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fatigues_gasolini
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Ive gotten eww a few times, mostly in high school. I was the class fat guy, so it was expected. I also got a few "what?" since i guess a few people thought I was gay. Since then Ive cleaned myself up a little bit, but still havent directly talked to women who arent my friends.
SlackMage said:this is me. i think i am very average! i don't deserve such humiliation.
yeah your not a bad looking man you just have some ****ed up psychological problems as a result of the situation from that other thread. just keep trying and don't let this event discourage you.
if i kept trying after my situation anyone can.
ForzaItalia said:
well, you can be forward but still have it in the form of a question... like Tom Brady does
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RqRYFIhkCJ8
PantherLotus
Professional Schmuck
I guess it is Tuesday, isn't it? Tells you where I was at when I wrote that.
@OP, Ani, other eww guys:
If it makes you feel better I was fired yesterday. If you wanted me to spin it, I'd say "my internship ended abruptly." I had inquired about a permanent position and had advertised my pending graduation (I graduated last thursday), and was told to "produce some things soonish" but I honestly didn't know what was expected, other than a random application for an unspecified position. I dropped the ball but didn't really know what to do, especially during the last couple weeks of my difficult semester.
I got a letter from the CEO (small 13 person firm) yesterday that said that they weren't creating a position (I should have known from the start), and that since I was out of school, my student internship ended (yesterday). Talk about a letdown, man.
At first, a couple months ago, I thought that they would offer me a job, and when nothing was mentioned, I had inquired about how to get one. Instead of being directly answered at that moment I was kinda dicked around and told to go straight to the top for that inquiry. I had a bad feeling and I saw all the signs: billable work dried up and my immediate supervisor hadn't looked at me in the eye in over a week. Dammit I should have known.
So I graduated last Thursday, and my birthday and Christmas are next weekend. Not exactly an EWW but talk about an ego-deflater. I have some opportunities but I loved that company. My wife is mad at them and said the encouraging "well you wouldn't want to work for a company like that anyway." Thanks hun.
Anyway, keep your head up, groom yourself well, and practice talking to chicks slightly inebriated. It will help calm your nerves, improve your breath, and improve the whole situation. Now, you won't get any real gems with this method, but it will improve your confidence after you get some one-nighters under your belt.
Good luck.
@OP, Ani, other eww guys:
If it makes you feel better I was fired yesterday. If you wanted me to spin it, I'd say "my internship ended abruptly." I had inquired about a permanent position and had advertised my pending graduation (I graduated last thursday), and was told to "produce some things soonish" but I honestly didn't know what was expected, other than a random application for an unspecified position. I dropped the ball but didn't really know what to do, especially during the last couple weeks of my difficult semester.
I got a letter from the CEO (small 13 person firm) yesterday that said that they weren't creating a position (I should have known from the start), and that since I was out of school, my student internship ended (yesterday). Talk about a letdown, man.
At first, a couple months ago, I thought that they would offer me a job, and when nothing was mentioned, I had inquired about how to get one. Instead of being directly answered at that moment I was kinda dicked around and told to go straight to the top for that inquiry. I had a bad feeling and I saw all the signs: billable work dried up and my immediate supervisor hadn't looked at me in the eye in over a week. Dammit I should have known.
So I graduated last Thursday, and my birthday and Christmas are next weekend. Not exactly an EWW but talk about an ego-deflater. I have some opportunities but I loved that company. My wife is mad at them and said the encouraging "well you wouldn't want to work for a company like that anyway." Thanks hun.
Anyway, keep your head up, groom yourself well, and practice talking to chicks slightly inebriated. It will help calm your nerves, improve your breath, and improve the whole situation. Now, you won't get any real gems with this method, but it will improve your confidence after you get some one-nighters under your belt.
Good luck.
norinrad21
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Just look on the bright side, you dared to ask and got rejected, women will break your heart but its damn worth it
buckfutter
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The only time I ever actively tried to "chat up" a girl (i.e. talk to one without constantly making sure I wasn't coming on like I was attracted to her) she managed to work her boyfriend into the conversation in under three minutes. Still, that was actually quite considerate of her, and it partially allayed my fears that I'm viewed completely asexually. I've got lots of female friends and that was the first time anyone even hinted that they were aware I had a penis.
Anyway, I can understand how shitty that would make you feel, sorry to hear it. But good on you for trying and she sounds like a pain in the ass anyway etcetera.
Anyway, I can understand how shitty that would make you feel, sorry to hear it. But good on you for trying and she sounds like a pain in the ass anyway etcetera.
PhoenixDark
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EDIT: Blackmage?SlackMage said:this is me. i think i am very average! i don't deserve such humiliation.
ForzaItalia
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penguini said:
I do this too sometimes when I'm out.....moreso to show the chick that I can have her but she can't have me.
An inspiration? Certainly not to me.
Look, I'm 31 years old. I've never been involved in any type of romantic relationship with a female. I've never kissed a female.
The thing is, ever since I was a kid (around 10 or so) I've always wanted to experience physical intimacy (kissing, embracing, "making out", etc.) with a female (someone who I'm attracted to)... and it's never happened.
And I think about it every day.
And I'm not going to mention here -- like I've done many times before -- the intense inner rage I feel these past several years, as a result of having wanting it for so long and not getting it.
...
But inspiration? No. Not during this time and place. It's just really hard for me NOT to feel that rage.
PhoenixDark
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:lol :lolSlackMage said:
I was about to accuse you of pretending to be someone you're not. Nevermind :lol
But yeah that pic doesn't look bad at all. You look very accessible to me, and if I was a chick I wouldn't be turned off by you at all.
PhoenixDark
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Shawn said:
I feel your pain. Well, actually I don't since I'm 19 and have plenty of time, but I certainly understand what you're saying.
Shawn I'm assuming you're like me in the sense that you don't like parties and stuff like that correct? Have you tried talking to the women at work?
psycho_snake
I went to WAGs boutique and all I got was a sniff
Atleast you had the balls to ask her out blackmage. Dont worry about it, even the guys who can get girls easily get rejected sometimes. One of my friends is a chick magnet, but he once told this girl that he liked her and all she said was "im flattered" and then just walked away.
Shawn said:
I don't want to be mean but is hard to imagine that a male of 31 years never had any opportunity to satisfy those desires.
I'm 22 and never had a GF I've never kissed or hugged a girl but I know that I've screwed up every change that I had because my shyness. Maybe you should stop blaming your circumstances and just make it happen
This thread title reminded me of high school. For my first few years I went to a specialized Magnet program for a school out of my zone. I had to take the bus and the school also specialized in education for mentally handicapped people who also rode the bus with us.
One guy who was particularly far gone was named Clint. Clint once said, "I asked this girl out and she said no, so I SMACKED HER!" He got suspended a few times for sexual harassment.
One guy who was particularly far gone was named Clint. Clint once said, "I asked this girl out and she said no, so I SMACKED HER!" He got suspended a few times for sexual harassment.
PhoenixDark
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SlackMage said:
Do you have a job? I plan on getting one next semester, and hopefully that will open up oppurtunities. I remember when this semester started I told myself I'd be more outgoing and talk more to chicks. I was more outgoing, if you count going to Wii Sports tournaments and movie night at people's dorms (no chicks).
Winter semester is the make or break for me
Schattenjäger
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can you post a pic of yourself?Shawn said:
Guys looking for a girl.. never underestimate the attraction factor of music. Go to some concerts or look on Facebook, etc. for girls with similar tastes as yours. Wear a band shirt and see if one comes up to you and says anything. There is no negative stigma attached to music, so use that to your advantage -- it'll give you something to talk about and you can go from there.
psycho_snake
I went to WAGs boutique and all I got was a sniff
I dont understand how your in a position to feel bad about yourself in the first place. You've got a girlfriend. Your problem is nothing compared to what other people complain about.Stele said:
I don't want to be mean, either. But it's hard for ME to imagine that a 31-year-old COULD satisfy those desires.
At least in MY reality it's hard to imagine.
[My brother, who is also my roomate, is 33 years old -- and he's never had an intimate experience with a female (not even a kiss). In ways, he's in a worse place -- much worse, I believe -- than I am.]
There's always the next level, man. You see people with hotter chicks around their arms and different ones each day. Actually, I never said I felt bad about my current situation nor do I really want to change it, but when you hear a really outrageous story: like starving African children and this, you feel better about your current situation no matter what.psycho_snake said:
Y'know, this is not the first time you've done this. Or the second. (Side note: It was funny to go back and reread the "post pics of your GF" thread. Some of y'all are quite lucky.)Shawn said:
Seriously -- if you want to start your own thread asking for advice on how to change your situation, go nuts. Personally, I think you'd be better-served by seeing a professional counselor since your allusions to violence are frankly disturbing. But derailing other threads is NOT cool.
teruterubozu
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Meier said:
Just pick up an instrument - it's the ultimate from geek to stud maneuver.
ForzaItalia
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-jinx- said:
I'm with jinx on this one. You probably do need to seek professional help and I say that with all due respect. It's not good at all to be that negative because you'll never leave even a remote chance of thinking positively when it comes to women, work, friends, etc etc. You're mind is already predetermined for failure...
Even when people in this forum try to help you with any advice, you automatically shoot it down with more negativity...
Coming into these threads always makes me feel like a regular sexual dynamo. Even though I know my experience is remarkably average, apparently it's pretty above the board here.
As for some advice to the original poster, don't let this get you down. Any girl that would literally say, "Ewww." when asked out is a FLAMING BITCH. She should have the decent common courtesy to at least smile and say, "Thank you, but I'm really not interested." She was going for the jugular on that one.
With that being said, the vast, vast, vast, vast majority of girls are not like this particular girl. Try and try again, and even though the answer might be "no" more often than "yes", it's always going to be "no" if you don't ask. Sometimes it's easier to look at things in a worst case scenario. I.E. - If I ask Jenny out, what's the worst possible thing that could happen (within the realm of reasonability). The answer to that is that she says no. She's not going to issue a press release with the bulletin points of why she said no, thus publically humiliating you and delivering a crushing blow to your ego. She's going to say no, she might tell one or two of her close friends that you asked her out, and the world will go on as if nothing happened.
Eventually, some girl will say yes. And that's when the real problems start.
As for some advice to the original poster, don't let this get you down. Any girl that would literally say, "Ewww." when asked out is a FLAMING BITCH. She should have the decent common courtesy to at least smile and say, "Thank you, but I'm really not interested." She was going for the jugular on that one.
With that being said, the vast, vast, vast, vast majority of girls are not like this particular girl. Try and try again, and even though the answer might be "no" more often than "yes", it's always going to be "no" if you don't ask. Sometimes it's easier to look at things in a worst case scenario. I.E. - If I ask Jenny out, what's the worst possible thing that could happen (within the realm of reasonability). The answer to that is that she says no. She's not going to issue a press release with the bulletin points of why she said no, thus publically humiliating you and delivering a crushing blow to your ego. She's going to say no, she might tell one or two of her close friends that you asked her out, and the world will go on as if nothing happened.
Eventually, some girl will say yes. And that's when the real problems start.
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