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[catabarez]

My mom said to go ahead with it, because my mom was naive to think she viewed me as a brother. I felt uncomfortable with her at bars and wherever because I started to just get a weird vibe from everything and couldn't put my finger on it


before this weekend trip, I had met her only ONCE, so I was a bit taken aback when she went ahead and about festival tickets for the both of us

 

[C.Dark.DN]

I sure as hell didn't view her as anything more then a family friend, so it wasn't a stretch to me

Family friend is very far from a brother, because.... yanno... you spend a large part of your childhood with someone that's like a brother or sister.

 

[NaturalHigh]

Family friend is very far from a brother, because.... yanno... you spend a large part of your childhood with someone that's like a brother or sister.

i just read ur texts
and this crazy
so u think im fat?
weight watchers maybe?

 

[Ken Masters]

I think the non answer answer is the best way to go

 

[teh_pwn]

Sounds like the OP's mom doesn't like his GF, and wants him to date this family friend crazy girl. Crazy girl got all serious about it, and unhealthily obsessed with the OP and pounced on the phone because she's crazy and needs to know everything, then the comments hit her especially hard because she likes the OP.

If the above is true, for all we know she knows the OP's gaf alias.

Hi!

 

[NaturalHigh]

I think the non answer answer is the best way to go

def, OP. anything u say she will have a huge response for and it will just make it harder on her. i would probably tell your mom about the situation and let her pass that on to chi town girl's mom. anything other than that is pointless.

 

[SMT]

Sounds like the OP's mom doesn't like his GF, and wants him to date this family friend crazy girl. Crazy girl got all serious about it, and unhealthily obsessed with the OP and pounced on the phone because she's crazy and needs to know everything, then the comments hit her especially hard because she likes the OP.

If the above is true, for all we know she knows the OP's gaf alias.

Hi!

I agree with everything but the bold.

 

[FO-totality]

Something tells me you're not the first guy this has happen to with her. Nothing concrete, just a gut feeling.

 

[Deleted member 8095]

As for ******, what kind of women would ever to that to another. That is fuckin’ sick and disgusting. What she did, I would never wish upon my worst enemy, and I am one cold hearted bitch that does not get fucked with.

Please explain this part to us. Also, this girl has horrendous grammar.

 

[ReturnOfTheRAT]

I was away from my phone when I went to take a shower or used the bathroom, that's the only time I remember being away from it.

AND I had a password on my iPhone, so how the fuck did she go through my texts to find the old weight watchers comment unless she saw me repeatedly input the password and remembered it

Feel relief that you'll know longer be with a crazy woman.

 

[cheststrongwell]

If there was a way for me to read everyone's GAF pm's, I would.

 

[Ken Masters]

Please explain this part to us. Also, this girl has horrendous grammar.

I already explained that the only thing my GF said was how I was dealing with being bored, and that was just a response to me. The weight watchers comment was me as well. My GF somehow got thrown under the bus when she really didn't do shit besides respond to me

 

[Replicant]

I was away from my phone when I went to take a shower or used the bathroom, that's the only time I remember being away from it.

AND I had a password on my iPhone, so how the fuck did she go through my texts to find the old weight watchers comment unless she saw me repeatedly input the password and remembered it

Wow. I didn't see this before and reading this make the story a lot creepier than I originally thought. I mean, who'd snoop around reading someone else's phone while the person is in the shower. That's just creeptastic and shady.

The password thing makes the whole thing even more hair-raising. Brrr. I'd block her from Facebook if I were you. God knows what else she'd snoop around for.

 

[JABEE]

Please explain this part to us. Also, this girl has horrendous grammar.

Yeah. I have a feeling OP's girlfriend said more than just the Weight Watchers comment. What specifically did she say? This girl is wrong to go through someone's text messages, but your girlfriend and you texting cruel things about this girl while she was in the room is kind of sneaky. If you knew she probably had feelings for you, you shouldn't have went on the trip.

 

[Ken Masters]

Yeah. I have a feeling OP's girlfriend said more than just the Weight Watchers comment. What specifically did she say? This girl is wrong to go through someone's text messages, but your girlfriend and you texting cruel things about this girl while she was in the room is kind of sneaky. If you knew she probably had feelings for you, you shouldn't have went on the trip.

I said the weight watchers comment, and that was far and away the worst thing saud

 

[Iztli]

I dont know why this reminded me of...

 

[Verdre]

You said something mean about a person you had met once. She basically stole your password and went through your private conversations.

She was obviously snooping around for your opinion of her and she found it. She didn't get what she wanted, but she certainly got what she was asking for.

 

[Aselith]

This is like one of those stories were you get the power of invisibility and then find out what your friends REALLY think about you. Except she's not your friend so no fucks should be given.

She snooped around and found out she's boring and fat. Let this be a lesson to her not to snoop not a feel bad moment for you. You're good.

 

[Macattk15]

Sounds grade A crazy man. Show your G/F the message if she is mad at you for whatever reason.

Going through your phone when you're not in the room ... like that gives her the right? AND you're nothing more than a friend to her? Met ONCE? GTFO Lady.

She probably put your phone inside of her.

I'd get a new one.

 

[mr2xxx]

Crazy chick that you don't have feelings for, isn't family, or has your kid. Seems like a very easy decision op.

 

[sangreal]

She waited for you to go home before she said something? Attention grab

 

[goomba]

Wow she reads your personal texts to your girlfriend then accuses you of betraying her trust?

She obviously doesn't get that what she did was wrong, and you did nothing but doing her a favour by going to hang out with her in the first place.

I think she needs to be told that.

 

[Darren870]

I think the non answer answer is the best way to go

I'd respond (no idea what to say though). If you don't its just going to make things worse and will likely no longer stay "between you and her".

 

[redhot_]

Bet shes got Daddy issues.

 

[Shao Kahn Brewing a Stew]

I feel bad for you, son.

 

[Kipe]

Act pissed that she invaded your privacy and then apologize about the weight comment. Don't offer friendship because she had plans for you. Also avoid talking about a woman's weight in the future.

 

[Owl]

Cut ties. She looked at your texts without your permission. That's invasion of privacy and creepy.

 

[shanshan310]

Wow that's creepy as heck, what does your gf think?

 

[commedieu]

ahhh I get it.. after reading everything...

Op;

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mlbybnbi9aI&feature=endscreen&NR=1

study that.

 

[Joni]

Respond firmly, cut all ties. She is crazy.

 

[evil solrac v3.0]

She invited my for the Pitchfork music festival that weekend, she had bought the tickets without even asking me, so I felt obligated to go. We would go to bars and stuff together, and the entire time I'm thinking, "what the hell am I doing here with her?"

bullshit! she wanted to fuck you.

I would have been there for you whenever you need because I do not half ass my friendships but you threw that away, and for what?

see that? been there for you means she would have opened her pearly, chubby gates for you.

Sure I had feelings but the moment you made your’s clear, I put mine aside and all I wanted was your friendship

so does this mean she at one point told you she wanted you and you said no? can you clarify this please?

 

[maomaoIYP]

............But now I will never be able to trust you again, and most likely everything you said and did that weekend was probably a huge lie and a game for you and ********.

She invades your privacy and she talks about trust. LOL

 

[Peagles]

Part of you will probably feel bad, but I'm hardly a shit-talker and I talk junk to my partner all the time about people we know. So try not to feel bad.

I've only had one incident where somebody went through my phone. They were sitting next to me in class and just took my phone and send a text to my new boyfriend at the time, while I was concentrating on listening and taking notes. I hardly ever lose my temper but I just went nuts at this guy when I found out (he wasn't even a friend, just someone I talked to sometimes in the class) and pretty much have never forgiven him. Still makes me furious to think back. Thank goodness nothing bad actually happened out of it in that relationship, it had the potential to really fuck things up.

Long story short, people who go through other people's private stuff are fucked up. In my biased way, I'm 100% on your side

My advice, response firmly, or not at all.

 

[Aselith]

Hey, Ken Masters, quick question...did you fuck her?

 

[evil solrac v3.0]

Hey, Ken Masters, quick question...did you fuck her?

he still hasn't answered my question. how old are you Ken?

 

[fabricated backlash]

Don't respond

This! Cut all ties and set the record straight with your GF and your mother. Don't try to hide it, or you'll play into her hands.

 

[shanshan310]

Firmly in the 'respond' camp. If you do nothing she won't get what she did wrong, and will probably get madder/ tell her mum.

If we ever see each other again, which will mostly likely happen, I will be cordial to you because that is how I was raised but beyond that, you deserve nothing more from me.

???

 

[Log4Girlz]

Reminds me of a girl who I kissed in a spin the bottle game. Yeah kinda pudgy, but I like pudgy...but I didn't care for her near crazy personality. She flipped out at me for a comment I made...she knew I was taken so I mentioned something raunchy about my gf and she didn't take that well :/

 

[DarkHeartedKill]

I had this motorola phone where you could set it so certain areas require a 4 digit pass code to gain access to. Like the camera, messages, browser, etc. Every time you wanted to go to it, you'd have to type the pass code in. Anytime I'm no using my phone or ipod touch I lock it. That way if it gets in the wrong hands they can't use it. As for the girl, I wouldn't blame myself, she not only took your phone without asking, she invaded your privacy. And even worse she looked at what you and your GF were talking about. She said she had feelings for you, and she went through your GFs text messages. Seems a bit creepy if you ask me.

 

[ResidentDante]

Sounds like OP should've known that the girl had feelings for him. I mean, dude wtf, she invited you over for a weekend.

Yeah cause girls never utilize this if it's the other way around. They call and ask you out to do stuff all the time and friendzone you like hell, and yes they KNOW you have feelings for them.

 

[this guy]

You met her once before this? Once? Like a sister? Memorizing your password and reading through all your texts, then accusing you of a betrayal of trust? What am I even reading?

OP, this is what I think you should do. Either ignore the facebook message and never speak to her again, or reply back simply with, "Ok." She'll get pissed off and it will be hilarious. After that have wild sex with the gf.

 

[shanshan310]

Yeah cause girls never utilize this if it's the other way around. They call and ask you out to do stuff all the time and friendzone you like hell, and yes they KNOW you have feelings for them.

lol.Projecting~

 

[Canis lupus]

You shouldve known the girl had feelings for you when she invited you over. I wouldn't have had made fun of her with someone else, its painful that the chi town girl became aware of this.

 

[Bombadil]

What if she knows about your Neogaf account?

What if she's reading every word I'm typing right now.

You. Look. Fabulous.

 

[SquiddyCracker]

Sure I had feelings but the moment you made your’s clear, I put mine aside and all I wanted was your friendship. But you fucked up, and now I can never forget. I will probably forgive you to be honest, but that is because I respect the friendship between our mothers which has lasted for more than 40 years.



And what sucks that most is that despite the fact that we did not do anything cool or exciting, I had fun. I loved hanging out with you, and for the first time actually letting myself take the time to enjoy Chicago. I felt like I was hanging out my bros back in Cali. I did not have to watch what I said or try to be someone cool, I did not have to worry about holding back my sarcasm or giving a fuck about what you thought of me. I was comfortable just talking and hanging out. But now I will never be able to trust you again, and most likely everything you said and did that weekend was probably a huge lie and a game for you and ********. I trusted you completely which my fault and I could say that I have learned my lesson and bullshit about how I will never trust anyone so quickly again but letting other people suffer because of what you did is not right and fair to those whom actually are real and honest. The only thing that I do not understand is, what did I ever do to the two of you to deserve that? I could torture myself with that questions everyday but in the end, I know that it has nothing to do with me but rather the two of you.


So this is what is going to happen. This will stay between just you and I. You will act as if that weekend never happened and bullshit if it should ever come up. If we ever see each other again, which will mostly likely happen, I will be cordial to you because that is how I was raised but beyond that, you deserve nothing more from me. You hurt me dude, and all I ever wanted was a solid friendship. As for ******, what kind of women would ever to that to another. That is fuckin’ sick and disgusting. What she did, I would never wish upon my worst enemy, and I am one cold hearted bitch that does not get fucked with. This is where I would give you advice on how this reflects upon her character but I stopped giving a fuck about being a good friend and look out for you the moment you left Chicago. So give her a piece of advice on my behalf, next time she texts you, she should probably make sure that your text are not visible and that the person she is trashing is not in the room alone with your phone. Seriously dude, what the fuck where you thinking?! I thought you were smarter than that but apparently you did not think I was smart enough to find out. I would have been there for you whenever you need because I do not half ass my friendships but you threw that away, and for what?



By the way, your mother forgot to include the weight watchers membership in her gift.

Horrible person.

I would just ignore her, don't give her any attention, or else it might be interpreted as you having interest in her (romantically) by her.

"Why did you read through my texts?"
*swoon* He must care what I think, tehe

 

[jgminto]

I hope she finds this thread. I love drama.

But I'd just forget about it OP. You didn't do anything wrong and her looking through your texts it pretty creepy. And you weren't even that close right? That just makes the FB post even weirder.

 

[Phat Michael]

Dude who the fuck just goes through someone else's phone? Even with an SO that sounds petty and invasive.

the last 3 psycho gfs I had went through my phones, my emails, my call lists and my pc. those didnt end well.

 

[THRILLH0]

OP you're a douchebag. Not only were you sending petty, superficial texts about someone who was kind enough to be showing you around another city, but you then proceed to post a private facebook message for a bunch of strangers.

This in no way excuses her going through your phone but you're casting judgement from some pretty fucking low ground.

N.B. "she went through my shit first" is not a valid justification for your behaviour.

Edit: by the way I'm pretty sure your "haha fat chick needs weight watchers" comments were your way of placating an insecure girlfriend and masking your attraction to your mom's friend's daughter.

 

[Canis lupus]

OP you're a douchebag. Not only were you sending petty, superficial texts about someone who was kind enough to be showing you around another city, but you then proceed to post a private facebook message for a bunch of strangers.

This in no way excuses her going through your phone but you're casting judgement from some pretty fucking low ground.

N.B. "she went through my shit first" is not a valid justification for your behaviour.

I agree with this.

 

[shanshan310]

OP you're a douchebag. Not only were you sending petty, superficial texts about someone who was kind enough to be showing you around another city, but you then proceed to post a private facebook message for a bunch of strangers.

This in no way excuses her going through your phone but you're casting judgement from some pretty fucking low ground.

N.B. "she went through my shit first" is not a valid justification for your behaviour.

Edit: by the way I'm pretty sure your "haha fat chick needs weight watchers" comments were your way of placating an insecure girlfriend and masking your attraction to your mom's friend's daughter.

It sounds like he only sent a couple, the 'I'm bored' one, and the weight watchers one a long time ago - way before the weekend. People tend to be pretty honest with their SOs, but I do imagine that it may also have been a subtle attempt to make sure his gf knew he wasn't doing anything on the sly. I probably would have done the same thing.

Also she was pretty much a stranger reading through his personal conversations with his SO. By comparison telling his SO he was bored? Not really that evil.