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[Flarin]

I have a big problem with an ex that simply won't leave me alone. It's getting really weird and creepy.

We broke up about 3 weeks ago and she seriously won't leave me alone. She keeps insisting that there's something wrong with me and that she can fix me. She'll constantly come over uninvited wanting to talk things out like a therapist or something.

Last night was a boiling point. I went to the doctor's for a follow up appointment and she texted me wondering if she could come by? Who the fuck meets an ex at their doctor's office? Seriously.

Spoiler

I said no.

Then she shows up at my apartment and I told her I'm gonna be playing a new game I bought and she can watch if she wants. She goes on to ask if we can play something together, that the game I'm playing is boring and then if I can put a movie on for her on another TV. I refused all 3 and finally she left.

I'm usually the "nice guy" and don't really like to be mean, but she's making me crazy right now. Any suggestions GAF? What are some ways I can put my foot down/ keep her out?

 

[sixteen-bit]

restraining order

 

[Einbroch]

You invited her in.

You need to just cut off all contact. Block her number, don't answer her if she comes to the door, don't interact with her at all. If she doesn't comply, get a restraining order.

 

[MegaMelon]

I'm usually the "nice guy" and don't really like to be mean, but she's making me crazy right now. Any suggestions GAF? What are some ways I can put my foot down/ keep her out?

Unfortunately, you've gotta do exactly that- be the 'bad' guy.

 

[joelseph]

Stop returning communication. Don't answer the door when she comes knocking.

 

[backflip10019]

Ignore her texts. Don't let her into your home. And if she persists, tell her you'll call the cops. You really can't take this sort of thing lightly and expect it to stop.

 

[pelicansurf]

Don't let her into your apartment and ignore her texts.

Solved.

 

[DJMicLuv]

Is this what they call Yandare Hell?

 

[JBourne]

Stop showering.

 

[GulAtiCa]

Stop talking to her. You need to literally ignore her for now on. Esp don't invite her in to hang out if she is obsessed with you. She sounds unstable currently.

 

[SquiddyCracker]

Have sex with her until she stops being crazy.

Btw, inviting your ex in when you don't want her around is some weak sauce sperm.

 

[Escape Goat]

I have a big problem with an ex that simply won't leave me alone. It's getting really weird and creepy.

We broke up about 3 weeks ago and she seriously won't leave me alone. She keeps insisting that there's something wrong with me and that she can fix me. She'll constantly come over uninvited wanting to talk things out like a therapist or something.

Last night was a boiling point. I went to the doctor's for a follow up appointment and she texted me wondering if she could come by? Who the fuck meets an ex at their doctor's office? Seriously.

Spoiler

I said no.

Then she shows up at my apartment and I told her I'm gonna be playing a new game I bought and she can watch if she wants. She goes on to ask if we can play something together, that the game I'm playing is boring and then if I can put a movie on for her on another TV. I refused all 3 and finally she left.

I'm usually the "nice guy" and don't really like to be mean, but she's making me crazy right now. Any suggestions GAF? What are some ways I can put my foot down/ keep her out?

Grow a pair, OP. Tell her this is unacceptable. Threaten to call the cops.

 

[DJ_Lae]

I had the same problem for a while too with a persistent ex - told her I wanted nothing to do with her any mroe and started completely ignoring her. Took a week or so, but eventually never heard from her again.

Thank god.

 

[Afrodium]

For starters, don't invite her into your apartment to watch you play video games. If she shows up uninvited then letting her in is giving her all the wrong signals.

 

[bernardobri]

Then she shows up at my apartment and I told her I'm gonna be playing a new game I bought and she can watch if she wants

... What.

 

[God Dayumm]

that's so cute of her :3

why did you break up?

 

[Horse Detective]

You become the therapist instead and manipulate her negatively. Profit.

 

[RobotVM]

Yea stop taker her calls and texts. Also don't answer your door...

 

[BronsonLee]

BE THE APEX PREDATOR, OP

 

[strafer]

Then she shows up at my apartment and I told her I'm gonna be playing a new game I bought and she can watch if she wants

Then why did you invite her in? :O

 

[Flarin]

You become the therapist instead and manipulate her negatively. Profit.

 

[Brazil]

You have to tell her to stop with this shit, and you won't find a ~nice guy~ way to say it. Just break it to her.

What game did you buy, tho? Can I come over and watch you play it?

 

[DUFFMCWALIN]

You invited her in.

You need to just cut off all contact. Block her number, don't answer her if she comes to the door, don't interact with her at all. If she doesn't comply, get a restraining order.

Yup I often will block the number of the girl I had just broken up with. Its not because I hate her or anything, but its better for the two of us if there's no communication, no drunken texting/calling. You need space and you both need to grow on your separately.

 

[RetroMG]

So am I right to assume that you ended it, not her?

 

[Flarin]

Grow a pair, OP. Tell her this is unacceptable. Threaten to call the cops.

That's why I started this thread. Some brutal honesty. Thanks. Your truly are GOAT.

Dude, why the hell did offer to let her in to watch you play a game? Of course she thinks it's not over....it's not. Cut off contact and feel bad or continue down this path and feel bad.

This as well.

 

[BobTheFork]

Dude, why the hell did offer to let her in to watch you play a game? Of course she thinks it's not over....it's not. Cut off contact and feel bad or continue down this path and feel bad.

 

[Delicious Waffles]

Unfortunately, you've gotta do exactly that- be the 'bad' guy.

 

[Mistel]

I get the impression that she is still interested in a relationship with you?

 

[thesuperfunk]

Have sex with her until she stops being crazy.

We have a winner! /thread

 

[Flarin]

I get the impression that she is still interested in a relationship with you?

It would appear to be so. Clearly I haven't been obvious enough.

 

[joelseph]

OP created thread to share his gif library and build comraderie with fellow gaffers. Grats on the new game.

 

[JBourne]

Dude, why the hell did offer to let her in to watch you play a game? Of course she thinks it's not over....it's not. Cut off contact and feel bad or continue down this path and feel bad.

And let her know about the doctor's appointment.

She probably doesn't even know she's not wanted. Harden the fuck up, man.

 

[studyguy]

Stop sending mixed signals man.
You want to bounce then stop letting her in.
She doesn't need to know your schedule or even be allowed into your home.

You invited this problem.

 

[HammerOfThor]

Why the hell would you invite her in your house? Because of this your probably giving her mixed messages. Just stop talking to her completely.

Also, cops.

 

[Angry Grimace]

Are you still having sex with her? Serious question.

 

[Sn4ke_911]

Your avatar fits you well, OP.

Why the hell would you let her in if you don't want to? Seriously grow a pair.

 

[Flarin]

Stop sending mixed signals man.
You want to bounce then stop letting her in.
She doesn't need to know your schedule or even be allowed into your home.

You invited this problem.

I'm so tempted to avatar quote right now, but I'm going to resist the urge super hard.

Are you still having sex with her? Serious question.

Absolutely not. Nothing physical at all.

 

[Mr. Doop]

 

[Mistel]

It would appear to be so. Clearly I haven't been obvious enough.

Well then tell her that then more clearly. If she thinks she can salvage it she's not going to stop probably, I wouldn't either if I wasn't explicitly told.

 

[Casimir]

Watch out OP, peaceinpalestine's crazy ex hit him with a car.

 

[FreezeSSC]

As someone who had a girl go completely crazy, do as everyone else says and cut her off now, you dont want to go down that rabbit hole.

 

[UnblessedSoul]

You enjoy the attention, otherwise you wouldn't be responding to her at all. Stop giving her openings

 

[Flarin]

Watch out OP, peaceinpalestine's crazy ex hit him with a car.

This is like some weird form of therapy. Seriously, thanks folks. Being told to man up every now and again is helpful.

 

[GulAtiCa]

It would appear to be so. Clearly I haven't been obvious enough.

Well... Inviting her in and still hanging out with her is giving her the wrong message. Like others said, you need to cut off contact completely.

 

[NoctisVsStar]

Tell her to fuck off.

 

[studyguy]

I'm so tempted to avatar quote right now, but I'm going to resist the urge super hard.

Go ahead man, you won't be the first or the last.
In fact, here's a larger version just for you.

 

[abrack08]

It would appear to be so. Clearly I haven't been obvious enough.

Have you clearly and officially broken up with her? Like said "I don't think we should see each other anymore" type breaking up?

 

[Bold One]

Stop sending mixed signals man.
You want to bounce then stop letting her in.
She doesn't need to know your schedule or even be allowed into your home.

You invited this problem.

FUCKING HEEEEELLLLL!!!!

 

[Shanlei91]

Went through something similar. You need to stop agreeing to see her and hearing her pleas. By doing so you're giving her hope that "yes, this time, this will be the time I change his mind! He agreed to see me, I'm making progress!" It stinks because not agreeing to see her will make her feel bad and as result, you'll feel bad for being "cold". But essentially, that's what a breakup is.

 

[Clydefrog]

What was the new game?

Can I come over and watch?

edit: holy shit, I am Brazil.