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Roommate-Age: My roommate's a dick.
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As someone from the UK this seems mental to me and always has. I couldn't share a room with somebody. I do it with my girlfriend, but anyone else? I'd go nuts with the lack of privacy.
Weird system. Half the size of the rooms, make them small private ones for one person. Sorted.
Weird system. Half the size of the rooms, make them small private ones for one person. Sorted.
Alucrid said:
I actually had a roommate from India in my freshmen year move in from another floor and he asked straight up on his first day, "Are there any gays on this floor?" I wanted so badly to say that I was gay so that he'd move out :lol Damn, that would have been great.
But yea, I don't know how someone violates you so many times and it doesn't end up in fight. That shit is not cool.
1. Yeah, I have no idea what his grades are like, but that's not my issue here. My issue is that he's being a terrible and disrespectful roommate.joeblackisback said:
2.It didn't happen literally on day 1, but it did happen pretty early on in the semester. That was pretty much the last straw for me before I told him to stop.
3. He has gotten pretty fucking wasted several times, but not all the time. It never really worried me, except for one time (actually, this was the same night when his friends called me at like 2 AM to annoy me. I told them to stop fucking calling and hung up. He called me back and yelled at me and was very aggressive. He told me to stay away from his friends [wut?] and "check myself"). That was right before I told him that we needed to stop sharing things and basically we stopped talking to each other. He did say "my bad", if that counts for anything.
The Technomancer
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My Chinese roomate first year asked me on the first day "We are sharing a room. Will people think we are gay?"Tashi0106 said:
I just laughed and said "not in college"
Haha wow. Sounds eerily familiar to my situation(except the friends calling you, thats really weird). Down to the 'left milk(yogurt in my case) to rot in fridge over winter break'.Oyashiro said:
At least you roommate has sex when he thinks you are sleeping. Mine straight up does it when I am wide awake doing homework or something on my computer. Yeah, I've told him not to do it. But he is a complete asshole and continues to do so. Like, its not like I'm there all day, he has plenty of time to do this shit. And he could send a text message "yo can I have the room for an hour" like most people do.
Dude also NEVER takes out his trash until it gets stinky and fly ridden and I have to tell him to. He also has mono and cheats on his girlfriend(perhaps I should tell her).
Really sucks, my old roommate had to leave last semester and this asshole transferred in.
NubCakes09
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My roommate freshman year had sex with some girl in my bed and there were jizz stains all over my comforter (I had gone home for the weekend to attend a weekend). So he's probably fucking his girlfriend on your bed when you aren't there.
Grimm Fandango
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Heard this from a friend once and since things aren't looking too good, might as well try it. Tell the RA/RD you "don't feel safe".
quickwhips
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hire owen wilson as your body guard. Seriously man your probably smaller then him and scared to fight him? There is nothing wrong with that if it is true. Just remember pain only last a while but fear and regret will stay with you forever. So tell him your tired of his shit and hit him hard with something thats not your first if he is bigger than you.
The Technomancer
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"in college" damn you.Alucrid said:
Why is the OP getting shit for being "annoying"? Stories like his are a huge reason why I decided to commute. Been commuting for a semester and don't regret it at all. I can avoid all the asinine crap that comes with college socialization while still meeting a lot of people.
OP, you should either have a serious talk with your roommate or move out. I doubt you'll be able to get him to move to a different room...
OP, you should either have a serious talk with your roommate or move out. I doubt you'll be able to get him to move to a different room...
Same here! I was totally set on living in the dorms...but then I took a tour of them during my school's "welcome week". The farther down the dorm corridor I went, the more I realized that I would not be able to deal with such an incredibly deadly combination of odors. Piss, alcohol, shit, vomit, you name it. I have allergies, too, so my sense of smell isn't the greatest (!). And my school's dorms are supposed to be pretty decent! Haha. Saving a few grand in the process, too. Honestly, the only downside is having to wake up a little bit earlier for class, but it's not a big deal in the long run.TxdoHawk said:
Man, there are a lot of assholes in this thread.
People need to learn that living with roommates isn't about doing whatever you think is justifiable and alright. Something that might fly when you're on your own is not going to always fly when you're living with someone. When you enter into the roommate agreement, you gotta realize that the person living with you is not you, and even if they have a similar personality to you, they aren't you. This means that swallowing your pride and changing your habits even when you think they're perfectly fucking fine is sometimes the way to go.
The only thing the OP wants is a little respect. Not only for himself, but for their shared space. If you're too much of a dickshit to comply with that, then you are in the wrong, 100% of the time.
And I'm not saying that I always agree with my roommate, but when we have problems, we both make concessions. Even if we don't necessarily agree that the fault is ours, we both work towards bridging the issue. For example, we live in a house that has a finished basement. This is where my room is. For the year that I've lived here, the noise from her TV upstairs has never bothered me. A couple weeks ago, she turned the TV up and I could hear it through the floor. After a few days, I let her know this. She told me she turned it up because she could hear my shit through the floor. Even though I don't agree that my shit was too loud, I made sure that my TV/computer were not too loud from that point on and she did the same.
If your roommate isn't even willing to work with you on petty problems like that, then the roommate is a douche and he/she is at fault.
And the people complaining that the OP is bitching about stupid shit (toothpaste, razor, paper towels)...what the fuck ever. It's college. Most college students are poor as shit. If the razor isn't disposable, those razor heads are like 12-15 bucks for 3-4. Unless you're one of those people that thinks that one razor head can last longer than the can of shaving cream, they get expensive. Same thing with paper towels. Sure, they aren't expensive, but why should OP have to pay for shit that he's not using? Similarly with the toothpaste. This is college, not your parents house. Grow the fuck up and buy/use your own toiletries. All of this shit is exacerbated by the fact that OP hates the guy, so anything he does in regards to his stuff is a violation of his privacy. If he and his roommate were cool, it wouldn't be as big of an issue. But I'll be damned if some asshole, shitstain that makes my life a living hell is going to use anything of mine, even if it is a squirt from a 50 cent vial of toothpaste.
tl;dr
Roommate is a dick, doesn't understand how to respect the people he lives with and understand that everybody is different and that limiting and adapting his lifestyle is a must to keep a good roommate relationship. Also, douchebags need visit Wal-Mart a little more and stop using other people's toiletries. College kids are poor.
People need to learn that living with roommates isn't about doing whatever you think is justifiable and alright. Something that might fly when you're on your own is not going to always fly when you're living with someone. When you enter into the roommate agreement, you gotta realize that the person living with you is not you, and even if they have a similar personality to you, they aren't you. This means that swallowing your pride and changing your habits even when you think they're perfectly fucking fine is sometimes the way to go.
The only thing the OP wants is a little respect. Not only for himself, but for their shared space. If you're too much of a dickshit to comply with that, then you are in the wrong, 100% of the time.
And I'm not saying that I always agree with my roommate, but when we have problems, we both make concessions. Even if we don't necessarily agree that the fault is ours, we both work towards bridging the issue. For example, we live in a house that has a finished basement. This is where my room is. For the year that I've lived here, the noise from her TV upstairs has never bothered me. A couple weeks ago, she turned the TV up and I could hear it through the floor. After a few days, I let her know this. She told me she turned it up because she could hear my shit through the floor. Even though I don't agree that my shit was too loud, I made sure that my TV/computer were not too loud from that point on and she did the same.
If your roommate isn't even willing to work with you on petty problems like that, then the roommate is a douche and he/she is at fault.
And the people complaining that the OP is bitching about stupid shit (toothpaste, razor, paper towels)...what the fuck ever. It's college. Most college students are poor as shit. If the razor isn't disposable, those razor heads are like 12-15 bucks for 3-4. Unless you're one of those people that thinks that one razor head can last longer than the can of shaving cream, they get expensive. Same thing with paper towels. Sure, they aren't expensive, but why should OP have to pay for shit that he's not using? Similarly with the toothpaste. This is college, not your parents house. Grow the fuck up and buy/use your own toiletries. All of this shit is exacerbated by the fact that OP hates the guy, so anything he does in regards to his stuff is a violation of his privacy. If he and his roommate were cool, it wouldn't be as big of an issue. But I'll be damned if some asshole, shitstain that makes my life a living hell is going to use anything of mine, even if it is a squirt from a 50 cent vial of toothpaste.
tl;dr
Roommate is a dick, doesn't understand how to respect the people he lives with and understand that everybody is different and that limiting and adapting his lifestyle is a must to keep a good roommate relationship. Also, douchebags need visit Wal-Mart a little more and stop using other people's toiletries. College kids are poor.
Complex Shadow
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i am not questioning its accuracy, in fact my edit made it more accurate. =PUltimoo said:just wait for another room mate age topic and you'll see that the list is accurate.
also op, move. happiness is just one room away.
edit: shit in the sink before you leave.
joeblackisback
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Oyashiro said:
Okay, you got me. He sounds like a dick.
With regards to the grades thing, I wasn't really addressing you OP as much as I was people saying that all he does is party. Not really important now, though, as it seems like he was an unapologetic dick from jump street. Consider me a convert. I partied a lot in college, but I was never aggressive like that towards any of my roommates. No excuse for that.
MindCollizion
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All I got of the situation after reading the OP is that YOU need a girlfriend, bud.
Barrow Roll
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If you don't want to actually read the topic then don't respond. OP said he's gay.MindCollizion said:
MindCollizion
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Where does it say that in the OPBarrow Roll said:
ChocolateCupcakes
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Oyashiro said:
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MindCollizion
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That's not on the first post.
Barrow Roll
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It's not in the original post but the original poster said it in the thread.MindCollizion said:
ChocolateCupcakes
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MindCollizion said:
OP = Original Poster.
As the guy above said, I'm gay. And I actually did have a boyfriend a couple months back. However, I was a considerate roommate and always asked for the room when I needed some alone time with him. It never interfered with my roommate's life at all.MindCollizion said:
Anyway, here's an update for all you guys. I talked to my roommate and apparently he went to check out the room one of us might me moving in to. Apparently, the room is the exact same size as my current one, and the guy that lives there is (in his words) "a total socially awkward reclusive asian guy." I actually met the guy once, and while I wouldn't exactly describe him like that, he did seem very introverted and quiet. My roommate said that the guy has a "strict schedule, goes to bed at 11PM every night and wakes up at 9AM." He says the reason why he doesn't want to leave our current room is because he thinks he wouldn't be a good match for the other guy, which I think is one of the smartest things he's said/done since I've known him. I think I could be a good match for the guy, though. His schedule sounds somewhat like mine (though I usually go to bed at 1 or 2...) It's gonna be an experience living with someone who is a "socially awkward shut-in", but then again, that's probably what my roommate thinks of me.
samus i am
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Oyashiro said:
Go for it!
MindCollizion
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And all I said is that all I got from reading JUST the original post is that the guy needs a girlfriend. Then some prick starts coming in saying shit about not reading the topic when he's the one who didn't read my post. I'll post wherever I want.
Well I guess this is where the problem lies. OP = Original Post. Now it's Original Poster. I don't know.ChocolateCupcakes said:
ChocolateCupcakes
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MindCollizion said:
Now you just sound dumb t-storm.
I'm not complaining about him having sex. I'm bothered that he chooses to have sex without having the decency to ask for the room or something. If he would have done so, I would have gladly slept at my friend's place.hyduK said:
About the beer thing (it wasn't beer, it was more like 3 bottles of vodka...) it only bothered me because it's against the housing contract and he was putting them in my fridge, meaning if for some reason we got caught with it, I'd get all the blame.
joeblackisback
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samus i am said:
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Although maybe you'll end up in the exact opposite situation.. Wouldn't that be something. Seriosusly, though, good luck.
and for the record, I think OP can refer to the poster OR the (first) post.
No roomate drama for me. My roomate got kicked out after first semester and I had a double to myself the 2nd semester. Sophomore year I get a roomate and 3 weeks in he moved out because there was a vacancy in his friend room. Had the double to myself the rest of that semester and the next. Single room from junior yr to graduation (which was a downgrade from having a double for myself).
FunkyPajamas
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Yeah, everybody loves Quiet Asian Guy and them BAM! You got kancho'd.Takuan said:
Many schools require incoming freshman to have a dorm. Also, a lot of people don't have the option of commuting either because of distance or no vehicle.TxdoHawk said:
At my school, a single room (which is half the size of a shared, double room) is twice the price. It's basically for the rich people.
Discotheque
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Have sex with his girlfriend. Put a mask on and say you're her boyfriend and then do it. And call your roommate and tell him to meet you there in 20 minutes. When he arrives take off your mask and surprise them both!!!
ClosingADoor
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usea said:
Why aren't these rooms just split and made smaller? Shared kitchen and stuff sure. But shared bedrooms? That's just weird.
Missed out on something really special. Assuming your halls weeds out the guys who still think it's high school then you can have a truly amazing community. I know all the guys in my hall were all super friendly with one another, even are RA was a sweet guy. He told he was leaving the last weekend for a huge party and hinted at us just turning all of our rooms into a huge stage for a party.TxdoHawk said:
Great times, good people, good memories. Waking up to shopping cart on the third floor, someone passed out in the lounge, and the other guys wing hating us for something was a lot of fun.
The rooms sucked, community bathrooms were not ideal, and we didn't always get a ton of privacy but it was worth it.
None of those things sound fun to me, and I certainly wouldn't be willing to trade a sense of privacy and decent rooms for college antics. I dunno. Dorms aren't for everybody, so I wouldn't say that TxdoHawk is "missing out" at all. Personally, I've seen what goes on in the dorms and I think that the whole "college experience" is a bunch of pointless BS. That's just me, though._Bro said:
They often don't have any kitchen stuff at all. Just a sink and bathroom. I don't know why they're not split. It seems shared rooms are the way universities do it in the states. It sucks. I got out as soon as it was feasible.ClosingADoor said:
Antics are not universally fun.Alucrid said:
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