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No one is really that busy right?

I am a new teacher, and yes, I am pretty much always that busy. But I do make time for friends and family on the weekends.
 
Working isn't the only thing that takes up your time OP. I don't see some of my friends for months because between us we have other friends, girl/boyfriends, or family that take up our free time.
 
Nobody is ever really that busy, that includes people with kids. People who want to make time to see someone or do something find time. If someone never seems to ever have time for you then you aren't a person they feel like finding time for and you should drop'em.

Hell there was a time in my life I worked two jobs and went to school, guess what? I still found time to do things and meet people I wanted to meet.
 
Between work, housekeeping, shopping, family etc, I have very little social time to myself these days.
 
I'm a teacher in grad school and have multiple children. I've been working about 15-hour days for the last year. Yes, sometimes people are that busy.
 
If they're always "busy" and you know they're full of shit then just move on. Plenty of people out there who want to go see a movie or hit up Chipotle with you to waste effort on those who only even respond at all in case they need you for something in the future.
 
I work 12 hours and travel for 4 hours each day. On weekends I mostly sleep. Any freetime (about an hour each day) is spent browsing GAF.
 
I am. I work 70 hour weeks, coach baseball, run a cub scout den, am currently rebuilding a 400sq ft on our house from the ground up and still have to find time for my 2 kids, my wife and then eventually myself.

When my friends text me asking to hang, I just have no time. Sorry bruhs.
 
Omega Kirby said:
I mean we all have those days but every single time you offer to hang out with someone they always can't.

Tell me very hard working gaf, do you find time to hang out with mates?
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Sometimes.

I've gone entire months in a work-sleep-repeat cycle.

Then, when I did have an afternoon, I was cleaning my apartment, doing laundry, buying groceries, etc


Maybe your mate's not available when you are wanting to hang out, or maybe your mate doesn't want to.

If you really mean nothing to this person, they'd just ghost you. The fact they are responding means they at least care enough to let you know they can't. That is, unless you're always tracking them down to ask in person?
 
I feel like those who say "drop 'em if they ain't got time for you!" must be young.

Sure, I've got friends who are very obviously avoiding me. I've got others who are legit busy or get busy and our schedules don't match up.
 
I'm plenty busy and I rarely know ahead of time when I won't be. Often I have to plan when I go see a movie like a week ahead of time.
 
Offer them money to hang out with you. Or at least some kind of prize pack/raffle that they can win at the conclusion of the evening.
 
Yea, it sucks but it happens. Friendships change as you get older, and transitioning out of them is not enjoyable.

I was the first of my close university friends to get married and have kids - by about 8 years or so - and it was hard being the 'busy guy' for so long, and then realizing that the relationships with some people had almost completely evapourated.
 
NoblesseOblige said:
Hell no. I'm too busy posting on GAF.
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That. First. Post.

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I'm busy because I have plans to do things, but then I usually end up not doing anything.

So I guess I'm not actually busy. But I plan to be busy and those plans always fall through after sitting on the couch for 5 hours.
 
We tried an experiment with one of my wife's bitchy co-workers. She was the type to always complain she was never invited to anything (woe is me, always the victim, won't anyone think of my feelings... that type). So we started inviting her to every social event that any mutual friend was involved in. Basically if a work person was there, she was invited. The number of times she declined went into the teens before we stopped counting.

I guess I mention this to show you how it could be worse than "can't, I'm busy." It could be that plus "why don't you ever call?"
 
DeathoftheEndless said:
The worst is when they say they're busy and then you see they're online playing a videogame.
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I don't know. In my opinion, tending to your hobbies is "busy" in a sense.

Doing things that you like is important for mental health. Nothing wrong with prioritizing stuff that you really want to do. Maintaining friendships is important but the strongest friendships will make considerations for the necessity of "me time" anyway.

I'd rather hang out with someone when they're actually in the mood than force it as an obligation. "Busy" doesn't just mean taking care of particular responsibilities like work, children, home maintenance, etc. Sometimes it means taking care of yourself in a personal way.
 
I think I am busy every single day for the next 3 weeks straight. I work Monday - Friday until 6 pm, I podcast on Tuesday/Thursday nights, have hockey twice a week, visit my mom and dad once each for dinner, run for an hour 3 times per week, on top of general plans I've made with friends and any errands that come up.

It's really fucking hard sometimes to find a nice spot to make time for people. I'm that guy. Sorry.
 
Rash said:
I don't know. In my opinion, tending to your hobbies is "busy" in a sense.

Doing things that you like is important for mental health. Nothing wrong with prioritizing stuff that you really want to do. Maintaining friendships is important but the strongest friendships will make considerations for the necessity of "me time" anyway.

I'd rather hang out with someone when they're actually in the mood than force it as an obligation. "Busy" doesn't just mean taking care of particular responsibilities like work, children, home maintenance, etc. Sometimes it means taking care of yourself in a personal way.
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Yep. Now if it's happening constantly or all the time, I can see how that could become annoying.

But a lot times before I go into work, I just want to relax by playing some music or video games. Or sometimes I have some piece of music I'm writing or working on, like I'm busy working on that sorry for planning to be doing this. Especially if it's music related and I'm in the right mood, I'm not stopping that.
 
Some people might be legitimately busy, others might be tired or want some time to themselves. If people constantly tell you they're busy/don't have time/something like that then maybe they just don't want to tell you they want to hang out. Don't take it too personal and just move on in such a case.
 
If someone is always telling you they're busy, ask them to let you know when they have the time. Then write them off. People who want your company will pleasantly surprise you, people who don't will let themselves drift away.
 
Depends on what they do.

If he/she is a surgeon, resident doctor, lawyer in"Big Law", ibanker, consultant, or someone in some tech startup, then yeah...they honestly might be too busy.
 
theepicoftyler said:
It's emotionally exhausting being around people all day. When I get home from work, 90% of the time I just want to unplug and be by myself.
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This, its not that I dont enjoy hanging out with people and what not, but after a entire day being surrounded by people. I just want to go home and be around some quite for once. Last thing i want is to go to a bar or really anything outside of chilling and playing games at my house. Which i would love to play with some co-workers but at 27 is becoming less and less with others having there own issues/ things they want to do.

Dont get the whole just drop them thing. Some people just dont like going and and doing stuff all the time.
 
They may not be busy, just introverted or even depressed. Don't feel like everybody hates you just because gaffers like to project. I mean it's a possibility, but a lot of people are making assumptions in here.
 
Kids change everything. Yes, if you have young kids you are always busy. So if that's the case,maybe don't write them off right away.
 
If a person declines but wants to hang out with you for real, they will usually try to reschedule in that same conversation. Even if its vague, with something like "maybe next week?", it at least shows intent.
 
"Busy" doesn't necessarily mean that they're working. It could also mean that they're "busy" doing something else. If you're watching your favorite show on TV and your friend calls you up to hang out, it's perfectly acceptable to tell them that you're busy.
 
I sound a lot busier than I am. I need to have nights in by myself, it's how I relax. So if someone messages me and wants to come over I'm like "sorry, bit busy" and I still feel bad about it.
 
I'm super busy. I have an hour+ commute that takes up almost 3 hours when all is said and done a day, plus 8 hours for work, that's 11 hours, leaving 5 hours if I want to get 8 hours of sleep which I strive for but never hit. I go home, lift 3 days a week, which between driving to there and back takes another 90 minutes to 2 hours depending. that leaves 3 or so hours of free time. I have a girlfriend so a lot of my days will be dedicated to being with her, and I don't even have kids which I can't even imagine finding time if I did.
 
Some people are that busy.
I was pretty much that busy during the school semester.
I took 19 credits, and was working ~12 hours per week beside, about 1.5 hours driving to school every day. Not to mention homework.
 
Your offer isn't enticing to me, so I'm busy. I find that you only have to decline offers from a person 3 times before they stop asking. Easy way to get rid of someone you do t want to hang with but enough to force you out if you don't want to lose them.
 
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