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[Kastrioti]

Refused to support her and then replaced her with a ginger fresh out of college?

Andy Dalton?

 

[linkboy]

My son is 6, and while he wasn't planned, I wouldn't trade him for the world.

He's such a good kid, and like me in damn near every way.

It stinks that I only really get to see him during the summer, as his mom and I love in different states.

Being a parent is hard, believe me, there's some days where I just want to slam my head into a brick wall, but it's only temporary.

 

[Travo]

I have two myself, one of each, planned and unplanned.

 

[Radec]

Ubisoft getting a new baby boy.

 

[gaugebozo]

Is that good or have for you op?

While not ideal, there is always abortion.




Condoms make me pretty numb down there :/

Almost never am able to finish while wearing one

Luckily I have never impregnated anyone, but I agree it's very risky business and bad form

Really wish there was some good male birth control

There is! https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vasectomy

 

[Messofanego]

Most excited I've been for an Ubi project in a while. Just don't mess up on launch day.

 

[giant_frying_pan]

You were fucking like Rabbids?

 

[WhereAreMahDragonz]

dude this isnt Call of Duty the spray and pray method never works

 

[superdeluxe]

Do you and your partner never switch off or take turns? On weekends we usually tag team in the mornings, then he'll go off to the gym for a long session or I'll hit a cafe to write. Weekdays at night every other day he's off at the gym and I'm playing games if we're not watching movies and chilling. There's less free time, sure, but you can find a balance. I know some kids are tougher than others, but I don't get the doom and gloom about it all (generally speaking).

It's easier to switch off/take turns. More difficult when you have more than one

 

[Damerman]

At least you got to blow your load into a human female.

Lmao wtf

 

[killatopak]

Congrats on the baby.

 

[Zaraki_Kenpachi]

Maybe have been doing risky stuff? How are you unsure? How are people still seemingly unsure how babies are made? These threads are mind-blowing.

 

[Astral Dog]

It was the bew rabbids x Mario right 🐇

 

[Txαi]

Why do we say "congrats" when someone gets pregnant? It's not a big accomplishment

Well, it might be for those who struggle for it.

 

[theaffection]

Honestly, is life even worth celebrating? We should do away with birthdays too

Thats the spirit!

Spoiler

Jk but naw so many ppl acting like they're too cool for kids -.-

 

[weekev]

Do you and your partner never switch off or take turns? On weekends we usually tag team in the mornings, then he'll go off to the gym for a long session or I'll hit a cafe to write. Weekdays at night every other day he's off at the gym and I'm playing games if we're not watching movies and chilling. There's less free time, sure, but you can find a balance. I know some kids are tougher than others, but I don't get the doom and gloom about it all (generally speaking).

We both work shifts so tagging isn't usually an option. I don't mind it really. There's nothing I'd rather be doing than spending time with my kids.

 

[Alter_Fridge]

You are already dad

lololol

 

[Nostremitus]

Why do we say "congrats" when someone gets pregnant? It's not a big accomplishment

You've clearly never tried having a baby.

My wife is currently pregnant, it took us 3 years of trying.

They a creating a life. There aren't many accomplishments that can get close to that.

 

[DanDeschain]

My wife and I have 6 kids. It's not that bad. You'll be fine.

 

[norinrad]

My wife and I have 6 kids. It's not that bad. You'll be fine.

6 kids? Heh I have a colleague who comes to work to relax. He has 5.

 

[notaskwid]

It'll be fine, congrats.

 

[spazchicken]

My wife and I have 6 kids. It's not that bad. You'll be fine.

How do you deal with the fighting?

 

[Steeped in a Sea of Games]

How do you deal with the fighting?

Once you get to that many kids you aren't really doing much outside of doing the basics to keep them alive as a group. The kids mostly take care of each other. Coming from a bigger family, you really don't end up with much of a real relationship with your parents, they're just the ones keeping things going from day to day.

 

[Psychoward]

I don't believe in the pull out strategy.

My dude if you were fucking her without a condom on, without pulling out and she wasn't on birth control then lol


That's 3 strikes, you're out.

Edit: and no plan b, that's actually 4 lol


But yeah condoms combined with depression/anxiety meds can make it hard for me to finish sometimes if it's been frequent and my gf doesn't wanna take birth control bc she's scared of the side effects. Which is understandable but still sucks.

I sometimes don't use a condom but always put one on to finish and the few times they've broken in our year+ relationship I've paid for plan b that night.

I wish there was good male bc though :/

At least we're both on the same page when it comes to abortion.

 

[Dictator93]

Most excited I've been for an Ubi project in a while. Just don't mess up on launch day.

You were fucking like Rabbids?

Trade it in for the upgraded model when that releases.

At least you got to blow your load into a human female.

Make sure Vivendi doesn't take it.

Thank you NeoGAF, Thank you.

@Crossing Eden - risky stuff is great, but it is risky by nature

 

[MechaX]

Jokes aside, I am going to do you a solid and tell you what no one told me.

HOLY SHIT IS DAYCARE EXPENSIVE.

I gotta echo this hardcore.

I have known way too many people that have given up jobs that they otherwise loved simply because they needed higher paying jobs to barely cover daycare expenses.

 

[ramparter]

Got really confused, when reading partner I think business partner / colleague.
Anyway dude, congrats if you decide tobgo through.

 

[BudokaiMR2]

I doubt it has to be said here of all places, but even if you are in the relationship for the long run if the timing doesn't feel right then don't force yourselves to see it through.

My wife actually went through 2 abortions when we were younger (one broken condom/one being stupid) and we now have two healthy children that were both planned.

It was definitely best to wait in our case even if certain parts of my family wanted to guilt trip me over killing babies!

 

[Sulik2]

There is! https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vasectomy

Valsagel is actually the correct answer. A much simpler procedure and much easier to reverse.

 

[Spades]

So we're gonna wait a week and if nothing happens then the test.

Why wait? Just do it now.

 

[Monocle]

Sorry OP, we tried to be discrete.

 

[H.Protagonist]

It's easier to switch off/take turns. More difficult when you have more than one

Well, yeah? The poster I was responding to didn't seem to do that at all, even on weekends. Of course it's harder with two, and I expect some changes, but we're still going to make sure we each have some time to ourselves.

We both work shifts so tagging isn't usually an option. I don't mind it really. There's nothing I'd rather be doing than spending time with my kids.

That's great, but the way you framed it before was just the usual "life is over after kids" stuff that new parents or parents to be are hit over the head with constantly. It's not true, and it really irked me when we were expecting our first. That and the "you'll never sleep again!" As you say, life is definitely 'different', though. Even with time it's really hard to focus when I'm playing.

 

[TheContact]

Is that good or have for you op?

While not ideal, there is always abortion

I like how casually you throw around the abortion card as not being "ideal"

Not "ideal" is when you order a cheese burger at McDonald's without pickles and you get pickles on it. Having an abortion is far more than not just being "ideal"

 

[IAmtheFMan]

Refused to support her and then replaced her with a ginger fresh out of college?

That analogy only works if the first girl gets everything she wants the couple years before but then sharply turns tail, has no insight into her fault in the relationship (which is admittedly less but still substantial,) refuses to talk/work on the relationship at all then actively publicizes it to everyone on Facebook leaving the guy to pick up said ginger in desperation.

 

[iNvid02]

My wife and I have 6 kids. It's not that bad. You'll be fine.

no lies detected

 

[OmegaTreeFish]

If she is preggo then congrats.

One kid isn't that hard once you get past the "OMG EVERYTHING WILL KILL MY CHILD" phase. Tag teaming to get sleep and your own time works wonders with 1 kid especially. Once they get older they become a lot of fun.

Took my 4 year old to the park yesterday where we did running around and kicked a ball. Cuddled on the sofa to watch some TV. Let me play "the monkey game" (donkey kong country) and ate rocket lollies.

Life with a kid has lower lows but also much higher highs. When they cudde you, tell you they love you, learn from you, see them at a swimming lesson.... nothing else gives you such an amazing feeling.

On the flip side, on a day when your super tired and all you want to do is crash, but there is this little thing demanding you attention / ice cream / a buscuite / something that makes litterally no sense / throws something at you it can send some pretty dark thoughts your way. But don't worry, just realise this is normal and laugh about it later.

Get sleep. Share the load. Its vital.

 

[gun_haver]

I like how casually you throw around the abortion card as not being "ideal"

Not "ideal" is when you order a cheese burger at McDonald's without pickles and you get pickles on it. Having an abortion is far more than not just being "ideal"

it's also not the end of the world and people do it everday and move on with their lives

 

[Travo]

Op, may we have an update?

 

[DonShula]

That analogy only works if the first girl gets everything she wants the couple years before but then sharply turns tail, has no insight into her fault in the relationship (which is admittedly less but still substantial,) refuses to talk/work on the relationship at all then actively publicizes it to everyone on Facebook leaving the guy to pick up said ginger in desperation.

You ain't wrong.

Also I think her best friend has to bolt for the Raiders and then fail spectacularly. Can't remember the exact timing on that one.

 

[Crossing Eden]

Op, may we have an update?

Still waiting til the end of this week.

 

[Shmeagatory94]

At least you got to blow your load into a human female.

lol

 

[Xbro]

Hope everything goes well for you and her if it's positive. I've had a few people close to me who have lost their baby in the womb recently and I know that it is not a pleasant thing to go through.

 

[jellies_two]

Now go view all the old bits Louis CK has done on his kids and marriage. Forcing them to eat dragging them through cities other kids and teachers the stupid shit they say etc

 

[BeforeU]

well congrats...

 

[Fulminator]

There is! https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vasectomy

It's a real consideration at this point lol

I like how casually you throw around the abortion card as not being "ideal"

Not "ideal" is when you order a cheese burger at McDonald's without pickles and you get pickles on it. Having an abortion is far more than not just being "ideal"

I mean "ideal" is a scale depending on your situation is it not?

I'm not trying to make an abortion sound like a super casual thing, I get that for some it's a heavy decision to make, but it obviously isn't an ideal course of action.

I know some people who would struggle at the idea of getting an abortion, and others who have gotten one and not even blinked at it

 

[RandomDancing]

Still waiting til the end of this week.

Any update?

 

[WordAssassin]

What's the scoop? Everything ok?

Why do we say "congrats" when someone gets pregnant? It's not a big accomplishment

Tell that to people who try for years and years with no luck, or worse, who can't conceive at all.

Last night at bedtime, my daughter looks at me and apropos of nothing says, “You mean the world to me, daddy.”

I couldn’t not tear up.

Man I have cried more than I thought possible for me to ever cry in my whole life, from this little dude just doing mundane shit.

Hell sometimes he just smiles super bright at me and waves while he's watching TV and I well up a little.

Ugh I'm gonna spend so much time crying if/when I finally become a dad ;__;

 

[Servbot24]

Tell that to people who try for years and years with no luck, or worse, who can't conceive at all.

Ok. Why say congrats to people who don't have those issues?


The answer is just to be a reasonably polite human being, but that's what the other poster was asking

 

[Beerman462]

You are already dad

Nice

Congrats on the sex OP

 

[Omegasquash]

If she is preggo then congrats.

One kid isn't that hard once you get past the "OMG EVERYTHING WILL KILL MY CHILD" phase. Tag teaming to get sleep and your own time works wonders with 1 kid especially. Once they get older they become a lot of fun.

Took my 4 year old to the park yesterday where we did running around and kicked a ball. Cuddled on the sofa to watch some TV. Let me play "the monkey game" (donkey kong country) and ate rocket lollies.

Life with a kid has lower lows but also much higher highs. When they cudde you, tell you they love you, learn from you, see them at a swimming lesson.... nothing else gives you such an amazing feeling.

On the flip side, on a day when your super tired and all you want to do is crash, but there is this little thing demanding you attention / ice cream / a buscuite / something that makes litterally no sense / throws something at you it can send some pretty dark thoughts your way. But don't worry, just realise this is normal and laugh about it later.

Get sleep. Share the load. Its vital.

The days are long, but the years are short. Being a parent is really something, and every time the hug me or tell me they love me or won't shut up about their day or laugh when I chase them or learn something simple or silly from me and remember it is wonderful.

If she's preggers, congrats OP. Learn to be the pit crew on the diapers, and git gud with your feelings on pee/poo.