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So I just discovered I'm mostly sterile

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Omega Kirby

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Feeling pretty damn depressed right now

Chemo therapy really fucked me when I had cancer as a kid, 80% chance of not being able to have a kid.
 
Oh man, I'm sorry to hear that.

But, if it helps, I am 40% sterile and we got pregnant pretty quick. You still have a 20% chance. Don't give up hope!
 
Omega Kirby said:
Feeling pretty damn depressed right now

Chemo therapy really fucked me when I had cancer as a kid, 80% chance of not being able to have a kid.
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There is always adoption.

As a child who was adopted, I can only tell you that I love my parents like they birthed me, and I've never suspected any sort of different between out relationship as anyone born of blood.

At 16 I discovered I had a biological sister that was 2 years younger than me who was also adopted. She was adopted into a loving family same as me, and we both grew up to be very intelligent and respectful people.

Currently my wife and I have no plans to have children (we've been married for 11 years), but if we ever did, I'd go with adoption.
 
Sorry to hear. Chemo does a number on reproductive organs no doubt. Many women also become infertile from chemo treatments.

Better to be alive at least.
 
What about IVF? Is it just a motility issue?

I don't know your age, but just think about how modern medicine is advancing in leaps and bounds.

What's true today might not be so true in a few years.

Still...it must suck real bad hearing those news. Keep that chin up, dude.
 
20% isn't so bad. That's making a set against an overpair, happens all the time. You just need to play 10,000 hands. If you know what I mean.
 
If quintupling your efforts doesn't suffice there's always adoption. It's passing on your memes that matter, not your genes ... or at least that's what Solid Snake says.
 
20% chance the natural way?

would IFV improve your chances?
Are you female or male btw (fitting question, when asking someone with a Kirby avatar)

edit: Does chemo / radiation even affect the fertility of women as much as it does men?
 
A 20% chance, sounds pretty good, OP. Especially given that you can try an unlimited amount of times.
 
rtcn63 said:
Look on the bright side- you'll be saving thousands a year on condoms. :(
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Thousands a year? How much do you have sex?

OP: Sorry to hear. Are you in a relationship right now and trying to have kids? Have you discussed other options? People have mentioned adoption and IVF
 
The Fiance can't conceive naturally at all, and would kill for even a 20% chance. I know the news is hard to take now, but with the myriad of options now you really have to try to focus on the positives.

I hope things work out for you guys when you do try though!
 
Kor of Memory said:
There is always adoption.

As a child who was adopted, I can only tell you that I love my parents like they birthed me, and I've never suspected any sort of different between out relationship as anyone born of blood.

At 16 I discovered I had a biological sister that was 2 years younger than me who was also adopted. She was adopted into a loving family same as me, and we both grew up to be very intelligent and respectful people.

Currently my wife and I have no plans to have children (we've been married for 11 years), but if we ever did, I'd go with adoption.
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Man. I always thought I'd adopt or be a foster parent. Then married a girl who... Didn't want it. She has relatives who adopted, then later had a kid naturally and treated the adopted kid like shit. But also she's got some hangup on having "her own blood".

Anyway hope you do someday so I can live vicariously through you.
 
It'll be okay. I was very sick as a child, nearly died from chicken pox when I was 18, and all that resulted in super low sperm count. Like 20,000 instead of 20 million.

Modern fertility science is wonderful my friend, I have a 12 year old child. It is stressful though and a roller coaster of emotions but there is hope despite being nearly completely sterile.
 
Sorry to hear that, specially since you clearly seemed to want kids. But...


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There is always the option of adopting if comes down to it. There are plenty of kids out there who need parents.
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This is the upside. If you wanted to have kids because you wanted to have someone to pass on that parently love, consider adoption as an option. Lots of kids out there that could use someone that really wanted but couldn't have kids. Obviously right now you're dealing with funding this out, but when the time comes I hope you really think about adoption.
 
I had testicular cancer and was still able to have children afterwards. No extra means needed.

I say...keep giving it a shot.
 
Omega Kirby said:
Feeling pretty damn depressed right now

Chemo therapy really fucked me when I had cancer as a kid, 80% chance of not being able to have a kid.
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Silver lining: direct deposits all day.

In all seriousness, explore your options. Adoption would be a great alternative and in the grand scheme of things, giving an existing child a loving home and upbringing is maybe a better option than adding another one to this doomed population.
 
Sorry to hear that. I had cancer when I was 12 and this is one of my worries. I've never had it tested, my oncologist did tell me infertility is a possibility.
 
Omega Kirby said:
Feeling pretty damn depressed right now

Chemo therapy really fucked me when I had cancer as a kid, 80% chance of not being able to have a kid.
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My old boss had the same issue, cancer as a kid and lots of treatment. He was given about the same probability if I remember right. We're good friends so he shared this information. Has 3 kids now.
 
I swear I know tons of people that it was supposedly "Not possible to have a kid" that now have kids.
 
rtcn63 said:
Look on the bright side- you'll be saving thousands a year on condoms. :(
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Don't do this! Think about it OP, any contraceptive with a 20% failure rate, sucks. You should definitely still use protection, if you don't want to have children yet!
 
Sorry to hear that OP.

In addition to exploring options like IVF, maybe considering fostering a child. I don't know if the requirements are as stringent as full on adoption (probably not), but it would still let you raise a child who needs a loving home.

I myself grew up in the foster system from the age of 7, and while it has its issues, I'm confident I had a better life than I would have if I hadn't.
 
I feel for you OP, but try to keep in mind that you beat cancer and you're alive! I know this probably feels like a gutpunch, but man, you've got the opportunity to brighten up the life of a child by adopting them and providing them with opportunities they might not otherwise have. Try to flip this into a positive.
 
There's treatments available like IVF or ICSI. Did they discuss these options with you?

Over here basic universal healthcare covers 3 attempts at in vitro fertilization. Which has pretty good odds of giving you some offspring.

Even if it all fails, you can still adopt or decide to choose a sperm donor.
 
There's many ways to become a parent. You're plans may be different than expected, but not lesser.
 
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