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[Icedburden]

No reason to time her cycle and everything. If she's on BC and you're wearing a condom, the odds are nil.
Just relax, have fun and enjoy life.
If that really is that big a worry, toys and bondage is another route you could go.

 

[Red Liquorice]

Pill, condom and pulling out - No wonder you thought it was just "nice".

You're still a virgin OP, get your dick wet.

 

[afternoon delight]

BC + pullout, no need for a condom. Get that healthy exercise, and have as much sex as you can!

 

[IISANDERII]

Give the OP a break, everybody. The Church has been perfecting its fear campaign for centuries.

 

[Spaced Harrier]

She is totally up the duff.

Grats.

 

[giancarlo123x]

The pill alone is a beautiful thing. 💊

 

[Amentallica]

Did she mention whether your cum was bitter?

 

[CapitalismSucks DonkeyBalls]

Pill + Pull-out = never any problems *knocks furiously on wood*

Dude, just enjoy the moment, don't become paranoid about pregnancy. If you took all of the precautions, you two will be perfectly fine.

Congrats on punching that V-card.

 

[QuantumZebra]

If she gets pregnant after all that, you might as well call the child Jesus because it would be an immaculate conception.

yup...







OP you're fine holy shit if you knew the amount of times I should've had a kid and didn't. Thankfully the one time I decided "fuck it" was with the right lady, and yes we have kids now

 

[SaganIsGOAT]

Well done waiting for the right time brother! Glad it was great for you both.

 

[SummitAve]

Not to be a dick, but do you realize that millions of women all over the world use the pill without any important issues?

Just stop taking it altogether if it's giving you any trouble. It's not the end of the world. Condoms suck, but hey, you gotta do what you gotta do.

PS: Some women actually report higher sex drive, so there's that.

Edit: I see that was resolved a few pages back.

Without any important issues? Here take this pill that changes your hormones, you know, those little things inside your body that can literally define everything about you, there won't be any important issues....

 

[EGM1966]

Talk to her about your anxieties as just that: anxieties she can help you cope with.

From your info it's one in a million there's any risk so you are just being anxious.

 

[inked_illusion]

Congrats OP, but don't sweat it, you did everything so you're good.

But next time, try being more adventerous unless you want your experiences like that everytime, which would be boring af.

 

[Laevateinn]

Catholic guilt is a legit thing, you won't understand it unless you've been a Catholic or lived with one.

My mom married a Catholic but I'm not. They made me go to Catholic school so I've been surrounded by Catholics my whole life. I even went to a Catholic university.

Maybe we're not legit enough near Seattle but I hardly knew anyone who had "Catholic guilt." There was tons of drugs and premarital sex at my high school and at least one abortion. Nobody cared. I don't understand what's going on with Catholicism anymore. Bring back the Catholicism of JFK.

On topic: my long-term girlfriend had a lot of anxieties about sex despite being a life-long atheist. She was terrified of getting pregnant and STDs (although abortion has always been on the table). Originally, I even had to cover up during BJs. We got over it by talking about it and keeping at it. Now we just rely on the pill. If she's on the pill, that should be enough. And, really, keep abortion on the table. You're already sinning by having premarital sex.

 

[Two Words]

I could care less about religious rules, Religion is a part of my life, not the whole thing. And theres some dumb stuff in catholicism.

I just don't see myself killing a son of mine.

Im not going to force my beliefs into you, its just a sensitive deal for me.

Well I suppose it comes down to if you believe the Bible is the word of God or not. If you do, then it does seem strange to cherry pick God's demands.

 

[Wreav]

Pill, condom and pulling out - No wonder you thought it was just "nice".

You're still a virgin OP, get your dick wet.

This was basically my reaction.

IUD. Get her one.

 

[I Stalk Alone]

If she gets pregnant after all that, you might as well call the child Jesus because it would be an immaculate conception.

Nah, just call Maury

 

[Eiolon]

Wait until you get a girl that misses her periods. My ex-wife would miss them 2-3 months at a time. Would freak the hell out of me.

 

[Lulubop]

Next time thank her with a gooey treat.

 

[imBask]

is waiting part of the American culture? serious question (i'm canadian)

6 months/a year sounds crazy to me, everyone I know (including myself) waited maybe... a couple of days? a couple of weeks AT MOST? Everytime I see a "virginity" story here or on reddit there's always MONTHS of waiting

 

[Wreav]

is waiting part of the American culture? serious question (i'm canadian)

No, but those people that don't wait don't really have anything to make threads about, they're too busy having sex.

 

[bengraven]

Congrats. Now go do it again so it doesn't feel like it could be a freak occurrence.

 

[Mr Git]

Condoms, the pill and pulling out sounds like sex in a harsh, unforgiving police state.

 

[Funky Papa]

Without any important issues? Here take this pill that changes your hormones, you know, those little things inside your body that can literally define everything about you, there won't be any important issues....

You are making it look as if it'll turn you into a different person.

Mood and libido changes can happen, but they are generally not life-shattering events, which is why the pill is still a highly popular contraceptive method.

 

[BabyFaceKillah]

is waiting part of the American culture? serious question (i'm canadian)

6 months/a year sounds crazy to me, everyone I know (including myself) waited maybe... a couple of days? a couple of weeks AT MOST? Everytime I see a "virginity" story here or on reddit there's always MONTHS of waiting

I can't speak for everyone else here but I haven't waited months for sex since I was 13/14

 

[PlayALLtheGames]

The pill, condoms and pulling out at once? Hahaha, wow. What's even the point? Get that genital-on-genital contact.

 

[TRios Zen]

So pretty much do whatever the fuck you want, but don't you dare have an abortion or you'll go to hell?

Why even bother believing at that stage if you're just doing whatever the fuck you want anyway.

Generalizing the entire Catholic population to those few words is pretty myopic, and I think a conversation should be had that's better than that.

However if you want a minimalist description: having pre-marital sex would be considered a venial sin, whereas having an abortion would be considered a mortal one. Because you consider that life has not begun at any given time point in the gestation period, does not mean that all people believe that.

At op - congratulations, sex can be both a lot of fun AND a way to connect with your lover unlike any other. You are probably over-thinking your contraception methods, but maybe I've just been lucky in my past.

 

[The Beard]

Op, you done fucked up. Where was the spermicide ? The female condom ? Don't even tell me you didn't at least triple bag it.

It's over, start saving up for diapers.

 

[Foffy]

Pill, condom and pulling out - No wonder you thought it was just "nice".

You're still a virgin OP, get your dick wet.

We're now pulling semantics over the "right" method of losing something like a virginity, which itself isn't a real, objective thing?

Help me.

 

[bengraven]

Copper IUD has no downside, but my doctor won't let you do it unless you've already had a baby because it's more likely to become dislodged if you haven't already carried a pregnancy.

Yeah and the fact that they have to basically dilate the cervix to put it in.

When my wife had it put in, the woman said, "oh this won't be an issue since you just had a baby a few weeks ago". But my wife had a c-section - she never dilated.

It was the most pain she had ever gone through - in five minutes she basically suffered what would slowly happen over hours of childbirth.

And then there's the fact that months later and to this day she suffers from ovarian cysts because of the implant, but that's another story...

Sounds like a great time to me. Congrats OP.

Definitely a lot better than my virginity story. I had death grip syndrome (had no idea what it was at the time) so I couldn't cum even after 45+ minutes. Eventually my gf started crying and told me she had started thinking about her ex-bf, so we stopped. Then she guilt tripped me for not finishing, giving me that "maybe you're not attracted to me" bullshit. Woman, I wouldn't be losing my virginity to you if I didn't find you attractive. Overall it was a pretty awful experience.

Dude, the same fucking thing happened to me in my first relationship. (And occasionally with my wife when we haven't had sex for a prolonged time).

But your story is almost exactly how my first time went with my first girlfriend. She was crying, curled up with her arms around her legs, staring out the window and saying I made her feel like I didn't find her attractive (she should have known better since I pursued her for almost 5 years) or that I might be gay or something is wrong with one of us. I blamed years of masturbation (lol) to get her to calm down but now reading that article...

 

[Captcha]

is waiting part of the American culture? serious question (i'm canadian)

6 months/a year sounds crazy to me, everyone I know (including myself) waited maybe... a couple of days? a couple of weeks AT MOST? Everytime I see a "virginity" story here or on reddit there's always MONTHS of waiting

I fuck first then decide if I want to date them. Everybody is different though, obviously.

 

[NervousXtian]

OP, I'd talk to a therapist.. you have some anxiety issues that need addressed.

pill plus if you really want to be safer, then pull-out.

condoms are horrible.. and should only be used for STD purposes.. but in a monogamous.. hell nah.

 

[Pai Pai Master]

try anal next time

Yeah bro get her a strap-on. Or share a double-dildo together.

Just kidding

Spoiler

or am I?

Congrats.

 

[rhophiehalul78]

So stealthy

OP, do it in the backdoor next time so you wont have any fear.

 

[nullset2]

It really is not a big deal, yet people make this huuuuuge song and dance about sex, when it's something so natural, simple and regular as eating breakfast or sleeping, so just relax OP. You'll do fine, hopefully you learn to let go.

I blame the media for the reason that we have a generation where a sizeable amount of their members are just getting started with sex late in life, myself included, though. Sex is so romanticized and made this golden lamb out of, it's insane.

 

[dralla]

The girl I'm dating has a minor allergy to latex (so condoms are no good), she just got an IUD a couple days ago. Starting next week, no more condoms, no pulling out. I feel like my life is about to change.

 

[E92 M3]

Making a baby isn't that simple - it requires precise circumstances and the timing is important.

Relax OP. You can safely not use a condom (as long as STD free) and just bust somewhere else. Also, make sure you urinate between back-to-back sessions.

 

[Pixeluh]

Without any important issues? Here take this pill that changes your hormones, you know, those little things inside your body that can literally define everything about you, there won't be any important issues....

Most women who are taking it don't experience major problems. If a pill doesn't work for you, whether it makes you moody, gives you acne, makes you gain weight, ect, then just try another type. There are different types of the pill, and you should let your doctor know if you want to try a different one.

I feel like there is no reason to complain about pills, given how many options there are to choose from.

I was on ortho tri and it wasn't working for me. I switched to a lower, steady dosage of that and it still didn't work. My doctor finally gave me an over-all low hormone pill and it works fine for me. I have no problems with it.

If worse came to worse, you could always get an IUD, shots, or make your boyfriend clip himself.

 

[Tarkus]

Yeah OP, get her to have a copper IUD placed and give it to her without a rubber or pulling out. Life changing

 

[Nappuccino]

Congrats. Now go do it again so it doesn't feel like it could be a freak occurrence.

I thought losing your virginity was a one time occurrence.

 

[thelatestmodel]

Know how you feel OP, I just about shit myself after my first time. STDs, pregnancy... it's stuff you've probably been warned about a lot, and that's what's doing it to you.

Sounds like you took precautions, you're fine.

 

[zorlaczerohero]

But now, at home. I´m also kind of worried, as I've mentioned before I'm 22 and I was holding out because of my obsessive fears with unplanned parenthood

Relax. Any form of established contraceptive is very effective, two is near impossible to get through. I started having sex at 15, drunk at a party with a girl who's name I didn't know. Thank god she didn't get pregnant as I bumped into her many times afterwards and whilst pleasing to the eye she was ugly as sin in personality. Personally after that I relied on Condoms, they are the only form of (non surgical) contraceptive that gives the man guaranteed control over the outcome. Stick with that and you'll be fine. The only accidental pregnancy we had occurred 2 months before my wife and I got married, she forgot to take 1 pill on 1 day and my seed fought its way through. All in all we didn't mind, got a wonderful Daughter out of it. The honeymoon wasn't fun with the wife having morning sickness in the Graceland's souvenir shop (didn't know Elvis fridge magnets were that absorbent), but we don't regret it at all. Talk to your SO about your fears, it's possible they have the same ones. For my Wife and I, she has the implant which has worked really well since our 3rd (planned) child.

Yeah OP, get her to have a copper IUD placed and give it to her without a rubber or pulling out. Life changing

I had a long term GF who had a coil, it stabbed the end of my willy everytime I thrusted. It wasn't quite sitting right, but it put me off for life.

 

[Funky Papa]

The girl I'm dating has a minor allergy to latex (so condoms are no good), she just got an IUD a couple days ago. Starting next week, no more condoms, no pulling out. I feel like my life is about to change.

Get some of these if she doesn't like the IUD.

Yes, they are still condoms (and hence they still suck), but they are several orders of magnitude better and much thinner than latex ones.

 

[Lulubop]

Get some of these if she doesn't like the IUD.

Yes, they are still condoms (and hence they still suck), but they are several orders of magnitude better and much thinner than latex ones.

What I usually strap up with, would recommend.

 

[ShemhazaiX]

Wow, all of that preparation and you didn't even use Mirror Force. Have fun with fatherhood.

Why would he need mirror force when he already used Compulsory Evacuation Device?

 

[BabyFaceKillah]

Get some of these if she doesn't like the IUD.

Yes, they are still condoms (and hence they still suck), but they are several orders of magnitude better and much thinner than latex ones.

Eww lifestyles...

 

[E92 M3]

What I usually strap up with, would recommend.

I know that's what you wanted.

 

[Shuggananas]

I had a long term GF who had a coil, it stabbed the end of my willy everytime I thrusted. It wasn't quite sitting right, but it put me off for life.

*shudders*

 

[Forkball]

Dude, you had sex but didn't perform the Rite of Nebulkar afterwards? Enjoy the baby.

 

[BabyFaceKillah]

I know that's what you wanted.

If Geralt wasn't a mutant I'm sure he would have plenty of stds