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d0hv said:
The thing is though, I doubt any girls in college are going to want a 5'5 128LB guy that looks like their little brother. That's where my problem lies right there. I don't look like a "man", I look like a kid. I'm insecure and extremely shy so that lowers my chances as well. I try not to dwell on it and live my life, but I can't. My 14 year old brother who's a freshman looks like my older brother. He's bigger, he's an athlete, and guess what he has no problems getting girls. I can't put on weight, I eat and eat and eat. Still 128lbs.
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Your looks dont matter you just have to say: fuck it, and increase your confidence by being ok with yourself, girls love that.

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Lmfao you have a little less height than me but the same weight, cheer up dude.
 
Armadilo said:
I have been improving, about this time last year I got my first ever job at Burger king, part time job. The thing is that I sucked at it because I wasn't fast at making the burgers. My boss would scream at me and would just get mad at me. She didn't fire me but I hated every day.

I lived near it so I would just walk to and back, felt like a loser. I was a 20 year old guy who was getting the same or less hours of work that some high school would get.

I had no car and making just around a $100 to 200 a month because sometimes I would only be a given one day a week, I would have to check every week to see the schedule.

Today its kinda better with this new job I have, but still sucks. Screw fast food jobs.
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Been working at a minimum wage job at a movie theater for five years with no form of advancement. I transferred to a different state a couple months ago and my new managers were laughing at my last eval because it read like my previous theater really wanted me to be a manager, but because of circumstances like a revolving door of general managers and me being a solid worker but not a kiss ass who played LoL with the GM. I never got promoted.

When I transferred I didn't feel comfortable applying for the open manager position since I had only been there a week. Months later with the GM knowing I was interested in the position after a manager quit. And me wasting three hours of my life for a forty minute meeting which boiled down to "don't let customers steal stuff, find these Easter eggs to win prizes" with high schoolers getting super excited and joking behind me. I said fuck it.

As soon as I can afford to, I'm gonna enter a program to become a CNA. It's not a significantly better career path, but it'll be better and better me as a person until I can go back to school next spring.
 
Booker Dewitt said:
Been working at a minimum wage job at a movie theater for five years with no form of advancement. I transferred to a different state a couple months ago and my new managers were laughing at my last eval because it read like my previous theater really wanted me to be a manager, but because of circumstances like a revolving door of general managers and me being a solid worker but not a kiss ass who played LoL with the GM. I never got promoted.

When I transferred I didn't feel comfortable applying for the open manager position since I had only been there a week. Months later with the GM knowing I was interested in the position after a manager quit. And me wasting three hours of my life for a forty minute meeting which boiled down to "don't let customers steal stuff, find these Easter eggs to win prizes" with high schoolers getting super excited and joking behind me. I said fuck it.

As soon as I can afford to, I'm gonna enter a program to become a CNA. It's not a significantly better career path, but it'll be better and better me as a person until I can go back to school next spring.
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yeah sucks that people can be just fucking horrible, my current job sucks because I try my best but guess that's not good enough. My boss still tells me i'm slow and sometimes pulls me over to lecture me on what i'm not doing great or when i'm actually doing what i'm supposed to do to talk to me about what I was just doing.

yeah..

Booker Dewitt you are awesome
 
Booker Dewitt said:
Been working at a minimum wage job at a movie theater for five years with no form of advancement. I transferred to a different state a couple months ago and my new managers were laughing at my last eval because it read like my previous theater really wanted me to be a manager, but because of circumstances like a revolving door of general managers and me being a solid worker but not a kiss ass who played LoL with the GM. I never got promoted.

When I transferred I didn't feel comfortable applying for the open manager position since I had only been there a week. Months later with the GM knowing I was interested in the position after a manager quit. And me wasting three hours of my life for a forty minute meeting which boiled down to "don't let customers steal stuff, find these Easter eggs to win prizes" with high schoolers getting super excited and joking behind me. I said fuck it.

As soon as I can afford to, I'm gonna enter a program to become a CNA. It's not a significantly better career path, but it'll be better and better me as a person until I can go back to school next spring.
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CNA?
 
You feel like a loser cause she was being nice to someone else? Nah man, think of it this way:
She could have just as easily not shown any emotion to you. But she did and she made you feel good. Kindness doesn't have a limit man, it's not like her being nice to some other dude devalues the kindness you received.
 
I often feel like a looser, but i always get to find something (hobby, work, college, a new girl to chase etc.) to cheer me up a little or to keep my mind busy.

But last week, in the span of 2-3 days i failed an exam that delayed my graduation from July to November and even another one; i wanted to finally hang out some nights after all this study, but all my friends blew me off; and most importantly the girl i was dating suddenly stopped seeing me.
All this in a rapid succession was quite the hit.

Really really down on morale these days, i spent some entire afternoons laying on the bed in almost total darkness...

Cheer me up GAF.
 
Armadilo said:
When your having a good day, everything seems like its perfect then you start thinking and your brought down to reality.

A recent example for me was last week, I ask this barista at a coffee place to choose a coffee for me since I couldn't decide. She was by her self and I was the only customer, throughout that we both smiled and stuff and don't know if I was flirting with her but it was awesome.

Week later, choose another coffee for me but I kinda saw that I was just like any other customer, she was smiling at me but she was smiling at me because she's programmed to do that as its part of her job.

So yeah I'm not special, but a loser

Do you guys feel like that often, I know that you shouldn't feel like that because then people don't want to be around someone like that, what about you guys ?
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Flirt with her. Flirt with her every time you go to the coffee shop. I don't know you, but you aren't a loser. Stop calling yourself that.
 
Pretty much never. I am solidly above average always. Can't be a loser when you are always above average.
 
Philippo said:
I often feel like a looser, but i always get to find something (hobby, work, college, a new girl to chase etc.) to cheer me up a little or to keep my mind busy.

But last week, in the span of 2-3 days i failed an exam that delayed my graduation from July to November and even another one; i wanted to finally hang out some nights after all this study, but all my friends blew me off; and most importantly the girl i was dating suddenly stopped seeing me.
All this in a rapid succession was quite the hit.

Really really down on morale these days, i spent some entire afternoons laying on the bed in almost total darkness...

Cheer me up GAF.
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We all face different struggles in life but know that we are in this thread because we are similar so in a sense you are not alone and we are here
 
Armadilo said:
When your having a good day, everything seems like its perfect then you start thinking and your brought down to reality.

A recent example for me was last week, I ask this barista at a coffee place to choose a coffee for me since I couldn't decide. She was by her self and I was the only customer, throughout that we both smiled and stuff and don't know if I was flirting with her but it was awesome.

Week later, choose another coffee for me but I kinda saw that I was just like any other customer, she was smiling at me but she was smiling at me because she's programmed to do that as its part of her job.

So yeah I'm not special, but a loser

Do you guys feel like that often, I know that you shouldn't feel like that because then people don't want to be around someone like that, what about you guys ?
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Not for the same exact reasons, but I'm feeling like a loser now after getting in contact with one of my former classmates and seeing how everyone other than me seems to be doing fine.
 
d0hv said:
The thing is though, I doubt any girls in college are going to want a 5'5 128LB guy that looks like their little brother. That's where my problem lies right there. I don't look like a "man", I look like a kid. I'm insecure and extremely shy so that lowers my chances as well. I try not to dwell on it and live my life, but I can't. My 14 year old brother who's a freshman looks like my older brother. He's bigger, he's an athlete, and guess what he has no problems getting girls. I can't put on weight, I eat and eat and eat. Still 128lbs.
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much worried about looking like a "man" and gaining weight, if many girls were drooling over you before, then looks are not your problem, and how many people would be happy with eating what they want and not gaining weight? :P at least i wouuld be.

But it seems your attitude around people is a much bigger obstacle, try to talk more, be more open , talk with someone of confidence and you will be popular once more. and really, a doctor can help if its anxiety or something like that.

edit: of course if you want to look a little bigger you can too! there are many options beyond just junk food, protein, gym, etc.
And one final comment, dont always compare yourself to others ,its worthless, if you are frustrated because your brother is bigger/athletic that does not matter much and will only bring more frustration, other people are way worse than you and you have your own qualities to take advantage of!
 
I used to suffer from chronic constipation, sometimes being constipated for upwards of two weeks. This one time I was constipated for a little over two weeks. I was sick of it, so I took a shit ton of stool softeners and an enema. It was time to release the kraken.

All I can say is that I have a better appreciation for child birth. The cramps were unbearable and my asshole will never be the same. I literally had to lift my ass off the seat because the shit was so long and hard that it was like an anchor hitting the sea floor. So I had raise myself to create the room necessary to finally banish this demon from my asshole. This thing was thick as fuck too. There was no way it was going down a toilet. So I had to grab an oversized Zip lock bag and package this blight on humanity. Fortunately it was garbage day, so I put that monstrosity in a few more bags and pushed the burden onto the city.

My ass was so wrecked from going into labor, and my stomach so fuvked from all of the ex lax and stool softeners - that I literally lost control of my sphincter. Here I am, a grown ass young adult - who couldn't help but shit his pants for the next 12 or so hours.

I had to literally pull a TV tray into the bathroom, park my laptop in front of the pot and watch TV/films while intermittently shitting without notice.
 
Armadilo said:
yeah sucks that people can be just fucking horrible, my current job sucks because I try my best but guess that's not good enough. My boss still tells me i'm slow and sometimes pulls me over to lecture me on what i'm not doing great or when i'm actually doing what i'm supposed to do to talk to me about what I was just doing.

yeah..

Booker Dewitt you are awesome
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Yeah, I got a manager who keeps doing that to me. Can't pinpoint exactly, but I always feel like a terrible employee when she speaks to me. But then I look around at my coworkers, think about my work ethic, pay me to do a job and I'll do it, and it's clear to me that I'm a good employee. I just kind of vent to someone or myself and move on.

And yeah, managers in general will try to exert power, especially when they can be nervous or insecure of there position. I got a relatively new manager, who besides me getting well liked as a employee at my current theater in mere weeks, I also tried dating her before she became a manager. Well, I snapped at her last night because she kept telling me to do things midstep of doing something else, while three other workers were standig around talking.

She told me to do something, I said I already did it the las time you told me to do it, and here's all the other things I did after that(which were way more time consuming then said task).

As long as you're doing your best and not just slacking off, you should be fine. Shit, not even doing the best, doing the job you got hired for, and you'll be better than a lot of other employees in what I'm assuming is a entry level position at a minimum wage job.
 
I have depression and a terrible case of self-loathing (which I keep to myself most of the time) so I pretty much feel like a loser at all times. I cover it up pretty well by being the "funny guy" of the group but it still sucks.
 
When I listen to this song:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zzjuA4RgSDk&t=3m32s

Booker Dewitt said:
But I'll always be a loser, Patrick Stickles said so. But that's okay.
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Ugh damnit, beaten.

Real answer: Sometimes I feel shitty when I look at social media and see what everyone else is doing, and sometimes I have those days where I'm walking alone and it seems like it's a montage from the beginning of a rom-com, where everyone around me is in a relationship and it's just me, scowling (male resting bitch face mostly), with a proverbial rain cloud over my head, angry at all the loving couples and happy families and attractive friend groups going on their merry way.

Most of the time I'm fine though!
 
When your friend decides to tell you out of nowhere that the amazing girl you're only not dating because she moved away has put herself on Tinder

On a day where I'm like "I don't need to have anybody, I'm great single" it was a bit of a punch in the stomach.
 
When you're walking with 3 or 4 people and you're not in step with them or the pavement isn't wide enough so you end up walking awkwardly ahead or behind of them, not involved in the conversation.
 
I feel like a loser everyday. i wish i addicted to alcohol or drugs or something to make me not feel that way.
 
All day every day.

It's odd because I know I have a lot going for me and I am reasonably smart, funny, good looking, pretty strong, and have a decent job. I just have a bad habit of comparing myself to people that are better looking, make more money, stronger, smarter, etc.

I guess if I don't feel like I am the best person in the room, I feel like a loser. Overall I suppose it's just low self esteem, but I do not know what the root of it is.

neojubei said:
I feel like a loser everyday. i wish i addicted to alcohol or drugs or something to make me not feel that way.
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Chances are you're not a loser, even if you feel that way.. If you got addicted to drugs and alcohol, you'd absolutely be a loser. Don't be ridiculous.
 
I don't have a single situation or point in time but I always feel down when I think about my time in high school (11-16 years old in the UK). I started my secondary education as a very bright student, comfortably ahead of the rest of my peers, but left as someone with little to no enthusiasm for any subject or for studying.

They were five wasted years and a large reason why I never capitalised on my potential.
 
when I got laid off 15 years ago then went through 6 long months of unemployment.

All the stages of loserdom during those months, I went through them all
 
Some of you seem very self conscious.

I have many reasons as to why I could be a loser, but I know that people like me are valuable in this world.

No car, no place to call my own, generally terrible at school, overweight, jobless, no girlfriend, blah, blah. It's who you are, not what you have at most times.

If you all would just sit back and value who you are, you would be better off at life. Try to be the best person you can be.

If you feel lonely, don't be afraid to admit it, and that's because it's natural human tendacies. I could sit here and complain about my life as a twenty year old that has no real experience, but it's not that bad right now, and it may possibly get worse.

Also, try to include yourself in something that benefits others for a greater cause. Do some volunteer work repairing people's homes, or volunteer at a food bank. The more active you are in a community, the less likely you will have these feelings.

That's just how I feel. There's nothing particularly amazing going on in my life, but I still manage the small relationships that I have, and the people that gravitate towards me because of who I am tend to stay.
 
Them weird times, when I look at a hobby I used to love doing or really want to revisit, but just can't will myself to do it.
 
buttery fistful said:
after i'm done fucking my hand
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d0hv said:
Then I started to be that cliche "bad ass" guy that people say girls love. Lol I started walking around the school like I was fucking Kanye. That didn't go to well for me, because it made me less approachable for girls and made me come off as a douche. Still though girls loved me. I had an attitude of "This is too easy, if these girls want me they got to ask me out." I knew so many girls were interested but I didn't ask them out. Girls in my classes would just stare at me and I'd pretend not to even notice them at all. Then I turned my eyes to a new girl ! She was my Geometry teacher ! I took geometry a year late as I was supposed to take it sophomore year, so I had it junior year. She said I was cute. The teacher was pretty, but of course that didn't work. That was junior year
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Damn dude you coulda cleaned UP lol (not the teacher). I kinda get it though, but never got the kind of attention you did. There were a few girls in high school, two that I even had the hots for, that showed interest, gave me their numbers etc. I just didn't pursue shit, due in part to being scared of putting myself out there in that way, not wanting to jeopardize the equilibrium with my friends and what not, I was mostly content with my situation and didn't want to rock the boat. Turns out there was kind of some truth to that deflection, once I did actually get into a relationship in college I turned into one of those "peace out" peeps that just let friendships fall by the wayside. THAT made me feel like a loser, that I couldn't see past the hormones and still make time to nurture friendships that were established years prior. It improved with time but I seriously missed out on some good years of college just being insular af with a gf.

These days I do alright for myself but its usually just casual shit off dating sites, and I've learned pretty quickly just how much girls can be as hit it and quit it as guys. That's an area of soreness for me, its like great I'm good enough to be used for dick but not enough as a potential relationship candidate. Sure I've had some good emotional and intellectual connections with some of them but that seems less relevant when nothing sticks for more than a few meetups. Yet at the same time I see how I've gotten in the past with ltrs so maybe I'm better off just doing the casual thing for stability's sake. It's a frustrating situation for sure.
 
When I realized that I barely have friends and most of my friends are my high school friends. I find it hard to meet people.

Also when I realize I get along with people at work but I'm actually not close with anyone.
 
harSon said:
I used to suffer from chronic constipation, sometimes being constipated for upwards of two weeks. This one time I was constipated for a little over two weeks. I was sick of it, so I took a shit ton of stool softeners and an enema. It was time to release the kraken.

All I can say is that I have a better appreciation for child birth. The cramps were unbearable and my asshole will never be the same. I literally had to lift my ass off the seat because the shit was so long and hard that it was like an anchor hitting the sea floor. So I had raise myself to create the room necessary to finally banish this demon from my asshole. This thing was thick as fuck too. There was no way it was going down a toilet. So I had to grab an oversized Zip lock bag and package this blight on humanity. Fortunately it was garbage day, so I put that monstrosity in a few more bags and pushed the burden onto the city.

My ass was so wrecked from going into labor, and my stomach so fuvked from all of the ex lax and stool softeners - that I literally lost control of my sphincter. Here I am, a grown ass young adult - who couldn't help but shit his pants for the next 12 or so hours.

I had to literally pull a TV tray into the bathroom, park my laptop in front of the pot and watch TV/films while intermittently shitting without notice.
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Ahhhhhhhhhh wtf did I just read ? Yuck.
 
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