under the same roof again. The marriage ceremony itself seems like it will be pretty difficult to setup, though (getting married in her hometown in France). We're making good progress, but there are a lot of things to complete. Fortunately, she's not really a bridezilla and, while the wedding is very important to her, her view seems a bit more down to earth.
I do think marrying a young girl (20 year old, like the OP mentioned) seems a lot riskier, though.
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2/2!J-Rod said:
Its too bad I have to wait 5-6 years before I can pull this off...
I am completely against this of course!!
TheRagnCajun
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Marrige Counseling.
There is absolutely, positively, nothing wrong with this. Your relationship does not have to jeapordy to go do this. Many couples do this before they get married. It will set both of you on a good start for your marrige.
There is absolutely, positively, nothing wrong with this. Your relationship does not have to jeapordy to go do this. Many couples do this before they get married. It will set both of you on a good start for your marrige.
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My thoughts exactly.LCfiner said:
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True... My girl was much calmer before she starting working towards the wedding. Something about getting a big project done drives people nuts and fills them with stress... Thankfully it will all be over and done with in a month's time and I am helping more and more.Returners said:
As for all those comments about her being too young... I have only dated a few younger girls in my life but I know quite a few... and to be honest I cant stand them. They are annoying as hell and cant make simple decisions. Also they are terrible when it comes to conversation... "so whats going on with you.."... 10mins later ... "and so whats up with you hows it going"... 5 mins later "so whats up in your life" .... I feel like pulling my hair out! My girl is smarter than most girls I met and has great communication skills (I am never bored) ... She's more mature than any of the girls I have ever dated though she can be of a spoil brat at times... But I'm hopefull even that will improve.
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PistolGrip said:
Well, they can't legally get much younger than 20. If you can't stand them at 18, it's pretty much guaranteed you won't stand them at 20 either.
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I meant younger than me.Mockingbird said:
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Definitely doing this. Its going to be hard to do and convince her to do birth control for 5-6 years.Woodsy: said:
Hispanic girls are told so many evil stories about the pill though there are side effects.
BAIL OUT NOW if you have even the smallest inkling that you have doubts (which you do) about this marriage. Don't do it then regret it later. You need to be really sure that she is the one person you want to spend the rest of your life with. If she's not, then what are you doing marrying her?
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the only thing i can tell you is that my relationship was pretty much fucked up after we moved in together (after being a couple for 3 years). within half a year of moving together, our relationship was done for. it just would have been a good idea to live some time together before marriage IMO. nonetheless, i wish you the best bro.
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Yeah its scary for me... What were the problems specifically? I stayed with her close to a month a while back but she was always with me when she was home but she has a pretty busy life with school and work so it wasnt a big deal (she didnt find my pornfalconzss said:
or pictures of my eXes).paranoidfortean
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I got married in October but wouldn't have done so if I had any of the concerns you have. Those are scary, scary things to be looking into forever with.
The guys saying bail out aren't just jokers. Have a serious look at the whole situation.
The guys saying bail out aren't just jokers. Have a serious look at the whole situation.
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haha... I just became 100% sure. Thanks GAF
I don't know, reading this thread, it seems like you're having more second thoughts about this marriage than her. Ultimately, you need to realize that marriage takes work and compromises. It's not hard to imagine that you will lose a bit of privacy when you are married and other women are definitely off limit. Let's not blame your fiancee for having "too many hot flirty 19-year-old friends who I totally want to bang !" Have some self control and half of the problem you listed in the first page will be non-issues. She's already cleaning up after you because she has a strong traditional perspective on marriage, so I hope you can be the gentleman she looks for as a traditional husband.
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Given all that you've said already, I sure hope you've had the kids talk already cuz that's something that needs to be fleshed out before you get married.
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100% sure I need to bail!dem said:
j/k
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joke thread or joke of a human being
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TheRagnCajun said:
Doing this is great. Makes it so there are no surprise opinions about things you can and will forget to discuss beforehand.
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PistolGrip said:
Get the cheapest wedding invitations possible. It should solve your problem.
Like someone above said, marriage or any kind of partnership requires some compromises. You must be willing to make them. And from the sound of it, right now, you are not willing to do that just yet. One day, you'll meet someone (possibly even this girl if things are really meant to be) who you'd look without hesitation and can say that "Yes, I am willing to compromise on few things so I can spend the rest of my life with this person". If she's not this person, then bail out or chill things down.
Hmm
A 27 year old marry a girl that's under 20 that still have tons of school left (Aren't those pharm degrees like 6 year majors). Is gonna be the only source of income until she finish.
Bail the heck out.
Most people don't know what they want at 20 and if her social life is as you describe with your activities and people she hangs with (hot friends which means a good chance she's hot). There's gonna be a point where she's gonna be like "F this married crap, I'm still young and hot. Off to the clubs while my husband works at his second job to support us."
Plus she got you so whipped that if you even slip up a little bit treating her as a princess she gonna think she's too hot and good for you.
A 27 year old marry a girl that's under 20 that still have tons of school left (Aren't those pharm degrees like 6 year majors). Is gonna be the only source of income until she finish.
Bail the heck out.
Most people don't know what they want at 20 and if her social life is as you describe with your activities and people she hangs with (hot friends which means a good chance she's hot). There's gonna be a point where she's gonna be like "F this married crap, I'm still young and hot. Off to the clubs while my husband works at his second job to support us."
Plus she got you so whipped that if you even slip up a little bit treating her as a princess she gonna think she's too hot and good for you.
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Thank you for your contribution. Insulting people on internet for no reason makes feel good doesnt it...bathhouseterror said:
One line insults like this can only come from a dumbass jerk.. hmmm yeah feels good...
Yep she still has like 5 years... She's a professional cerfitied cosmetelogist already though and works part time also becoming a pharmacy tech next year. Makes ok money for the hours..ccbfan said:
Well she works and goes to school. Shes attractive, but I have no doubts... She hasnt done anything to make me feel that she would ever do this. Actually one of the reasons I love her is that she is not flirty, and is more traditional.ccbfan said:
She always treats me ten times better than I do her its scary... Hopefully this doesnt happen.ccbfan said:
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I only read the first page, but just wondering, but how exactly did you, at 25, hook up with this girl who was 18? I don't know about you, but I don't hang out with girls 7 years younger than me (if I did, I would be hanging out with 14 year olds, which is just gross)
Not necessarily, according to the BBC it's key for marital bliss
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/8325579.stm
Although in this case the girl may be a little young :/
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Not necessarily, according to the BBC it's key for marital bliss
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/8325579.stm
Although in this case the girl may be a little young :/
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If you have to completely change your life just to marry someone, don't marry them.
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Only girl I dated who was this much younger than me... I met her when she was turning 18, because of my Cousin who was an instructor at her beauty school (one of the reason she has so many hot friendsGSG Flash said:
). She graduated HS at 16 and went on to become a cosmetologist before she went to study full time for her pharmacy degree. My cousin went out with her students and invited me ... I was in heaven... one beautiful girl after another... but my girl stood out and she seem attracted to me. My cousin later told me she was the best student in her class and it was a done deal. She graduated with honors in HS, and was soon the top student in her beauty school graduation last year (I was there and helped her write up her speech when receiving the reward). Perfect... Smarter and youngerGSG Flash said:
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I like how everyone is saying she's too young at 20 when she's really 19.
The worst part about this thread is I will have to wait months or longer for the inevitable break-up thread.
The worst part about this thread is I will have to wait months or longer for the inevitable break-up thread.
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From the OP it sounds like you are you going to be absolutely miserable. You are giving up a lot of things that you seem to value and getting what in return? I don't know you or your potential wife, but from your text it sounds like you are setting yourself up for disaster.
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Borgnine said:
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holy crap :lol ... Doom and gloom... Its not that bad really...Zefah said:
damn I feel like i just told you guys my wife beats me, steals my money and spits in my face... good lord you guys are so negative... I did mention I have never been happier in my life right... I guess its worth repeating... this girl is the best thing that has ever happen to me...
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She's 19 and she's already getting married?
Dude...
I'm not quite sure what advice to give. If it were me in your shoes, I would call the wedding off and try to get her to move in with you. Once you know for sure that she's the one for you and that you can live together without any serious issues (and this takes years, not months), then get engaged.
And yes, I know that calling the wedding off might cause her to end everything, but it sure sounds a lot better than what you two are heading towards.
Dude...
I'm not quite sure what advice to give. If it were me in your shoes, I would call the wedding off and try to get her to move in with you. Once you know for sure that she's the one for you and that you can live together without any serious issues (and this takes years, not months), then get engaged.
And yes, I know that calling the wedding off might cause her to end everything, but it sure sounds a lot better than what you two are heading towards.
sounds like you really don't wanna do it and she has been sheltered and is immature (maybe you moreso from what you've said). its like neither of you have really considered how serious it is and what a major life decision (probably the biggest) you're both making. what's the rush in getting married? she isn't even twenty years old. if its meant to happen, it'll happen. wait it out.
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Well, OP?
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Bail the fuck out! This is a divorce waiting to happen. Nobody should be getting married before they can drink
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