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My girlfriend's parents. I need some clarification? (Long story)
- Thread starter Cosmic Dreams
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"God's Beard!"
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Should have walked her. I mean damn son.
The Last Wizard
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you still should have walked her, in most situations you do the opposite of what a woman says. But yea her parents sound bat shit insane
Cosmic Dreams
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Thanks for the various opinions everyone. I'm still staying regardless, but I did stand up to him when he got in her face. That's when he shoved me.
I'm not in love with her though at this point in our relationship, but I enjoy her company.
She's actually very mature for her age, and I can relate to her on a lot of things and vice versa. The time we spend together is really good quality time. There's much more to it, but i'd prefer not to delve deep into the whole thing.
This isn't a one sided relationship at all though. Hardly. I'd rather not spend time going about what she did just to prove a point, but I told myself, I'm staying with her.
I know i'm digging my grave to some of you, but fuck it. Might as well. We may not last forever, but who knows? It's a good learning experience.
Nah. Cuddling in the back by ourselves was good enough
I'm not in love with her though at this point in our relationship, but I enjoy her company.
She's actually very mature for her age, and I can relate to her on a lot of things and vice versa. The time we spend together is really good quality time. There's much more to it, but i'd prefer not to delve deep into the whole thing.
This isn't a one sided relationship at all though. Hardly. I'd rather not spend time going about what she did just to prove a point, but I told myself, I'm staying with her.
I know i'm digging my grave to some of you, but fuck it. Might as well. We may not last forever, but who knows? It's a good learning experience.
thefit said:
Nah. Cuddling in the back by ourselves was good enough
UnholySpectacle
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So, essentially you tried to hide something even though it was really nothing. Should have walked her and apologized to the parents. However, if you had done that you probably would not have realized how insane the family is. It works out in the end. Break up with the girl now; college is around the corner. 4 years from now you will look back and think about how stupid all of this was.
The Faceless Master
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stay with her, fuck the parents.
don't worry about the other people saying to ditch her and get someone else, sometimes it only takes one try.
if the time comes, break up with her because of HER, not her parents.
don't worry about the other people saying to ditch her and get someone else, sometimes it only takes one try.
if the time comes, break up with her because of HER, not her parents.
KidA Seven
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Her family is fucking crazy. If you stay with you her, you'll be off to College, and she'll be in high school. You'll have to put up with that shit for another year.
Fuck that. Bail.
Fuck that. Bail.
Cosmic Dreams
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The Faceless Master said:
Exactly what I had in mind. Thanks!
But listen up though everyone, I understand from what some of you said that she may or may not be the one. College is around the corner and who knows what might happen.
What does matter to me, is that i'm sticking with someone BECAUSE of that someone.
This isn't some puppy love bullshit. She's like a best friend to me as well.
ALSO - She's in this middle college program, so I might see her around on the campus I go to. Not a typical high school kid.
Cosmic Dreams
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thefit said:
Eh, I guess. :lol
DoctorButt
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fhuta
thesoapster
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Fuck that shit. (Take that however you like.)
I would NEVER put up with someone else's parents becoming physical with me. My best friend's mother shoved me once, I informed her to never lay another hand on me and I never wanted to see her again. It has been a year and a half and I have avoided her very well. That is not the sort of treatment you need to put up, with from anyone.
You both need to become more independent. If you want to be treated as a young adult, you must act like it.
I will just say if a guy I was interested in ever asked my parents if he could be involved with me, it would be over. I make MY decisions. Do not allow your girlfriend's parents to run your life. If she wants to stay out late, why can she not call and tell her parents she is staying out late? That is what I did when I was 16. If she is not willing to put up with a bit of shit from her parents for being with you, then she does not want to be with you.
Be independent and do what you want. But DO NOT put up with bullshit and physical abuse from other people's parents.
You both need to become more independent. If you want to be treated as a young adult, you must act like it.
I will just say if a guy I was interested in ever asked my parents if he could be involved with me, it would be over. I make MY decisions. Do not allow your girlfriend's parents to run your life. If she wants to stay out late, why can she not call and tell her parents she is staying out late? That is what I did when I was 16. If she is not willing to put up with a bit of shit from her parents for being with you, then she does not want to be with you.
Be independent and do what you want. But DO NOT put up with bullshit and physical abuse from other people's parents.
Ok man. Some advice from an OG Pimp:
Wait till highschool is out. Get a job and a place to rent. Tell your girl to either leave her family and leave with you or you out, homie.
Then you live together by your own rule. Wanna wank or break her in half? No problem, go ahead. No nasty parents to be up Yo ass. Just remember not to over do it as your neighbors will hear that glorious sex.
Wait till highschool is out. Get a job and a place to rent. Tell your girl to either leave her family and leave with you or you out, homie.
Then you live together by your own rule. Wanna wank or break her in half? No problem, go ahead. No nasty parents to be up Yo ass. Just remember not to over do it as your neighbors will hear that glorious sex.
SpectreFire
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He's the step-dad, tell him to fuck off and mind his own business.
SouthernDragon
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Hey, I respect and understand your position... up to the point of the shoving. You don't take physical threats like that lightly. At that point, you do what someone else in this thread mentioned; tell them to never do that again.
That said, you did make some mistakes, particularly not walking her to the car. However, as someone who's heavily involved in raising a teenager, if someone got my sister safe and sound and told me about their plans (and were honest) I wouldn't have a problem. You went out to prom, drove around, got home late, and everyone was fine. I don't see the fucking issue, and neither are my parents (who are pretty old school to boot).
That said, you did make some mistakes, particularly not walking her to the car. However, as someone who's heavily involved in raising a teenager, if someone got my sister safe and sound and told me about their plans (and were honest) I wouldn't have a problem. You went out to prom, drove around, got home late, and everyone was fine. I don't see the fucking issue, and neither are my parents (who are pretty old school to boot).
John Rabbit
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stopped reading.Cosmic Dreams said:
impossible that anything afterward is of such consequence that you should care. dump her, move on.
1) You'll regret doing the abstinence thing with your GF. Fuck that shit dude
2) You're 17 and in high school. I hate to say it but... you're going to be going to college soon. You're going to find girls who are just as good, I think that you shouldn't put yourself through this BS.
3) Despite you thinking that your GF is worth the trouble, I'm sorry to say but no, she really isn't. Her step dad is a bastard, the mom a bitch. The fucker pushes you, yells at you, and treats you like a fucking child? No way dude, that's not ok. Don't put up with that asshole. In fact, tell him to get fucked and don't go back to the house.
Well, some people just have to learn the hard way. Best of luck you to.
2) You're 17 and in high school. I hate to say it but... you're going to be going to college soon. You're going to find girls who are just as good, I think that you shouldn't put yourself through this BS.
3) Despite you thinking that your GF is worth the trouble, I'm sorry to say but no, she really isn't. Her step dad is a bastard, the mom a bitch. The fucker pushes you, yells at you, and treats you like a fucking child? No way dude, that's not ok. Don't put up with that asshole. In fact, tell him to get fucked and don't go back to the house.
Cosmic Dreams said:
Well, some people just have to learn the hard way. Best of luck you to.
You let her step-dad push you? Like actually shove you around and touch you in an offensive way? Are you dumb? Do your parents not care? I don't understand how you let this happen to yourself, as soon as he shoved you I would have either A. Called the po-po's or B. Told him that I don't take kindly to that shit.
Have your parents met her parents yet? Maybe they should, so they could give their honest opinion of the girl's parents. Cause they sound dumb as fuck.
I would tell her to stand-up for you in front of them, either tell them to back off a little, or bailout.jpeg. There is no difference between abstinence and making sex with a condom on in relation to her parents, btw. They won't find out!
Have your parents met her parents yet? Maybe they should, so they could give their honest opinion of the girl's parents. Cause they sound dumb as fuck.
I would tell her to stand-up for you in front of them, either tell them to back off a little, or bailout.jpeg. There is no difference between abstinence and making sex with a condom on in relation to her parents, btw. They won't find out!
Half and half
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Wait, he put his hands on you?
Fuck all of that. Seriously. He crossed a major line right there.
You're now free to date her on your terms, or break up with her.
Don't ever let another man put his damned hands on you.
Fuck all of that. Seriously. He crossed a major line right there.
You're now free to date her on your terms, or break up with her.
Don't ever let another man put his damned hands on you.
ChiTownBuffalo
Either I made up lies about the Boston Bomber or I fell for someone else's crap. Either way, I have absolutely no credibility and you should never pay any attention to anything I say, no matter what the context. Perm me if I claim to be an insider
Is she a saddleback Christian?
DanteFox
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I can totally see where the dad is coming from. As I expected the thread has been filled mostly with "screw her parents do what you want," which is a completely juvenile, small-minded thing to think.
Truth is, you screwed up. Even if you were afraid of having broken the rules, not facing up to it makes you look even more cowardly. Man up and take the heat. If she's worth it to you, prove to them that you can learn from your mistakes and that you respect them as parents, if not, do what others have said and break up with her.
But please, please, do not try to turn her against her parents in order to have your way with her. That's the most selfish option you could opt for.
Truth is, you screwed up. Even if you were afraid of having broken the rules, not facing up to it makes you look even more cowardly. Man up and take the heat. If she's worth it to you, prove to them that you can learn from your mistakes and that you respect them as parents, if not, do what others have said and break up with her.
But please, please, do not try to turn her against her parents in order to have your way with her. That's the most selfish option you could opt for.
Zaraki_Kenpachi
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Wait he fucking shoved you? Tell him you're not going to put up with that shit. NO ONE has the right to shove you especially some shithead stepdad.
He has no right to touch/shove you like that or even threaten you. You shouldn't keep apologizing either. He overreacted and your constant apology in my opinion made it worse.
Regardless you have your mind set on what you're going to do but her step dad is psycho man. I would be very wary in the future of his actions.
Regardless you have your mind set on what you're going to do but her step dad is psycho man. I would be very wary in the future of his actions.
DanteFox said:
I honestly can't tell if this is a serious post or if it's sarcasm.
If it's not sarcasm, then no, you're thinking about this in such a juvenile fashion. He's 17 fucking years old, he's not going to marry this girl, they haven't had sex, he's going to college soon, nobody should allow a man to shove them. He made an honest mistake, in no way does he deserve to be belittled and treated like a fucking child. Did you read the goddamn OP? He did tell the father the truth, which is what set the douchebag over the line. He manned up and fessed up to his mistake.
Some people have this thing called integrity, maybe you should try getting some.
DanteFox said:
1) Implying that he should drop his head and just roll with the punches implies that he is getting what he deserved.
2) You think he's still a child? Does a child legally drive a car? What constitutes a child to you? To me, a child is someone who is prepubescent.
3) His best options are to stay with a girl in high school who's parents are completely fucking insane? I don't know if he should be taking advice from you. I realize that they stated that they're old fashioned, but this is 2011. Their point of view is one of the past, it's invalid. He disagrees with their point of view, therefore he should stick up for himself and stand for what he believes in. It's demeaning to give in to the demands of people like this.
vas_a_morir
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You sound like a good kid. They are in the wrong.
If you don't mind, I have some questions that will help me understand this situation better.
1. Is her family particularly affluent? (rich, poor, middle class?)
2. How long has she lived with her Stepfather?
3. Does her stepfather have a history of violence? (domestic or otherwise)
4. Is her family religious?
5. Does she live in a bad neighborhood or near a bad neighborhood?
If you don't mind, I have some questions that will help me understand this situation better.
1. Is her family particularly affluent? (rich, poor, middle class?)
2. How long has she lived with her Stepfather?
3. Does her stepfather have a history of violence? (domestic or otherwise)
4. Is her family religious?
5. Does she live in a bad neighborhood or near a bad neighborhood?
DigitalDevil
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Does anyone else think it's strange for a stepfather to be this fiercely protective of a daughter that isn't his blood?
ThanksVision
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17 here too. Fuck that man. Seriously, it isn't worth it at all. The girl could be really cool but I don't know man, I just couldn't take the idea of calling her own parents for shit like that.
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