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November? More like Confessember! Anonymous Confessions/Advice Thread 2013

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BPoole said:
I've been dating a girl for 3 years and recently found out she is 10 years older than she said she was when we met. She doesn't look that old but I have found undeniable proof that she is and I want to break up with her because of it

*Note: there is a 17 year gap between us, before I thought it was only 7, which already kind of weirded me out in a way
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Three years is a long time, and if you really care about each other you should try making it work. Being in a happy relationship with someone 17 years older is better than being unhappy with someone your own age.
 
Erehtih said:
My confession: I'm currently stealing a train ride muhahahahaha. Suck it public transportation!
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Funny to see this pop up after I just got home doing this same thing. I do this every day just about, and the days when I don't I totally could have.

My city is apparently too cheap to hire personnel aboard every train checking for tickets, so I've stolen about 100 rides now. If I do get caught, the worst case scenario is a $250 ticket, but that's still less than the $500+ I've saved over the last six months so whatevs.
 
ronito said:
Dude I was there with you but way earlier in life. I always wanted to make things worse for myself and thought I was scum of the scum. A few things. First off professional help is important. I know there's this stigma about getting help with mental health. But honestly no one makes a big deal if you get the yearly flu and have to go to the doctor. Same thing with depression.

Second, take up a hobby that you want to do. For me it was guitar. And as many know it became my life and I wouldn't have survived without it.Having something that I was able to be good at and get better at was life changing for me. Keep in mind that it's not about being better than someone else, it's about being better than you were. If you look you will always find someone better. Talk to your spouse, get help.

Here's a link to suicide help lines:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_suicide_crisis_lines

They can help you take the first step to getting better if you're in crisis.
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ronito said:
You got sundowners or an early form of it.
A few things.

Have you tried "sleep hygene"? Honestly I used to be the same but following basic rules really helps.

Back to the thing. The grass is always greener and if you're thinking your lonliness is messing with you, then there's a good chance it is.

COMMUNICATE with your wife. I know I sometimes get lonely and when I discussed with the wife saying "You know I feel lonely when..." we worked it out relatively easily.
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Just so that you both know, if you need to, please feel free to pm me or anyone in the depression thread if you need to talk. I will never tell anyone about it, and while my advice may be shit, I can at least be a shoulder. And for the first one, please please please think about seeking out professional help. It honestly helps to have someone to vent to that won't judge you, and even medication is an option. It will get better.
 
Wazzy said:
Yikes. That's pretty bad.

Did you really like her? How old are you both? If you're not that into her then definitely break up.
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I'm 24, about to graduate college next month. She's 41, will be 42 in January. Our relationship has been fine, but knowing that she is that much older kind of offsets everything. There's is A LOT more to the situation, and I basically feel trapped in the relationship
 
I've gotten creepy-ish PMs from a member of creepy gaf.

Ronito, get your cat avatar back. Confessions are not the same without it.
 
BPoole said:
I'm 24, about to graduate college next month. She's 41, will be 42 in January. Our relationship has been fine, but knowing that she is that much older kind of offsets everything. There's is A LOT more to the situation, and I basically feel trapped in the relationship
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If you don't feel that it's right, end it. Especially if you feel trapped. It won't go away if you simply ignore it and pretend that everything is fine.
 
I have secretly stolen all the Roald Dahl books in my library to form a major collection. Bear in mind that these aren't the crinkled mass-market paperbacks that I'm talking about it. I don't know if they are particularly valuable, but they are fitted with faux-leather covers and some are accompanied by seriously stellar illustrations. Nobody has caught a whiff of my delinquencies. I feel like Fantastic Mr Fox.
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Reminds me, my son was telling me about how he was reading "The BFG" and in a scatterbrain moment I was like "Oh! The Big Fucking Giant. That was a good book."
 
Sats said:
How hot is she
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Hotter than most 41 year old women
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Would you have been able to guess her age?
 
ronito said:
Reminds me, my son was telling me about how he was reading "The BFG" and in a scatterbrain moment I was like "Oh! The Big Fucking Giant. That was a good book."
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When my son told me he was reading the BFG, my brain shut down and went 'Big fucking gun?' to myself before I remembered the book.
 
Wherearemahdragonz said:
If you don't feel that it's right, end it. Especially if you feel trapped. It won't go away if you simply ignore it and pretend that everything is fine.
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I might make a thread about it at some point and will give the enitrety of the situation. The reprecussions of breaking it off could be very bad. I am just reluctant to since I don't want her to somehow find out about the thread
 
BPoole said:
Hotter than most 41 year old women
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Would you have been able to guess her age?
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She looks about 35 (at most. I would believe 31 if she told me), so no.

Also, if she's a different ethnicity than you, it's way harder. People in your own ethnicity will tend to look older than they are to you, while people in another ethnicity will often appear younger to you. *I said that like it's the gospel, it's not. Just something I've personally noticed.
 
StanleyStutters said:
Wow. I can't blame you for being fooled. She looks way younger than 41.
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Yeah, when we met she said she was 28 which was believable. She is in the skin care industry so she literally hasn't aged since she was like 18. I've seen pics of her from when she was my age and she looks exactly the same
 
BPoole said:
I might make a thread about it at some point and will give the enitrety of the situation. The reprecussions of breaking it off could be very bad. I am just reluctant to since I don't want her to somehow find out about the thread
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I think you should do what you think is right. I can understand having reservations because you want to start a family eventually, and she's already at the age where that becomes riskier. But if you love her, her age shouldn't matter as much if you aren't concerned about kids.

Basically, you've got a lot of thinking to do. I'd feel a bit betrayed too. That's a hell of a lie to keep up for three years.
 
vas_a_morir said:
She looks about 35 (at most. I would believe 31 if she told me), so no.

Also, if she's a different ethnicity than you, it's way harder. People in your own ethnicity will tend to look older than they are to you, while people in another ethnicity will often appear younger to you. *I said that like it's the gospel, it's not. Just something I've personally noticed.
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Yeah, I'm just a typical white guy with western european ancestry. She is Burmese.
 
NaughtyCalibur said:
I know a 31 woman who is a magician with the whole skin care makeup thing and is constantly mistaken for 19. That shit is ridiculous.
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Yeah its funny since we will go to 21+ places like bars or casinos and she gets carded almost every time but I hardly ever do unless they're just carding everyone
 
But seriously tho why would you break up with her, she's hot, you've been together 3 years already, and as far asi know, nothing is wrong besides that.
 
I'm a female btw. I grew up with a group of girls that was fairly close knit. As we grew up a lot of the girls would flirt with each other and mess around. Lots of boob grabbing and ass smacking all the way up to making out and more. My other girlfriends said that this happened in their groups too. I'm not bi or gay but I am curious and would like to have some fun with a girl. And all my friends have had some sort of "experience" but they never made the slightest move towards me. I wonder if I'm unattractive and they don't want me. It makes me sad.
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I'm obviously not a girl but it's sorta similar for guys but women tend to be more uninhibited. Like I said in my Boy Scout post there was a lot of homo erotic stuff in the group I grew up in and in talking with others it's true of them too. But I will say in my group the boys that people thought were more conservative/serious tended to be left out of the dong waving and such. Perhaps that's what's going on here. Perhaps you come off as too shy or perhaps as a person that isn't up for it?
 
foxuzamaki said:
But seriously tho why would you break up with her, she's hot, you've been together 3 years already, and as far asi know, nothing is wrong besides that.
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If I have to make assumptions, it's maybe because her biological clock is ticking. She hinting plans to get married, have kids, start a family since she's running out of time and he is not ready. That's what I'm concluding when he says he feels trapped.
 
When I was around 6 or 7 I peed in a trash can that was in my mom's bedroom. I didn't walk to the bathroom because I would have had to walk by my mom's new boyfriend after my parents had just divorced.

I snuck back to my room without saying anything. I heard him sniffing the room later and felt justified.

(I would have posted this in the thread but I wanted someone to guess which one was mine, don't include this part. :D)
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Ok I wont.
 
BPoole said:
Yeah its funny since we will go to 21+ places like bars or casinos and she gets carded almost every time but I hardly ever do unless they're just carding everyone
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I was going to say that such a breach of honesty is a no go and you should definitely cut and run, but got damn...you might wanna just let it go. She's fine as hell.

BPoole said:
Yeah, she's attractive, but it just seems so weird to have been lied to after 3 years of dating. She also is in a custody battle over her twin boys (they're 11 and got taken away from her by the father, and she has not idea where he is with her kids) and she has been an absolute emotional wreck the past 3 months.

That whole scenario has taken a toll on me as well, so if I were to break up with her now she would have basically lost everyone closest to her within a few months. She had apparently attempted suicide about a decade ago, and I've seen her at her worst over the past 3 years. She isn't exactly what I would call mentally stable. I am just scared shitless that if I were to break up with her that she would take her own life, and that is obviously nto something I want to live with.
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Wow, ok. I wish you and her the best, whatever happens.
 
BeerSnob said:
I was going to say that such a breach of honesty is a no go and you should definitely cut and run, but got damn...you might wanna just let it go. She's fine as hell.
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Yeah, she's attractive, but it just seems so weird to have been lied to after 3 years of dating. She also is in a custody battle over her twin boys (they're 11 and got taken away from her by the father, and she has not idea where he is with her kids) and she has been an absolute emotional wreck the past 3 months.

That whole scenario has taken a toll on me as well, so if I were to break up with her now she would have basically lost everyone closest to her within a few months. She had apparently attempted suicide about a decade ago, and I've seen her at her worst over the past 3 years. She isn't exactly what I would call mentally stable. I am just scared shitless that if I were to break up with her that she would take her own life, and that is obviously nto something I want to live with.
 
My biggest fear is commitment. I have never dated anyone seriously (only random encounters) and I am terrified that I will end up alone with sixty cats. I always use the "I'm way too busy to date you" excuse if it ever gets to that point, but in reality, I have all the time in the world.
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Random Encounters? you'd love Skies of Arcadia!
 
ronito said:
Reminds me, my son was telling me about how he was reading "The BFG" and in a scatterbrain moment I was like "Oh! The Big Fucking Giant. That was a good book."
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Holy shit, this cracked me up.

My confession is I once got a pm from ronito and I felt like I had been contacted by a celebrity.
 
So I contact my ex and explain how I think we should forget our no sex agreement. I don't tell her I've already fucked Kelsey. She agrees reluctantly.

Now Kelsey starts getting really into me even though I told her I still love my ex and might get back with her at the end of the semester. She keeps pushing for us to date, I start acting really distant since all I wanted was a fwb thing. We stop hanging out as much and just occasionally text.

I know eventually my roomie will find out, so I went ahead and told him the mystery girl I've been hanging out with for the past month is his ex Kelsey. However, I don't tell him i fucked her. He just thinks i like to smoke weed with her and basically says i better not fuck her, but otherwise he doesn't care if i see her.

He pretty much tells me the reason he didn't date her is because of some secret of hers. I finally get him to tell me what it is and it turns out she is really into doing fucked up things, like cheating on a bf, cutting herself, leading guys on. This makes complete sense because when i first started seeing her she would super horny when we would mess around and my roommate would call me to see what I was doing. There was also this guy she was talking to for 2 months before we started seeing each other. She loved to make plans with him then invite me over, fuck, and read his texts as he kept trying to get in contact with her to go through with their plans. Finally she told him she had been fucking me for the past week, yet still he wanted to be with her. I felt bad for him but he was a pretty big pussy. Also I got the vibe that she didn't give a fuck about her kittens because they kept dying, idk if she did that on purpose or not, but by week 1 of seeing her only 1 was left alive. Still alive to this day though :) I also got the vibe that she liked when I would fuck up my school work because we were always fucking. Like when I had a test one night and kept trying to study she just wanted to fuck and did everything she could to keep me from studying.

So although I thought I was over this girl and wanted to go back to my ex, all of a sudden I am super turned on by this chick. I don't know what is wrong with me but the fact that she likes to do fucked up shit is a super fucking big turn on for me.

On top of that I know my roommate would flip if he knew i fucked her. And when I talk with my ex as planned I know she will be PISSED when she finds out I fucked Kelsey. I'm not sure what I should do, but I'm sure everyone can agree I'm a piece of shit. Yet at the same time all of this has been super exhilarating.

I know I should stop talking to her but at the same time this has been a lot of fun.

I'm attaching a pic of this chicks tits that she sent me. I don't care if you host it in a link so gaffers can see.

I really hope Gaf detective doesn't hunt me down, but at the same time I know I deserve it. That's part of the fun ;)

TLDR; Im fucking my roommates ex and he doesn't know. She is fine as hell, but fucked up in the head. Also I plan on getting back with my own ex in a few months and I know she will be pissed that I fucked my roommates ex.
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You know, you should listen to the three wise men on this one:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N6blgjF6UkU

Link to pic (NSFW):
http://imgur.com/8PTTZ.png
 
BPoole said:
Yeah, she's attractive, but it just seems so weird to have been lied to after 3 years of dating. She also is in a custody battle over her twin boys (they're 11 and got taken away from her by the father, and she has not idea where he is with her kids) and she has been an absolute emotional wreck the past 3 months.

That whole scenario has taken a toll on me as well, so if I were to break up with her now she would have basically lost everyone closest to her within a few months. She had apparently attempted suicide about a decade ago, and I've seen her at her worst over the past 3 years. She isn't exactly what I would call mentally stable. I am just scared shitless that if I were to break up with her that she would take her own life, and that is obviously nto something I want to live with.
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You are in a tough spot. Wish you the best man.
 
One of my favorite threads to read. Can't wait for more goods to come in.

I don't think my pm's have been creepy. Just telling a mod that I like their responses in a minimum wage thread and telling another user I like their avi.
 
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