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Should I drop my sole friend?

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makingmusic476 said:
Sounds like a horrible person who isn't a friend in the slightest. Drop him.

Where you at, OP? I'm always down for hanging with new people.
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Dublin Ireland :)

I mean I acknowledge I haven't always been a perfect friend myself (I don't drink alcohol, I'm anti social, awful at talking, used to always stink of tobacco before I quit, not smiling, etc) but I do try and I think I've improved quite a bit over time from a personality standpoint, whereas he hasn't?
 
Lol at you making this thread. You knew Gaf was gonna say drop him. Gaf would say drop friends if they borrow sugar too many times in a week.
 
TheOnlyOneHeEverFeared said:
Dublin Ireland :)

I mean I acknowledge I haven't always been a perfect friend myself (I don't drink alcohol, I'm anti social, awful at talking, used to always stink of tobacco before I quit, not smiling, etc) but I do try and I think I've improved quite a bit over time from a personality standpoint, whereas he hasn't?
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Well, that's a few thousand miles more than I'm willing to travel. Best of luck!
 
He sounds like a massive cunt. Drop him and start doing some activities where you can meet new people. (Easier said than done of course but still get rid of this asshole).
 
Get your million squid first then kick him to the curb.

Is it even possible to get the money back from him?

But yea, dudes a nob. No one needs friends like that.
 
Having no friends sucks. But the way you describe this guy makes him sound even worse than having no friends.

How long have you known him? If he's a childhood friend or something you might wanna let it slide but if he's someone you've only known for a few years you should probably drop him. I assume if you only have 1 friend you're already used to being alone anyway.
 
Invite someone else to see Civil War with you. If they accept, you'll have something to talk about afterwards and maybe have a new friend.
 
Don't have a friend for the sake of having one. Find somebody that complements you. I don't have much friends, but the ones I have I cherish.

Dump his ass.
 
Yes, absolutely. Self-respect is more important than putting up that shit. If you someone else being treated like you had, you'd tell them the same thing.
 
He sounds a bit messed up. Maybe try to talk to him about his behaviour, and tell him how you feel. He came on to you, yet you say he's homophobic. There's conflict there for sure. Be the nice guy and try to help, but tell him you won't take shit from him.

Or, sleep with him and never call him again.
 
TheOnlyOneHeEverFeared said:
So, I'm not a very social person I have aspergers and what ever else. I have one friend. Said friend is crazy homophobic, says HIV is the disease god gives to gay people as punishment (in the context of finding out I have HIV), says god will kill us all on the next red moon for voting in gay marriage and what not. He also owes me about a million quid. He constantly sets up things (like go out here) then either doesn't show up at all or messages me like 2 seconds before we're supposed to meet and says he can't make it.

Anyway tonight we were supposed to go see civil war. I've already seen civil war (I knew I was going to be seeing it this morning anyway) but he said he really wanted to go and he swore he'd show up so I paid for the tickets and went to the joint where the cinema is and he text me like 5 minutes before the film was supposed to start and said he wasn't coming cos he couldn't be arsed.


So I feel like i'm at breaking point with him right now. Since I'm not sure I deserve to be treated like that even if I am a cunt? But then I'll literally have no IRL friends. So I don't know, I'm compelled to just say fuck it and drop him but. You know. Opinions welcome.

Oh yeah, he also came onto me. Then claimed he was just messing round the next day or he'd had too much to drink.
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Wow.

Yes. Like, no need to be civil about it. If I were you, i'd just straight ghost him.
 
One of my biggest regrets today in not getting in here early so I could be the idiot to first make a shoe joke

OP, I'm sorry you have to go through all the stuff you go through. Sounds like life is pretty rough on a level I can't begin to relate to.

But from what I've gathered from more experienced wiser people, a new start, even if scary, is usually preferable to the alternative.
 
RandySquizzel said:
He sounds a bit messed up. Maybe try to talk to him about his behaviour, and tell him how you feel. He came on to you, yet you say he's homophobic. There's conflict there for sure. Be the nice guy and try to help, but tell him you won't take shit from him.

Or, sleep with him and never call him again.
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I have done. I've tried several times. I've said there's no shame in being gay, and no one would judge him least of all me and all that, its provoked a tirade of more odd homophobic bile.
 
Your better off alone, that is not a friend but a leech.

Sorry to hear about the HIV, I recommend you look for forums/websites of recently diagnosed people online to talk to, it will really help and you may find some real friends who know exactly what your going through.
 
TheOnlyOneHeEverFeared said:
Dublin Ireland :)

I mean I acknowledge I haven't always been a perfect friend myself (I don't drink alcohol, I'm anti social, awful at talking, used to always stink of tobacco before I quit, not smiling, etc) but I do try and I think I've improved quite a bit over time from a personality standpoint, whereas he hasn't?
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He sounds like a total twat, whereas your "faults" here aren't really that bad. Everyone is going to be a bit of an ass to their friends sometimes, but when they're always an ass, it's not true friendship.

I can understand and empathize with wanting to keep someone as a friend even if it's not a healthy relationship. I've been there, and when you find a real friend, it's a world of difference. Drop them like a bad habit, and don't look back.
 
Grakl said:
He sounds so gay
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He is. Like for (for example) we might be talking about Civil War and he'd somehow bring the subject round to 'I bet Chris Evans is doing Robert downey on the set the big fucking queer' or about anything really.

And I just don't know what to say about it since he is unwilling to negotiate or change?
 
he sounds like a shitty person, honestly. i have no hesitation in suggesting you dump him because even if he's the only person you socialise with irl it doesn't sound like he's good for you or your wellbeing.
 
I would get major red signs if he says he hates homosexuals and then starts to come on to you.

Drop him, he seems like an ass.

Believe me, losing all of your friends definitely makes you motivated on making new friends.
 
Admiral Woofington said:
Drop him as a friend and go to meetup.com to find people with similar interests. I wish I could do the same but the groups who meet up do so on weekdays at like 6 or 7 and I can't do weekdays since I usually leave work late.
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I tried this but I never find anything when I search Neogaf.

Drop him OP.
 
TheOnlyOneHeEverFeared said:
He is. Like for (for example) we might be talking about Civil War and he'd somehow bring the subject round to 'I bet Chris Evans is doing Robert downey on the set the big fucking queer' or about anything really.

And I just don't know what to say about it since he is unwilling to negotiate or change?
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You should try and make a move on him, and say something like "It's ok dude, I won't tell anyone, we're buds." And then once he's like "Oh, uhm, i guess so" be like "I knew it! Now come out and be a better person! Arse bandit!"
 
Couple things:

A) If you're a dude, and your friend is a dude, his homophobia + the coming onto you thing is a big red flag that he is either bi or gay and can't deal with it... so there's that

B) His behavior / treatment of you could almost certainly be tied to that

C) Seems like a shitty person, or someone fucked in the head due to their conflicting beliefs

D) Do what makes you feel best, regardless of others' opinions
 
Someone should make a "Let's be friends thread." where you meet up and become best buds.
 
Dude sounds like an ass so you should probably just drop him.

You can make other friends.
 
Corpekata said:
It's weird that he's so hateful yet your only friend. Are you his only friend too?

Guy sounds like not only a shitty friend but just a nasty person in general.
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Speaking as someone with Asperger's, if I had someone I considered a friend, might be a hard decision too. Kind of less to do with the person and more to do with that making a friend in the first place (or at least who you consider a friend) can be difficult. At least from my perspective, can't speak for OnlyOne
 
Also I can't really say whether or not to drop them. Like of course they seem to be like a very unpleasant person, but having a nonexistent social circle would be rough. I encourage you to try even harder to expand your social circle. It'll take some practice but it's worth it! Also, I'll be your friend, OP! We'll be cool cats together!
 
I don't know if he's more popular than me in that sense, I know lots of people are pissed off with him for being a shit stirring cunt.

But he's a crazy good music player, he can play a million instruments, plays the drums in a band, so his social circle is larger than me.
 
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