I'm having a hard time understanding the OP, but I think I'm starting to understand the topic somewhat.
In my fantasies, as a librul, and by and large agreeing with the notions that games need to grow up, and criticism with a social slant is generally good, I also realize that the way to win friends in an industry with so many folks who just do not think alike is not to have stances so firm that people lose jobs, friends, employers, employees, contracts, or whatever. There's bound to be a better way, and while game's don't exist in a vacuum (we should be allowed and encouraged to speak our mind about the creative output of people), when we talk about other people, the criticism needs to change form.
For example, the PA thing -- someone brought it up earlier, but they've done a lot of good. And some bad. And if we want to take a good stance, I think it's about being supportive of the good, and damning of the bad, all the while remembering that there are people on the other side, and even if we think they're wrong we ought to hear out their arguments, debate, and ultimately compromise with hope for a better future of mindshare. Trying to "squeeze them out", or make people lose their jobs; that's just not going to help as much as we think.
I find your take, if I understand it, somewhat disturbing. Criticism should be both socially aware -- aware with respect to the issues of the day -- and simultaneously people aware; when you stop being the latter, you say obnoxiously stupid things, like when Phil Fish said Japanese games suck, or something like that. If you're socially aware to a fault, you miss the great games that say nothing about same-sex love, for the good ones that do. Ultimately, though, if we remember to be people-aware, we'll be okay with knowing that some people enjoy sexist games, and others don't recognize the games that work hard to not be sexist. Yeah, I think these are growing pains in the industry, and we should talk about them, but never stoop to such lows as to hurt others because they don't share our worldview. Work to change it, yes, in legal and fair-minded ways.
If the above makes absolutely no sense, then, I didn't understand you at all. kthx.