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[Iceman]

if alarms were going off in your head.. good move.

otherwise, this can (and should) be pretty harmless. In most situations if a friend is out of town and their girlfriend wants to go out I'll oblige them. Although I'm a pretty boring guy at least they'll be safe, she'll appear taken to the guys out on the prowl and more importantly I can appear taken (apparently the womens are attracted to guys who are already taken).

Even if she is attracted to you, if there is no attraction to her on your end (or if loyalty outweighs your attraction) then such outings shouldn't be a big deal.

But of course, the less risky the better when it comes to matters of love. Lives can change dramatically because of love triangles.. I mean things can get seriously ugly.

 

[Fresh Prince]

The more interesting question is should he tell his friend.

 

[Alyssa Hu$tle]

Many of the people I go clubbing with are guys – some are in relationships, some are single, sometimes my husband comes along, sometimes he doesn’t. It makes no difference, friends are friends and none of us would dream of anything happening between us. So for me, clubbing with people of the opposite sex doesn’t mean you’re gonna fuck them, not even close.

Although that said, if you were attracted to your friend’s said girlfriend, and if you had the feeling that something could happen between you, then you did the right thing. You generally know if you’re putting yourself in a dangerous situation right from the start, and that’s the best time to get out of it. Kudos to you.

 

[NintendosBooger]

Well, what some of us are overlooking is that it's possible my friend would have taken it the wrong way. He's a sensible guy and knows that I'm trustworthy, but if there's even the slightest chance that he could misconstrue the situation, I'm backing off -- regardless of whether her intent (or mine for that matter) is innocent or not.

That said, yes...under normal conditions, I would "fhuta" whatever that means (fuck her up the ass?)

 

[Blackace]

As a heart attack.

glad we'll never be friends

 

[Tommie Hu$tle]

My buddy was out of town for a week and his new girlfriend called me while he was away, asking me if I wanted to go to this new nightclub that opened, just the two of us. Now, I don't know if I was just paranoid or what, but certain alarm bells went off and I declined the offer, telling her that I thought it was inappropriate for us to go to a club, where obviously we'll be drinking and dancing.

Did I do the right thing, or was I acting like an idiot?

Good call, you don't want to be anywhere near your buddies GF when he is not around.

Well, this could change the opinions of a lot of people here:

My good friend rarely goes out to clubs -- in fact, one of his pet peeves is when this girl makes these requests for them to go to one on weekends. He doesn't like the club atmosphere mostly because 1.) He can't really dance and 2.) He's not the drinking type. He's trying to make this girl mellow out some, to adapt to his more quiet lifestyle. Unfortunately for my good friend, she's attempting the opposite with him.

Before you ask, they have a lot of things in common. This just happens to be one where they're almost on opposite trains.

I think what it boils down to is -- and this is just my interpretation of it -- that if she's going to indulge in a lifestyle that he's not in agreement with, I think he'd like to be the one with whom she does it.

This is a major issue. If they have two different views of enjoying themselves that is a problem. Remember everyone at the club is more shiny, more fun, more exciting, more sexy than anyone who would pefer to stay at home and do "nothing" add smoke, alchol, and body rubbing. That is a mix for fun!

The more interesting question is should he tell his friend.

100% no, not at all. Nothing happened so it's not an issue. The only way he should even think about bringing it up is if his buddy DIRECTLY asks him. This was a no harm, no foul play.

 

[Particle Physicist]

You did the right thing, but if anything, you should have gone to keep an eye on her. Taken her home. Her home.

exactly what i was thinking. if she goes anyway.. it could be bad news for your friend.

 

[RepMovSB]

She wants to go out but her BF is away.
She knows you as a friend which is why you got asked.

It's possible that she has less respectable intentions, but if so the only worry for you should be whether you can trust yourself (not her).

You could have done a lot of good by going along in a "protector" role, which is maybe what she was expecting.

Of course, I don't know the girl in question so I could be way off.

 

[Tommie Hu$tle]

You could have done a lot of good by going along in a "protector" role, which is maybe what she was expecting.

Protector role WTF? That's what girlfriends are for.

 

[Vennt]

You did the right thing, Getting laid is 1000x easier than making new friends, and if you get a reputation for taking your mates girls you'll start losing friends like it was going out of fashion.

I've known of people that have had to move city because of gaining such reputations.

 

[Bluecondor]

My buddy was out of town for a week and his new girlfriend called me while he was away, asking me if I wanted to go to this new nightclub that opened, just the two of us. Now, I don't know if I was just paranoid or what, but certain alarm bells went off and I declined the offer, telling her that I thought it was inappropriate for us to go to a club, where obviously we'll be drinking and dancing.

Did I do the right thing, or was I acting like an idiot?

From what you have said - it sounds like she was asking you to go without telling her BF, who you are friends with. I agree - there is no way in hell that I would take out a buddy's GF, just-the-two-of-us, to a club, especially without his knowledge.

But - at the same time - if she called and said that her and a bunch of her hot friends were going to a club and that I should meet her there - I would go (and have gone in these situations) in a heartbeat. Or - if she called and was like - "Hey - I want to go to a club on Friday, do you want to get some people together? Let's all go out?" I probably would have been all about it (although I would either call my buddy and mention it to him before him or send him an e-mail - just so that he sees that I am respectful of his situation).

I actually had a similar situation last night. A friend-of-a-friend invited me to meet her and her friends at a bar last night. I accepted, but I didn't want to go by myself, because I know that she has a boyfriend and I didn't want to look like I was moving in on his girl. So - I invited two of my female friends to meet me there, which made the evening much more relaxed/less awkward.

 

[Tommie Hu$tle]

But - at the same time - if she called and said that her and a bunch of her hot friends were going to a club and that I should meet her there - I would go (and have gone in these situations) in a heartbeat. Or - if she called and was like - "Hey - I want to go to a club on Friday, do you want to get some people together? Let's all go out?" I probably would have been all about it (although I would either call my buddy and mention it to him before him or send him an e-mail - just so that he sees that I am respectful of his situation).

Those I can agree with totally. That still makes it a netural situation for everyone and here I would let my buddy know what we did.