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[LosDaddie]

Ya know, this threads reminds me that I noticed one of my ex-GFs posted on a mutual friend's FB wall the other day. I was thinking of sending her a "What's Up" kind of message since our relationship ended well (I went back to college, she moved with her mother) and we hung out a few times after our break up, but I decided against it. I dunno, I just thought she would think it was weird I was sending her a message after 5yrs of no contact.

 

[Siebzehn50]

wow..I think my heart has taken a fucking beating.

I'm serious...I don't know what to do anymore. I mean..this is what I have been through in the past 3 years

- mother got cancer

- took 5 months to recover

- grandmother got leukemia

- looked after her for 9 months

- grandmother died

- my first love left me and broke my heart

- met someone else and fell in love again

- my father passes away from a sudden heart attack

- my gf leaves me because she thought the relationship was too exhausting and breaks my heart

-snapped my Achilles ten-dent

- lost my job

- find out my current ex is on rsvp chatting up guys

- my first love contacts me again

can anything else go wrong??...what the hell

I feel like im going to have a nervous break down and I dont know what to do.

I'm being serious, you might want to see somebody. Find a way to deal with this.

And don't see that woman, don't even reply. Just move on.

 

[Chuckie]

can anything else go wrong??...what the hell

Yes unfortunately. And that is exactly the thing we are warning you for.

So boost your confidence by thinking: "Heh.... chick wants me back...." and then realise you are too good for her and live on!

 

[aesop]

So she bailed on what was supposed to be your wedding day?

Ignore. Opening the lines of communication is opening yourself up to guaranteed heartbreak. Even if you see this chick on the street covered in flames, don't piss on her to put out the fire.

 

[mrmyth]

wow..I think my heart has taken a fucking beating.

I'm serious...I don't know what to do anymore. I mean..this is what I have been through in the past 3 years

- mother got cancer

- took 5 months to recover

- grandmother got leukemia

- looked after her for 9 months

- grandmother died

- my first love left me and broke my heart

- met someone else and fell in love again

- my father passes away from a sudden heart attack

- my gf leaves me because she thought the relationship was too exhausting and breaks my heart

-snapped my Achilles ten-dent

- lost my job

- find out my current ex is on rsvp chatting up guys

- my first love contacts me again

can anything else go wrong??...what the hell

I feel like im going to have a nervous break down and I dont know what to do.

Yes, more can go wrong. you can further fuck yourself up by going backwards with an ex that has already proven to be untrustworthy.

But at least it'll be self-inflicted pain.

 

[Zeppu]

wow..I think my heart has taken a fucking beating.

I'm serious...I don't know what to do anymore. I mean..this is what I have been through in the past 3 years

- ...

can anything else go wrong??...what the hell

I feel like im going to have a nervous break down and I dont know what to do.

Not to mention you lost your avatar privileges.

Spoiler

Sorry to hear about this bro, but really, best ignore the message especially if you, yourself, know you're vulnerable at this point. If you want to reply out of pure human decency make sure you tell her you're not interested in rekindling a relationship with a person who broke your heart. If necessary (for yourself) tell her that you feel sorry that she blew it, but she blew it and she'll just have to spend the rest of her life knowing she's not with you and it's all her fault.

Also, don't worry.

 

[Joel Was Right]

Yea I know..altho I am alot stronger this time around.

we broke up because she wanted me to move to canada with her and for me to sacrifice everything. we got engaged and were about to get married on the beach but she got cold feet at the last minute and ran a mile. I tried fighting for her but she treated me like horse shit..was really bad.

I eventually met someone else, fell in love again and started to get over her to the point where I totally forgot about her. but god damn it took me over a year to fully get over it.

I want to know what she wants. Aren't you curious too?

 

[TheRagnCajun]

Sounds like she's looking for quick dick. I think you should lead her on for a few weeks, then ultimately meet up with her and then not put out.

 

[aesop]

I want to know what she wants. Aren't you curious too?

She wants a shoulder to cry on while she looks for a new boyfriend and nothing more.

 

[Ashes]

When your in the negative zone, every little shit is gonna come out. Go for a walk or something.

If anything, remember the facts here. It's just an ex from three years ago just saying hi.

Heck, she might just be being nice. Let me look for some good motivationals to cheer you up.

edit: Damn... its harder then you think!

 

[red shoe paul]

Don't do it.
I've done it once before and regret it.

 

[Sho_Nuff82]

Hey guys

Well most of you know I just got out of a big break up...finally starting to move on thanks god.

do you any of you guys remember 2 or 3 years ago when I made that huge thread about how the love of my life broke my heart?

well she sent me an email today on facebook....I was holding a cup of coffee at the time and needless to say I now need to professionally clean my carpet

her msg

"I miss you so much "

her pic

Its funny the girl I just broke up with..got over me in a week and has already met someone else. and my first love still misses me huh...I guess that was true love

what the hell do I do?!?

My head...holy shit its like a fucking tornado!

Your new girl still looks better than both of them. Don't fuck this up.

 

[hsin]

The time it took to undo the damage she did. Worth it?

 

[Ashes]

whose his new girl?

 

[U2NUMB]

 

[Furoba]

You deserve better man, you know you won't get anything out of it, so don't be impulsive and just ignore it.

 

[Ashes]

Is it okay if I post a de-motivational one?

 

[SmokyDave]

is she ugly? and I was blinded by love wow haha

love is blind.

I will just ignore her. Like I said I dont have feelings for her anymore. but still wow 3 years later she contacted me!

Outside of GAF? Hell no.

Inside GAF? Sharp knees, way below my standards etc. etc.

But, you're a good looking guy, you're not in a spot to be starting something and if you were, it shouldn't be with an ex. Much as it pains me to say it (because she is hot), walk away this time.

 

[Mailenstein]

I feel like im going to have a nervous break down and I dont know what to do.

Seriously mate, just leave all this shit with her behind you. It's not worth it.

 

[wRATH2x]

wow..I think my heart has taken a fucking beating.

I'm serious...I don't know what to do anymore. I mean..this is what I have been through in the past 3 years

- mother got cancer

- took 5 months to recover

- grandmother got leukemia

- looked after her for 9 months

- grandmother died

- my first love left me and broke my heart

- I met someone else and fell in love again

- my father passes away from a sudden heart attack

- my gf leaves me because she thought the relationship was too exhausting and breaks my heart

-snapped my Achilles ten-dent

- lost my job

- find out my current ex is on rsvp chatting up guys

- my first love contacts me again

can anything else go wrong??...what the hell

I feel like im going to have a nervous break down and I dont know what to do.

Damn man, all the more reason NOT to get with her.

Go take a vacation and live the single life, be a player.

 

[Phaethon0017]

If you gotta ask, the answer is no.

 

[wRATH2x]

Outside of GAF? Hell no.

Inside GAF? Sharp knees, way below my standards etc. etc.

But, you're a good looking guy, you're not in a spot to be starting something and if you were, it shouldn't be with an ex. Much as it pains me to say it (because she is hot), walk away this time.

I can get why you don't listen to me since I can be a douchebag, but SmokeyDave is nothing of the sort. So listen to him!

 

[dskillzhtown]

So she bailed on what was supposed to be your wedding day?

Ignore. Opening the lines of communication is opening yourself up to guaranteed heartbreak. Even if you see this chick on the street covered in flames, don't piss on her to put out the fire.

Yeah, that is kind of a dealbreaker for any future contact. I change my vote to 'ignore'.

 

[Akuun]

Stay away. Sounds like she's using you as a cushion for something that happened to her.

 

[Rorschach]

Yeah, she's as Ann as the nose on plain's face.

 

[Lionheart1827]

 

[Sarye]

I was the sucker who got his heart broken then actually fell for it when my ex contacted me a couple of years later. I was planning to "hit it and quit it" just one more time. More as revenge than anything else.

She said we should go camping so I thought sharing a tent meant guaranteed sex. There was none. She strung me along then left me stranded in some town a few states away from home in the middle of the night.

Fuck that shit! Stay away from ex girlfriend who suddenly reach out to you.

whoa dude, what's the story with that? I just can't imagine anyone leaving you stranded like that. Did you ever find out what happened?

 

[LM4sure]

I don't find her attractive so you should ignore her.

 

[sprsk]

Sounds like your life needs focus. Perhaps you should forget about girls for a bit, focus on your career.

 

[Roelatie]

Ignore is the best way!

Ex = exit as in no going back!

 

[clav]

wow..I think my heart has taken a fucking beating.

I'm serious...I don't know what to do anymore. I mean..this is what I have been through in the past 3 years

- mother got cancer

- took 5 months to recover

- grandmother got leukemia

- looked after her for 9 months

- grandmother died

- my first love left me and broke my heart

- I met someone else and fell in love again

- my father passes away from a sudden heart attack

- my gf leaves me because she thought the relationship was too exhausting and breaks my heart

-snapped my Achilles ten-dent

- lost my job

- find out my current ex is on rsvp chatting up guys

- my first love contacts me again

can anything else go wrong??...what the hell

I feel like im going to have a nervous break down and I dont know what to do.

Stop connecting back with her then.

She's tying you back to the dark ages of your life.

Go see a doctor. Hang out with your friends.

 

[MojoRisin]

"..comes back and begs you to catch her everytime she falls."

 

[CharlieDigital]

What's this from?

 

[Lionheart1827]

What's this from?

Pro At Cooking :lol

 

[Medalion]

IGNORE HER

Your last thread was just... argh

You know she treats you like shit and is never there when you need her when times get tough.

 

[WarMacheen]

OP, watch this and learn.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mNLuq0lW50k

 

[BeEatNU]

ignore

what he said

 

[Ducarmel]

you guys are harsh all she said is "I miss you".

Of course there could be hundreds of possible meanings behind it, but until he says other wise take it as face value she just miss you nothing more.

 

[beelzebozo]

• she recently had some emotional relationship trauma
• this was likely coupled with some sort of life trauma (loss of a job, failed out of school, lacking options in general)
• feeling nostalgic for old, simpler times when things seemed copacetic
• contacts ex in an attempt to recapture vibrancy and simplicity of those times

be humane with her, but do not for one second think this is genuine emotion.

 

[Falch]

you guys are harsh all she said is "I miss you".

Of course there could be hundreds of possible meanings behind it, but until he says other wise take it as face value she just miss you nothing more.

This might be the most naive statement on the internet.

 

[Medalion]

you guys are harsh all she said is "I miss you".

Of course there could be hundreds of possible meanings behind it, but until he says other wise take it as face value she just miss you nothing more.

Did you even read the old thread this guy made about his "First-Love"? The girl is as cold as it comes, and toys with his emotions... the best thing he can do, since he sounds so desperate, is to avoid ALL contact with her. He will only end up repeating the same patterns if he responds to her again.

 

[Replicant]

is she ugly? and I was blinded by love wow haha

I swear, sometimes guys only pick girls based on the boob factors and just ignore the face. Some of the women that my friends are interested in are like.....knockers on stick. And no, they're not exactly a winner in personality so it's definitely not why they got chosen.

And yes, ignore her. See what most people here have said. It's not a genuine emotion and you're in a vulnerable place at the moment. Clearly not the time to go back to your ex.

 

[Ducarmel]

Did you even read the old thread this guy made about his "First-Love"? The girl is as cold as it comes, and toys with his emotions... the best thing he can do, since he sounds so desperate, is to avoid ALL contact with her. He will only end up repeating the same patterns if he responds to her again.

I did not read his first thread on her, but I did not say anything about him hooking up with her, all I said is to take what she said literally.

Does I miss you mean lets get back together (maybe) or I remember you sometimes (which is what I think she is saying)?

 

[Chorazin]

Email her back, talking about how much you missed her.

Pick a place to meet.

Wrap your arm in a burlap sack, soak arm in gasoline.

When she comes to the meeting place, light arm on fire.

Flaming Dragon Punch her in the vag.

Light a cigarette off your arm as you turn away.

Never see her again.

 

[Fantasmo]

The only time you meet up with an ex is when you're feeling alright and good in general. You can take it or leave it. You get her current life details, she's totally single, sex comes before relationship, you've both grown up, and you're fine with moving on.

You gotta be the man, and ready, not vulnerable. Unless the above is true you don't bother, world of hurt.

If all this is golden, you can have fun or even start over, your call.

Personal experience.

 

[Thagomizer]

At first, I was just going to join the chorus of "classy ignore."

After reading what she did to you, I'd be totally cool with it if you did the "my dick misses your mouth" suggestion from last page.

 

[Ashes]

Email her back, talking about how much you missed her.

Pick a place to meet.

Wrap your arm in a burlap sack, soak arm in gasoline.

When she comes to the meeting place, light arm on fire.

Flaming Dragon Punch her in the vag.

Light a cigarette off your arm as you turn away.

Never see her again.

Mindblown.jpg

 

[A Human Becoming]

I agree with the others who say hit it and quit it. It's the least she owes you.

 

[radios shipping overview]

hit it and then split

go out on top

 

[Washed_Out]

OP.

To be honest, it looks like your first love has gone through a hard time as of late.

Parents divorced, her mom is messing around with a guy your age. Her dad also has a gf your age as well. Her brother also had that street racing/jail thing.

She probably just needs something stable in her life right now.

:lol :lol I was thinking she looked like Brooke