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For some reason, we're not seeing a lot of stories of guys getting OUT of the friendzone.

I did. I got friendzoned by a fantastic little brunette called Laure who was in my class. We quickly became really close friends, and after weeks of hanging out together, I realized I loved her. So I asked her out (in the lamest possible way), to which she simply replied that she already got a boyfriend. I knew it of course, but I had to try. That was a bit sad, but I really enjoyed our friendship so I kept on seeing her and having fun with her. She was really super nice and not shitty about it (as in she never tried to take advantage of the situation like these people in the pictures the OP posted). I was the one with stupid hope.
When they finally broke up months later, nothing changed, I was still in the zone. It took her the rest of the year to realize that she was into me as well. We finally hooked up at a party and stayed together for two super nice years before we parted ways.

It's a super classic and boring story in retrospect but what's funny is that I never thought about it as being frinedzoned until I read this thread. And I never thought it was that big a deal. I still don't, actually.
 
Not really a friend zone story but more of a denying myself an opportunity story. It's funny to remember how socially awkward I was back then.

Around 3 or 4 years ago, I was practicing talking with random people in the mall (yeah, I used to cringe at the thought of having to converse with strangers). Anyway, there was this cute girl working at a Gap store. I figured, why the hell not and tried to strike up a conversation with her.

I started off by saying something along the lines of "Hey, I like your style! Could you help me find something in similar taste as gift for my sister?" She was really nice and we started making small talk about school, life, etc. I felt pretty good about myself at this point and was thinking "Hey, this isn't so bad." Anyway, I ended the conversation with "Well, I don't think what I'm looking for is in here... I'll probably go check out some other stores." She responded, "Well, I can definitely come with you after I'm done working my shift!"

At that point I literally froze up and was thinking "Wait, what just happened?" I was so shocked that I said "Ah, it's okay but thanks for your help" and scurried out of the store. It was a terrible response on my part, but I used it as motivation to keep moving forward.
 
It semeed like she just had bf, no frenzones, did u ask her out after she broke up with her bf, if not then u mightve had a chance be4hand.
 
You don't need to be a douche to stay away from the friendzone. You gotta make moves and be confident. I'd go for the kiss on the first date if you're feeling the girl. There needs to be some excitement otherwise the girls will get bored fast.

Personally I don't like being just friends with girls I'm seeing 1 on 1. It's just frustrating. If a girl is not feeling it I move on and not stay in contact. I've also friendzoned several girls and might have to friendzone another girl soon.

When you start dating girls that are over 24 sex is pretty important when avoiding the friendzone. Initiate that shit as soon as possible.
 
Haven't been friendzoned since probably sophomore year of high school. I gained some confidence and have been pretty good with letting girls know my intentions from the get go. My best advice is to just be confident and be aware the girl you are courting is not the last girl on the planet. Trust me, there will be more opportunities for you if she denies you.

I have, however, friendzoned plenty of girls I had no interest in/didn't think would make good relationship material (aka crazy girls). Personally, I've never been into one night stands or sex flings with girls so I never really took advantage of whenever a girl got a craving for my dong.

But if you're into that, go crazy
 
To this day I am friend-zoned to the MAX with my best friend, who a girl that I once considered marrying. It was instantaneous, since she met me through me dating her best friend, and I tell her all my "deeds" with other women. She says she would never do anything with me lol.

Some of the friendzone holdovers from my days as a scrub still have me shaking my head.

One time back in college, this girl called me to see if I wanted to watch a movie. She had some new dvd, and she offered to bring it over and watch it at my place.

When she got there, she randomly brought up how she was interested in some new guy. It was completely out of the blue. Like, "Oh, by the way, I'm interested in this guy from one of my classes." And it didn't even lead into a funny story; that was just it.

I figure she was trying to make absolutely sure I didn't get the "wrong idea" since she had asked if she could come over and watch a movie at my apartment. She was going to be sure I didn't try to lean in and make out with her during the movie. Actually, at that point I probably would have; I'd gotten a lot better by then.

Anyway, I ended up hooking up with one of her friends a short while later, so that was that. It's the one friendzone that still kinda stings, because I think if I could meet her again in 2004, but with my 2012 mindset, she would have been my girlfriend inside of a week.
 
Some of the friendzone holdovers from my days as a scrub still have me shaking my head.

One time back in college, this girl called me to see if I wanted to watch a movie. She had some new dvd, and she offered to bring it over and watch it at my place.

When she got there, she randomly brought up how she was interested in some new guy. It was completely out of the blue. Like, "Oh, by the way, I'm interested in this guy from one of my classes." And it didn't even lead into a funny story; that was just it.

I figure she was trying to make absolutely sure I didn't get the "wrong idea" since she had asked if she could come over and watch a movie at my apartment. She was going to be sure I didn't try to lean in and make out with her during the movie. Actually, at that point I probably would have; I'd gotten a lot better by then.

Anyway, I ended up hooking up with one of her friends a short while later, so that was that. It's the one friendzone that still kinda stings, because I think if I could meet her again in 2004, but with my 2012 mindset, she would have been my girlfriend inside of a week.

I'm really not sure what that would do. If she didn't like you, she didn't like you. How would you figure that more experience might help? (Not being facetious, just honestly curious.)
 
I'm really not sure what that would do. If she didn't like you, she didn't like you. How would you figure that more experience might help? (Not being facetious, just honestly curious.)

I am much, much better with girls now than I was in 2004. I did have multiple chances to make things happen when I first met her, but I didn't, and we became friends, and that's all she wrote. It's not that I struck out; it's that I didn't even swing.

With a do-over, I could knock that ball out of the park.
 
I am much, much better with girls now than I was in 2004. I did have multiple chances to make things happen when I first met her, but I didn't, and we became friends, and that's all she wrote. It's not that I struck out; it's that I didn't even swing.

With a do-over, I could knock that ball out of the park.

Oh, I see. You kind of made it seem that she didn't find you physically attractive or something in your original post. Yeah, it sucks if the opportunity was there and it's gone, but there's nothing you can do about it really. Just got to move on.
 
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I've been friend zone'd before but I know it's because I'm overweight lol. Like others in this thread have said, if I lose some weight and tone up I would have no problem getting with the girls who have "friend zone'd" me.
 
the only friendzone i've ever been in (well at least since early highschool, i think i was in one for a bit there) is one i put myself in on purpose. this moderate looking asian girl banged my friend like five years back, and a couple years later started throwing herself at me. i had zero interest mainly because this friend of mine is the type where i just don't want to go where he's already been. also she really isn't that cute, but i do like her as a friend and didn't want to hurt her feelings. so i sort of manipulated her into thinking she was too good for me. it took a good deal of work.

for example, one day i was at work, and she started texting me how she was going to come over, and that she was horny. but at the same time, she had her ex (not my friend, a later bf of hers) who she was still sort of hung up on. i was trying to figure out a way to blow her off, when her ex apparently txted her and she decided to go to his place instead. she told me there was a possibility of this happening, but never told me when she decided, she just didn't show up. i was relieved, but then i played it like i was so betrayed the next morning when she called, and i couldn't believe she chose her ex over me. that made her think she had the upper hand. slowly but surely the relationship has changed into this thing where she thinks i really want her, and i think she kinda likes that feeling of power.

thing is, this whole scenario really kinda floats my boat. the thought of this girl, who i felt was below my standards, treating me like she's too good for me. i know that sounds weird as hell, but i guess i'm just a freak. i totally love hanging out with her now, because she tries to make me jealous, which turns me on, but i don't really give a fuck, so the jealousy part never kicks in, like it would with someone i really wanted to date.

i guess i have a friendzone fetish? i need to start a website for this before it gets big.
 
I've been friend zone'd before but I know it's because I'm overweight lol. Like others in this thread have said, if I lose some weight and tone up I would have no problem getting with the girls who have "friend zone'd" me.

There's probably a bunch of people out there that can't even do that when toned.
 
So, after telling my friend zone story earlier I ended up finding the girl I mentioned on Facebook. Turns out, she's returned from Vermont and works in a tattoo parlor 45 minutes away from me.

I've already shot her a message and gave her my #, which I have no doubt about her replying to/calling me as we were great friends for years. I just have to decide whether I want to be like "Oh, by the way, I was madly in love with you when I was younger and have compared every woman I've dated to you over the years."

Yeah, no, I won't say that lol.

And so this leads to...

Why Men and Women Can't Be Just Friends
 
So, after telling my friend zone story earlier I ended up finding the girl I mentioned on Facebook. Turns out, she's returned from Vermont and works in a tattoo parlor 45 minutes away from me.

I've already shot her a message and gave her my #, which I have no doubt about her replying to/calling me as we were great friends for years. I just have to decide whether I want to be like "Oh, by the way, I was madly in love with you when I was younger and have compared every woman I've dated to you over the years."

Yeah, no, I won't say that lol.

And so this leads to...

Why Men and Women Can't Be Just Friends

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lol @ all the cocky bitches who blatantly friend zoned all these faggots and are so sure they could get the dick if they wanted. Fucking whores just need these beta's to stroke their ego and hold their purse when they fuck other guys.

Yeah this stuff doesn't perpetuate itself or make guys who let themselves be used whine and whine and whine. If you're in any sort of fucking "friend zone" it's your own damn fault. Either own up to your feelings (get rejected or date her) or accept that you're a fucking coward banking on some far off notion that one day she will just wake up, think you're hot shit and finally suck your dick.
 
Ice cold. My being friend zoned has always been my fault. It's cool though. Live and learn and what not.
I've pretty much gotten over it and we're good friends now. She complains to me that our other friend that she friendzoned isn't really into her anymore, so I guess I should be glad she didn't string me along, even though she easily could have.
 
I've pretty much gotten over it and we're good friends now. She complains to me that our other friend that she friendzoned isn't really into her anymore, so I guess I should be glad she didn't string me along, even though she easily could have.

Pretty much. She was probably considering your feelings when she told you that, even if it sounded harsh at the time.
 
Reading these friend zone stories are hilarious, here is the harsh truth guys, she was never attracted to you in the first place, looks do matter in the actually
 
Reading these friend zone stories are hilarious, here is the harsh truth guys, she was never attracted to you in the first place, looks do matter in the actually

Yeah, basically. And in some cases, if you just don't look good (face wise) then it's not going to happen no matter what you do.
 
Yeah, basically. And in some cases, if you just don't look good (face wise) then it's not going to happen no matter what you do.

I feel bad for guys trying to analyze step by step what mistake they made and where they could have changed something for a different outcome. If a girl likes you (SHE IS SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO YOU) you can be yourself and not worry about being friendzoned. I've seen plenty guys who are very Mr. Nice Guy to girls and they end up smanging them the same day.


Looks matter folks, it's not all that matters but it 99.99999999% of the time if a girl isn't instantly attracted to you in the first place you have no shot. I don't know what shit advice you guys are getting on GAF or other dating websites.

This whole "I won't be nice and the girl will surely want my dick" theory is only for those who come off as desperate and throw themselves on puddles for the girl to walk on.
 
I feel bad for guys trying to analyze step by step what mistake they made and where they could have changed something for a different outcome. If a girl likes you (SHE IS SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO YOU) you can be yourself and not worry about being friendzoned. I've seen plenty guys who are very Mr. Nice Guy to girls and they end up smanging them the same day.


Looks matter folks, it's not all that matters but it 99.99999999% of the time if a girl isn't instantly attracted to you in the first place you have no shot. I don't know what shit advice you guys are getting on GAF or other dating websites.

This whole "I won't be nice and the girl will surely want my dick" theory is only for those who come off as desperate and throw themselves on puddles for the girl to walk on.

Well, people want a quick fix. Looks are permanent, at least face wise. And instead of going to the gym and getting in shape, which will take months, people think learning how to be a jerk or pick-up line is going to do something.

It's just denial.
 
I've just realised that I've friendzoned a few people. lmao...That awkward moment.


I feel bad for guys trying to analyze step by step what mistake they made and where they could have changed something for a different outcome. If a girl likes you (SHE IS SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO YOU) you can be yourself and not worry about being friendzoned. I've seen plenty guys who are very Mr. Nice Guy to girls and they end up smanging them the same day.


Looks matter folks, it's not all that matters but it 99.99999999% of the time if a girl isn't instantly attracted to you in the first place you have no shot. I don't know what shit advice you guys are getting on GAF or other dating websites.

This whole "I won't be nice and the girl will surely want my dick" theory is only for those who come off as desperate and throw themselves on puddles for the girl to walk on.

This is complete bullshit. Attraction is not necessarily instant and neither is it based on physical attributes (especially for girls in my experience).
 
Pretty much, and the only reason I know this is because I'm not a good looking guy. =[

With this attitude here, you've already lost. I'm not saying confidence will magically get you every girl you want, but its a damn good start.

Also - becoming physically fit is another way to boost your confidence levels.
 
Reading these friend zone stories are hilarious, here is the harsh truth guys, she was never attracted to you in the first place, looks do matter in the actually

From what I've seen, it has far less to do with looks and more to do with personality and confidence. I've seen some large, and less than attractive guys pick up girls and I've seen some decent looking guys who have absolutely shit luck. The difference has always been how they talk to people, whether they were interesting or funny or whether they talked like a robot reading a script.

Girls aren't as shallow as "Nice guys" want to believe. It's easier on the ego to blame something you can't control (attractiveness) rather than blame something you can control (clothing, topics of interest, humor, body fitness, etc).
 
With this attitude here, you've already lost. I'm not saying confidence will magically get you every girl you want, but its a damn good start.

Also - becoming physically fit is another way to boost your confidence levels.

That's true, but some people just don't have a good looking face no matter what. You can get fit, and have a great body, but if you don't have the face, then it's still a problem.


From what I've seen, it has far less to do with looks and more to do with personality and confidence. I've seen some large, and less than attractive guys pick up girls and I've seen some decent looking guys who have absolutely shit luck. The difference has always been how they talk to people, whether they were interesting or funny or whether they talked like a robot reading a script.

Girls aren't as shallow as "Nice guys" want to believe. It's easier on the ego to blame something you can't control (attractiveness) rather than blame something you can control (clothing, topics of interest, humor, etc).

Men and women are both shallow, for the most part. It's just how it is. You want to be with someone that looks good.
 
With this attitude here, you've already lost. I'm not saying confidence will magically get you every girl you want, but its a damn good start.

Also - becoming physically fit is another way to boost your confidence levels.

I am physically fit, I'm in really good shape actually, but I'm just not a good looking guy. I'm confident about my personality, but I realize/know that if a girl isn't into me at first then she just won't be into me.

That's true, but some people just don't have a good looking face no matter what. You can get fit, and have a great body, but if you don't have the face, then it's still a problem.




Men and women are both shallow, for the most part. It's just how it is. You want to be with someone that looks good.

True, though personally I prefer and have dated women that aren't "pretty" but have a great personality.
 
Don't have any friendzone stories where I've been the friendzonee. Been used for sex over a period of a year with someone I was madly in love with, but I'd consider that something different.

Two girls friendzoned themselves on me, I guess.

The first I could tell right away she had a crush on me, but everyone said I was being egotistical and got given "girls aren't going to be lovestruck for you". That lasted three years (where I saw her maybe twice a year at group gatherings) until she saw me making out with someone else and locked herself in the bathroom crying. And she was engaged to someone else at this time. Had no sympathy for her at that point and just basked in my vindication that I wasn't being narcissistic and imagining things.

Second was that same girl I was making out with - we met at that party, hooked up a couple of times but it was just that. Stopped being attracted to her fairly quickly. She held a torch for me for six months after without me realising, despite not seeing me in that period (I was at Uni). One of my friends found out when she was asked "just what does [Suairyu] think of me?!". Thankfully, my friend put her down for me so it couldn't spiral out of control. Found out about the whole thing two months after that.

But normally, I find it rare that I'm attracted to people or them to me without it being mutual. If you don't detect that chemistry, your attraction doesn't really grow, right? The rare times where I've been attracted to someone or vice versa and it hasn't been mutual, everyone has been upfront and killed it in a very short amount of time, resulting in some genuine friendships after the fact once everyone knew where they stood.

Ice cold.
In the refreshing sense. Everyone needs to be this honest. You'd get a lot less guys being "friendzoned" if they were upfront about shit.
 
That's true, but some people just don't have a good looking face no matter what. You can get fit, and have a great body, but if you don't have the face, then it's still a problem.




Men and women are both shallow, for the most part. It's just how it is. You want to be with someone that looks good.

I disagree with you here mate. Girls prioritise different things in their partners. Men generally tend to prioritise looks while women tend to prioritise with less tangible things such as confidence, humour etc...(Note: By prioritise I do not mean preclude other factors)

I have female friends who have been with not attractive guys and this is the trend you will notice pretty much anywhere. Like the previous poster said, Girls want so much more than looks.


I am physically fit, I'm in really good shape actually, but I'm just not a good looking guy. I'm confident about my personality, but I realize/know that if a girl isn't into me at first then she just won't be into me.



True, though personally I prefer and have dated women that aren't "pretty" but have a great personality.

There's attraction and then there's actually having feelings for someone. Fact is, girls generally take much longer to develop feelings for someone. So there's more to it than just the initial attraction.
 
That's true, but some people just don't have a good looking face no matter what. You can get fit, and have a great body, but if you don't have the face, then it's still a problem.

Let's be perfectly honest. How often do you look around and think, "Jesus Christ, that person is ugly!"? For me, it seldom happens. I see a lot of average people, and a few good looking people. Seldom do I see actual honest to god "ugly" people.

Moreover, how often have you looked at a girl and thought she was hot and a friend thought she was forgettable? How about the reverse?

Put two and two together now. That's reality.

Men and women are both shallow, for the most part. It's just how it is. You want to be with someone that looks good.

Wrong. Normal people want to be with someone they're attracted to. Insecure people want to be with someone that looks good. There's a big difference.

If you want to be with someone that looks good, you want a hood ornament so people will think you're "worth" more than you really are.
 
The only painful friendzone experience i ever had was when i was out with this chick and we ran into one of her friends. The friend looked at her, then at me and asked her "oh so thats you?"

It took the chick a few seconds to realize what her friend was asking but then she said "oh heavens no. he's too short." which wouldnt have bothered me except for the fact that she's a good 5" shorter than i am.
I instantly knew where i stood right then and if i were the jackass then that I am now i wouldve left her to find her own way home.

She still tries to hang out with me all the time whenever i come home, but i just blow her off on general principle. Either that or i just make plans w/ her and then not show up.
 
Let's be perfectly honest. How often do you look around and think, "Jesus Christ, that person is ugly!"? For me, it seldom happens. I see a lot of average people, and a few good looking people. Seldom do I see actual honest to god "ugly" people.

Moreover, how often have you looked at a girl and thought she was hot and a friend thought she was forgettable? How about the reverse?

Put two and two together now. That's reality.



Wrong. Normal people want to be with someone they're attracted to. Insecure people want to be with someone that looks good. There's a big difference.

If you want to be with someone that looks good, you want a hood ornament so people will think you're "worth" more than you really are.

You fucking nailed it.
 
Ugly people can do okay if they are powerful: either physically, socially or financially.

Also, shallowness isn't really real.

The only painful friendzone experience i ever had was when i was out with this chick and we ran into one of her friends. The friend looked at her, then at me and asked her "oh so thats you?"

It took the chick a few seconds to realize what her friend was asking but then she said "oh heavens no. he's too short." which wouldnt have bothered me except for the fact that she's a good 5" shorter than i am.
I instantly knew where i stood right then and if i were the jackass then that I am now i wouldve left her to find her own way home.

She still tries to hang out with me all the time whenever i come home, but i just blow her off on general principle. Either that or i just make plans w/ her and then not show up.

Next time she initiates contact, say something like "Sorry, I'm short... on time."
 
I'm just saying that people have different ceilings, looks wise. Sometimes the best someone can look is a 7 or 8 no matter what, unless they underwent plastic surgery or something crazy.

People can develop feelings for others, maybe after knowing them for a while, but that girl/guy in the bar/coffee shop/etc. isn't going to have any feelings for you. You can be the funniest guy in the world, but if you look like Steve Wright, then you're not going to get anywhere.

You both have good points, but I think you're not giving enough credit to people's looks.
 
I think some people are interpreting the friend zone thing as being bad 100% of the time. Yeah, I have some regrets, but I don't ever regret being friends with said person. If you can't be friends with someone, then there's no hope of a real relationship ever developing anyway.

While there's things I want to get off my chest, and will at some point, I'm past the point of needing said feelings to be returned. I'm happy with her remaining as my friend, as she has a boyfriend that she's been dating for years at this point and I'm not some war monger out to break them up or anything. I wouldn't want to do that to another dude.

A lot of the stories being shared here are in the past tense, as well, so consider that. People make mistakes, or things don't go like they expect them to, and then they grow and move on from it.
 
Shyness is an emotional state. So is confidence.

Confidence is something you can create. It is not a thing that somebody gave you or something that you missed out on.

You can create it at this very moment if you want. Think of a time that you were confident at something and try to remember what you did with your mind and your body at that time.

Once you figure that out you have your "recipe" for confidence.

Well if you're not confident about yourself because of your looks then there's nothing you can really do about that (in some cases) lol.

I'm not ugly but I'm pretty thin and it destroys my confidence. I don't have time to go on a bulk-out routine/diet/exercise because I'm swamped by school/extra-curricular activities as an engineer. Le sigh.
 
To those saying looks matters. It does and it doesn't. I honestly think girls are way less picky with people they know vs. strangers in terms of looks.

But we're in a friend-zone thread so we're dealing with people that women know. If you're persistent, a nice enough guy, but also one who has confidence and isn't being run over or clingy then you can get her even if you're ugoh.

Not really talking from personal experience but I know a relative who said she wasn't really attracted to her now BF - but he was so caring nice funny yadayada that she started to like him.
 
"Friendzone" is the worst meme ever and i could explain a lot on why, but then again i will let you people just think that i quoted almost every Devolution post on this thread =P


Also, guys who don't think women and men can't be friends only know one female all his life, right ?
Because otherwise they would be totaly wanting to cheat on their girlfriends.
And ... what happens to gay men ?

....what happens to .... BISEXUAL MEN ????????
 
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