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[Gallbaro]

What is this facebook and why do you have one?

 

[PflargBlarg]

Don't add them. I had the same thing happen where my boss had sent a friend's request and I ignored it for several weeks. He then comes up to me in person and says, "So I notice you haven't added me as a friend on Facebook. I see how it is." and walks away. I was like crap I gotta add him now.

It really limits what you can share on facebook. That could be a good thing though. :lol

Haha, what kind of child is your boss? Did he go cry in the corner after that?

 

[NYR]

If you ignore the add, make sure to add the boss to your ignore list.

At the very least, if it is ever brought up, you can say you deleted your account. Once you ignore someone, you won't come up when they try to search for you.

 

[ACESandEIGHTS]

I HATE this kind of stuff.

I added her, by the way.

 

[Baron Aloha]

Situations such as this are why I don't even bother with Facebook, Twitter, etc.

 

[parrotbeak]

The only reason I joined FB was because colleagues invited me. I hardly used it back then and it was only a handful of colleagues. Then my friends slowly joined and found me and started putting friend-only things on my wall. I pretty much just stopped using it so I could plead ignorance.

But I found out recently that you can make your wall visible to select friends, so that's what I've been doing lately. It was hard to stay off because my friends keep sending me messages and wall posts. It is a good way to keep conversations going with people you would only see once every couple weeks in real life.

 

[Yama]

Nothing is sacred anymore, that's always been true to an extent about the internet, but especially with all of these mainstream social networking sites. I never was much into them despite being social IRL, and the OP is the reason why. Oddities like this really are a killjoy. As stated, it isn't as if anything over the top is being posted, but just the principle of the matter.

 

[optimiss]

I accepted my boss's friend request and it has been all good. He follows me on twitter too.

 

[Angry Grimace]

 

[bjork]

Guy at work keeps asking me to add him on FB but I told him I don't want work people all up in my business. Whatever I tell you about my life while I'm actually AT work is all you get.

 

[tokkun]

I refused to add my parents and now when I go home I never hear the end of it.

 

[bjork]

I refused to add my parents and now when I go home I never hear the end of it.

I have a second profile for relatives. If they can't call and keep up to date with me, they don't need to via internet either.

 

[mollipen]

I have this situation right now, where one of my bosses sent me a friend request. I have a few other people from the office as friends, so I can't use the "no people from work" excuse.

Of course, with the new privacy settings, you CAN totally hide things from very specific people, from a per-post level to the entirety of your updates. As much as people have been bitching about them, the new settings really do allow for more control over what you share with whom.

 

[devilhawk]

It is fairly easy now to have friends list with different privacy settings. Create a Work list that shows practically nothing.

Or block your boss.

 

[eggandI]

bail out dude :lol

 

[btkadams]

honestly, just keep it there and wait until he asks you about it (if he does). then just politely say you aren't sure whether you should have coworkers on your facebook account because it could affect your job or your coworkers job. and if a month goes by and he hasnt said anything, THEN reject the invite.

 

[Hcoregamer00]

Co-workers and Facebook do not mix well. Simple as that.

It is not black and white like that.

My bosses and coworkers are on my friend's list on facebook. Since then we have gotten much closer and the work environment has become much better.

Just don't post stupid shit on there and you will be great.

 

[Parallax Scroll]

I have a direct report as a Facebook friend. I think he realizes I'm a "cool boss" who won't care what he posts.

But I wouldn't add my own bosses.

 

[Like the hat?]

i'm friends with my supervisor on xbox live

 

[SpacLock]

I won't even accept my girlfriend's request.

 

[StoOgE]

I just create a "work" category and a "family" category.

They get to see only photos that I post and nothing else.

 

[TAJ]

A boss never tries to become your facebook friend because he or she wants to be buddies. A boss wants to be your facebook friend to spy on you. Don't do it, ever.

THIS. Some businesses even try to dig shit up on social networks about people who are still only applicants.

 

[Medalion]

Keep your fiends close...your enemies closer... your employees closest.

 

[baultista]

You can choose to block people, if you'd like.

If he asks, just tell him that you shut off your facebook account, and hope that he doesn't look you up on someone else's.

 

[Eggo]

There is no question Facebook's powers can be used for evil, but it can also be used for good. I work at a large, political company, and I have many coworkers on Facebook. It helps to know what's going on in their lives and you always have something to small talk about. How's your kid? How was the vacation? How's your new motorcycle? Just recently I was invited to an industry holiday christmas party through Facebook that I would have missed out on otherwise. It's not just a bad thing... and yes I have my boss on FB as well.

 

[WickedAngel]

I have this situation right now, where one of my bosses sent me a friend request. I have a few other people from the office as friends, so I can't use the "no people from work" excuse.

Of course, with the new privacy settings, you CAN totally hide things from very specific people, from a per-post level to the entirety of your updates. As much as people have been bitching about them, the new settings really do allow for more control over what you share with whom.

The old settings offered almost exactly the same thing.

It is fairly easy now to have friends list with different privacy settings. Create a Work list that shows practically nothing.

Or block your boss.

This. Learn how to use Facebook, people. If something compromising is viewable by the wrong parties, you only have yourself to blame.

 

[teiresias]

Hadn't really looked into the group or list controls before. That's good to know, I'll have a look at that. It's not all that different from what I'm doing with contact groups on Google Voice from the sound of it.

 

[MIMIC]

And what's nice about the privacy features is that Facebook allows you to PREVIEW what your profile would look like with said privacy features in place.

You get to see what everyone else sees.

 

[The Last Wizard]

worlds will collide, don't do it

 

[teiresias]

I also like how you can choose how to privacy screen Status Updates as you post them - though I'm sure that doesn't work on the cell phone clients yet.

How do you do that preview thing, MIMIC? I can't find it.

In all honesty, I don't put anything bad on my facebook, but I don't really hide the fact that I'm gay on my facebook page, so some of my fan listings and occasionally posts by friends and some photos sort of give that away. I'm not really in the closet at work, but it just never comes up, so that was really my main concern. I hardly have the kind of social life that creates highly incriminating photos or anything :lol

 

[Ether_Snake]

I've received a Facebook friend request from my Branch Head here at work. He's ostensibly my boss and does my performance appraisals, but isn't really directly involved with the project work I do - ie. he's not a project manager or principal investigator or anything. In any case, we have a fine relationship and everything, but I'm still not really wanting him as a friend on Facebook. I don't post anything bad on Facebook as a general rule, but still it's the principle of the thing.

If I actually Ignore his friend request will he get an actual notice saying I've declined it or will the request just disappear and hopefully he'll forget he sent it? :lol

I bet the company asks him to send a friend request since he is your manager, so they can judge you.

Typical US corporations.

NEVER accept.

 

[teiresias]

I bet the company asks him to send a friend request since he is your manager, so they can judge you.

Typical US corporations.

NEVER accept.

I work for the Federal Government, so you're right, it was the probably the CIA, seeing if I'm still fit for my security clearance! :lol

 

[MIMIC]

How do you do that preview thing, MIMIC? I can't find it.

After you make your changes (about me, personal info, etc.) hit Preview

 

[teiresias]

Haha, thanks. Yeah, I noticed it right after posting that. The only thing the privacy stuff is really lacking is being able to hide people you've become fans of.

 

[Escape Goat]

its a trap.gif

 

[bjork]

i'm friends with my supervisor on xbox live

On Uno?

 

[y2dvd]

Haha, what kind of child is your boss? Did he go cry in the corner after that?

He said it half jokingly, but it was exactly that, he was also half serious lol.

 

[cvxfreak]

I refused to add my parents and now when I go home I never hear the end of it.

Know the feeling, but I actually added my mom on Facebook and wish I didn't. :/

 

[Atilac]

... Was there a message attached to it about getting a hair cut?

 

[SapientWolf]

I just create a "work" category and a "family" category.

They get to see only photos that I post and nothing else.

Yeah, the only danger is if they add your friends who don't know jack about privacy settings. Some of them may think it's hilarious to put their balls on people's foreheads when they're passed out and take pictures of it. If only there was a way to hide your friends list as well.