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The Division made me realize my friends dont play the same games as me.

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Hey, The division, great right? "Yeah but you must play with friends or it will be boring!!!"

Here i am, reading and earing this all the time made me realize, i can never get a friend to play the same games i do, one likes playing car games all the time, the other only had a playstation to put battlefield 4 all (and i mean all) the time, these two are real friends, not the ones you add and only know on the ps4!

This got me thinking i can never get real fun in this type of games cause i have no real buddy to tag along, dont get me wrong i really like my friends, but they are very limited in their game styles, and i just dont get the same feeling playing with "friends" i dont really know.
 
Welp could be worse. All my big brother and real life friends plays are 2K and COD.
I did have some good times shareplaying from them though in sport games.
 
I'm the same way that's why I have game friends
When I do find a game hat me and a real life person both enjoy and have time for it makes it magical!
I invested so much time into mass effect 3 Bc I loved player with brother in law and his sons (and randoms truth be told )
I invested a bunch of time into
Helldivers since I could cross play with my best friend on ps4.
I only know one real life person with a ps4 and that's my cousin who only plays nba 2k, we did play the uncharted been a together though.

But making friends online is cool as long as they're not perverts
 
I'm only level 20 but if you want someone to team up with i'll join you anytime I'm available to do so.

My PSN is ReaperXL7.
 
it is definitely fun with friends. im only level 21 right now, but im realizing that playing solo is getting pretty boring now. good thing they have matchmaking for just about everything.
 
This is one of the reasons I've migrated to mostly single player games. I'm finding The Division really fun solo (Level 30), which I couldn't say the same for Destiny.
 
I used to have a bunch of friends that played the same games as me, but as we got older we started playing different games. Most of my cousins just play MOBAs now for example, when we grew up playing Pokemon, Smash, Mario Kart, F-Zero, Mario Party, etc. together.

Last year I roomed with a bunch of competitive Smashers though and that was a blast.
 
i got 2 groups of video game friends, the hardcore xbox friends who play the same game together

then theres my Playstation friends who we all play different games (occasionally get together for c0-op or LAN)
 
Most my friends play the same games but are on at different times. Plus they only play for like 30 minutes. I prefer playing with people too. Random people aren't always the best though.
 
Uh... matchmake? Or play solo? They did say it was solo-able, so... it is, yeah?
 
I have put 20 hrs in to it so far and only played with a real life buddy for a few hours of that. The other 17 were basically just as fun. I have gotten in some good groups via matchmaking where we had a great time at the mission, communicated well over the mic, and then finished and everyone parted ways to do their own thing. It really has been fun. Most certainly hasn't been boring.
 
Join a large social gaming clan. GAF is kind of an example, but you can find ones which are a little smaller and more tight-knit, without becoming too small.

I'm in an Australian social gaming clan (on the PlayStation platforms) that has about 150 active members with its own forums and occasional real life meet ups. It's big enough that there are usually people playing the games that interest you, no matter when you're online, but small enough that you get to know most members fairly well.
 
Jingo said:
Hey, The division, great right? "Yeah but you must play with friends or it will be boring!!!"

Here i am, reading and earing this all the time made me realize, i can never get a friend to play the same games i do, one likes playing car games all the time, the other only had a playstation to put battlefield 4 all (and i mean all) the time, these two are real friends, not the ones you add and only know on the ps4!

This got me thinking i can never get real fun in this type of games cause i have no real buddy to tag along, dont get me wrong i really like my friends, but they are very limited in their game styles, and i just dont get the same feeling playing with "friends" i dont really know.
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Hehe, try being a gamer who likes Japanese games. Most people look at me like I got 4 heads when I mention some of the games I play regularly.
 
Rhazer Fusion said:
Hehe, try being a gamer who likes Japanese games. Most people look at me like I got 4 heads when I mention some of the games I play regularly.
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Japanese games aren't real games - the best line i've been told on several occasions.

Wouldn't trade them for the world.
 
I have one friend playing it, but he's way behind me in levels. I've played with a few people from GAF but mostly randoms myself.
 
All of my friends (and me too, for the most part) only play offline single-player games. I actually can't find anyone to learn CS:GO with me.
 
Wagram said:
Japanese games aren't real games - the best line i've been told on several occasions.

Wouldn't trade them for the world.
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Whoa! Someone said that to you? I knew a lot of modern gamers were closed minded, but that takes the proverbial cake. Same here. I hold on to mine also. Not trading them.
 
I hear you OP. Most of my real life friends only play single player games like me, but I still enjoy some multiplayer and can never get anyone to play.

GAF has been a great resource for "friends" in what I play.
 
Yep. Its a familiar situation. I was kind of interested in The Division, but I didn't buy it for the same reason as OP - everyone says multi is great but solo is meh.

I think that its especially hard if you are an older gamer and all of your friends gave up gaming years ago due to RL but you are still at it. Invariably you only meet younger gamers and if you hang around with them you end up feeling like a creep.
 
Kind of was having this same feeling. Ive been addicted to PvZ GW2 and no one I know has it. Look on my friends list and its pretty much all people playing the division. Wasnt a fan of the beta so Im pretty much out of luck
 
I have stopped talking about anything game related with friends and coworkers. When you say what Rocket League is in its famous 2 sentences "It's soccer with rocket powered cars. It plays perfectly!" and they say "that sounds too complicated" and I'm nodding along as they go into lurid detail on their Madden fantasy league goings-on, I dunno.

Rhazer Fusion said:
Hehe, try being a gamer who likes Japanese games. Most people look at me like I got 4 heads when I mention some of the games I play regularly.
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This is a biggie for me too, and I don't touch stuff like NepNep or what have you either.
 
My gaming friends tend to be a bit fickle with gaming. Like talk me into playing a game and then quitting shortly after.
 
Jingo said:
Hey, The division, great right? "Yeah but you must play with friends or it will be boring!!!"

Here i am, reading and earing this all the time made me realize, i can never get a friend to play the same games i do, one likes playing car games all the time, the other only had a playstation to put battlefield 4 all (and i mean all) the time, these two are real friends, not the ones you add and only know on the ps4!

This got me thinking i can never get real fun in this type of games cause i have no real buddy to tag along, dont get me wrong i really like my friends, but they are very limited in their game styles, and i just dont get the same feeling playing with "friends" i dont really know.
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1. The Division is entirely solo-able. If you want to play with people there is a robust matchmaking system.

2. You should find more friends. Make friends with people that enjoy similar games.

edit: If you are looking for people to play with, there are currently 210+ gaffers that are looking for more squad mates. Add them and game on!
https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1oaS0D92biiSNo3H24p7cQw0q1_dQQOgauo10cqFQEJw/edit#gid=0
 
Jingo said:
Hey, The division, great right? "Yeah but you must play with friends or it will be boring!!!"

Here i am, reading and earing this all the time made me realize, i can never get a friend to play the same games i do, one likes playing car games all the time, the other only had a playstation to put battlefield 4 all (and i mean all) the time, these two are real friends, not the ones you add and only know on the ps4!

This got me thinking i can never get real fun in this type of games cause i have no real buddy to tag along, dont get me wrong i really like my friends, but they are very limited in their game styles, and i just dont get the same feeling playing with "friends" i dont really know.
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Not having actual people to play games like this with can be a bummer. I've played Destiny since day one but I've done raids only a handful of times because I just don't know a lot of people who play. I've never even done the newest raid.

The Division is a little easier with regard to matchmaking, but I can de myself having the same issue down the line.

Edit: If you're on PS4, add me. I'm always happy to be joined. My name there is CartmanPat.
 
120v said:
i hear you. pretty much all my friends grew out of gaming so i'm always going it alone
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Same. I'm mostly playing single player games these days because I have basically no one to play with. I have a friend who I can play CSGO with, but with every other multiplayer and coop game, I'm all alone.
 
The older I get, the harder it becomes to play games with other people.
Even in the rare chance someone has the same system and likes playing the same game as me, actually playing with them online is rare. Playing with people in person seems more like it can be an "event" that people are willing to participate in, but even that is rare.

I'd like it if multiplayer games focused on the ability to make new online friends instead of random match matchmaking, to incentivize and encourage you to find people you don't know that like to play the same games. Instead random matchmaking is too anonymous and detached for most people to care, or it causes people to relish in being anti-social and act out their anti-social fantasies (in the worst case scenarios).

I don't play a ton of online games, but isn't that the base underlying assumptions the industry works with, either all you friends play the same games as you and you will be playing locally or online with them or you want to play random people and never want to associate with them again?

Adding someone to a friendslist after playing a good game with someone doesn't seem to have ever made it so I play with them in the future. It doesn't create a "friendship" or a bond enough for them even to become a online game friend. It just seems like a system that needs to be looked at from a different angle than simply ranks and friendslists or whatever.

Just the fact it feels like such a chore to find friends that play the same games on the same systems, or having to "convince" someone to play a game that I want to play (whether they own the system but don't own the game, own the game but don't play with me, or are coming over to visit and it is just playing any game that takes a little more learning of the systems to have fun with), it's disappointing that games can be such a great social thing and yet even when the hurdles are lower for playing with others, they are still so big.

That's why f2p games are so big, especially when people are playing on social networks or mobile phones, since you can easily play with other people and are incentivized to. Yet those games are still made with the assumption that it's popular enough at the time at all your friends are invested and want to be playing that same game as the same time as you. If they leave, the game systems become less fun. Then there is the whole thing on social networks about bugging your friends to play or inviting them to play the game.

Maybe if things were like with Nintendo's handhelds where you can download and play but it was made easy for online simple play with friends, while incentivizing you to pick up a full game if you enjoy it enough. At least there can be some tiers to where people that don't play all the time can have fun with people who are way more invested. Or even something like scheduling play time to sync with calendars or if communicating was so seemless that you can message and voicechat with someone on your phone to viewing their stream of what they are playing, to booting up your game so by the time you get to your couch, you can jump right into a game with them and the game makes it painless for you two to play together.
 
Wait until you get to my age. You have to worry about your friends playing the same games. But before that you have to worry about your friends being able to play at the same time as you. But before that you have to worry about your friends playing video games period. On the bright side it was always like this for me because back in the day playing online was a super nerdy thing to do (and mostly only found on PC) and I didn't know anyone else IRL who did it.

I'm having fun playing The Division without them, both solo and matchmaking.
 
Darkly Tranquil said:
Yep. Its a familiar situation. I was kind of interested in The Division, but I didn't buy it for the same reason as OP - everyone says multi is great but solo is meh.

I think that its especially hard if you are an older gamer and all of your friends gave up gaming years ago due to RL but you are still at it. Invariably you only meet younger gamers and if you hang around with them you end up feeling like a creep.
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I guess I didn't play Division yet for basically the same reason. I love single player experiences and this entire trend of games being more multiplayer oriented is really turning me off I guess. Seems like I am migrating more away from the popular games the older I get. I guess I like I feel like Don't get me wrong, I do play some AAA games sometimes because I like diversity and I am very open-minded, but finding real life friends who play the same games as me is very difficult.

Yeah, most gamers I meet are in their teens or early 20's online and in real life and are primarily into really popular, trendy games.

SatelliteOfLove said:
This is a biggie for me too, and I don't touch stuff like NepNep or what have you either.
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You got it better than me then. I will play practically anything as long as it appeals to me and will proudly admit it to people also.
Like NepNep, JRPG's and genuine anime fighters lol.
 
What sucks is if my friends are lv 15 and I'm lv 9 and they join to help me on a mission everything is scaled up for them since I play on hard. So now I'm useless. Instead of it scaling to hard mode for a lv 9 and just matching their lv down to 9. I like how FF14 does it.
 
Everyone I know plays online games like MOBAs while I'm over here playing Mario & Luigi: Paper Jam, Virtue's Last Reward, and Cook, Serve, Delicious.

Basically I play way too niche games and so it is difficult for me to relate to anyone else with the hobby.
 
Yeah that's why I talk about games on GAF and the like.

I like all the niche stuff when the people I know irl just like FIFA and FPS's and stuff.
 
Yeah I asked my mates if they were getting the division, they said no as the new DLC for BO3 was out last week (xbox) and they will play that instead. One of my workmates got it but only plays on weekends so I'm a lone wolf most of the time.
 
Dapperk said:
My gaming friends tend to be a bit fickle with gaming. Like talk me into playing a game and then quitting shortly after.
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oh damn lol , reminds me of a story were friend brought an xbox and all his friends jumped to the PS4 ( he couldn't afford to get both)

basically this is were you have to pick your own games

most of the people i play games with online these days live oceans away for alot of them there really hasn't been anything that compelling since bad compney 2 that being said lots of people play COD and destiny which really lack alot of things for me atm i mostly play R6 and a number of other single player games problem with R6 is you are limted to playing with 4 friends( 5 if you include yourself) in live matchs so you bascily have to choose which friends you want to play with , i also play a fair bit of custom content in GTA online when given the chance , but yea OP theres lots of networks out there its just about finding them still not sure what your in to but i like Japanese games as much as the next guy


Gusto said:
I have a few Gaffers on my friends list, but I just don't like playing with people.
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you would rather play with yourself lol , fair call tho 12 year olds tend to ruin online games.
 
I get this another way. Whatever system I'm on I get pestered(party invites) to chat which then leads to helping them out in game.
Most weeks I just want an evening left alone and showing as offline don't work what with either achievements or pic sharing going on.

The Division plays great with mates but one of the chaps on my team is playing it a lot more than the rest of us,so he just stomps through the mission without hassle and leaves little for us to do.
 
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