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they're probably getting high and sexing it or something...

punch them both in the face and then never speak to either of them again
 
euphemism said:
I have a long term friend who is also my neighbor. He is a mutual friend of nearly my entire circle and family. I love him dearly and enjoy nearly all the time we have ever shared. But recently, I'm starting to worry.

I have no idea what is going on with him right now, all I know is what I'm told by my family and friends because I am in another country and have been for a couple of months. He seems to be going through some sort of power trip delusion paranoia phase and it's worrying and offending myself and my family. His behavior is baffling, mostly comprised of strange disjointed statements about various conspiracies and a messiah complex. It also seems to hinge on occult imagery and subversive language. He makes statements about powers he supposedly has and how much more intelligent he is than us. When people converse about how they see some of the things he speaks about he tells them they are too stupid to understand. He has even hit on my girlfriend while I am away and told a mutual friend that friendship isn't important to him.

I have never directly challenged his beliefs but he is getting rude and just plain insulting so I'm struggling not to. I know it's not the right way to handle it but I don't want to lose a friend, I don't want a negative neighbor, and I don't want to agrrivate whatever afflicts him. I would like to resolve this in a friendly way, I am still his friend and he has helped me tremendously. But I don't know how to handle behavior like this especially while I'm gone. I would love some advice beyond simple platitudes like "be there for him". Which I already plan to do. Has anyone experienced behavior like this before? Is it related to any mental condition(s)? And what is the safest course of action short of disengagement? Thanks
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Sounds like Schizophrenia. He probably hasn't had more than 3 hours of sleep a night for days. The hardest thing to do is to get these folks help because they don't think anything is wrong with them. Until they are a danger to themselves or others the cops wont do anything. With the right medication he could be stabilized. Unfortunately he'll probably never be 100% the person you knew.
 
euphemism said:
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My friend and my girlfriend both confirmed that they have been sleeping together. Help me GAF... :(
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Ah, fuck.

You need to extend both of your hands outwards from your sides, ball up both fists whilst extending two middle fingers, and helicopter walk out of the life of your ex-friend (and I presume your ex-girlfriend).

Just try to be around people you still think you can trust.

Ugggghhhh. Good luck.
 
Double betrayal. That's a rough hand to be dealt. My condolences to you OP. As others have said, cut them out of your life and don't look back. Try to limit the bad feelings as much as you can. Shitty people aren't worth feeling bad about. Again, my condolences.
 
Here's what you do.

Tell them fuck you both, and break it off. Go find your real friends, get some real support.

If your girlfriend lives with you and it's your place, leave her shit out of the door and tell her she can pick it up before people take it.
 
You gotta cut off these people.

A dime-a-dozen self-aggrandizing warlock fuck, and someone so naive that she bought into it.

Hurts now but move on. When you look in the rear view mirror you'll realize this was a shitshow that you'll be more and more happy you ditched.

They're weird bro. You can't deal with weird.
 
euphemism said:
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My friend and my girlfriend both confirmed that they have been sleeping together. Help me GAF... :(
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That... was not a turn of events I expected from this thread.

Fuck him, that girl can get him help, since she's so inclined to have sex with him.

He doesn't deserve your sympathy or help.
 
Really sorry to hear that OP, I would obliterate them from my life. No contact communication, nothing. They're likely very fucked up, don't bring yourself down further. Up and out. Some people suck.
 
Really sorry OP. He sounds like he may be a paranoid schizophrenic. I'd like to attribute him doing this to his illness and recent change in personality. Unfortunately can't say the same for your girlfriend.The fact that your girlfriend decided to cheat with him now with his crazy delusions, kind of says a lot about her. I don't envy the shit storm waiting for when you get back :(.
 
euphemism said:
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My friend and my girlfriend both confirmed that they have been sleeping together. Help me GAF... :(
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Bottom line is that you do need to move on, but you have to make a statement that no one disrespects you and gets away with it.

How much you do know about this guy? Does he do illegal things? You mentioned pot but does he live in an area where the cops will bother to arrest someone for pot? Anything else he does that's illegal?

And what about your (ex-)girlfriend? What does she do that's illegal that you can tip the cops on?
 
Damn. Here you are, far away in a different country worrying about the well-being of your friend, going above and beyond, while the dude and your girlfriend are boning. Forget them both. They're terrible people. Don't waste another moment concerning yourself about them. A thoughtful, caring person like you deserves way better.

Sho_Nuff82 said:
You aren't friends.
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Sorry to hear about your gf. Time to find some hot European girls though and enjoy the rest of your trip.


Your "friend" reminds me of My college roommate. He was always a bit kooky, was a bit of a hoarder and loved dumpster diving, but for the most part pretty normal.

The first Christmas Eve after we graduated I got a call from him and at first I thought he was pranking me, he was speaking in tongues and talking about Jesus. Neither of us is religious. Then when I said "ok haha you got me" after his "prank" had been going on a few minutes but he didn't stop I got worried. When he told me Jesus was telling him to murder people and that he already killed his ex gf and his parents I started to freak the fuck out.

He was about 6 hour drive from me so going there was not an option. I called around and got in touch with some college friends and his ex, no one has heard from him but everyone was alive thankfully. Managed to find his parents phone number and called them, they were also alive but also freaking out. My friend was home with them but had been barricaded in the garage for a few days apparently, and his parents were too scared to do anything about it. I got their address and told them I'm calling the police.

Long story short, after being institutionalized for a few months, getting lots of support and psychiatric help from family, living a relatively normal life on meds... He gave them up. Went off the deep end. Last anyone heard he was living in the tenderloin in SF on the streets harassing people for cigarettes and looking like he weighs 100 pounds max.

Moral of the story, mental health is very fragile. While you still have yours OP, chase hot euro tail and forget about your ex and your ex friend.
 
Well, break up with your girlfriend, but warn her to get away from the guy who is one psychotic break away from a rampage.

That man needs help, but as now, he officially doesn't deserve yours. Cut off contact with him and advice everyone you hold dear to do the same.
 
OP you said she did live in your place does she have keys to your place now? If so you should get your family to change locks
 
euphemism said:
Update:

My friend and my girlfriend both confirmed that they have been sleeping together. Help me GAF... :(
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Your girlfriend is sleeping with crazy guy? Fuck bro...


Edit: was your ex-girlfriend taking any pain medicine for her condition? Maybe her and the guy started abusing the drugs together and that transitioned to using meth... and sleeping together.

You should make sure she can't get into your place any more, they might sell all your stuff for meth money.
 
I have periods like this were I feel like I'm superhuman. I become a huge asshole and feel like all women are attracted to me. A member of my family has periods very similar to what your friend is going through and it's very draining. Usually there isn't anything to do if they don't want help so you have to wait until you believe they're a danger to themselves or others. I would advise you to stay away and let his family deal with him. I would help him if he asks for help or call the cops if he does anything dangerous.
 
Talk to your now ex-gf and ask if they both were on drugs or how that even happened.

Why would she willingly sleep with someone delusional?
 
Put both of these people behind you, find a girl to have a fling with wherever you are, and move on. Neither person is worth worrying about another minute.
 
jb1234 said:
What's the backstory? This whole thing with the girlfriend kinda came out of nowhere (at least for us).
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Sorry, we have been together for 8 years, high school sweethearts and whatnot. We went through multiple long distance periods. I love her, unfortunately. We lived together for a short time but it ended in drama. She was diagnosed with a malignant brain tumor last year. I spent all my money and time with her for months and then got a chance to take my company through a business accelerator in Europe. I've been here for 3 months. Things started to get weird a month ago. Thanks for replying
 
Des0lar said:
Talk to your now ex-gf and ask if they both were on drugs or how that even happened.

Why would she willingly sleep with someone delusional?
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We don't know what his super power is. That might explain all of it.

Seriously though, it's extremely difficult to be away from a situation like this. It's painful to have something far away that needs to be tended to, but not be there to do it. I hope everything works out for you OP.
 
euphemism said:
Sorry, we have been together for 8 years, high school sweethearts and whatnot. We went through multiple long distance periods. I love her, unfortunately. We lived together for a short time but it ended in drama. She was diagnosed with a malignant brain tumor last year. I spent all my money and time with her for months and then got a chance to take my company through a business accelerator in Europe. I've been here for 3 months. Things started to get weird a month ago. Thanks for replying
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That changes things somewhat, I think it really depends on you... really shitty position to be in. Sorry... Hope someone has some better advice but it's your life and you know best. There's no justification for her betrayal, whether or not you want to forgive her anyway after talking with her, or remain friends or leave things there. Don't jump to a direction you may regret...but also don't stress someone with cancer out too much. As absolutely fucking shit that sounds right now...

Your neighbour sounds like he should get help straight away, but it does sound like possibly the weed got to him and sometimes you don't really come back.

best wishes
 
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