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Possibly weird encounter on the bus today
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Has sex happened yet?
Clay Davis
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Hello again gaf.
I'm headed home and it went well. We had a really fun time at bowling, there was lots of touching and playing happening with some friendly competition as well. She won and she kept teasing me with it throughout the rest of the date. We also played some hoops, which I won, and at this point she made a passing comment that she was surprised I didn't let her win, which I thought was weird. It's not like I didn't give it my all with bowling and she didn't win by much, but maybe she thought I let her win?
We talked a little about our past relationships and I'm started to get a better idea of why she doesn't like to text. Her ex was possessive and would always message her to find out where she was and who she was with. So was the lack of replying to my messages her way of testing me to see if I was the same? I'm overthinking again, aren't I?
She's also very blunt and doesn't seem to have a problem with saying what's on her mind, which is fine by me even if it is a little overwhelming right now.
We went for drinks afterwards and had pizza. I walked her to the station and we talked a little bit about our plans for next week. I decided to bite the bullet and ask her there and then if she'd like to meet again and she took her out of her phone and started to check her calender, she's free on Thursday and we're having dinner. A proper dinner this time. She wants me to pick a place so I hope I pick well.
We said our goodbyes, she said she had a really fun time as we hugged and she kissed me on the cheek. I thought about kissing her back, but then I thought she made a point to kiss me on the cheek so it might not have been the right time?
I have confirmation this time it went well so I won't be as anxious any more if I did things right or wrong, now I just have to focus on picking the right place for our dinner date.
Thank you again to everyone for your advice and support. I'm sorry for not replying to each post individually but as I've said, I am reading all posts and taking on board what is said.
Take care and have a good coming week.
I'm headed home and it went well. We had a really fun time at bowling, there was lots of touching and playing happening with some friendly competition as well. She won and she kept teasing me with it throughout the rest of the date. We also played some hoops, which I won, and at this point she made a passing comment that she was surprised I didn't let her win, which I thought was weird. It's not like I didn't give it my all with bowling and she didn't win by much, but maybe she thought I let her win?
We talked a little about our past relationships and I'm started to get a better idea of why she doesn't like to text. Her ex was possessive and would always message her to find out where she was and who she was with. So was the lack of replying to my messages her way of testing me to see if I was the same? I'm overthinking again, aren't I?
She's also very blunt and doesn't seem to have a problem with saying what's on her mind, which is fine by me even if it is a little overwhelming right now.
We went for drinks afterwards and had pizza. I walked her to the station and we talked a little bit about our plans for next week. I decided to bite the bullet and ask her there and then if she'd like to meet again and she took her out of her phone and started to check her calender, she's free on Thursday and we're having dinner. A proper dinner this time. She wants me to pick a place so I hope I pick well.
We said our goodbyes, she said she had a really fun time as we hugged and she kissed me on the cheek. I thought about kissing her back, but then I thought she made a point to kiss me on the cheek so it might not have been the right time?
I have confirmation this time it went well so I won't be as anxious any more if I did things right or wrong, now I just have to focus on picking the right place for our dinner date.
Thank you again to everyone for your advice and support. I'm sorry for not replying to each post individually but as I've said, I am reading all posts and taking on board what is said.
Take care and have a good coming week.
Not gonna lie, it's heartwarming to read an account of a gaffer going on nice dates and meeting a nice person for once. She does seem pretty cool and fairly into you--so grats! Take things at your own pace--it sounds like you two are having a lot of fun on your dates and that's what matters.
BLOODED_hands
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Good job, OP. Time to pick a nice place for dinner.
Of course she was surprised you didn't let her win. She wants somebody to actually treat her like a person and, it seems to me, you did.
Again, stop overthinking shit. Play it cool, relax, and have fun.
Of course she was surprised you didn't let her win. She wants somebody to actually treat her like a person and, it seems to me, you did.
Again, stop overthinking shit. Play it cool, relax, and have fun.
Jeff Albertson
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KFC - chicks dig KFC!
Or go to Meat Liqour and feel like 'old man shouts at cloud' like I did when me and my wife went recently!
Or go to Meat Liqour and feel like 'old man shouts at cloud' like I did when me and my wife went recently!
Messofanego
Banned
Don't overthink the letting her win and texting was testing bits. Hope the dinner is as enjoyable, and maybe you'll get a kiss out of it? :O
Daffy Duck
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This is awesome!
I love this thread. The first two pages and the linked bus thread had me crying for ten minutes straight, but I'm really invested into OP and it's awesome to hear that the date went well! Pick something classy, try to remember if she mentioned there was a specific type of food she liked and play to her interests.
Also, might want to plan a little something after dinner (a walk, rooftop view, etc) to set the mood for that kiss.
Also, might want to plan a little something after dinner (a walk, rooftop view, etc) to set the mood for that kiss.
jadedm17
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How About No
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im so mad right now
echoshifting
Banned
Really glad your date went well, hooray!
Messofanego
Banned
Plenty of success dates in Dating GAF.
always crazy bacon
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Dynamite Shikoku
Congratulations, you really deserve it!
I miss dating. Fun times.
You're thinking way too much, just relax and have fun. Good job on going through with it all, but that win/lose conversation kinda had me shook.
mariachi507
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Do you think she likes kidney pie?
Nail this next date OP, I'm counting on you.
Nail this next date OP, I'm counting on you.
On one hand OPs story sounds nice, on the other hand I'm not sure on this girls motivations. I really hope things work out and develop further, on the other hand I also see a danger of her merely enjoying the "different (from other guys) company" and eventually friendzoning him. So I guess my advice would be enjoy the time, go for it but don't build up too many expectations. (Mentally) Investing too much too early might have you fall on your back hard.
EEEEP!
I missed your previous update but you didn't just let her win. You did very well, OP. And you got a kiss! Woop woop!
I'd say her lack of response wasn't really a test, at least not in the usual sense. She seemed to explain that pretty well. And some people just don't like texting and/or are bad at responding.
So yes, don't worry too much if she doesn't reply often and immediately.
Just don't inundate her with messages in the meantime. But it would be good to know what foods she likes, or you could go to a place with a good variety.
Congrats! Keep us posted!
I missed your previous update but you didn't just let her win. You did very well, OP. And you got a kiss! Woop woop!
I'd say her lack of response wasn't really a test, at least not in the usual sense. She seemed to explain that pretty well. And some people just don't like texting and/or are bad at responding.
So yes, don't worry too much if she doesn't reply often and immediately.
Just don't inundate her with messages in the meantime. But it would be good to know what foods she likes, or you could go to a place with a good variety.
Congrats! Keep us posted!
Yay! Happy to read things went pretty well on the date! Rooting for you hoping everything goes even better on the upcoming date, maybe even with a happy ending, meaning of course, a proper kiss
I just like how this story is developing in such a lovely and traditional way. Each one giving the proper space to each other. Glad she is not into: "message me 24/7 or we're done" thing. I also dislike messaging to somebody all the time because I don't get anything done on my daily activities and I end up feeling frustrated because of that. It was cool when I was a teenager but now with 26 years old I simply cannot stand being on whatsapp or fb chat more than 30 minutes
but anyways, props to you, OP, and thanks for the good wishes, hope you have a great week too!Sounds like you had a blast which is rad. I think you overthink things too much. I used to be like that. Then I stopped. Then I met my wife a few months later. Stop overanalyzing and just go with it if she seems to be cool to be with.
Into the Light
Banned
Now that is a cool update!
I hope the second date goes well. There are few things in life that illicit those first few date emotions, and anticipation. Enjoy my man.
I hope the second date goes well. There are few things in life that illicit those first few date emotions, and anticipation. Enjoy my man.
Cotton McKnight
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Go you, take it nice and slow and enjoy getting to know her, you're on it!
Lasthope106
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Awesome job OP! You are gonna have sex soon if this keeps up 
Enjoy it. Be yourself. If she's into you, you know at this point, which seems like she is!
Go for a kiss OP!
Enjoy it. Be yourself. If she's into you, you know at this point, which seems like she is!
Go for a kiss OP!
Clay Davis
Member
Good evening gaf, everyone doing okay today and having a good week so far?
I'm on my way to the restaurant, we talked about where to eat last night and she said she feels like Indian, so we're going to a place which is close to where she works, it's some distance for me but she finishes late so I wanted to accommodate her.
The week has been good overall, we've been talking intermittently. Texting is still something she isn't receptive too. She'll regularly ignore my texts and talk about what I messaged her over the phone, which is still weird to me but I'm adjusting. I'm also not that nervous tonight, I don't know why or what's changed but it's a nice feeling to be going into this without butterflies in my stomach and the worry demon on my back.
I'm on my way to the restaurant, we talked about where to eat last night and she said she feels like Indian, so we're going to a place which is close to where she works, it's some distance for me but she finishes late so I wanted to accommodate her.
The week has been good overall, we've been talking intermittently. Texting is still something she isn't receptive too. She'll regularly ignore my texts and talk about what I messaged her over the phone, which is still weird to me but I'm adjusting. I'm also not that nervous tonight, I don't know why or what's changed but it's a nice feeling to be going into this without butterflies in my stomach and the worry demon on my back.
Lashley
Why does he wear the mask!?
Best of luck OP, have a good night
TangerineCloud
Banned
Go, OP! Keep us posted!
BLOODED_hands
Member
Have fun. Enjoy the date, fam. Also make sure you tell the waiter/waitress that YOU will handle the check.
CloudyTuba
Member
That's cool, man. You are overthinking, though. Stop trying to second guess what every moment means and go with the flow a little easier. You'll have more fun if you stop thinking of everything like chess moves. That's not to say you should stop assessing entirely, but there's a balance to be had. Keep a handle on the situation but don't strangle it.
I wouldnt call her texting thing relating to her ex a red flag but it might be an asterisk. No cause for concern yet but something to keep an eye on just in case it's an indicator of more issues. Then again I'm probably just giving you something to overthink again. Don't worry about it, it's not worthy of concern yet.
Keep going full steam ahead, sounds good so far.
mingoguaya
Member
We're rooting for you, OP! Have a wonderful evening.
Clay Davis
Member
Good morning gaf, everyone doing okay?
I meant to post an update last night but I was too exhausted to. The date went well, we talked a lot during the date, so much so that we ended up only eating starters and leaving because we'd been sat the same table for an hour sharing a bowl of chicken lollipops and the staff kept coming over to ask if we'd like to order mains. I made a point to pay this time, she didn't object. I made a comment that if she wants to pay she can ask me out, she laughed and said she might do that if she's bored.
I learnt a lot about her last night, why she doesn't like messaging, she said she finds it impersonal and it's too easy for misunderstandings to arise. She said she knows that her not replying comes across as rude and shows disinterest, but she doesn't like to message back and forth and it's something she's not interested in changing. She doesn't mind confirming plans through message because of convenience or saying good morning, etc but otherwise she prefers meeting the person or talking over the phone.
We walked along the embankment afterwards, talked more about what we'd like from a relationship and ended the date by her walking me to the station this time as it was only a bus ride for her but two train rides and a bus for me. We kissed, it wasn't very long, it was an extended peck on the lips and there were no tongues, but she held onto my hand as we said goodbye and I left.
We talked about meeting again next week, she's going to be really busy with work because a project is due next week, but she said she'll try to free up some time, even if it's just for a quick bite after work or to grab a drink.
I messaged her on the way home to say I had a good time (I realised the advice given earlier about not waiting was right, if I had a good time I shouldn't wait for a day to tell her), she surprisingly messaged back and said she did too and wished me good night.
Another thing that took me by surprise was that she sent me a good morning message with a 'Xx' at the end.
I'm trying not to over-analyse anything or over-think, writing it down is helping a lot. It lets me get the thoughts out and not worry over every little thing.
Thanks again to everyone for your advice and for enduring my posts. I know I over analyse and it must be torture to read some of my posts but thank you for still trying to help and offering advice.
I meant to post an update last night but I was too exhausted to. The date went well, we talked a lot during the date, so much so that we ended up only eating starters and leaving because we'd been sat the same table for an hour sharing a bowl of chicken lollipops and the staff kept coming over to ask if we'd like to order mains. I made a point to pay this time, she didn't object. I made a comment that if she wants to pay she can ask me out, she laughed and said she might do that if she's bored.
I learnt a lot about her last night, why she doesn't like messaging, she said she finds it impersonal and it's too easy for misunderstandings to arise. She said she knows that her not replying comes across as rude and shows disinterest, but she doesn't like to message back and forth and it's something she's not interested in changing. She doesn't mind confirming plans through message because of convenience or saying good morning, etc but otherwise she prefers meeting the person or talking over the phone.
We walked along the embankment afterwards, talked more about what we'd like from a relationship and ended the date by her walking me to the station this time as it was only a bus ride for her but two train rides and a bus for me. We kissed, it wasn't very long, it was an extended peck on the lips and there were no tongues, but she held onto my hand as we said goodbye and I left.
We talked about meeting again next week, she's going to be really busy with work because a project is due next week, but she said she'll try to free up some time, even if it's just for a quick bite after work or to grab a drink.
I messaged her on the way home to say I had a good time (I realised the advice given earlier about not waiting was right, if I had a good time I shouldn't wait for a day to tell her), she surprisingly messaged back and said she did too and wished me good night.
Another thing that took me by surprise was that she sent me a good morning message with a 'Xx' at the end.
I'm trying not to over-analyse anything or over-think, writing it down is helping a lot. It lets me get the thoughts out and not worry over every little thing.
Thanks again to everyone for your advice and for enduring my posts. I know I over analyse and it must be torture to read some of my posts but thank you for still trying to help and offering advice.
I've really enjoyed following this thread, OP sounds like an incredibly nice guy and it sounds like the girl he's met is a good catch.
I agree with her, messaging is not great and it's so much better to meet in person. Now that OP understands this, and good on you for talking with her about it, hopefully you can be a bit less anxious.
It's clear she likes you, so just continue to be yourself. You have nothing to worry about here.
A nice positive read for the start of Friday
I agree with her, messaging is not great and it's so much better to meet in person. Now that OP understands this, and good on you for talking with her about it, hopefully you can be a bit less anxious.
It's clear she likes you, so just continue to be yourself. You have nothing to worry about here.
A nice positive read for the start of Friday
Sooo cuteeeeeeee hey OP I moved to London a few months ago,if you ever wanna sit down and just talk stuff out hit me upppppp. This is all so cuuuteeeee ahhhh
Not at all! Everyone here is rooting for you OP!
I'm glad your date went well this time too, I'm really happy for you!
BLOODED_hands
Member
Good job, OP. Just stop overthinking things (which it seems that you are trying hard to stop doing). Lol, I can understand her texting issue though. It reminds me that somebody posted that Key & Peele image about misunderstanding texts.
I'd prefer it this way too. OP keep taking it slow, it's much more preferable to jumping into a relationship after the first couple dates.
Speaking out of experience...
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