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*text message* 5 min later: "ARE YOU IGNORING ME??"

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What an age of communication we live in!

I just got into a spat with a relative about how I didn't respond to a message she sent right away. I was at my computer researching stuff concerning publishing, and I saw a second text message saying: "Oh, so now you're not responding to me?" Are you serious?

I'll admit my phone is on my person all of the time except if I'm sleeping, cooking, or in the bathroom. I'm not really focused on the notifications I get from it, though. Sometimes it takes me a while, and sometimes I'll reply right away. It's just crazy that her first thought came to that. I've seen few variations of this every once in a while from people: "Are you ignoring me?" "Are you mad?" "Are you there?"

Chill out, please.

/rant
 
It's not her fault.

You reinforced her behavior and then you stopped on this occasion.

As you admitted, you nearly always have your phone on you.

If you immediately reply to someone's text 10 times in a row, delaying a response for 5 minutes on the eleventh text may elicit this form of response.
 
That "sent/read" shit on the iphone is annoying. you can turn it off, but for women, they think its.. 'suspicious'

I CANT PLAY BF3 IN PEACE.
 
If only modern phones had the means to initiate some form of synchronous communication to get an answer immediately.
 
If its urgent I usually call.

Don't expect instant replies from people but its nice when it happens fairly promptly.
 
My friends and SO often gripe that I don't answer their messages (not just texts, but IRC too, etc). My best friend in particular gets driven up the wall when I stop responding in the middle of a conversation.
 
I learned a long time ago that it is better for me to just leave me phone be from time to time. Often after work I will put it in my room and not even look at it for a few hours. Only time I will break that is if it keeps ringing. This whole mentality of texting can just become tiresome and annoying some of the time. Especially when talking with others in person. I actually had a friend get upset at me once that I was interrupting his text convo buy trying to continue a conversation. I was baffled, sorry man I didn't realize that as soon as you get a text all things in the real world around you are put on pause.
 
kadotsu said:
If only modern phones had the means to initiate some form of synchronous communication to get an answer immediately.
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Yes, this thread will now be about MY pet peeve. People who send text messages, don't get replies, and act like there is no other way to possibly get in contact with the person. They will wait hours, "man I really need to hear from them." Plans ruined, schedules in shambles.

IT IS A PHONE

CALL THEM ON THE DAMN PHONE
 
kadotsu said:
If only modern phones had the means to initiate some form of synchronous communication to get an answer immediately.
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This sort of insane witchcraft would never catch on. ;)

Bombadil said:
It's not her fault.

You reinforced her behavior and then you stopped on this occasion.

As you admitted, you nearly always have your phone on you.

If you immediately reply to someone's text 10 times in a row, delaying a response for 5 minutes on the eleventh text may elicit this form of response.
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This is a fair point, I suppose, even if I didn't purposely reinforce the behavior. It's still kind of amazing how some people today get kind of riled up about it.
 
I've always been lazy about responding to messages so for the most part if someone messages me they already know I won't be responding. It's worked out well.
 
I always leave my phone in another room. And check it periodically.

I'm so happy I have a wife who feels the same way. I just messaged her on FB but I know she's at work so a reply may not come quickly.
 
Tathanen said:
Yes, this thread will now be about MY pet peeve. People who send text messages, don't get replies, and act like there is no other way to possibly get in contact with the person. They will wait hours, "man I really need to hear from them." Plans ruined, schedules in shambles.

IT IS A PHONE

CALL THEM ON THE DAMN PHONE
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Don't want to be that annoying person that keeps nagging people.
 
It's much more frustrating when you're chatting using an IM client, and they take 10-15 minutes to respond, and they say "I was just sitting, not doing anything really." and then do it again right away.
 
You should e-mail back "What the fuck do you want? I'm fucking busy. If it's important, call. If not, I'll get back to you when I'm good and damn ready."


Just copy/paste that OP. You'll never get that bullshit again.
 
I used to work with someone I've been friends with for years and a couple of years ago he started seeing a woman and I asked how it was going with her. He said "look at this" and he showed me his phone. The string of text messages went something like this: -

"Hi hun. Hope you're having a good day at work"
"Hello?"
"OK, don't talk to me then!"
"What are you ignoring me?"
"I'm sorry"
"Oh, fuck you. I knew you were just like all the rest."

Except there was probably 3 times as many messages as that. They were all sent from the time he went to work (about 7:30 AM) to the time we took our morning break (11 AM).
 
Yeah this bugs me too. My solution is I often take a while to text back. People eventually learn that I take forever so it minimizes these sorts of things.

I'm also using this thread as an excuse to whine about people that want to have full conversations over text. If people want to talk I'd much rather do it face to face. You can convey so much more in a much shorter time period.
 
Ken K in the Fresh!!! said:
some people purposely allow text messages to "marinate" before replying. I know I'm guilty of it some times. stupid thing to do, I know
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I've done this with regards to calling back if I don't get an immediate reply, admittedly. Finding that perfect balance of time between "been long enough" and "stop being creepy." :p
 
Shalashaska161 said:
I'm also using this thread as an excuse to whine about people that want to have full conversations over text. If people want to talk I'd much rather do it face to face. You can convey so much more in a much shorter time period.
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I pay per text, so people chatting me up non-stop instead of sending one-off texts always rustles my jimmies. I just don't use text messages that way. Get on google talk if you want to chat, text messages are for alerts.
 
Snkfanatic said:
I learned a long time ago that it is better for me to just leave me phone be from time to time. Often after work I will put it in my room and not even look at it for a few hours. Only time I will break that is if it keeps ringing. This whole mentality of texting can just become tiresome and annoying some of the time. Especially when talking with others in person. I actually had a friend get upset at me once that I was interrupting his text convo buy trying to continue a conversation. I was baffled, sorry man I didn't realize that as soon as you get a text all things in the real world around you are put on pause.
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same here. I will just throw my phone on my desk for hours at a time. Its just too much sometimes.
 
I hate this. My mom does this, she'll send a text and if I don't have my phone handy or I'm busy I don't respond immediately. She will then call me whining about how I ignore her and don't want to bond with her. She also does this with chain messages if I don't respond.
 
Ugh the worst is when people ask the dumbest shit in a text and I just can't even pretend to entertain dumbass questions like that.

Them: "What are you having for lunch?"

Me: "Eating at that Falafel place"

Them: "Oh, is it good??"

Me: "No, asshole, it tastes like shit."

Them: "Hahaha yeah I guess that was silly......what do they have on the menu?"

Then I refuse to text them back for the next 5 hours.
 
I curse the world for making texting the primary form of distance communication. I hate it. People even get so caught up in it that it becomes part of their personality and prefer to text than to talk face to face.
 
-Yeti said:
This is my Mom on a regular basis:

"Hi"

*One Minute Passes*

"HELLO"

*One Minute Passes*

*Are you ok?"
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My mom used to do this. I told her that every time she communicates with me, I won't respond for at least a month. And then I didn't talk to her again for several months, and I kept up that pace for a few years. Now I only get one message every month or so. And every month or three so I call her to make sure she's still doing OK.
 
televator said:
I curse the world for making texting the primary form of distance communication. I hate it. People even get so caught up in it that it becomes part of their personality and prefer to text than to talk face to face.
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Ehhh...I prefer texting if I really don't have shit to say to you except one thing. Small talk sucks.
 
I had a guy do this to me just last week. Thats when I started to ignore him and deleted his number. I wasn't ignoring him or taking too long to respond either. He just wanted immediate responses.
 
usea said:
My friends and SO often gripe that I don't answer their messages (not just texts, but IRC too, etc). My best friend in particular gets driven up the wall when I stop responding in the middle of a conversation.
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I would get driven up the wall when somebody just stops responding mid-conversation, but only on IM. I would at least tell them "brb" if I was going to do that.

But texting has specific applications.
Right:
me: Do you need a ride?
other guy: yes

Wrong:
me: My co-worker is a dick I need some advice.
 
Steelrain said:
Ugh the worst is when people ask the dumbest shit in a text and I just can't even pretend to entertain dumbass questions like that.

Them: "What are you having for lunch?"

Me: "Eating at that Falafel place"

Them: "Oh, is it good??"

Me: "No, asshole, it tastes like shit."

Them: "Hahaha yeah I guess that was silly......what do they have on the menu?"

Then I refuse to text them back for the next 5 hours.
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:lol

I'm not really big on small talk, but sometimes I engage in it.
 
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