Count Dookkake
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madara said:
He wasn't having "mutual casual sex."
She was.
Or rather, she thought she was, because the OP lied to keep her close.
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So I'm about the get my heart broken
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He wasn't having "mutual casual sex."
She was.
Or rather, she thought she was, because the OP lied to keep her close.
gutterboy44
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Ah, too close to home. I say let this one fly. You both (assuming you are similar age) are young. If there really is something between you two, it will hopefully works itself out further down the road. Two people can be good for each other, but the timing of it isn't always right. Just because it doesn't work out now doesn't always mean it never will. Ok that was my optimistic view.
My pessimistic (and from personal experience, more likely) view. It won't happen now, she will use you as a safety net a few more times down the road when she breaks up with a guy or even more so if a guy breaks up with her. She knows clear as day how you feel, and will exploit that for her own personal security until you stop catering to her. She never wanted to really be with you, but she will make you feel like there is a chance every time she comes crawling back to her safety net, and this heart break will cycle until you stop it.
My pessimistic (and from personal experience, more likely) view. It won't happen now, she will use you as a safety net a few more times down the road when she breaks up with a guy or even more so if a guy breaks up with her. She knows clear as day how you feel, and will exploit that for her own personal security until you stop catering to her. She never wanted to really be with you, but she will make you feel like there is a chance every time she comes crawling back to her safety net, and this heart break will cycle until you stop it.
CajoleJuice
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Brutal.Count Dookkake said:
Liu Kang Baking A Pie
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Yep!Ryck said:
This is something some of GAF doesn't understand about confidence. It isn't just being cocky and funny. It shows you are drama-free and have no fear. This isn't just some thing about women either. Men look for the same traits in friends.
Ryck said:
I did say that man, that night more than once. She didn't leave. I even told her don't fucken feel sorry for me or anything and I understand where she is coming from. The usual crap. She did not leave. Then she pulled that shit on our way home, that left me confused which is why I gave her the week.
afternoon delight
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Sorry man - some things just don't work out. Drink it off, wake up, and find whatever's next.
Jive Turkey
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Which is why I said what I did in my last post. Others have said it as well. She doesn't know what she wants but at the same time she wants it all. You have succeeded in hitting it now you have ample opportunity to quit it.KGKK said:
Look man you gotta be honest with yourself...KGKK said:
If you tell someone "don't fuckin feel sorry for me" to me its a red flag, it's like when I ask my wife what is wrong and she says "I'm fine"... she read between the lines saw that it really did upset you.
Also this... take what you have learned and move on to the next gal.Jive Turkey said:
Ryck said:
How stupid would have a bitch be to know that I wasn't upset. Of course I was fucken upset. I told even told her so. I also said its better if I be by myself right now. I was right infront of my friends house where my fucken group of friends were. Its not like she was leaving me stranded to actually be by myself.
crazy buttocks on a train said:
I like the irony of this for my position. Like I said, I already have a date tomorrow night. I'm not the type of guy to sit still, while I will be mourning, I always gotta be banging. The irony in that is I'm 24, the chick I'm seeing tomorrow night is 37. She's been wanting to jump my bones for awhile so I finally emailed her during the weekend to make arrangements.
Hmmm maybe I should post in the "whats the oldest chick you have banged" thread.:lol
This thread has convinced me to accept her no and fuck the week of thinking about it.
I texted her, "what happened on our way home, was that out of pity?"
She replied "no I genuinely care about you, you were cold so I was trying to warm you up, I kissed you because I'm week too".
I texted back, "good its not pity, if it was I would have said fuck the week, lets end it here."
Basically I have set it up for her to say no now.
Jive Turkey
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That's the spirit! Let Stacy's mom teach you a thing or two!KGKK said:
Kano on the Phone
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The point is, you shouldn't be mourning. That kind of shit will keep you getting into these kinds of situations in the future. You lost a girl that didn't like you the way you liked her, What's to grieve over? It's a weight off. Banging a new chick doesn't matter if you're still writing poetry in your room about the other girl once the old chick leaves.KGKK said:
Even if she says yes I wouldn't take her. Stuff that. Like everyone says she wants everything. As much as you probably think the 'pretty much a relationship' was a mutual feeling it wasn't. She used you as a gap filler buddy and as soon as she caught wind of it heading towards something serious she high tailed it. And when you told her how you feel she possibly felt sorry because you're her friend which is where her confusion and probably feelings of obligation came from. It's not worth the drama. If it's this much trouble to get someone to commit it's not worth it. Leave it, don't be her crutch and if one day she does want a relationship, you still feel the same and it seems right then go for it. Sorry if it's harsh but it's just a case of looking at it objectively instead of from a position of an emotional stakeholder.
Uhtred
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Can I just chime in and say something?
Its ok man. I promise you you will find a new chick to do the same with. I wish I could change em every 6 months!!!!!!!!!
I have been with my girl now for 2 years!!
I think shes going to be the last one, as I am getting older(33)
You at 24 should be sticking it in every hole you can find!
Thank you, just my thoughts.
Its ok man. I promise you you will find a new chick to do the same with. I wish I could change em every 6 months!!!!!!!!!
I have been with my girl now for 2 years!!
I think shes going to be the last one, as I am getting older(33)
You at 24 should be sticking it in every hole you can find!
Thank you, just my thoughts.
Zod the Bear
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I'll admit I lol-ed at the 1/2 hour hug with arms at sides.
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BladeWorker
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I think the one of the keys here is that she didn't tell any of her friends or family about you.
Coming off a relationship (whether or not she took time), getting involved with you filled a need for some kind of physical (or emotional) closeness that she couldn't get elsewhere, to make her feel "normal" again.
But if she feels ashamed or like she's rushed into things with you, and it's not her idea of "normal", at some point it got overwhelming. So she broke it off.
She may come back with a "let's start over", or she may move on completely. Don't hold your breath for either answer.
Coming off a relationship (whether or not she took time), getting involved with you filled a need for some kind of physical (or emotional) closeness that she couldn't get elsewhere, to make her feel "normal" again.
But if she feels ashamed or like she's rushed into things with you, and it's not her idea of "normal", at some point it got overwhelming. So she broke it off.
She may come back with a "let's start over", or she may move on completely. Don't hold your breath for either answer.
CajoleJuice
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KGKK said:
Broseybrose
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Grow up.KGKK said:
And im not saying that to be mean. LET IT GO, MAN. Do both of you a favor.
BladeWorker said:
There has to be answer as she begged and made me promise to still be friends with her. I said fine, I will guess we will chill sometime in the holidays. She got so offended and said thats too far off. Man bitches be crazy:lol
She she doesn't want to sleep with me anymore, she doesn't want to go out yet she wants to still hang out regularly and keep in touch all the while we're both mad sexually attracted to eachother and won't be able to keep our hands off eachother.
BladeWorker said:
As for this, the reason she didn't tell anyone is because she is brown, and somewhat conservative, all her friends are brown and conservative, she did not want them to think of her as a slut.
DeaconKnowledge
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KGKK, you're getting good advice in this thread. Take it.
Hell, you should feel good, you're coming out ahead.
Hell, you should feel good, you're coming out ahead.
Broseybrose
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Shes fucking with you. Shes testing your limits. WALK. Shes gonna kill you slowly til the point you no longer care anyway... so stop caring NOW, before it gets even worse.KGKK said:
BladeWorker
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Yeah, we women are complicated, strange beings.KGKK said:
Here's the thing: whether or not you're in a relationship with her, there's no sense hanging out with someone who's so ashamed to be hanging with you - whether banging you or just platonically - that she doesn't tell her friends and family. Conservative or not, it's just not cool.
POWERSPHERE
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A 3 step solution;
1. Ask for one 'for the road'
2. Drop the Farthammer.
3. Run
1. Ask for one 'for the road'
2. Drop the Farthammer.
3. Run
DeaconKnowledge
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KGKK said:
You already fucked her. Duh.
And your op leaves in all the necessary details. She's done like dinner. Better to leave now then get doubly hurt when you find out from a friend she's seeing some guy. Hell, she TOLD you she's talking to other guys!
BladeWorker
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My point still stands, she's hiding the true nature of your relationship from them.KGKK said:
Oh, and her family has probably figured out more than you think.
JustHadToJoin
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she is going to say no, but she is still going to have sex with you within 21 days(womanly cycle) of saying that.
POWERSPHERE
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Ryck said:
*deletes thread to avoid summons to rape murder trial*
evilromero
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A week is a long time. For women it takes about 24 hours to get over a five year relationship so you have no chance dude.
OLyonnais10
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look bro, the best thing u can do right now is call her up and just tell her week is too long.
just be like, its been a day, all the thinking u needed to do u coulda done if your heart was with me.
all this week does is allow her to find something better and if she cant she'll 'choose' u per se.
lifes a gamble u know, and by calling her and telling her to either decide now or your gonna bounce is a big one .. but it leaves u with your dignity intact dude .. and i think above all thats what women respect.. dont be a door mat, dont ever tell a girl 'dont pity me' (that sounds like a hissy fit)
call her up, demand answers .. if it ends, it ends .. but it ends with you as a man rather than a doormat
just be like, its been a day, all the thinking u needed to do u coulda done if your heart was with me.
all this week does is allow her to find something better and if she cant she'll 'choose' u per se.
lifes a gamble u know, and by calling her and telling her to either decide now or your gonna bounce is a big one .. but it leaves u with your dignity intact dude .. and i think above all thats what women respect.. dont be a door mat, dont ever tell a girl 'dont pity me' (that sounds like a hissy fit)
call her up, demand answers .. if it ends, it ends .. but it ends with you as a man rather than a doormat
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