Maybe the bridge to get him talking is to make gaming social? I notice how in your posts you say you and your dad watch sports, and your mom watches lifetime so he goes and does his own thing. I mean maybe what you guys are doing just doesn't interest him? Maybe if you were gaming and your dad and mom even got involved and connected with him as a family in the area he enjoys he would open up and listen?
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My brother has a gaming addiction
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Maybe the bridge to get him talking is to make gaming social? I notice how in your posts you say you and your dad watch sports, and your mom watches lifetime so he goes and does his own thing. I mean maybe what you guys are doing just doesn't interest him? Maybe if you were gaming and your dad and mom even got involved and connected with him as a family in the area he enjoys he would open up and listen?
Finale Fireworker
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I can't imagine talking to MY parents about video games. That's probably easier said than done. If I even passively mention video games to my father he inevitably asks "you still play those?"
Ok, then if you know what your brother needs then why did you post this thread?
I am 34, and it used to be that way with my parents. I have educated them on how games have evolved and we have gone from them saying playing games is for kids to sitting down and watching the Video Games Live concert. They have no idea what games actually are.
H3rTz DoNuT
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True, my father love sports but he has no clue about games. A few years back we went for Christmas with my wife and cousins and the rest of family. Me and my cousins are all into gaming and my father and their parents are all into sports, so we figure we gonna combine all those things together that Christmas. We hooked up x360 and showed them NBA 2K and Madden. We spent some time teaching them how to play it and what to do, and after an hour or so they were gone. I mean it was like watching little kids getting first console for Christmas. they were drinking, playing and having a lot of good time. Later on wives joined to cheer for them, they were making bets and some other fun stuff, we all had crazy good time. It's all about how you connect the stuff you love with stuff other family members like. You can't force people to do things just cause you want them to do.
SolVanderlyn
Thanos acquires the fully powered Infinity Gauntlet in The Avengers: Infinity War, but loses when all the superheroes team up together to stop him.
This was me until I was 21 or so. Wait until life starts to crash down him, and he realizes that girls aren't into game addicts. That should do a number on him.
NinjamicWZ
Banned
mmhmm
Sounds like he could have a mild form of aspergers.
My cousin has it but a little more than mild. He finds it difficult in public situations and really uses games as a crutch. Does your brother really get into single activities? The pacing and 'band geek' comment seem to lend itself to that sort of thing too.
There are many different levels of aspergers - and that in itself is a form of autism - so maybe look it up and see if any of the other symptoms are related. If you're concerned then it can't hurt to rule it out.
My cousin has it but a little more than mild. He finds it difficult in public situations and really uses games as a crutch. Does your brother really get into single activities? The pacing and 'band geek' comment seem to lend itself to that sort of thing too.
There are many different levels of aspergers - and that in itself is a form of autism - so maybe look it up and see if any of the other symptoms are related. If you're concerned then it can't hurt to rule it out.
Your brother probably isn't as social as you or your family. He probably has very little in common with the rest of you as well, since all of your posts have made some reference to sport. He probably doesn't care about sports.
He's not going to suddenly have a fantastic conversation with all of you just because you take him away from games. He's probably only got a TV in front of him all the time as an excuse to get away from talking.
He's not going to suddenly have a fantastic conversation with all of you just because you take him away from games. He's probably only got a TV in front of him all the time as an excuse to get away from talking.
Warablo
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Like he doesn't already know this. Probably one of the many reasons hes depressed.
dreamlongdead
Member
He obviously doesn't like being around his family members for some reason. That's an issue you should focus on.
I Stalk Alone
Member
When you take a break from playing infront of a screen you sit down infront of a screen and watch it and you say your brother is the one with an addiction?
Nah just kidding. Hang out with your brother more stop looking at screens even together.
Nah just kidding. Hang out with your brother more stop looking at screens even together.
You can do anything you want, as much as you want without it being an "addiction".
It becomes an addiction when that is all you do and you neglect your responsibilities as an adult. (In his case, young adult)
This kid has no job. He needs one. His life depends on it. Trust me on this. He needs a reason to work as well, or he will get fired on purpose and say " I tried".
Give him one. Make him work for his hobby. Give him a purpose. He is a gamer, he loves structure. Give him that.
Good luck op. And be assertive about it, not mean.
It becomes an addiction when that is all you do and you neglect your responsibilities as an adult. (In his case, young adult)
This kid has no job. He needs one. His life depends on it. Trust me on this. He needs a reason to work as well, or he will get fired on purpose and say " I tried".
Give him one. Make him work for his hobby. Give him a purpose. He is a gamer, he loves structure. Give him that.
Good luck op. And be assertive about it, not mean.
B_Spooky13
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Is this of him actually having a addiction or his he so socially awkward that this is his only way to interact with people?
If the latter. My suggestion is try to get him out of his comfort zone. Are your parents forcing him to get a job? Because sometimes thats what it takes. He's 20 now so he can do quite a bit of things. Take him out. Get him to mingle with people.
I've had friends in the same position as him.. Socially awkward and losing themselves in the gaming world. Once in awhile I would see him at a Industrial Club and I would just go out and dance with women but he would just stick to the bar by himself. He asked me how I could just "put yourself out there like that, asking women to dance". Honestly I said "Fuck it". If I get turned down it's not that big of a deal. So she doesn't want to dance with me. Oh well.
He's like I want to ask this girl to dance.. I said take a shot to build nerves and as you are walking to her just keep saying "Fuck it" to yourself and it will help with the anxiety. He did just that and was dancing with her and thanked afterwards. You are going to get turned down.. You're going to have people that don't like you... Things aren't always going to happen the way you want it to in your head. But at least try. If you don't try that's when you start secluding yourself from people. They don't want to put themselves out there.
(Mind you I was this in High School.. In the basement playing videogames. Didn't really have friends. Never asked to hang out. Picked on. I used to have a bigger head as a child and they called me "The Head" from MTV's The Oddities)
If the latter. My suggestion is try to get him out of his comfort zone. Are your parents forcing him to get a job? Because sometimes thats what it takes. He's 20 now so he can do quite a bit of things. Take him out. Get him to mingle with people.
I've had friends in the same position as him.. Socially awkward and losing themselves in the gaming world. Once in awhile I would see him at a Industrial Club and I would just go out and dance with women but he would just stick to the bar by himself. He asked me how I could just "put yourself out there like that, asking women to dance". Honestly I said "Fuck it". If I get turned down it's not that big of a deal. So she doesn't want to dance with me. Oh well.
He's like I want to ask this girl to dance.. I said take a shot to build nerves and as you are walking to her just keep saying "Fuck it" to yourself and it will help with the anxiety. He did just that and was dancing with her and thanked afterwards. You are going to get turned down.. You're going to have people that don't like you... Things aren't always going to happen the way you want it to in your head. But at least try. If you don't try that's when you start secluding yourself from people. They don't want to put themselves out there.
(Mind you I was this in High School.. In the basement playing videogames. Didn't really have friends. Never asked to hang out. Picked on. I used to have a bigger head as a child and they called me "The Head" from MTV's The Oddities)
Snkfanatic
Banned
Ya! That will fix everything right.
This. Gaming isn't an 'addiction' by itself
If it's interfering with your life, it doesn't matter what the hobby is.
Feel the Swift
Member
Never have been obsessed with gaming that much. Especially not at that age, seems like this could happen more when you're younger with free time. But it sounds like that just what he has...