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Possibly weird encounter on the bus today

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Alucrid said:
Wow, she's my new hero. That's how you pick up a man. Go on, say yes, you'd be a fool to say no.
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BTW my wife asked me out twenty years ago with a telephone call out of the blue - she got my number from her friend.

So sometimes it works out ;)...
 
say yes op, just talk to her and don't build it up before you meet just play it natural talk to her like you spoke to her on the bus.

fear is the mind killer.
 
Just be yourself

Keep it casual and let the convo flow

Find out what she likes to do and ask her out at the end of the coffee date before she does (if things go well)
 
Clay Davis said:
Hi gaf, how's everyone doing today?

I don't know if this is thread worthy, but this kind of thing has never happened to me before and I felt like sharing and getting some opinions/advice from anyone it might have happened to.

To start, there was a tube strike here today and naturally the buses were all much more crowded than usual. I got on my usual bus and within about 5 minutes it was filled to the point where it was almost impossible to move. I ended up standing next to a woman, she was initially facing away from me but then turned around. We exchanged for just a moment and slowly the bus started to empty to the point where I could get my phone and start reading Vice. I can't remember what I was reading but she suddenly said scroll back up.

This took me by surprise and I initially thought she was talking to someone else, but when I looked up she was looking directly at me and said can you scroll up. I did so and we finished reading. After she finished, she introduced herself and started to chat about how bad the tube strike was and how awful her day was going to be now.

I'm not socially awkward by any means but this is a first for me, to have someone just randomly start talking to me So we chatted for a bit, talked about what we do and what we did for New Years. It felt like the conversation was naturally winding down and I decided to get my phone back out when she asked if she could make a call and called herself.

She said she'd message me later in the day to talk about getting coffee and sure enough she did and that's why I made this thread. I wrote it off as her just doing something for the thrill of it, maybe she had a new years resolution to talk to a stranger and get their number but she followed through and messaged me to meet her tomorrow for coffee after work. She set a time, told me the place and asked how long I'd be able to stay.

I don't know how I feel. She was funny as well as very open and sincere during out conversation so I don't think she's messing me around for some funny story to tell, but she was also quite attractive too and not someone I would have thought I'd be able to ask out on a date if I'd seen her on the street or on a dating site.

Has this happened to anyone here? Do I go and see how things turn out? I should add I'm not super attractive or even average if I'm perfectly frank (I'll PM anyone who wants to see what I look like but I'd ask please don't share the picture anywhere else), so I don't know what she saw in me beyond our conversation. I know I'm overthinking some things and I know I shouldn't, but doesn't anyone else think it's weird?

I'm looking for any advice.
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This is why london sucks, it's totally normal to have a conversation with strangers, it's just people down south don't for some reason
 
When you see her again, first say casually that you have kidneys problems. That you keep you safer.


On a not cynical response, I would love that something like that happen to me.
 
She seems very confident and out there; that would intimidate me and you said she was attractive too? Congrats on being able to make concise sentences if that is the case.

Go have coffee, just act like you did on the bus, she clearly dug that.
 
I mean the whole time thing would definitely have me wondering if this was a MLM thing. Don't think it's that bizarre to see if it set off any red flags for any one else.

Also want to say I really appreciate the pleasantness and willingness to listen to others your posts always show Clay. You seem like a cool dude.
 
*Splinter said:
Congrats OP, enjoy your date.


We get it. It's from the other similar thread that happened recently. Repeating things is hilarious on the internet.
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It's because his username is Clay Davis from The Wire who has a distinctive way of speaking. Like this

Sheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeit.
 
It's good that you came to Gaf off all places for advice on this. Sounds like PUA trickery. They're able to hum at a certain frequency that completely throws off women's decisions making skills on account of their simpler female reptilian brains. I assumed men were immune because of all the mammalian body hair, but the fact that you are even considering this has filled me with doubt about men's ability to withstand such manipulation. Stay home, stay safe!
 
I return to GAF on a daily basis waiting for these threads. Never cease to surprise me how socially inept some people are.

I am rooting for you OP, go get coffee, enjoy yourself, maybe make some relations.
 
Hi again gaf, hope everyone's doing okay and having a nice day.

I'm heading to the cafe, I'm really nervous but I'm trying to keep calm and not turn into a sweaty, bumbling mess. We exchanged a few texts during lunch, she messaged to confirm time and we chatted a little about how our days were going. To be perfectly honest, I didn't believe she'd message me today to confirm, I thought about doing it myself this morning but decided against it and thought I should remain calm and not come across as too eager or pushy.

I would like to thank everyone and say sorry to those who sent me a private message asking to see my picture. I decided upon reading some of the replies that it wasn't a sensible thing to offer and it was primarily my confidence issues taking control for a moment.
 
Clay Davis said:
Hi again gaf, hope everyone's doing okay and having a nice day.

I'm heading to the cafe, I'm really nervous but I'm trying to keep calm and not turn into a sweaty, bumbling mess. We exchanged a few texts during lunch, she messaged to confirm time and we chatted a little about how our days were going. To be perfectly honest, I didn't believe she'd message me today to confirm, I thought about doing it myself this morning but decided against it and thought I should remain calm and not come across as too eager or pushy.

I would like to thank everyone and say sorry to those who sent me a private message asking to see my picture. I decided upon reading some of the replies that it wasn't a sensible thing to offer and it was primarily my confidence issues taking control for a moment.
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Have fun!
 
Clay Davis said:
Hi again gaf, hope everyone's doing okay and having a nice day.

I'm heading to the cafe, I'm really nervous but I'm trying to keep calm and not turn into a sweaty, bumbling mess. We exchanged a few texts during lunch, she messaged to confirm time and we chatted a little about how our days were going. To be perfectly honest, I didn't believe she'd message me today to confirm, I thought about doing it myself this morning but decided against it and thought I should remain calm and not come across as too eager or pushy.

I would like to thank everyone and say sorry to those who sent me a private message asking to see my picture. I decided upon reading some of the replies that it wasn't a sensible thing to offer and it was primarily my confidence issues taking control for a moment.
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Just be yourself, and things should go well. And even if they don't, all you'll lose is a few hours of time and a couple bucks on coffee. Not a terrible price by any metric.

Good luck
 
Clay Davis said:
Hi again gaf, hope everyone's doing okay and having a nice day.

I'm heading to the cafe, I'm really nervous but I'm trying to keep calm and not turn into a sweaty, bumbling mess. We exchanged a few texts during lunch, she messaged to confirm time and we chatted a little about how our days were going. To be perfectly honest, I didn't believe she'd message me today to confirm, I thought about doing it myself this morning but decided against it and thought I should remain calm and not come across as too eager or pushy.

I would like to thank everyone and say sorry to those who sent me a private message asking to see my picture. I decided upon reading some of the replies that it wasn't a sensible thing to offer and it was primarily my confidence issues taking control for a moment.
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Have fun. Relax and be yourself. Just imagine all of GAF is right there cheering you on!
 
All of this is happening in OPs day dream while he stands next to this girl in the bus. His thought has gone so deep he's even created a thread within his mind with GAF posters.
He'll snap out of it soon and realise none of this really happened.
 
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