I'm personally extremely disgusted at the thought of 'fixing' it by altering the mind, prenatally or not. If there was a way to fix the body, sure, but mind is a definite no in my mind.
It honestly sounds terrifying to me. The idea of 'fixing' my brain so I'd have been completely comfortable being a cisgender male, instead of the woman I know I am hits me with an existential dread that's a bit overwhelming.
It's interesting, isn't it?
Thinking about it, the child would 100% grow up happier than they would if they were trans. And yet, on a personal level, we've tied our identities to that trans status despite it being a source of great personal discomfort in our lives.
But I do think it's selfish to think about it that way. After all, the "cure" wouldn't be for adults, but instead for unborn children who never had a say in whether they were trans or cis to begin with. It feels a bit 'icky' since it
is supposedly the brain we're messing with, but assuming no side-effects (big assumption, but we're making a lot of assumptions in this thread), it's hard to justify
not doing it if not doing it means a lot of untold suffering.
There's nothing to apologize for. This is a deeply personal topic, and everybody entering into it—including myself—comes at it with some level of selfishness. That's human nature.
The best solution—and this I think goes to also answering your questions about your own situation—is that there's multiple solutions, not one. It's felt like some of the posts in this thread have been either/or in terms of fixing being trans pre-birth and increasing social acceptance, but those are both part of the same answer, not separate answers. Any "fix" as is being addressed in the OP wouldn't be overnight, so the solution would be more acceptance of trans people, better resources for helping them in whatever ways science and technology currently can, AND a true in utero solution (so long as, again addressing my first post, we know the true causes for being trans).
And even then, enacting all of those fixes doesn't cover everyone. But that's also where the conversation can get uncomfortable: what if that WOULD be the fix for someone like you? If there's something that gets broken inside us to switch the way we identify versus the way we're expected to identify, couldn't that also be the cause of people who then have even deeper and more complex gender identity issues? As I mentioned in my reply to Platy, my wish for the world would be that someone like you lives in an ambiguous gender existence because you want to, not because that's the only way to live your life. I want you to have the freedom to explore those things, but also the ability to just be "regular" for whatever length of time you choose to be without it being a mental/emotional strain on you.
I don't want to be trans—but the me that exists in this moment wouldn't have wanted to just been a regular guy. But I feel that way because of whatever caused me to be trans, so if that hadn't existed in the first place, I'd probably feel great about being a regular guy. But then me being that would mean the me that exists here and now would no longer exist, and I've kind of come to like this me. But I'm the me that I am now because I haven't to go through things I wish I hadn't have had to go through.
It's a hugely complex discussion that deals with the premise of changing who we currently are with a "fix" where there's compelling arguments on both sides. It's not ever going to be an easy conversation to have.
Heh, funny how much of this post mirrors my thoughts in parallel.
It's hard for me to picture it, because in my case everything really is so ambiguous that I genuinely don't know if it was something I was born into, or if specific circumstances of my childhood bred me this way, or what. Honestly, though, if I had the choice, indeed, I wouldn't choose to remove that part of myself. I feel like I'd be giving up a significant chunk of my identity. But I do wonder... part of me feels like it'd be really sad to lose people with atypical perspectives, assuming it were possible to tweak my brain in such a way that I grew up "normal". Like, even if I were perfectly heterosexual and cisgender, I'd still be into some odd things, I know that much, but my own unique perspective on matters would, by some degree, just be
gone - and I feel like that is a real loss.
It really is a hugely complicated question, even framed as a hypothetical like this. At the very least, though, I am pretty certain I don't want anyone to suffer unduly. But now I wonder how precise those levers actually are - whether or not it's even necessary to go from one extreme to the other, or if it's possible to make that aspect of our biology completely irrelevant (that is to say, to make it so that we can inhabit any body with our brains without dysphoria). There's a lot of questions we still need answering here.