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We should better give OP some conversation topics to discuss about if he runs out of them.

Ask her if she's had casual sex lately
 
Clay Davis said:
Hi again gaf, hope everyone's doing okay and having a nice day.

I'm heading to the cafe, I'm really nervous but I'm trying to keep calm and not turn into a sweaty, bumbling mess. We exchanged a few texts during lunch, she messaged to confirm time and we chatted a little about how our days were going. To be perfectly honest, I didn't believe she'd message me today to confirm, I thought about doing it myself this morning but decided against it and thought I should remain calm and not come across as too eager or pushy.

I would like to thank everyone and say sorry to those who sent me a private message asking to see my picture. I decided upon reading some of the replies that it wasn't a sensible thing to offer and it was primarily my confidence issues taking control for a moment.
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Go for it tiger. And good luck!
 
I'm starting to notice a trend on GAF.

A gift falls into gaffers lap and then the GAF user has a massive internal dilemma and creates a GAF thread asking what to do or for our thoughts.

MOTHER BASTARD don't you know you're here to entertain us? We will tell you all kinds of shit to make this entertaining for our viewing pleasure. But part of us feels guilty. A greater part of us wants shit to go crazy.

Ultimately we do like a happy ending. 😙
 
At first I thought this story was going to have a bad ending but it turned out to be a great one. Reading through the thread now


Edit: good luck, OP! just be yourself. You won't be doing you or her any favors being fake. It's just coffee.
 
Good luck my the force be with you OP, enjoy the cafe let it flow if it goes well then Great, if not you made a great step to get over your anxiety.
 
I'm home and I think things went okay. She was very take charge, extremely confident and very self assured. It was honestly intimidating at first, I know it shouldn't have been, but the feeling did subside as we talked more and I started to feel more comfortable.

I won't go into specifics about what we talked about, but I did bite the bullet and ask her why she decided to talk to me and ask me out. I tried to follow the advice given and say it in a playful and joking manner but I don't know if it came across that way. Her response was that she had a good gut feeling after our conversation and that I didn't treat her differently. She changed the subject but that's an odd thing to say isn't it? I'm over-analysing the treat her differently comment, aren't I?

If I think back to our conversation, I can't remember how I treated her or what I did outside of talk to her. I do remember thinking after we talked that she was out of my league and why she took my number.

I walked her to the train station and we ended the date with a hug and said our goodbyes. I think it went okay, I felt I made a few blunders in hindsight and I didn't initiate a lot of contact. She touched my hand and arm a few times when I told a joke or made what I thought was a witty comment. I also didn't talk a lot about myself, I kept asking her about herself and added bits about myself when we had something in common, but she didn't seem to mind too much and didn't appear bored. There were a few a silences but they didn't feel too awkward, at least in my opinion.

I'm trying not to over-analyse every single detail, so I'm going to end the post here and try to focus on something else.

Thank you to everyone for your advice, for the support and encouragement. I know it might have appeared as though I was overreacted to what happened, but like I've said a few times, it was a surprising chain of events and my confidence issues really went up a notch and made me wonder why someone as attractive as her would ever bother asking me out.
 
Clay Davis said:
I'm home and I think things went okay. She was very take charge, extremely confident and very self assured. It was honestly intimidating at first, I know it shouldn't have been, but the feeling did subside as we talked more and I started to feel more comfortable.

I won't go into specifics about what we talked about, but I did bite the bullet and ask her why she decided to talk to me and ask me out. I tried to follow the advice given and say it in a playful and joking manner but I don't know if it came across that way. Her response was that she had a good gut feeling after our conversation and that I didn't treat her differently. She changed the subject but that's an odd thing to say isn't it? I'm over-analysing the treat her differently comment, aren't I?

If I think back to our conversation, I can't remember how I treated her or what I did outside of talk to her. I do remember thinking after we talked that she was out of my league and why she took my number.

I walked her to the train station and we ended the date with a hug and said our goodbyes. I think it went okay, I felt I made a few blunders in hindsight and I didn't initiate a lot of contact. She touched my hand and arm a few times when I told a joke or made what I thought was a witty comment. I also didn't talk a lot about myself, I kept asking her about herself and added bits about myself when we had something in common, but she didn't seem to mind too much and didn't appear bored. There were a few a silences but they didn't feel too awkward, at least in my opinion.

I'm trying not to over-analyse every single detail, so I'm going to end the post here and try to focus on something else.

Thank you to everyone for your advice, for the support and encouragement. I know it might have appeared as though I was overreacted to what happened, but like I've said a few times, it was a surprising chain of events and my confidence issues really went up a notch and made me wonder why someone as attractive as her would ever bother asking me out.
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So how much did she say she would make from your kidney?
 
Clay Davis said:
I'm home and I think things went okay. She was very take charge, extremely confident and very self assured. It was honestly intimidating at first, I know it shouldn't have been, but the feeling did subside as we talked more and I started to feel more comfortable.

I won't go into specifics about what we talked about, but I did bite the bullet and ask her why she decided to talk to me and ask me out. I tried to follow the advice given and say it in a playful and joking manner but I don't know if it came across that way. Her response was that she had a good gut feeling after our conversation and that I didn't treat her differently. She changed the subject but that's an odd thing to say isn't it? I'm over-analysing the treat her differently comment, aren't I?

If I think back to our conversation, I can't remember how I treated her or what I did outside of talk to her. I do remember thinking after we talked that she was out of my league and why she took my number.

I walked her to the train station and we ended the date with a hug and said our goodbyes. I think it went okay, I felt I made a few blunders in hindsight and I didn't initiate a lot of contact. She touched my hand and arm a few times when I told a joke or made what I thought was a witty comment. I also didn't talk a lot about myself, I kept asking her about herself and added bits about myself when we had something in common, but she didn't seem to mind too much and didn't appear bored. There were a few a silences but they didn't feel too awkward, at least in my opinion.

I'm trying not to over-analyse every single detail, so I'm going to end the post here and try to focus on something else.

Thank you to everyone for your advice, for the support and encouragement. I know it might have appeared as though I was overreacted to what happened, but like I've said a few times, it was a surprising chain of events and my confidence issues really went up a notch and made me wonder why someone as attractive as her would ever bother asking me out.
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You got a hug and she touched you on your arm and hand. That's good. Stop overanalyzing things, fam. I wish you luck on your next date (if you want another one).
 
Clay Davis said:
I kept asking her about herself and added bits about myself when we had something in common
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Clay Davis said:
I'm home and I think things went okay. She was very take charge, extremely confident and very self assured. It was honestly intimidating at first, I know it shouldn't have been, but the feeling did subside as we talked more and I started to feel more comfortable.

I won't go into specifics about what we talked about, but I did bite the bullet and ask her why she decided to talk to me and ask me out. I tried to follow the advice given and say it in a playful and joking manner but I don't know if it came across that way. Her response was that she had a good gut feeling after our conversation and that I didn't treat her differently. She changed the subject but that's an odd thing to say isn't it? I'm over-analysing the treat her differently comment, aren't I?

If I think back to our conversation, I can't remember how I treated her or what I did outside of talk to her. I do remember thinking after we talked that she was out of my league and why she took my number.

I walked her to the train station and we ended the date with a hug and said our goodbyes. I think it went okay, I felt I made a few blunders in hindsight and I didn't initiate a lot of contact. She touched my hand and arm a few times when I told a joke or made what I thought was a witty comment. I also didn't talk a lot about myself, I kept asking her about herself and added bits about myself when we had something in common, but she didn't seem to mind too much and didn't appear bored. There were a few a silences but they didn't feel too awkward, at least in my opinion.

I'm trying not to over-analyse every single detail, so I'm going to end the post here and try to focus on something else.

Thank you to everyone for your advice, for the support and encouragement. I know it might have appeared as though I was overreacted to what happened, but like I've said a few times, it was a surprising chain of events and my confidence issues really went up a notch and made me wonder why someone as attractive as her would ever bother asking me out.
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Good work op. If you like her and haven't already organised something I'd message her and organise something. Initiating it might make it easier for her to see that you're interested (if you are).
 
Kumquat said:
So how much did she say she would make from your kidney?
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£1700 after expenses, which I think is low. She said she would normally offer to give a cut but that this time she needed the money for a new Macbook Pro.

She actually paid for the coffee and cake we had. It was a little surreal, I'm used to paying or splitting the bill, but she took the bill and paid it straight away. That's one of the blunders I talked about, I wasn't firm enough in offering to pay half. I could have made more of an effort to show I was willing to pay my share.

ReAxion said:
this is all good. stay out of your own head. acting natural is what go you here.
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BLOODED_hands said:
You got a hug and she touched you on your arm and hand. That's good. Stop overanalyzing things, fam. I wish you luck on your next date (if you want another one).
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You're both absolutely right and I'm really trying not to over think things. It's a struggle, I keep thinking about things I could have done differently, things I didn't do, I didn't say. It's tough, but I'm trying not to over think and be too hard on myself.

uncleniccius said:
Good work op. If you like her and haven't already organised something I'd message her and organise something. Initiating it might make it easier for her to see that you're interested (if you are).
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I was thinking about sending a message to say I had a good time, but I thought it might be more prudent to send a message tomorrow and say it along with an option to do something over the weekend?

I still feel she's out of my league though. It's hard to shake that off. I tend to be very observant and I noticed a few guys giving her prolonged looks as we walked to the train station. I'll ask though, at this point what do I have to lose? She will either reply or she won't. I'll try to take this a confidence boost and try to convince myself that maybe I'm not as ugly as I keep thinking I am.
 
OP you said you are "not socially awkward by any means" but your over-analyzing of everything is textbook social awkwardness. Maybe next time grab some drinks to make it easier for you? In any case, relax!

She paid your bill? Good! You pay next time.
 
Clay Davis said:
I'm home and I think things went okay. She was very take charge, extremely confident and very self assured. It was honestly intimidating at first, I know it shouldn't have been, but the feeling did subside as we talked more and I started to feel more comfortable.

I won't go into specifics about what we talked about, but I did bite the bullet and ask her why she decided to talk to me and ask me out. I tried to follow the advice given and say it in a playful and joking manner but I don't know if it came across that way. Her response was that she had a good gut feeling after our conversation and that I didn't treat her differently. She changed the subject but that's an odd thing to say isn't it? I'm over-analysing the treat her differently comment, aren't I?

If I think back to our conversation, I can't remember how I treated her or what I did outside of talk to her. I do remember thinking after we talked that she was out of my league and why she took my number.

I walked her to the train station and we ended the date with a hug and said our goodbyes. I think it went okay, I felt I made a few blunders in hindsight and I didn't initiate a lot of contact. She touched my hand and arm a few times when I told a joke or made what I thought was a witty comment. I also didn't talk a lot about myself, I kept asking her about herself and added bits about myself when we had something in common, but she didn't seem to mind too much and didn't appear bored. There were a few a silences but they didn't feel too awkward, at least in my opinion.

I'm trying not to over-analyse every single detail, so I'm going to end the post here and try to focus on something else.

Thank you to everyone for your advice, for the support and encouragement. I know it might have appeared as though I was overreacted to what happened, but like I've said a few times, it was a surprising chain of events and my confidence issues really went up a notch and made me wonder why someone as attractive as her would ever bother asking me out.
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Did you ask to see her again?
 
Nevermind. I think OP should stop contacting her since his confidence is now higher than usual. This is now your time to find a girl hotter than she is.

👌 trust me, I'm not a professional 👌

Maybe she is into guys who don't really take the initiative, OP. She maybe looking for a sex slave. Do you want to be a sex slave, OP?
 
Clay Davis said:
You're both absolutely right and I'm really trying not to over think things. It's a struggle, I keep thinking about things I could have done differently, things I didn't do, I didn't say. It's tough, but I'm trying not to over think and be too hard on myself.
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yeah, it's some real "don't think about an elephant" advice but just remember all these data points weigh less as more interactions happen.
 
Hippopuncher12 said:
Did you ask to see her again?
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I haven't yet. I'm going to send her a message tomorrow and say I had a good time and ask her if she'd like to meet over the weekend. She said she loves art and I read there's a Guerilla Girls exhibition that opened recently, so I'll ask her if she'd like to go to that.
 
Clay Davis said:
I haven't yet. I'm going to send her a message tomorrow and say I had a good time and ask her if she'd like to meet over the weekend. She said she loves art and I read there's a Guerilla Girls exhibition that opened recently, so I'll ask her if she'd like to go to that.
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I like it. Shows you listened.
 
Clay Davis said:
I haven't yet. I'm going to send her a message tomorrow and say I had a good time and ask her if she'd like to meet over the weekend. She said she loves art and I read there's a Guerilla Girls exhibition that opened recently, so I'll ask her if she'd like to go to that.
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I'm gonna chime in here and say I've never met someone that's butthurt over getting a message shortly after a date saying that they had fun and asking if they'd be down to go out again. Not immediately, but the whole waiting a day thing is kinda stupid. Otherwise, grats on the nice date!
 
Regiruler said:
1. What was the article?
2. Your not socially awkward but you're making a thread on someone asking you on a casual date? I've never had a romantic relationship in my life and even I find this kind of pathetic
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Jeez, guy. Chill.

Asking something like this doesn't make you socially awkward. At least here in Costa Rica nearly NOBODY talks to randos on buses, so its legitimately kind of an unusual situation.

As for the OP...

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You fucked up that thread title op. That is a totally normal encounter. I thought things were gonna get weird with the "scroll back up" and this story was gonna be about the invasion of privacy or something.

Either way congrats. Also stop over thinking this.
 
There is a Russian movie where a girl and a guy get on a crowded bus together and read out of the same book all the way through the bus ride and then some.

Turns out they go to the same school, get introduced, and fall in love.

Props to anyone who's seen it.
 
Sylas said:
I'm gonna chime in here and say I've never met someone that's butthurt over getting a message shortly after a date saying that they had fun and asking if they'd be down to go out again. Not immediately, but the whole waiting a day thing is kinda stupid. Otherwise, grats on the nice date!
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Agreed. Sending a message later the same day is totally fine, and even preferred, if you got along.
 
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