Shouta
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Because not everyone is lead around by their dick? There are also folks that have a lower libido, so they aren't seeking it or craving it all the time. A lot of folks also grow out of the "Gotta do it now!" mindset as well.
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My friend is still a virgin
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Because not everyone is lead around by their dick? There are also folks that have a lower libido, so they aren't seeking it or craving it all the time. A lot of folks also grow out of the "Gotta do it now!" mindset as well.
apocalidiot
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In so much as it seems a lot of posters were equating his friend with being sub-human garbage for "Being a virgin at 30" or "living with his parents at 30" and implying that he's "damaged" and needs to be "fixed" because of what he likes and enjoys. "Oh no! He draws anime! The horror! Best lock him up because he's clearly a lost cause!"
This being separate from the fact that I think a lot of manga artists probably do need to be locked up
It's especially frustrating because it's "acceptable" when people talk and participate in sports to the point where it is pretty much like a religion, and that's acceptable. But if a guy is that way with videogames or anime, keep away!
Err...
nevermind. I'm stoked for you, dude. If it makes you happy, do it (unless it's some sort of violent crime)
Some people just don't care
I was a virgin until 21 and up to that point I didn't give a fuck and to this day it's hardly high on my list of things to do.
Well for me, fear governed most of my life growing up because of physical abuse at school and being treated like garbage without anyone coming to my aid. That led me to believing that only when I was at home, I was safe. Because my mind twisted my "safety" into something where that was paramount to anything else, being outside of my safety net/comfort zone became something I actively avoided. Therefore, I never learned how to really "interact" with anyone outside of the "structured" dealings that occur in school or a business, nothing ever personal or "social". And of course, nothing my libido said couldn't make up for any of that.
As to why I don't go to a prostitute. Dunno. I just don't feel like it. Maybe it is some sort of pride that drives it. I really cannot say for sure. I just have no desire to pay for that "service". And maybe fear drives that too, since prostitutes are pretty shady and risky.
Byakuya769
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I abstained for religious reasons into my mid twenties. It's not so hard if you don't know what you're missing. Now people who choose to abstain after becoming sexually active? That's some high level Shaolin Monk shit right there.
In so much as it seems a lot of posters were equating his friend with being sub-human garbage for "Being a virgin at 30" or "living with his parents at 30" and implying that he's "damaged" and needs to be "fixed" because of what he likes and enjoys. "Oh no! He draws anime! The horror! Best lock him up because he's clearly a lost cause!"
This being separate from the fact that I think a lot of manga artists probably do need to be locked up
It's especially frustrating because it's "acceptable" when people talk and participate in sports to the point where it is pretty much like a religion, and that's acceptable. But if a guy is that way with videogames or anime, keep away!
Nah, I get what you're saying. Personally I have a couple friends like the OP's "friend." They don't bother me. If they're happy living the lifestyle they want to live, then who am I to judge? As a friend all I care about is that they are happy. They don't give me shit for the life I live, so I do the same. I don't expect my friends to live life or like/hate the same things I do to the letter. I'd find the conversations boring.
Because nothing beats making love alone.
Not as much. However no one really cares if a guy is in his early or even mid 30's and not married but if a woman is that age it's considered a little weird or something must be wrong with her.
Keywords there. Douchebags are. Most normal people don't brag about the number of people they've slept with. Most of my gym friends are the type who I'm sure attract many girls just from their looks and physique. But except for one douche, the rest usually talk about things that have nothing to do with sex life unless they topic comes up. In fact my mind was blown when I found out that some of these gym guys are also hardcore gamers. Appearance is deceiving and you usually don't know what a person is like until you actually talk to them and get to know them.
I have no idea why people on GAF are so defensive over the OP's posts (maybe they relate to his friend?). OP, you shouldn't feel like it's your responsibility to help your friend. If I were you, I would just stop responding back to him (on FB on the phone, whatever) and let the friendship die. I wouldn't say it's too late for your friend to turn his life around but I'm really not sure if you can help him unless you are willing to be 100% truthful with him, and if you are asking what to do about him here, you probably don't have the guts to confront him. Don't take that as an insult, I'm just basing that on you saying that you didn't want to be a "dick" to him. Just stopping talking to him is probably the maximum amount of being a dick you can stomach so do that and let it be.
This person is going to kill someone one day. You should distance yourself from him.
This person is going to kill someone one day. You should distance yourself from him.
Cow Mengde
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Besides the horrible posters, I can dig the rest of the stuff. Maybe a little more well organized and classier looking shelves for display them but I wouldn't mind having a collection of games and toys like that. Here, let me show you guys someone else like that.
- This man is 40
- He calls himself JewWario
- Loves playing video games and other geeky stuff
- He has tons of import systems
- 100s of games including many exotic imports
- Enjoys collecting strip mahjong games
- George Taki autographed Bulbasaur
- Anime figures all over the place
- Game add-ons you didn't know existed
- Video game plush toys
- Bruce Campbell signed his Meowth plushie
- This is a video tour of his basement where he keeps all this stuff
Oh and one more thing. He has a very lovely wife.
So no, having a geeky room like that won't keep woman away. Not sure why you guys think woman would steer away from that.
^^ not the norm, but not exactly super rare.
Nah. Just likes guns. It runs in the circle.
Nah. Just likes guns. It runs in the circle.
vicissitudes
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I'm kinda similar to your friend. Not sure what happened. Oh well.
Jason's Ultimatum
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90% of GAF is 30?
NotTheGuyYouKill
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Besides the horrible posters, I can dig the rest of the stuff. Maybe a little more well organized and classier looking shelves for display them but I wouldn't mind having a collection of games and toys like that. Here, let me show you guys someone else like that.
- This man is 40
- He calls himself JewWario
- Loves playing video games and other geeky stuff
- He has tons of import systems
- 100s of games including many exotic imports
- Enjoys collecting strip mahjong games
- George Taki autographed Bulbasaur
- Anime figures all over the place
- Game add-ons you didn't know existed
- Video game plush toys
- Bruce Campbell signed his Meowth plushie
- This is a video tour of his basement where he keeps all this stuff
Oh and one more thing. He has a very lovely wife.
So no, having a geeky room like that won't keep woman away. Not sure why you guys think woman would steer away from that.
No pictures of them happy?
Cow Mengde
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Actually, they're eating exotic candy from Japan. Probably not the greatest shot, but just took a random screen cap from the video.
Here's the video.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FCOqRm7BwyE
Desperation?
"Oh, you see, I don't really want to help him that badly, and if randomly hooking him up with a stranger isn't enough to fix his life, I'm going to drop him and blame GAF so I don't feel bad."
FleckSplat
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Time to grind.
Yeah really. GAF has some real jerks sometimes, so go ahead and listen to them. Awesome call.
Hahah I imagine someone approaching the Gaping Dragon and just being chomped in one gulp.
Hahah I imagine someone approaching the Gaping Dragon and just being chomped in one gulp.
Escape Goat
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"The devil, I mean, internet made me do it!"
I'm 25 and still a virgin. It's bothered me in the past, and still bothers me sometimes. Generally, though, I just go about my life.
wandering goat
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While this thread is all kinds of messed up, I would say that anyone who thinks that at age 30, not being independent, not having a job, not having any education past highschool, and being socially awkward is A-OK is being disingenuous. I mean, I suppose you could be happy, but it doesn't sound like he has much of a future, mostly looking at it from a job / independence POV. I can definitely see why someone would think they'd need help before they reach a point of no return. Of course, it's stupid to think that just having sex will magically change things - there's almost no way in hell that it would. Sounds like he needs to change his way of thinking around and get more motivated, perhaps through therapy, especially if he's suffering from depression, which I wouldn't be surprised given all of that.
I'm not even mad about it anymore, I just wish I knew why they left. I always thought I was cooler than them so I don't understand.
Don't you know that virginity is contagious? OP is going to be revirginized if he keeps hanging out with this guy.
Barbacoatl
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You've never had a friend who was annoying to be around yet clung to you like a dingle berry?
If you haven't you are very lucky. It usually happens to people who are afraid to say no to people and otherwise hurt their feelings.
If there's nothing wrong with it then why do you qualify it? You are the exception but most people want to be independent and earning an income that can support them.
So you're relationship is better than this? http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=452639apana said:
Or heal him with the heart of the cards
Dreams-Visions
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Nope. That's almost always by choice. You can be a damn homely woman and *someone* will fuck you so long as you clean it up first.
Whereas, a 30 year-old man is that way almost always because of some sociopathic issues. Unless it's for religious reasons (or waiting for marriage), no man wants to hit 30 without ever having smashed some poon.
No. In fact, that looks pretty good. To most men, girls that have sex a bit are "whores".
NaughtyCalibur
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His room looks just like this , except that theres empty soda cans on the floor and dirty clothes all over the place.
He should probably get the dirty clothes and soda can mess cleaned up, but other than that this isn't necessarily a problem, at least not in my experience. I used to have a room rather similar to this when I was about 20 and would bring the occasional girl over and they would just say shit like "oh that's cute," or if they did talk shit it'd be very playful. One time I remember having a one night stand with this chick I met at a concert, and she woke up next to me in the morning and got all self-conscious when I complimented her, saying something like "oh no, I'm such a dork," as if she didn't even register my nerdy ass anime posters and figures all over the place. Point is: Women can sniff out insecurities in an instant. If your friend is confident and comfortable with who he is, then he's already halfway to at least getting laid.
Similarly I have a friend who is turning 30 in a few months, lives in his mother's basement, yet gets more ass on a weekly basis than most guys (myself sadly included) will ever get in a life time. Dat confidence, bro.
Almost all of my super religious friends got married or were well on their way to being married before they were 21. Religious people are still people with the same wants and needs as anyone else.
Sociopathic issues? Jesus Christ, man, way to exaggerate.
Just how society has formed. I'll admit that I don't want to go another 2 years being a virgin. Idk, just how it is.
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