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Woorloog said:
That sounds a tad heteronormative.
Don't think the OP mentioned if he is hetero-, bi- or homoromantic.
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I'm pretty sure I'm hetero, but it is weird since I don't find any specific sex as sexually attractive.

I remember in a thread where someone asked to choose a celebrity you would like to have sex with, I chose Amanda Tapping, but whenever I hear questions like that I transform them into "Who would you want to be in a relationship with" in my head.

So I guess I would like to have relationships with women, but the entire thing is very confusing.
 
MikeDip said:
I'm pretty sure I'm hetero, but it is weird since I don't find any specific sex as sexually attractive.

I remember in a thread where someone asked to choose a celebrity you would like to have sex with, I chose Amanda Tapping, but whenever I hear questions like that I transform them into "Who would you want to be in a relationship with" in my head.

So I guess I would like to have relationships with women, but the entire thing is very confusing.
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From what I gather, you're mind is just set on the having companionship and having children aspect of things. Since you don't take attraction into account, you are just going for the opposite gender so that you and another can easily and readily have each other's child.
 
MikeDip said:
I'm pretty sure I'm hetero, but it is weird since I don't find any specific sex as sexually attractive.

I remember in a thread where someone asked to choose a celebrity you would like to have sex with, I chose Amanda Tapping, but whenever I hear questions like that I transform them into "Who would you want to be in a relationship with" in my head.

So I guess I would like to have relationships with women, but the entire thing is very confusing.
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Has anyone made a joke about how your avatar looks like an evil vagina yet?

Exercise more, it will get your hormones moving. You might be short on testosterone.
Fucking is about power.
Love is about trust.
 
MikeDip said:
The funny thing is the one definition of sex you're using is something I desperately want. Starting a family and having children is a goal of mine, and yet I'm an asexual.

Somehow I hope it all works out.
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I can see how being an asexual would seem like a hurdle towards having a spouse/SO and children, but I don't see it as a wall. Unless, of course, you lack the ability to become aroused. But you have already stated that having sex is similar to buying someone ice-cream, and so while you may not see the appeal of sex, it doesn't appear to be something you can't perform. And even then there is also the option of artificial insemination, adoption, and other ways to create a family, which have nothing to do with sex.
 
MikeDip said:
I'm pretty sure I'm hetero, but it is weird since I don't find any specific sex as sexually attractive.

I remember in a thread where someone asked to choose a celebrity you would like to have sex with, I chose Amanda Tapping, but whenever I hear questions like that I transform them into "Who would you want to be in a relationship with" in my head.

So I guess I would like to have relationships with women, but the entire thing is very confusing.
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Romantic attraction, not sexual. They do overlap, and most often those two are the same. I reckon practically only asexuals have to wonder about those... Confusion understandable.

At least starting a family is probably somewhat simpler with a woman, asexual or not. If for nothing else than that it can be done fully naturally.

Slightly outside topic but is it common for gay couples to want children?

Dirtbag said:
Has anyone made a joke about how your avatar looks like an evil vagina yet?
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Previous page.
EDIT and read thread, already noted it can't be hormonal problems for that would be visible otherwise as well.
EDIT and don't confuse sex with love.
 
Dirtbag said:
Has anyone made a joke about how your avatar looks like an evil vagina yet?
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I'm pretty sure I covered that last page, but thankfully I'm not the only one who sees it.
 
This thread is sort of a breaking realization for me. I never really looked up asexuality, but reading up on it now, I feel like I connect to it more. I have a girlfriend. I mostly have sex just to please her as thats what makes me happier. otherwise I dont care too much for it. Despite that feeling I really enjoying being with her and having her in my life for the most part.
 
Alcotholic said:
This thread is sort of a breaking realization for me. I never really looked up asexuality, but reading up on it now, I feel like I connect to it more. I have a girlfriend. I mostly have sex just to please her as thats what makes me happier. otherwise I dont care too much for it. Despite that feeling I really enjoying being with her and having her in my life for the most part.
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Don't worry, someone pointed out from previous posts of mine that I sorta sound asexual as well. I hadn't thought about it, and it kinda makes sense now >.< Demi maybe.

Which, might be a bit creepy, considering :p
 
Alcotholic said:
This thread is sort of a breaking realization for me. I never really looked up asexuality, but reading up on it now, I feel like I connect to it more. I have a girlfriend. I mostly have sex just to please her as thats what makes me happier. otherwise I dont care too much for it. Despite that feeling I really enjoying being with her for the most part.
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Have you always felt like that (specifically, from puberty, pre-pubescent are kinda asexual by definition)?
If not, probably low sex drive or some such. If this, may be some problem (depression, hormonal imbalance, something)->see doctor/therapist.

If not sure about the first, ignore my "advice". Don't panic regardless.

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Fiction said:
Don't worry, someone pointed out from previous posts of mine that I sorta sound asexual as well. I hadn't thought about it, and it kinda makes sense now >.< Demi maybe.

Which, might be a bit creepy, considering :p
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Woorloog said:
Always felt like that (specifically, from puberty, pre-pubescent are kinda asexual by definition)?
If not, probably low sex drive or some such. If this, may be some problem (depression, hormonal imbalance, something)->see doctor/therapist.

If not sure about the first, ignore my "advice". Don't panic regardless.

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I find it more relieving if anything as it explains a lot. Ever since I lost my virginity, sex never seemed like a big deal to me. Its nice and all, but I didn't understand why people made a big deal of it. I can see people as being attractive, but I was never really attracted to them. I was more for the idea of being in a relationship.

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Alcotholic said:
I find it more relieving if anything as it explains a lot. Ever since I lost my virginity, sex never seemed like a big deal to me. Its nice and all, but I didn't understand why people made a big deal of it.
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Growing up, did you have a preferred gender you found attractive. Did you find anything attractive as a teenager in puberty? Just trying to see how similar we are.
 
MikeDip said:
Growing up, did you have a preferred gender you found attractive. Did you find anything attractive as a teenager in puberty? Just trying to see how similar we are.
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I preferred women. I didnt find any one in middle school really attractive, Boys or Girls, and that confused me a lot as people said who you were attracted to was defined then. But when I got to high school there were some girls I found cute and whatnot, I kinda liked them.
 
Is there even such thing as asexual in people? I highly doubt it. Eros and Thanatos, that's all we are.
 
Alcotholic said:
I find it more relieving if anything as it explains a lot. Ever since I lost my virginity, sex never seemed like a big deal to me. Its nice and all, but I didn't understand why people made a big deal of it. I can see people as being attractive, but I was never really attracted to them. I was more for the idea of being in a relationship.

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I meant it's a bit creepy that someone on an internet forum knows me better than I know myself hehe. Not that asexuality is creepy.
 
MikeDip said:
I don't follow. What's Eros and Thanatos (Other than SMT demons)
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Read some ancient Greek mythology... EDIT well, i think those were ancient Greek gods or something. Not Roman certainly. EDIT ah, the next post cleared that.

EDIT this reminds me of a case where someone was using name "Dante" in Xbox Live and some genius PMed him "Nice referrence to Devil May Cry", and the person going by Dante went more or less /facepalm
 
Either you guys are good at being discreet or I have a problem.

OP, I've had friends tell me the same, but I've always put it down to lack of confidence to have sex. I'm certain I'm wrong, but then I really don't understand...
 
MikeDip said:
Your right, I should add that to the OP.
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You mean the following sentence: "Please read the whole fucking thread before posting smart-ass comments, thank you!"?

EDIT and yes, smart-ass comments part is also directed to myself. Gotta learn to shut up, or whatever its writing equivalent is.

EDIT gah, typos, grammar. Getting worked up again on people's inability to understand asexuality.
I think i mentioned in the previous asexuality thread that i have problem with people who have problem with something "abnormal".
 
Eros and Thanatos are what make people human. Freud theorized it was the love of sex and fear of death that drove anyone to do anything.

LeBrick James said:
I'm having a hard time seeing it myself.

I think OP needs to get laid before he can claim all this. A nice blowjob at the very least.
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That's also what makes this point entirely moot. Claiming you don't like something like SEX without ever doing it is like claiming you don't like chocolate without ever trying it. Have you ever had a girlfriend?

Have you seen a psychiatrist? Anything? Self diagnosed asexuality sounds like you just came up with an excuse for loneliness, or you're just trolling on neogaf.
 
Joining late but it could be one of many many things that caused this. Hormone problems, low self esteem, your previous sexual encounters sucked etc etc.
 
inm8num2 said:
The hole, of course.
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LAUGHTREY said:
That's also what makes this point entirely moot. Claiming you don't like something like SEX without ever doing it is like claiming you don't like chocolate without ever trying it. Have you ever had a girlfriend?

Have you seen a psychiatrist? Anything? Self diagnosed asexuality sounds like you just came up with an excuse for loneliness, or you're just trolling on neogaf.
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Read the fucking thread.
One moron already had this line of thought.
Are people really so incapable of understanding that some people don't care about sex or don't feel sexual attraction?

blackflag said:
Joining late but it could be one of many many things that caused this. Hormone problems, low self esteem, your previous sexual encounters sucked etc etc.
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You too.
Read thread, already noted that hormonal problem is out of question since the OP's asexuality began in puberty already.
 
LAUGHTREY said:
Eros and Thanatos are what make people human. Freud theorized it was the love of sex and fear of death that drove anyone to do anything.



That's also what makes this point entirely moot. Claiming you don't like something like SEX without ever doing it is like claiming you don't like chocolate without ever trying it. Have you ever had a girlfriend?

Have you seen a psychiatrist? Anything? Self diagnosed asexuality sounds like you just came up with an excuse for loneliness, or you're just trolling on neogaf.
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You callin' me less than human? :(

Also, yes I've seen doctors, and yes, I've had sex.
 
MikeDip, are you empathizing with those in this thread who lack the ability of not seeing the appeal of sex?
 
Fiction said:
It just kinda baffles that Gaf is so open about homosexuality but freakin' the f out about asexuality.
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Close-minded people who can't understand lack of sexual attraction because having it is so fucking "normal".
Of course, GAF has seemingly problem with religion and other things at times as well so perhaps it shouldn't be so surprising.
 
botty said:
MikeDip, are you empathizing with those in this thread who lack the ability of not seeing the appeal of sex?
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It's nice to see other people are like me. And those that aren't are providing useful insight. Win-win basically.

I like your Jared Leto avatar, people tell me I look like him.
 
Fiction said:
It just kinda baffles that Gaf is so open about homosexuality but freakin' the f out about asexuality.
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Yeah, if a friend of mine said he was asexual, I'd say: cool, man!

It's not that hard to understand.
 
OP they get calls like this on Loveline fairly frequently. There is a good chance something is medically wrong with you, should look into it.

Or a history of abuse?
 
Fiction said:
It just kinda baffles that Gaf is so open about homosexuality but freakin' the f out about asexuality.
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Dude, look at his post history and tell me that's not stealth trolling.

How do I get over my mail issues?
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If you get blood in something you're cooking for others do you scrap the whole thing?
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I have an exam tomorrow but I can't study because I have a song stuck in my head.
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How do I get over the loss of my imaginary daughter?
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Give me a break.

e: and he just said people say he looks like Jared Leto. Come on.
 
Alright, I caught up.

If you don't mind answering, what have your sexual encounters been like? You just went through the motions with no feeling of pleasure at all?

Have you came during sex?
LAUGHTREY said:
Dude, look at his post history and tell me that's not stealth trolling.

Give me a break.

e: and he just said people say he looks like Jared Leto. Come on.
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lmao
 
LAUGHTREY said:
Dude, look at his post history and tell me that's not stealth trolling.









Give me a break.

e: and he just said people say he looks like Jared Leto. Come on.
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None of that is stealth trolling, I'm pretty transparent when it comes to my life. All of those problems stem from my OCD and the medication used to treat it.

EDIT: except the blood one, but that's due to a different medical thing, my psoriasis.
 
LAUGHTREY said:
Dude, look at his post history and tell me that's not stealth trolling.



Give me a break.

e: and he just said people say he looks like Jared Leto. Come on.
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He might be trolling, I have no idea. I don't know him personally. But I do know asexuals, and think it's kinda BS that people are like 'Oh, you just need a good lay!'
 
Woorloog said:
You too.
Read thread, already noted that hormonal problem is out of question since the OP's asexuality began in puberty already.
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I don't think because it began at puberty, it rules out hormonal problems. However, he seems fine with it and doesn't seem to care so I don't see what the big deal is.


Plus I'm not reading the whole thread becauseim 100% convinced the last thread I read that was started by him was a troll.
 
blackflag said:
I don't think because it began at puberty, it rules out hormonal problems. However, he seems fine with it and doesn't seem to care so I don't see what the big deal is.
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It doesn't bother me, however if it was due to a medical problem that could be fixed I would try to fix myself. That said, I truly don't think that's the case.
 
blackflag said:
I don't think because it began at puberty, it rules out hormonal problems. However, he seems fine with it and doesn't seem to care so I don't see what the big deal is.


Plus I'm not reading the whole thread becauseim 100% convinced the last thread I read that was started by him was a troll.
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Out of curiosity, which thread? I've never started any thread to troll.

botty said:
If MikeDip looks like Jared Leto he can troll me all night.
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It's mostly in the facial structure. I don't have his hair. My hair sucks and is thinning :(
 
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I really think this is connected to lack of self-esteem while your peers are sexually active. Is there an article I can read that makes this sound more believeable to me? I honestly don't get it.

I would understand if you say you don't "like" sex. Like the idea of it, despite being able to enjoy it sometimes. I think many people are have that and it makes sense why, but asexual? Like you don't even want to be with someone, or you don't even understand feeling really attracted? As a guy even?

=/ Life would be so much... Well, different.
 
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