unholyrevenger72
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If the counselors don't want to do anything you're going to have force their hand and make them intervene.
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It won't make the problem go away immediately but just ignore them. They aren't worth the time of day or effort, especially if they are going to be petty like that.
Shit sucks but you can walk away knowing they're just being assholes and nothing more. Once you get out of High School it won't matter anymore.
EDIT: If you want to fight the School on this I would talk to the Counselors again and drop the idea that if they don't help fix this you might have to visit the School District Offices and talk to them about it and the lack of help you are recieving. Most people act real fast when they hear that.
Shit sucks but you can walk away knowing they're just being assholes and nothing more. Once you get out of High School it won't matter anymore.
EDIT: If you want to fight the School on this I would talk to the Counselors again and drop the idea that if they don't help fix this you might have to visit the School District Offices and talk to them about it and the lack of help you are recieving. Most people act real fast when they hear that.
Don't bring it up or talk to people who don't share the interest. Do you game at school with a handheld? If they really accost you that much over it, find somewhere quiet to do your thing, away from others, on breaks. Or don't play video games at school and make an attempt to socialize with the people who haven't treated you like shit over it.
Remember, you're in highschool with a bunch of people who still haven't figured out that they're acting like infants who just recently managed to grow a few pubes.
Remember, you're in highschool with a bunch of people who still haven't figured out that they're acting like infants who just recently managed to grow a few pubes.
Do this first. If the behavior persists...
Do this. I didn't get picked on much in high school, but in elementary/middle school, everytime I stood up to one of these little shits by giving them a nice hard knock, there were no problems afterwards.
I would give this approach a low chance of working. It could just egg them on more when you give them attention of any kind.
I would suggest keep going to the next level of authority till someone does something. Your parents, teachers, principals, or even the cops.
Don't be nice, be an asshole. Some people will perceive niceness as weakness.
manzoman96
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I had my few friends who liked final fantasy/kingdom hearts in high school, but I only ever talked about it with them.
OfficerRaichu15
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I mean I play ps3 mostly but they overhear some of my onversations somehow and it's just stupid. Why must good people like me suffer under a bunch of dumbasses.?
entremet
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that's not working.
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I was only ever picked on once, and that worked for me as well. Still, I wouldn't advise anyone else to do that without completely knowing the situation. You don't know what kind of school they go to, what the bullies are like. In my case it was just the one idiot but otherwise normal kid, in a very ordinary school. There was definitely no chance of him using a weapon or anything.
Do you talk about it with close friends or people that would also take interest? If not, the bullying is probably people that want you to take a hint. But they aren't mature enough themselves to deal with it in an adult way.
I just ignored anyone that talked shit but I didn't get bullied for playing games since I never spoke about them to anyone besides my group of friends. OP how and why do they make fun of you? I know said because you game but everyone plays games so that can't be it.
Edit: I was bullied too just to let you know but for other reasons.
OfficerRaichu15
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Can a mod change it for dealing with bullying?
Please?
Please?
Massive Duck. C.M.
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Don't
listen
to
these
people.
If it's really bad, get your teachers/principal involved, although school administrators often turn their backs or make things worse. What's your in-school friend group situation like? You say you're nice to everyone; do you group up with people?
If you have no problem with confrontation, dealing with them directly is one of your best courses of action, but not physically. That usually doesn't end well, even if you have size on him/them. You basically have to stand up for yourself, then not let them get the response out of you that they're fishing for.
ATOMICJORGE
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Read my previous response on the last page OP
exmachina64
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Block the people targeting you on social media, if you haven't already. If they make new accounts, keep blocking.
Avoiding these people as much as possible, reducing your exposure to them and the like are the most you can do. Over time, if you're not around, they'll just stop caring.
Like others said, just ignoring it is one of the only practical things you can do.
Avoiding these people as much as possible, reducing your exposure to them and the like are the most you can do. Over time, if you're not around, they'll just stop caring.
Like others said, just ignoring it is one of the only practical things you can do.
Sadly, it won't until he reaches the right person whoever that is.
OfficerRaichu15
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Talk about it with friends ( they aren't even gamers but they are intrigued) I guess they overheard me since every so often they would walk by our lunch table.
Outtrigger888
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I had a senior bullying me in high school, I finally stood up for myself even though the guy was 2x's my size. The teacher walked in on him holding me against the chalkboard. He cried like a baby in the principles office because if he got suspended he couldn't play football. He never messed with me again. I went overboard on saying punch him in the face. But you should still stand your ground at some point.
Hands of Stone
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Don't be afraid to defend yourself, but avoid violence if you can. If you can make friends with football players/sports guys then do so.
I used to get picked on in school, and it continued because I was an easy target so I would create a response that would continue the cycle. I think I pushed someone once since I was angry, which surprised them, but that was it. Fastforward many many years later, I would probably give more cynical/sarcastic remarks if that happened to me. I'd use words and try to beat them at their own lip service. Or something. Like "yeah, so?" and just go from there. Violence on a non-violent bully wouldn't help, I don't think.
Building up self-confidence and esteem, which took me time, I would say is important too.
Building up self-confidence and esteem, which took me time, I would say is important too.
entremet
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i was bullied and it took me beating up the dude.
Crude measures and not PC, but surprisingly effective.
I'm not endorsing it, but something people cannot be reasoned with.
And yes, teachers and administrators didn't care. I was never bullied again since it was a fight in the lunch room.
OfficerRaichu15
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So should I get more aggressive then GAF?
Get mentally aggressive or physically aggressive?
Get mentally aggressive or physically aggressive?
SmackDaddy
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These dudes are just dick heads. Try to ignore it.
If that doesn't work, tell them to cut it out, that its pissing you off. Just tell them you're trying go about your day. Show them you have a backbone.
But really, the best thing you can do in a situation like this is just laugh it off. Challenge them casually, just show them you generally aren't a little bitch. Say something like "fuck ya'll these games are awesome". "Yall don't know shit." Rag on the shit they play.
If it gets physical, time to tell the coppers!
GL man, keep being you, don't be ashamed of shit.
Edit: Officer Raichu, huh? Video gaming doesn't have to be the end all/be all for your hobbies and your identity. Try to branch out a bit. Love what you do, but always be looking for other stuff to get interested in. But like I said above, never be ashamed- just be constantly trying to better yourself.
If that doesn't work, tell them to cut it out, that its pissing you off. Just tell them you're trying go about your day. Show them you have a backbone.
But really, the best thing you can do in a situation like this is just laugh it off. Challenge them casually, just show them you generally aren't a little bitch. Say something like "fuck ya'll these games are awesome". "Yall don't know shit." Rag on the shit they play.
If it gets physical, time to tell the coppers!
GL man, keep being you, don't be ashamed of shit.
Edit: Officer Raichu, huh? Video gaming doesn't have to be the end all/be all for your hobbies and your identity. Try to branch out a bit. Love what you do, but always be looking for other stuff to get interested in. But like I said above, never be ashamed- just be constantly trying to better yourself.
Just keep being yourself. Don't get visibly frustrated because it will just perpetuate the situation. People love to tease and get a reaction.
Personally, I wouldn't try to talk to them as a group head on. If there is one that is nicer or that you are closer to that you can confront and ask him (and his friends) to stop, that might help too.
edit: if you really want to say fuck it, call their parents or stop by their home and confront them. even better if you can capture the abuse on your phone. Parents wont tolerate that shit.
Personally, I wouldn't try to talk to them as a group head on. If there is one that is nicer or that you are closer to that you can confront and ask him (and his friends) to stop, that might help too.
edit: if you really want to say fuck it, call their parents or stop by their home and confront them. even better if you can capture the abuse on your phone. Parents wont tolerate that shit.
Well that's pretty extreme.
Depends on the bully I guess. Mine was a big but cowardly guy who left me alone when he realized that I could and would physically harm him.
ATOMICJORGE
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How many more years do you have left with them on School?
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a lot of my threads involve me fucking up somehow. Perhaps I'm a moron?
Ignore them and hope it goes away? Are you people fucking serious?
Good lord.
Fight the kid; knock his teeth in and he'll either respect you or keep coming, but ignoring the problem will only make it worse.
I went to a pretty rough highschool, and if any of you guys think just ignoring the bully and hoping the problem will go away are insane. The only time people ever stopped getting picked on was when they stood up and beat the piss out of, or at the least tried to fight, the bully. Stand up for yourself.
EDIT: Also realize that once you've left high-school, which is what, next year for you? None of this will ever matter again. Get a wicked job, a hot girlfriend, and spend your 20's having an awesome time and gloating on the inside. Really though.
Good lord.
Fight the kid; knock his teeth in and he'll either respect you or keep coming, but ignoring the problem will only make it worse.
I went to a pretty rough highschool, and if any of you guys think just ignoring the bully and hoping the problem will go away are insane. The only time people ever stopped getting picked on was when they stood up and beat the piss out of, or at the least tried to fight, the bully. Stand up for yourself.
EDIT: Also realize that once you've left high-school, which is what, next year for you? None of this will ever matter again. Get a wicked job, a hot girlfriend, and spend your 20's having an awesome time and gloating on the inside. Really though.
...yeah. Don't listen to this person. He is a bully to the thread.
I threatened to break my bullies jaw and he apologized but then again I'm 6,2 and 200 pounds so I can back my threats which I don't know the op can.
Then perhaps don't talk so openly about Final Fantasy, Ni No Kuni, etc. If you have a group of friends who play the same games as you, keep the talk to within that group. Don't give the bullies the ammunition they're using to shoot you down. I imagine these bullies are the type of gamer who are restricted to playing mainstream, annual releases like FIFA, CoD, etc. Revel in the fact that you've not been suckered into that routine. Also, on no terms should you rat them out to the principal. You'll be forever known as a snitch, and the bullying will only intensify.
Well that just sounds like a bunch of assholes who friendship and identity revolves around being alpha and shoving it in people's faces.
The problem is clearly with them. You need to keep on the administration, don't let them off the hook. Keep track of incidences and bring it front of the administration, clearly demonstrating where they are failing you.
Really do the above, because when you do finally stand up for yourself. You don't want the fallout coming down on you. You want it coming down on the bullies, where they will be forced to learn the hard way.
If they continue to harass you, you should probably try to publicly embarrass them for their behavior in front of their peers. Say nobody is actually impressed by their immature behavior, everyone thinks that they are assholes, etc. I would try not to escalate anything to violence.
ThisGuy
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Right. Teachers aren't going to help, neither will administration. In my experience at least. Fighting back is usually the best option to get someone off your back. I've actually made friends with people after fighting them.
Have you ever fought someone breathing down the back of your neck? What's your personal experience on the matter?
Fight only if you can't joke around and make friends with people. Try this first.
entremet
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You Are Viewtiful
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No, it can easily backfire. Although hitting the gym would help, if you can. You'll look more intimidating.
I wonder what legal action he can pursue as a high schooler, because if I were in OP's shoes I definitely would.
hydragonwarrior
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The worst route is to continue to laugh when you clearly feel like shit for being embarassed.
I'm thinking you're avoiding your actual feelings because you think they'll win or you don't want to look that way, right? I've been there. But I went the route of hiding my feeling and it felt even worse than how you feel right now.
I honestly would still not know what to do now if I was thrown back in your position. There's the assertive route, but maybe someone who actually has had success in using direct, assertive words to end mental bullying can help out here.
I would check with a different counsellor though. Really emphasize how hurt this makes you feel and that it's impacting your studies. See how they respond then, because if you've already told the guys you don't like it and want them to stop, then you have to escalate.
I'm thinking you're avoiding your actual feelings because you think they'll win or you don't want to look that way, right? I've been there. But I went the route of hiding my feeling and it felt even worse than how you feel right now.
I honestly would still not know what to do now if I was thrown back in your position. There's the assertive route, but maybe someone who actually has had success in using direct, assertive words to end mental bullying can help out here.
I would check with a different counsellor though. Really emphasize how hurt this makes you feel and that it's impacting your studies. See how they respond then, because if you've already told the guys you don't like it and want them to stop, then you have to escalate.
TheGreatMightyPoo
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When the fuck will dumbass faculties realize that bullying no longer results in hurt feelings but rather vast psychological conflict??? Kids are killing themselves and/or others because of this. It's crisis-level heavy shit. I have no solution, I'd go to the cops if the administration is doing jackshit. Yeah, that might get laughed at but something's got to give.
What they are bullying about is inconsequential, honestly. They decided to pick on the OP and found a thing that will bother him when they talk shit about so they keep doing it.
It's all situational. Big city? Not worth it I think. Small town? You have some options.
No 100% solution. All you can do is give him some ideas to marinate.
The problem is op might not be able to defend himself
entremet
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It's a resource issue. Students outnumber faculty by a high margin and they can't be everywhere nor have their eyes and ears in every situation.
TheLostBigBoss
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OP we're telling you this because most of who are giving you this advice finally dealt with it. I regret not doing it years sooner with another asshole who would hit me in the face when the teacher was out of the class or smack me with a fucking broom.
Teachers, councilors, administration won't do shit because they can't do shit unless something physical happens. The biggest thing I regret was getting permission from my parents to take action and not doing it for years.
man don't fight anybody. you're 17 years old and this is 2016, it's not as simple as giving a guy a black eye and being done with it.
I honestly can't say I have any advice aside from waiting it out. I know it sounds shitty but it's what I did back in high school. Stuff like this stops as soon as you graduate, at the very least have comfort knowing that.
I'd say let people know you're having a hard time, but it sounds like you've already done that.
I honestly can't say I have any advice aside from waiting it out. I know it sounds shitty but it's what I did back in high school. Stuff like this stops as soon as you graduate, at the very least have comfort knowing that.
I'd say let people know you're having a hard time, but it sounds like you've already done that.
Massive Duck. C.M.
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I grew a foot and started drawing comics. They all got quiet after that lol
OfficerRaichu15
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I will admit that suicide has happen at my school last year due to bullying. It's freaking me out, I just hope I can stop it before I can't mentally fight back anymore.
Also I'm a junior
Also I'm a junior
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