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I read stuff like the OP and this, and realize how fortunate I am to have my family. Hell before she passed my grandmother was like the most tolerant and eldest person I knew.
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My mother-in-law is racist.
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I read stuff like the OP and this, and realize how fortunate I am to have my family. Hell before she passed my grandmother was like the most tolerant and eldest person I knew.
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$100. =) Useful, I need every little bit to pay tuition.
She's extremely Christian, and I never miss the opportunity to remind her that Jesus wasn't white. I think she just brushes it off, though.
Fortunately, we're not planning on kids so that issue's out the window.
MWS Natural
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Obama sure got a lot of them out of the closet.
Half and half
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Indeed. It wasn't really an issue until Obama won the White House. Now blacks and Muslims (she's 100% sure he's a Muslim - "Look at his name! How could he not be?") are barbarians at the gates, constantly hell-bent on destroying white, Christian, American society. What a horrifying world she must live in, where everyone is out to destroy you and your way of life.
KidGalactus
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I wouldn't be able to shut-up and nod at shit like that. Then again, I take racist platitudes as thinly veiled threats.
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I certainly don't do anything to encourage her, like nodding. I just look the other way and pretend not to hear it.
So they did him a favor. Wouldn't want those shitty parents around the kids.
That would put her in her 30s when Pearl Harbor happened. Not making excuses, just providing a little context. California had Japanese internment camps back then. Wartime stereotypes are hard to break down.
Your future child's middle name must now be Hussein.
There are a few people in my circle of friends/"people I spend time with on occasion" that are racist. They make it clear they don't like black people and have no shame about it. It's not the "kill em all purge the world of their stain" kind of racism, more of a "I don't trust them and have had bad experiences with the few I interacted with" attitude. Still absolutely fucked up of course. It's difficult in that a few of them are otherwise great people so it's hard to balance the idea of this person who I otherwise really like having such a ignorant and fucked up mindset about a race of people. It's largely due to living in a very small town with a tiny minority population but thats a reason, not an excuse. And their racist attitudes have kept me from becoming as close to them as I would if they didn't have them. I can be friendly with people who have shitty beliefs, but never close friends with them.
After I made it a habit of going on a sarcastic tirade about white people and how much I hate them whenever they got racist around me, they stopped doing it as much.
After I made it a habit of going on a sarcastic tirade about white people and how much I hate them whenever they got racist around me, they stopped doing it as much.
Yeah I'm jewish and my older relatives that were alive during WW2 hated Germans and Japanese to the day they died (last one just a few months ago). They almost disowned my mother when we moved to Japan and we never told them we visited Germany so we could avoid the shitstorm. When I was younger I didn't get it and thought they were just stupid old people, but as I got older I realized that some wounds probably never heal.
Thagomizer
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My mother's parents were racist against the Chinese. My grandmother is especially so.
I later learned that my mother actually told them that if they voiced such opinions around me or my siblings, we would be removed from their presence and not be allowed to visit for whatever amount of time deemed necessary.
This was very effective in keeping them from calling Chinese food "chink food" around me, for instance.
Of course, now that I'm in my 20's, my grandmother no longer feels the obligation to censor herself, much to my consternation.
Foxy Fox 39
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My friends grandma is racist. She always referred to me and my brother as the "good ones". Though she would have no problem dogging black people any time the opportunity arose.
Alligatorjandro
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I have racist relatives.They have said some ridiculous things.
I don't really have much to do with them.
I don't really have much to do with them.
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The only person I knew who turned out to be racist was an acquaintance at school who one day started shouting at the Latin kids in the hallway that Mexican women don't have uteruses and give birth through their butts. I don't think he was right in the head.
Thankfully no family members.
Thankfully no family members.
Kuro Madoushi
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My mother hates everyone. Gays, blacks, whites, non-Asians, Asians...
Thagomizer
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Well, this is certainly a weird one.
Oh god. Some girl at college dropped this gem "I don't hate black people, just niggers." Needless to say I never saw her again.
ChiTown is Korean. I'm guessing his grandmother's racism has very little to do with Pearl Harbor.
Kuro Madoushi
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I don't know him personally, but he has stated he is Korean. And I generally find the older the Korean, the stronger the Japan hate.
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Thread necromancy - some of this shit is too good not to share.
Watching SAG awards with my lady and her mother. Viola Davis wins outstanding performance by leading actress for The Help. A standing ovation ensues.
Her mom: "All the PC people have to stand up and give her a standing ovation because she's black. They wouldn't do that for a white woman."
Me: "Yes they would, and have."
Later...
[Viola Davis gives acceptance speech, talks about the danger of racism and how we need to change as a country]
Her mom: "I hope she's not talking about the sort of change Obama brought with him. We don't need that sort of change."
Me: "Pretty sure she was just saying people need to stop being racist morons."
Later...
Her mom: "I'll say one thing, she's a really pretty shade of brown, not like most black people."
Hahaha, she may hate you as a person, but you've got really nice skin.
Watching SAG awards with my lady and her mother. Viola Davis wins outstanding performance by leading actress for The Help. A standing ovation ensues.
Her mom: "All the PC people have to stand up and give her a standing ovation because she's black. They wouldn't do that for a white woman."
Me: "Yes they would, and have."
Later...
[Viola Davis gives acceptance speech, talks about the danger of racism and how we need to change as a country]
Her mom: "I hope she's not talking about the sort of change Obama brought with him. We don't need that sort of change."
Me: "Pretty sure she was just saying people need to stop being racist morons."
Later...
Her mom: "I'll say one thing, she's a really pretty shade of brown, not like most black people."
Hahaha, she may hate you as a person, but you've got really nice skin.
Rocket Punch
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God that's just brutal. I would not be able to share a table with her and I'm a pretty mellow guy.
lunchtoast
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My experience was the complete opposite.
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In her eyes, the only thing worse than a black democrat is a black republican that makes republicans look bad.
astroturfing
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good thing you responded to her, keep doing it but never go into personal insults and soon she will realize you're the wiser one and she herself needs to change or at least shut the fuck up.
KO Traveling Hobo
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This is a thing?
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Let me rephrase that: She's the sort of racist who only started openly expressing her racism after Obama took office. Racist diatribes are a part of every holiday get-together, now. So yeah, she's always felt that way, but before it was more of a condescending attitude, while now it's the righteous anger of a political partisan.
Half and half
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Hey that's a good point. DD, you going to let her spew crap like that around your kids?
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Don't plan on having kids, so that's one worry off my shoulders. That said, I'm sort of getting sick of sitting around and letting her think it's okay to talk that way around me.
Sutton Dagger
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I'm wondering why some of you guys/girls don't say anything if your parents are being racist? My parents would sometimes say racist/ignorant things, but I would go out of my way to correct them, and I honestly feel that they are more tolerant/understanding because of it. I realise it's harder with in-laws, but mine soon got the hint that it wasn't cool to talk about that shit when I'm around. I little discomfort initially is worth the price if it means a lifetime of non-bigoted conversation.
KO Traveling Hobo
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Ah, gotcha. That makes more sense.
that's kinda optimistic. I'd imagine it's harder for older people to change.
Al-ibn Kermit
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"All right kids, get dressed we have to go to grandma's house for Thanksgiving. "
"I thought you said she was ignorant and we shouldn't listen to what she says? I don't wanna go then."
"shut up, let's go".
Well......I wouldn't put it to the kids quite like that. Christ. She's probably has her good side too.
Lionheart1337
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Like it was said, Obama dragged a lot of em out the closet.
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Sutton Dagger has a point. At what period do in-laws respect your position as their son/daughter-in law by refraining from comments that are deeply offensive to you, even when you're at their home? I would eventually confront them straight with it.
Deified Data
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Without a doubt. That's why I was chilling and watching TV with her in the first place. She's an all-around decent woman with a really reprehensible attitude towards minorities. This would be a lot easier if she was just a complete scumbag.
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My FIL is somewhat racist and EXTREMELY anti-gay. Bugs the hell out of me. We've had a couple tense conversations about it. In particular, several years ago my wife and I were watching Kinsey while staying with them, and at one point he walked in the room, watched for a few minutes and shouted "pervert!" Did not go over well with me.
We've known each other for a long time, though, and are familiar enough with our differences in opinion to simply not broach the topic in each others' presence. His level of racism is very similar to your MIL, too. I don't tolerate that shit from anyone and I don't think you should, either. Even if all you do is get up and walk away from the table, it's enough to communicate that you don't think that kind of talk is okay under any circumstances. It is very important for down the road when you have kids; you want her to know it isn't okay to say that stuff to your kid while you aren't around. Send a message.
I'm not reading through the whole thread, I'm sure this has already been said/debated...sorry ;p Just chiming in.
edit: aw damn, it isn't even a new thread ;p Oh well!
We've known each other for a long time, though, and are familiar enough with our differences in opinion to simply not broach the topic in each others' presence. His level of racism is very similar to your MIL, too. I don't tolerate that shit from anyone and I don't think you should, either. Even if all you do is get up and walk away from the table, it's enough to communicate that you don't think that kind of talk is okay under any circumstances. It is very important for down the road when you have kids; you want her to know it isn't okay to say that stuff to your kid while you aren't around. Send a message.
I'm not reading through the whole thread, I'm sure this has already been said/debated...sorry ;p Just chiming in.
edit: aw damn, it isn't even a new thread ;p Oh well!
LOL That's fucknig awesome. I guess she hates Wesley Snipes?
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