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This is the worst "Damn I'm old" moment yet
- Thread starter I Wanna Be The Guy
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Leonardo DiCaprio gets all the teens.
RumbleHumble
Banned
OP, you're not old, she's just too young is all.
ErrorMacro
Member
I'm 27 and I dated a 18 year old for a couple of months earlier this year.
The age difference creeped no one I knew of my close friends and her close friends. Granted, in my country we are much more lenient when it comes to age difference, so it was not a surprised. TBH, I was more unconfortable by the manner we got to know each other.
The age difference creeped no one I knew of my close friends and her close friends. Granted, in my country we are much more lenient when it comes to age difference, so it was not a surprised. TBH, I was more unconfortable by the manner we got to know each other.
Explain why exactly 21. And don't say drinking age or half of so and so or mentality, as the latter can vary heavily from person to person.
The idea is "who you can date", not "want to date". I.e. you may from experience find people under 21 immature. Does that mean if you met an 18-year-old who wasn't, you shouldn't be allowed to even consider dating them? Dating being looking for a relationship or just a good fuck. Or both.
Just... be decent and be happy, people.
Fluffernutter Pancake
Member
My "Damn I'm old" moment came when I went through the entire Spotify Top 40 station and was skipping just about every track.........
.............then I hopped over to the 80s station and was thumb-upping and saving just about every track.
.............then I hopped over to the 80s station and was thumb-upping and saving just about every track.
Twilight Princess
Member
You're not old op, you're gross and slightly creepy.
Her loss, you're both adults and she was clearly at least somewhat into you. But that shows you why it's a good thing it didn't happen, because she's got some mental hurdles to overcome if hitting it off with someone gets cancelled out by ... learning they're older than you thought.
BocoDragon
or, How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Realize This Assgrab is Delicious
You're not too old. She's too young.
That 9 year age gap wouldn't be as big of a problem if she was like 23 and you were 32.
That 9 year age gap wouldn't be as big of a problem if she was like 23 and you were 32.
I'm 27 and my younger sisters are 20 and 21. When we throw parties, there have been a few times where a friend of theirs in the 18-21 age group is obviously interested, but I can't help but look at them like kids. So much growing up to do at that age, I just can't see myself being in a relationship with someone under 25.
I just don't see the appeal of being a shepherd to someone way younger. That shit sounds like work, and I have enough of that going.
I just don't see the appeal of being a shepherd to someone way younger. That shit sounds like work, and I have enough of that going.
Firstly, you're painting with a broad brush. Maturity varies by individual. And at parties...are you looking for your future wife?
Lord Azrael
Member
This is definitely one of the worst "damn I'm old" moments OP, just not exactly the meaning of worst you were going for...
hydrophilic attack
Member
half age plus seven rule brah
Bitch Pudding
Member
Imagine being with someone constantly amazed by how much you know, and who needs to try to live up to a "real man" by acting "mature".
The whole deal sounds soooo toxic, and is telling of both parties.
But the arbitrary calculations and blanket statements of maturity and intent? How else will I make my important life choices?
That's kinda cool
John Rabbit
Banned
She sounds confident in herself and in the kinds of relationships she wants to have. Good for her.
You're not old OP.
You're not old OP.
Queen Vulpix
Member
I've never dated so I don't know what age gap I would/wouldn't mind in a guy/date. Probably wouldn't mind any adult with 8-10 years of my age though but anything more might be too large to have similar interests and such with. I turn 26 next month and feel absolutely ancient and 5 years past my prime though >_<
Well I'm married to a latina, and she often calls me papito, haha
(She's four years older than me...)
Mexican here, for some reason we [latinos] have the tendency to endearingly baby call cute young things (like your significant other, your children or your pets) mom/dad or related nicknames, so she's pretty much treating you like a little boy.
Then again, depending on the tone of how she says it, she might also be just stating you're pretty hot.
Age gaps really vary in importance as we get older. A 10 year gap when one is 35 and the other is 25 won't seem like a big deal, but 18 and straight out of high school vs. 28 can be enormous. There's a great difference in life experiences and maturity.
There's also a big variation person to person, so that observation is not iron clad, but I think it's generally true that age gaps matter less as we get older. (45 vs. 55, etc.)
Vault Dweller 111
Member
I acatually recently met a freshman at college (18) and I'm a 23 year old super senior. And I really like her. My first thought on the age difference was that it was too much. But when we hang out we get along great, it seems normal. Maybe I'm immature for my age, or she is mature. But it doesn't seem weird. I guess it just varies. Or maybe I'm a creep.
Sounds fine. If the relationship is good, just stick with it.
BocoDragon
or, How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Realize This Assgrab is Delicious
You look like two children of the same age from where I'm standing.
I loved being 23 because you feel like you're so old but don't realize you're just a senior teenager yet.
Fluffernutter Pancake
Member
When I was a senior in college and had something developing with a freshman, it quickly became apparent how big of a maturity difference there was when we hung out with her group of freshman friends.
The difference becomes exponentially less each year after freshman year.......the difference between a 12th grader and 9th grader is off the charts. The difference between a college senior and freshman is still large and real. The difference between a college senior and sophomore is minor, between senior and junior is negligible. The difference between a 25 and 21 year old or 30 and 25 year old or 30 and 40 year old are then almost non-existent.
Ask her out again when she is 21.
Patrick S.
Banned
Typical context: "Mira papito, no soy tu chacha!"
I'd prefer something like "sí, sigue, papito!", but that has become rarer
MisterAnderson
Member
If it's legal and there's chemistry, I don't see the issue. Just don't be a creep in general, which IMO has nothing to do with age so long as it's legal and consensual.
You're right, I'm just going by my experiences. I've yet to meet that 21 year old that had a rough upbringing and thus has matured faster than most people her age. I don't doubt they exist.
The Albatross
Member
You've broken the age old rule of half your age plus seven.
Dandy Lyin
Member
You're not old... she's just young.
