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My father. 73 years old. AAA+ asshole.

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Hell I'm 24 and I barely like going out sometimes.
When I'm 73 I'll probably will just want to sit around and masturbate all day. I ain't even clean it up either just jizz on shirt, pants, cat and let it sit. Then go eat a hot dog without even washing my hands.


Yeah...
 
My dad can be nice and generous, but sometimes he's just annoyingly egocentric. And the older he gets, the worse his bad habits.

It's probably a child's fate to deal with parent's bad traits forever.
 
I love my dad. :) He is always there for his kids. He is currently unemployed and he is 62 years old. Its a hard time for him being unemployed, my mom having MS, and to make things even harder he recently got diagnosed with CLL. :(
 
Shogmaster said:
OK, today's story:

My aunt is visiting from east coast. She haven't seen my mom (sisters) in like couple of years, but my dad doesn't like people coming over, so I set up dinner for everyone in West LA, not too far from where they are. My aunt is staying with her son near by me in Culver City, so I wanted to take them up where the dinner is in one car. LA traffic sucks and parking is premium in West LA, so this is for the best. But Mr Butthole don't want to be at the dinner, and demands that I come all the way there to pick up mom to take her to dinner without him.

What an A hole...
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Why must you father socialize with people he doesnt like? Furthermore, Why should he drive your mom out of his way again to meet up with people he doesnt like? Either you pick her up or she takes public transport. He is not a taxi service.

Not to mention you have no idea why he doesnt want your aunt in his home. Believe it or not most old people have shared history with their inlaws that they dont share with their children even as adults.
 
ThoughtsOfSpeaking said:
Why must you father socialize with people he doesnt like? Furthermore, Why should he drive your mom out of his way again to meet up with people he doesnt like? Either you pick her up or she takes public transport. He is not a taxi service.
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It's fucking family. She traveled 1000+ miles. He would be uber pissed himself if he went over there and got shunned.

He only thinks about himself, no one else, including how mom feels about stuff. He like a giant 73 year old baby.
 
I have friends who's dad are pretty much in the asshole category.

My dad on the otherhand is pretty much a sage / monk. Doesn't say much although when he does say something your mind just goes to mush, is virtually a walking encyclopedia, and is virtually unpredictable at times.

My mom and I always say there's a line between genius and insanity, and he's the one drawing that line...
 
Shogmaster said:
It's fucking family. She traveled 1000+ miles. He would be uber pissed himself if he went over there and got shunned.

He only thinks about himself, no one else, including how mom feels about stuff. He like a giant 73 year old baby.
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No. She is his wifes sister. He is under no obligation to give a shit about her.

You and your mother have a blood connection to her, he doesnt. What would happen if he went over there is irrelvant as id haphazard that if he doesnt want to go to dinner in his own state, he isnt planning on staying over in hers any time soon. You are not an asshole for not wanting to spend time with people you do not get along with.

And regardless how your mother feels he is not obstructing her from going. He just doesnt want to go and that is reasonable enough. Why cant your mother drive herself?
 
ThoughtsOfSpeaking said:
No. She is his wifes sister. He is under no obligation to give a shit about her.

You and your mother have a blood connection to her, he doesnt. What would happen if he went over there is irrelvant as id haphazard that if he doesnt want to go to dinner in his own state, he isnt planning on staying over in hers any time soon. You are not an asshole for not wanting to spend time with people you do not get along with.

And regardless how your mother feels he is not obstructing her from going. He just doesnt want to go and that is reasonable enough. Why cant your mother drive herself?
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This is completely bullshit excuse for him for the fact that he is very traditional Asian, and he has complained about the very similar situation when he was traveling to in-laws himself. He demands certain treatment from others yet he doesn't bother to return the favor.

Only A-holes act like that.
 
Shogmaster said:
This is completely bullshit excuse for him for the fact that he is very traditional Asian, and he has complained about the very similar situation when he was traveling to in-laws himself. He demands certain treatment from others yet he doesn't bother to return the favor.

Only A-holes act like that.
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Sounds like you're mad that you had to go pick your mom up. Also he sounds exactly like a traditional Asian. Traditional Asian fathers never return the favor and his family must show respect for his side of the family, not his wife's side. That's the way it's always been. So if being traditional is the case, whats the problem?
 
Eight Diagram Bat Fighter said:
Sounds like you're mad that you had to go pick your mom up. Also he sounds exactly like a traditional Asian. Traditional Asian fathers never return the favor and his family must show respect for his side of the family, not his wife's side. That's the way it's always been. So if being traditional is the case, whats the problem?
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Stop telling me how I feel. The original plan was to pick up mom myself. I'm pissed because he changes everyone's plans at his whim. He decided last minute he doesn't want to go like a big baby.

And that's BS about Asian fathers. I know plenty of his peers that don't act like that.
 
Shogmaster said:
Stop telling me how I feel. The original plan was to pick up mom myself. I'm pissed because he changes everyone's plans at his whim. He decided last minute he doesn't want to go like a big baby.

And that's BS about Asian fathers. I know plenty of his peers that don't act like that.
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Shogmaster
Not genuinely interested in rational debate.
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I wouldn't say your feelings towards your dad are unsubstantiated but what you've said really doesn't support the "asshole" status. More anecdotes or ease off the old jerk.
 
Shogmaster said:
This is completely bullshit excuse for him for the fact that he is very traditional Asian
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Eight Diagram Bat Fighter said:
Traditional Asian fathers never return the favor and his family must show respect for his side of the family, not his wife's side. That's the way it's always been.
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Shogmaster said:
I'm pissed because he changes everyone's plans at his whim.
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Shogmaster said:
he is very traditional Asian
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Shogmaster said:
And that's BS about Asian fathers. I know plenty of his peers that don't act like that.
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Errm....
 
ThoughtsOfSpeaking said:
Errm....
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Errm what? I think I fucking know about "traditional" Asian fathers. Stop watching shitty Korean dramas, or worse, shitty American TV for 411 on traditional Asian fathers.

Traditional Asians place high importance on interaction with their relatives. It's family. I know it's not a big deal to shun relatives here in the west, but it is for us.
 
Shogmaster said:
Stop telling me how I feel. The original plan was to pick up mom myself. I'm pissed because he changes everyone's plans at his whim. He decided last minute he doesn't want to go like a big baby.

And that's BS about Asian fathers. I know plenty of his peers that don't act like that.
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I lived in many parts of Asia for years and I know plenty more that do act like that. A lot of it is due to their religious upbringing and culture of paternal fealty. You brought it up, I was just confirming what you said. Sounds like overreacting, but that's just me.

Shogmaster said:
Traditional Asians place high importance on interaction with their relatives.
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With their deceased relatives. More people spend time 拜拜 worshipping/paying respect to their family at a shrine then spend time with their family at home.
 
Eight Diagram Bat Fighter said:
I lived in many parts of Asia for years and I know plenty more that do act like that. A lot of it is due to their religious upbringing and culture of paternal fealty. You brought it up, I was just confirming what you said. Sounds like overreacting, but that's just me.
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Thanks, Asian expert. Now I know better about Asians thanks to you!

So how bout I change the title to Asian dads are A holes, and tell all my other Asian friends that they have weird Asian dads.
 
Shogmaster said:
I am not alone in this sentiment. My sister and mother agrees.
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All good. I'm just wondering if it's like one of those scenarios where the family loves to go watch opera but the dad has no interest whatsoever in sitting in a theater to watch people sing in Latin, even if it's with the family.

Do you have any other examples besides the inlaws thing?
 
Eight Diagram Bat Fighter said:
All good. I'm just wondering if it's like one of those scenarios where the family loves to go watch opera but the dad has no interest whatsoever in sitting in a theater to watch people sing in Latin, even if it's with the family.

Do you have any other examples besides the inlaws thing?
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You mean like how he made my sister cry when he was visiting his new grand-daughter last year? LOL. I don't even want to revisit that in my mind...
 
Shogmaster said:
OK, today's story:

My aunt is visiting from east coast. She haven't seen my mom (sisters) in like couple of years, but my dad doesn't like people coming over, so I set up dinner for everyone in West LA, not too far from where they are. My aunt is staying with her son near by me in Culver City, so I wanted to take them up where the dinner is in one car. LA traffic sucks and parking is premium in West LA, so this is for the best. But Mr Butthole don't want to be at the dinner, and demands that I come all the way there to pick up mom to take her to dinner without him.

What an A hole...
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I'm not even an old coot, but I'll side with your dad here lol. 72...I ain't got time for that!

Also, Shog, you sound like a bit of an asshole from your replies.
 
fastford58 said:
I'm not even an old coot, but I'll side with your dad here lol. 72...I ain't got time for that!

Also, Shog, you sound like a bit of an asshole from your replies.
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Don't confuse my NeoGAF persona and real life. I'm a pussycat out in the world. Actually, I'm probably too nice to everyone, especially my students. They need more of an asshole whipping their ass...
 
Shogmaster said:
Errm what? I think I fucking know about "traditional" Asian fathers. Stop watching shitty Korean dramas, or worse, shitty American TV for 411 on traditional Asian fathers.

Traditional Asians place high importance on interaction with their relatives. It's family. I know it's not a big deal to shun relatives here in the west, but it is for us.
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You remind me of my chinese friend. He too cannot see when he contradicts himself on these subjects. He gets just as angry about it too. Good day to you sir.
 
Shogmaster said:
Don't confuse my NeoGAF persona and real life. I'm a pussycat out in the world. Actually, I'm probably too nice to everyone, especially my students. They need more of an asshole whipping their ass...
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Time for some late-life Father/Son bonding on "how to be an asshole to your benefit". Its the stuff (terrible) movies are made of!
 
Both my parents are awesome 95% of the time...but once in a while it seems like they've started to turn into stereotypical cranky old people. It's completely random and I never know what will set it off but I nearly got into a fist fight with my father last summer because he went ballistic on me over a missing tv remote control that had disappeared the year before. It just came out of nowhere and it was such a minor and long dead issue that somehow wound up making us nearly come to blows.

And my mother is just at that "fuck you I do what I want" stage and it's impossible to disagree with her in anyway. We all tread lightly when she's got that look in her eye. And yet like I said, the majority of the time they are both wonderful and friendly people. Then again I only see them during the summer so I don't know what they are like to be around all year long.
 
My dad abandoned our family on my third birthday, and my stepfather used to beat me until he kicked me out of the house, leaving me homeless for a year, at 17.
 
I'm 30 and I haven't seen my dad in 17 years. I hope he gets dick cancer.

I got an AAA+ asshole dad:

I got a random call from is new wife when I was 17 asking me to quit school 2 months before finishing high school and join the army so that he would not have to help me though college as required by law. He had invested in college funds that would have gotten back to him if I didn't pursue higher studies.

tl;dr My absent dad asked me through is new wife to drop out of high school to get the money from my college funds.
 
Must suck to have an AAA+ asshole father. Mine's just an A+ Dumb father, in that lovably dumb way. Not to say he hasn't been an asshole but he hasn't been for many many years.
 
EloquentM said:
Again, dads are worthless.
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Wut?

My dad taught me how to ride a bike, how to fish, how to throw a football, how to play baseball, took me to games, bought my first car etc. etc.

My dad was awesome. Don't be a hater because you got dealt a shitty dad.
 
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