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*text message* 5 min later: "ARE YOU IGNORING ME??"

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This is annoying, my texts from my mother are like this.

The work version of send an email, send an IM in 10 minutes wondering if I got their email is even more infuriating for me. Yes, I got your email. Yeah, I probably read it. No, I don't have time to action it at this very second, I'll get back to you when I do have time.
 
I don't get mad about a few minutes. If a text is time-sensitive, I try to respond quickly. If not, I may take time. My pet peeve is when you text someone about plans for the night, and thy don't respond until hours later when I've already changed plans to hang out with someone else.
 
Didn't know so many people hated texting. It's fun (especially if it's dirty!) but there's no need to freak out if someone doesn't respond to you for a while.
 
JCX said:
I don't get mad about a few minutes. If a text is time-sensitive, I try to respond quickly. If not, I may take time. My pet peeve is when you text someone about plans for the night, and thy don't respond until hours later when I've already changed plans to hang out with someone else.
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Why wouldn't you call before changing plans?
 
The worst is when people are sending updates of their day or like thinking out loud by texting you. Or when you have plans to meet up with someone and they just try and have a text conversation with you all day it's like 'if we just text now we will have nothing to say to each other later.'

I'm not saying only women do this but in my experience women are the only ones that do this.
 
I just accept that a text from a female friend or GF needs to be responded to almost immediately. I won't do it in the car, but pretty much anywhere else is fair game.

Obviously it's anecdotal, but I've never had a male friend follow his first text with "Bro, why you ignoring me?"
 
My apartment has crap reception, so I might not get a text for hours anyway. I also don't like text conversations, so I'll also intentionally pad my response time unless it is a simple question that needs an immediate answer. I guess I'm a bit of a luddite, because I'd rather just talk over IM or IRC with a real keyboard.
 
I fucking hate this. My mother does it all the time.

My philosophy, which I've explained to her and several others on many occasions, is that if it's really important, you'll call me. Otherwise, it's not important and I'll respond to it when I have time / feel like it.
 
LordCanti said:
Obviously it's anecdotal, but I've never had a male friend follow his first text with "Bro, why you ignoring me?"
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In my experience, guys won't ask you why you're ignoring them, but they'll ask their friends. "Why hasn't she responded to my text message? Is she mad? She's ignoring me, isn't she?" :P
 
I feel like these kind of texts mostly come from people on vacation or who are unemployed. Basically people with a lot of free time who can't fathom why anyone else would be occupied doing anything else.

Recently my ex texted me while she was on vacation asking how I was doing. Shortly after responding I fell asleep on my couch. Woke up and saw that within 2 hours she had an entire conversation with herself beginning with "do you think I'm annoying", leading to "fine, I'll never text you", ending with "remember how great we used to be?!"

I'm fascinated by people who can have an entire text conversation without someone responding.
 
Pau said:
Didn't know so many people hated texting. It's fun (especially if it's dirty!) but there's no need to freak out if someone doesn't respond to you for a while.
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Well, really that's largely my problem with it. People place sooo much importance on it. I feel obligated to respond immediately or else I'm a jerk. Lately, I just let people think I'm a jerk. Story of my life... I'm always the maligned villain. :(
 
Im actually annoyed by Whatsapp and if a person has received a message and comes online, sees your message and doesnt respond that pisses me the fuck off
 
SystemShock2 said:
You can't be serious. It's her fault for not realizing that other people their own lives to deal with. There's about a million scenarios where you happen to be able to text and on the tenth times you can't. It doesn't even matter if this is the case or not with this specifically; there should be no reason that she believes a response is warranted that quickly.
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Behavior modification makes it so.

It's not her fault because her behavior has been reinforced immediately in previous circumstances.

I bet you would exhibit the exact same behavior if it happened to you.
 
rvy said:
ARE YOU OK, ANNIE?

I don't text my parents, it's very awkward to say the least.
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I think it is funny when they type a huge wall of text and then end with a ",Love Mom".

My respond rates are known to my family and friends. Unless you are my wife, the times are:

Text Message: 1 - 2 hours
Phone: I won't answer but will probably call you back within the hour
Email: one day
Facebook: between one to two weeks

I just don't like communicating if it isn't in person.
 
Pau said:
In my experience, guys won't ask you why you're ignoring them, but they'll ask their friends. "Why hasn't she responded to my text message? Is she mad? She's ignoring me, isn't she?" :P
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That's like a 12 hours later conversation. Like you know when some one might be dead or blowing some other dude.
 
I ignore almost every single text message I get, unless it's too important to ignore.

This is why I have no friends.

:(
 
Mackenzie 92 said:
damn dude that's kinda sad. why would you treat your mom like that?
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I think I treat her pretty well. But her constant spamming me with insane messages, emails and letters (she has mental problems) got very frustrating. Now she knows I don't like to communicate frequently.

I'm one of the few people who still talks to her, but my patience is not infinite. So there has to be moderation.

I don't think it's mean to treat your mom like any other human being, rather than with reverence.
 
Bombadil said:
Behavior modification makes it so.

It's not her fault because her behavior has been reinforced immediately in previous circumstances.

I bet you would exhibit the exact same behavior if it happened to you.
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But reason can overcome the expectation. When I was younger, I was like that aunt. I always texted back right away and expected a response in a similar way. Over time I realized that there were social norms associated with texting, and expecting a response right away was unrealistic. If the first nine out of ten texts came to her quickly, she should recognize those as the exception and not the rule.
 
MMaRsu said:
Im actually annoyed by Whatsapp and if a person has received a message and comes online, sees your message and doesnt respond that pisses me the fuck off
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I feel you... It really pissin me off when they can get online for few minutes, back and forth. But can't even response.
And it made me even want to smack their head when I sent them a long message, got the response a day later, but the response were a damn cold one-liner vague words like "how are you?", "Ok", "Hahaha", "Tehee", "I miss you" or just a freakin smiley.
 
rvy said:
Poor Denko.
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This is where it gets great:

Contents:
Don’t call me or email me anymore, please.
I’m sorry, but I’m really, really scared.
If there’s been a misunderstanding, then I apologize.
But this is my last email. Please don’t contact me again, I’m begging you.
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What does this mean…? (´･ω･`)
I’ve been thinking about it for a good while now and I’m just not sure…
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Reminds me of Gaf so much lol.
 
SystemShock2 said:
But reason can overcome the expectation. When I was younger, I was like that aunt. I always texted back right away and expected a response in a similar way. Over time I realized that there were social norms associated with texting, and expecting a response right away was unrealistic. If the first nine out of ten texts came to her quickly, she should recognize those as the exception and not the rule.
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I'm confused as to what you are saying.
 
usea said:
My mom used to do this. I told her that every time she communicates with me, I won't respond for at least a month. And then I didn't talk to her again for several months, and I kept up that pace for a few years. Now I only get one message every month or so. And every month or three so I call her to make sure she's still doing OK.
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Gooster said:
What an age of communication we live in!

I just got into a spat with a relative about how I didn't respond to a message she sent right away. I was at my computer researching stuff concerning publishing, and I saw a second text message saying: "Oh, so now you're not responding to me?" Are you serious?

I'll admit my phone is on my person all of the time except if I'm sleeping, cooking, or in the bathroom. I'm not really focused on the notifications I get from it, though. Sometimes it takes me a while, and sometimes I'll reply right away. It's just crazy that her first thought came to that. I've seen few variations of this every once in a while from people: "Are you ignoring me?" "Are you mad?" "Are you there?"

Chill out, please.

/rant
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it's not annoying, it shows they care.

jk.
 
Coconut said:
I'm confused as to what you are saying.
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I'm saying that the norm associated with texting is that you wait for a response patiently, and if you don't get it right away, you assume that the person is busy or you realize that a response in a timely manner isn't important.

Just because the aunt received multiple texts in a row, she shouldn't expect it to be this way each time. She should realize that she just got lucky that the OP responded to her that many times in a row that quickly.

The point I was trying to make is that to her it seems normal to receive the texts fast. In reality, it's abnormal, and this is something she should get used to.
 
Coffeehofi said:
I feel you... It really pissin me off when they can get online for few minutes, back and forth. But can't even response.
And it made me even want to smack their head when I sent them a long message, got the response a day later, but the response were a damn cold one-liner vague words like "how are you?", "Ok", "Hahaha", "Tehee", "I miss you" or just a freakin smiley.
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Pff girls..you know it! Crazy how annoying that is lol.
 
Flo_Evans said:
Actually heard a great interview on NPR about this. Wish I could find it cause I only caught part of it.

These days of instant communication have warped our perceptions. Because we can send and receive stuff so fast any delay aggravates and is taken as an insult.
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Sucks to be one of those inbetweeners if I date some one younger then me they assume constant communications if I date some one older they could be annnoyed by my assumed expectation of constnt communication. As for people my own age pretty just flip a coin on it.
 
Pau said:
In my experience, guys won't ask you why you're ignoring them, but they'll ask their friends. "Why hasn't she responded to my text message? Is she mad? She's ignoring me, isn't she?" :P
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It can be frustrating, my mind tends to run wild as well.

Oh no, what did I do now?
 
Not to perpetuate a stereotype, but my girlfriend was like this when we first started dating. Eventually she caught on that I won't respond to texts immediately after I receiving them. It's a lot nicer now ;)
 
Loxley said:
Not to perpetuate a stereotype, but my girlfriend was like this when we first started dating. Eventually she caught on that I won't respond to texts immediately after I receiving them. It's a lot nicer now ;)
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When you say teach that's a little offensive.
 
Sometimes happens between me and my gf. We don't assume that we're ignoring each other, but sometimes there is a long pause and we wonder what's going on.

We both understand that any sort of IM stuff sometimes drops messages though, so if we notice we're talking past each other, we just compare messages to make sure no one has missed anything.
 
NinjaBoiX said:
Yeah, I've done this with one or two people that I chose to cut out. It works a treat. No matter what you reply, you are leaving communication open.
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It's a bit funny when they persist for weeks. It's like dude... I didn't respond to the last ten messages you sent me (even after I told you to stop contacting me). What makes you think I'm going to respond to the next?
 
Everyone who has my number knows I can take days to answer a text. Apparently I've left my phone untouched for so long before that it sends the message back to them with a "failed delivery" notice.

It's the best. I hate texting.
 
Weird dichotomy here. IMO if someone tries to reach out to you in some form of communication you should recognize it, eventually anyway. Can't believe some of you have friends if you never respond to their attempts at having some sort of connection with you.

On the other hand, you should call if you need a response instantly.

For me personally I respond to almost everything, but sometimes I don't look at my phone for awhile and will wait to respond if I'm driving or doing something else that requires concentration.
 
Pau said:
It's a bit funny when they persist for weeks. It's like dude... I didn't respond to the last ten messages you sent me (even after I told you to stop contacting me). What makes you think I'm going to respond to the next?
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Sympathy? Brainwashing? Pure exhaustion?

Please reply Pau, I can't deal with it when you ignore me.

Edit: Why haven't you replied? I thought you liked me...
 
Those are always annoying. People for some reason expect that no one could possibly be busy or doing something else and should respond to texts instantly.

The "are you mad?" ones are the worst. Such a giant leap to take just because you don't get a reply when you want it.
 
You have only yourself to blame. If you set the expectations low when you first started to Text in life, like a delay of hours and or days before responding, there would be no issue today.

It is how I function on Facebook. I will respond in literally days or months.
 
This hasn't happened to me since dating in high school

Oh, and that with that one girl in college but she turned out to be psychotic.
 
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