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[Outcast2004]

Are you Asian yourself?

This is GAF, so OF COURSE NOT!

Chances are he's a skinny little white kid with an Asian fetish, even though he knows nothing of the culture. unless you count Anime and pocky rations and prinkle in some J-pop.

 

[Gio_CoD]

Must be reasonably attractive.
Must take care of their body to a reasonable degree (don't need to go to the gym every day, but can't be eating pizzas every day either)
Prefer whites, but always open to something else.
Can't be a dumbass.

That's pretty much it.

 

[Polari]

This is GAF, so OF COURSE NOT!

Chances are he's a skinny little white kid with an Asian fetish, even though he knows nothing of the culture. unless you count Anime and pocky rations and prinkle in some J-pop.

Gross.

 

[Takuan]

Gross.

Haha, I'm the opposite. 100% pure-blooded Asian, but white girls throw me for a loop. I don't limit my choices to them, though, that'd just be stupid.

 

[Chairman Yang]

This guy's list made me laugh. Nothing like completely limiting your choices is there? I'm noticing alot of peple putting WAY too much stake into looks. While yes, it helps, it fades. What good is a hot chick if she has NOTHING between the ears?

What good is an ugly chick with a great personality/brains? You can make more friends if you want great conversations.

 

[Polari]

Haha, I'm the opposite. 100% pure-blooded Asian, but white girls throw me for a loop. I don't limit my choices to them, though, that'd just be stupid.

Exactly.

 

[Systems_id]

Forgot smoking also but drinking socially is cool.

 

[Pedigree Chum]

My preferences:

Preference in races in this order, Asian, White, Indian (I'm talking about the average, there's always exceptions)
Must have nice straight silky hair (main reason I like asians, their hair is **** awesome)
Pretty face >>>>> EVERYTHING
Slim build
T&A size isn't too big of a deal, small/nonexistant tits kinda suck though as does ghetto booty
Can be neither too short or too tall, 5'6ish is perfect (I'm 6'4)
And probably more important than all of this is a great personality, I fell for a overweight girl once cause she was the most amazing person I've ever met. So I might just throw out my "expections" based on how much I like the girl's personality.

 

[Pedigree Chum]

Haha, I'm the opposite. 100% pure-blooded Asian, but white girls throw me for a loop. I don't limit my choices to them, though, that'd just be stupid.

Haha, I'm Indian but I don't appreciate my own women enough...I don't get why either, cause there's a lot of attractive Indian chicks. I guess I just don't like the personality of many of the ones I've met, they're ****ing drama quuuuuuueens.

 

[scissorfight]

- not a bitch

this rules out 95% of women

 

[Pedigree Chum]

- not a bitch

this rules out 100% of women

Fixed.

Every girl is a bitch to some degree.

 

[Mr Furious]

It's a bit hard to measure standards so i'll give it a shot.

- Must be 100% single, none of this "i just got out of a long relationship, let me tell you about it for 6 months" crap

- Preferably asian, molato or european (also, there are some other mixes that i like). This isn't a racist thing, it's just my current set of preferences that change very rapidly.

- Must be in shape, this is where my analness kicks in. Fat and anorexic chicks are completely out of the question. Chubby is also something that i don't appreciate anymore, touching her hips and feeling fat kinda disgusts me. Basically, fit or average.

- No curly hair. Wavy is fine. No skin heads.

- Cute face

- B cup minimum

- Age difference. I'm 25.. my age range is 20-32. I've gone out of those bounds on both ends but that is rare. I prefer older women (as in, my age or slightly older) over younger ones.

Keep your extremely high standards--and your freedom. Sounds unlikely that you will meet such a person. Even if you did, would they commit to you? Would they be willing to be life-long mates?

Freedom rocks. You always have Rosie Palm and her five daughters to keep you company when you really need it. :lol :lol

 

[Mr Furious]

What good is an ugly chick with a great personality/brains? You can make more friends if you want great conversations.

with an attitude like that, I'll wager a bet that you have NO friends. Acquaintances don't count. I mean friends. People who would never abandon you. You think your friends are "friends" but they aren't. Just wait till the chips are down for you and see how many "friends" you have left.

With a REAL wife, she would be the best friend you would ever have hopefully. You sound absolutely pitiful and lonely.

I would take an "ugly" woman ANY frikin' day if she had the right "stick to it" and "never surrender" attitude and she would also be my life-mate--no matter what a prick I can be or how much I might yell about stupid crap.

 

[AlanHemberger]

Personality wise the biggest thing is honesty. I'm a very honest person with how I feel and my problems with my past relationships have been their honesty.

For looks, I don't see how you can really have standards besides "no fat chicks" and "no midgets." Because I happen to prefer big breasts, but if I find a girl with pretty small tits and a big ass, I'll take it.

Basically as long as she doesn't have digustingly ugly features. I don't need a supermodel, although that would be nice. I just don't want a hobbit or goblin woman

 

[Fatghost]

It's simple for me:

No fat chicks and no ugly chicks. And certainly no fat ugly chicks.


Everything else is negotiable, it all comes down to whether or not I'm attracted to her.

 

[Mr Furious]

Personality wise the biggest thing is honesty. I'm a very honest person with how I feel and my problems with my past relationships have been their honesty.

For looks, I don't see how you can really have standards besides "no fat chicks" and "no midgets." Because I happen to prefer big breasts, but if I find a girl with pretty small tits and a big ass, I'll take it.

Basically as long as she doesn't have disgustingly ugly features. I don't need a supermodel, although that would be nice. I just don't want a hobbit or goblin woman

I could agree with that... no goblins or grotesque looks.

Have any of you ever seen Liv Ulman in her younger days? She epitomizes what many would think of as a homely woman. I think she is amazingly beautiful because she is such a powerful and wonderful actress.

 

[Outcast2004]

What good is an ugly chick with a great personality/brains? You can make more friends if you want great conversations.

you need to learn how to read. I said it helps, but that aspect of the relationship fades. What good is a pretty plate if there's nothing filling on it?

with an attitude like that, I'll wager a bet that you have NO friends. Acquaintances don't count. I mean friends. People who would never abandon you. You think your friends are "friends" but they aren't. Just wait till the chips are down for you and see how many "friends" you have left.

With a REAL wife, she would be the best friend you would ever have hopefully. You sound absolutely pitiful and lonely.

I would take an "ugly" woman ANY frikin' day if she had the right "stick to it" and "never surrender" attitude and she would also be my life-mate--no matter what a prick I can be or how much I might yell about stupid crap.

Well said.

I'm laying things out hre. I'm going to venture the ones with the outlandish standards are pretty much eternally single. There's a reason you're still single guys.

 

[aoi tsuki]

i'm pretty open.

Not stupid, stuckup, extremely unstable/insane/introverted, a liar, etc.
Not fat or really skinny
No kids (there's on woman i'd have as a gf if she didn't have kids )

i'm open on race, age, and fairly open on body type. For the most part it's just window dressing, i don't see one race as better than the other, just different, and i see beauty in many different types of women. Except ugly women. i tried that once, and though she had a good, yet odd personality, i just couldn't make it work -- a relationship, or my penis.

Standards are fine, but if you keep high/specific standards not only are you missing out on some who'd be awesome even if they don't make every point your bulleted list, but unless you're extremely successful with attracting women in general, you probably won't ever find that perfect woman.

Of course, if we're just talking for about a woman for fun, i lean closer to the "cream of the crop" side in terms of looks.

 

[Pedigree Chum]

you need to learn how to read. I said it helps, but that aspect of the relationship fades. What good is a pretty plate if there's nothing filling on it?



Well said.

I'm laying things out hre. I'm going to venture the ones with the outlandish standards are pretty much eternally single. There's a reason you're still single guys.

QFT.

A good personality can make a decent looking girl very hot, and a hot girl ubelieveable hot. I've met girls before that are "ok" looking, someone I wouldn't look twice at, but after I get to know them they've become "hot" in my eyes due to be so ****ing awesome.

There's a difference between people that are blind to every girl other than the ones that meet their standards and ones that have standards but are willing to bend them depending on the situation.

 

[DaCocoBrova]

They have to have a nice shaped ass and a flat stomach. Mandatory. The times I've always overlooked that aspect, I regret it. It's like opting out of getting alloys and a sunroof when buying a car. You will eventually regret it.

Intellect. I find most women aren't too swift. You can say and do anything and they'll fall for it. That's no good. I have to have faith in a woman's ability make sounds decisions. I also like to learn and would prefer a woman that can teach me things from time to time.

Fashion sense. I hate being with a woman that wears cotton underwear. That's tacky.

If they're stuck up, or too into themselves, I like to 'break 'em'. Let them know that they have it twisted. Let them know that it's me they want, more than I want them.

This is something I've realized I want as I've gotten older. I want a woman to be somewhat domesticated. I don't want to have to cook every night. I don't like cleaning toilets and shit either. It seems that since my focus has always been on how a woman looks, I always end up w/ the beauty queen, that can't cook or clean. It's even worse when you let them know and they try, because they suck at it. I lost count how many times I hit them w/ the 'I ain't eating that shit! Thanks tho.'

 

[djtiesto]

This is a must for me:

White, or east asian only... sorry.
No kids
Non smoker
No drugs
No tattoos/nontraditional piercings
College educated
Cute face
Not fat (pref. small and thin girls)
Age: 20-25

Ideally:

Blonde hair
Short (4'11" - 5'3")
Thin
Light complexion
Eastern/Northern European looking

 

[psycho_snake]

QFT.

A good personality can make a decent looking girl very hot, and a hot girl ubelieveable hot. I've met girls before that are "ok" looking, someone I wouldn't look twice at, but after I get to know them they've become "hot" in my eyes due to be so ****ing awesome.

There's a difference between people that are blind to every girl other than the ones that meet their standards and ones that have standards but are willing to bend them depending on the situation.

Thats happened to me with my current GF. If you out her alongside some other women she might not look that special, but because I know her so well she looks very hot.

 

[Takuan]

This is a must for me:

Ideally:

Blonde hair
Short (4'11" - 5'3")
Thin
Light complexion
Eastern/Northern European looking

MIDGET SPLITTER!

Haha, I'm Indian but I don't appreciate my own women enough...I don't get why either, cause there's a lot of attractive Indian chicks. I guess I just don't like the personality of many of the ones I've met, they're ****ing drama quuuuuuueens.

Mmm, Indian women can be beautiful. All my Indian friends tell me they're difficult, but some of them are so damned fine it's worth it.

 

[Geek]

Mine are pretty simple.

She must like coffee

and can drive

and is not hideously ugly

and has a good taste in music

actually, I'm gonna need a much higher level of attractiveness than "not hideously ugly"

and should be of european (eastern or nordic are preferable) or japanese descent, but I will not rule out women of african, chinese, or korean heritage

and don't take that the wrong way -- I'm not conciously racist or anything, but I find myself far more attracted to white girls

and should be skinny -- I'm pretty skinny and that's just what I like, but given the right proportions I can be in to slightly bigger girls

and nothing above a size 8

and has to like videogames and post-videogame playing sex

and her videogame taste should center around japanese quirk titles, puzzles, and fighting games (bejeweled isn't going to cut it) and she shouldn't like rpgs or mmos *too* much because that gets annoying

and is at least a c-cup

and exercises at least as much as I do if not more

and eats meat

and doesn't read us magazine or in touch or any of that shit

and i'd also like some money so she should be done with school and should be a doctor or an attorney or a highly paid underwear model

and should be well-read but not too well-read

and talks dirty in bed and is sexually adventurous and doesn't just see sex as an expression of love and just likes to ****** now and then

and cooks meals independently and alongside me in the kitchen

and doesn't put so much pressure on me to commit or stay over or do things with her friends

and will smoke pot with me now and then

and likes really good films

and can make up her own mind but respect my opinion

and has a warm inviting non-psychotic broken family should we get to the point of being introduced

and wears a lot of eye make up but still looks good without any make up at all

and has good fashion sense -- not a label whore but not afraid to buy some marc jacobs or gucci and pair it with some eyesore of a t-shirt

and taller than 5'4" but no taller than 6'

and will wear good lingerie all the time even if its just around the apartment with some high heels

and is into my interests while maintaining completely independent pursuits of her own that would compliment mine but provide diversity for our social and artistic endeavors

and isn't on any medication

and has the ability to be happy

and likes beer

and doesn't cry often

 

[HolyStar]

-No fat chicks

-has to have a good personality

-sense of humor

-about a 7 or above


Also, how many people listing all of these "standards" can honestly say that the woman they are looking for would be want to be with them. If women aren't lining up left and right to date you or not dating you at all... Then odds are that you need to re-think your standards or truly discover who you are(still doing this). Beggers can't be choosers.

 

[AlanHemberger]

-No fat chicks

-has to have a good personality

-sense of humor

-about a 7 or above


Also, how many people listing all of these "standards" can honestly say that the woman they are looking for would be want to be with them. If women aren't lining up left and right to date you or not dating you at all... Then odds are that you need to re-think your standards or truly discover who you are(still doing this). Beggers can't be choosers.

Why do you hate the Black Brad Pitt?

 

[djtiesto]

MIDGET SPLITTER!

Never heard this term before but you had me ROFL and all the people in the other cubicles wondering wtf was so funny. :lol

 

[Pedigree Chum]

Never heard this term before but you had me ROFL and all the people in the other cubicles wondering wtf was so funny. :lol

How tall are you?

 

[HolyStar]

Hey, I just think he shouldn't act like he is black, that is all.

 

[Systems_id]

Also, how many people listing all of these "standards" can honestly say that the woman they are looking for would be want to be with them. If women aren't lining up left and right to date you or not dating you at all... Then odds are that you need to re-think your standards or truly discover who you are(still doing this). Beggers can't be choosers.

Not really. You can't change what you're attracted to, no matter what you look like.

 

[Chairman Yang]

you need to learn how to read. I said it helps, but that aspect of the relationship fades. What good is a pretty plate if there's nothing filling on it?

Looks will never fade if you simply switch to a younger woman

And, like a good meal, your life can have multiple courses. You can have a pretty, empty plate (a woman), and then put food on top of it (intelligent people who aren't your woman) to fill you up.

 

[Chairman Yang]

with an attitude like that, I'll wager a bet that you have NO friends. Acquaintances don't count. I mean friends. People who would never abandon you. You think your friends are "friends" but they aren't. Just wait till the chips are down for you and see how many "friends" you have left.

With a REAL wife, she would be the best friend you would ever have hopefully. You sound absolutely pitiful and lonely.

I would take an "ugly" woman ANY frikin' day if she had the right "stick to it" and "never surrender" attitude and she would also be my life-mate--no matter what a prick I can be or how much I might yell about stupid crap.

Don't lash out at me just because you have an ugly girlfriend

You realize it's possible to get women that have looks, brains, AND personality, right?

 

[ConsumerSquare]

This thread reminds me of my friend who has ridiculous standards, but he's just a skinny white guy who only dates fresh off the boat asians because Americans, much less white girls (and LOL @ him with a black girl), won't give him the time of day due to his social hang-ups.

 

[LakeEarth]

Really, my standards are - 'whatever'. If I like her I like her, no rules or requirements.

 

[darscot]

First are my firm rules and these are cast in stone.

She must have at least one Brother.

Manners are very important to me. Any strange or weird or even slightly annoying table manners will not be tolerated. Being rude or snobby to the waitress will not be tolerated.

Smoking is not acceptable. I used to be a smoker and still never dated a girl that smoked.

The standard door lock test. If open her car door she must reach over and pop the lock for me. Keyless entry has unfortunately negated this rule.

She must do something it doesn’t have to be a job but she has to have some drive towards something. Working shit jobs because she loves to whatever is good enough.


Soft rules things I like but I can make exceptions.

I like girls with style that knows how to dress.

Tall girls get preference.

Cadence also earns bonus points.

 

[Outcast2004]

Looks will never fade if you simply switch to a younger woman

And, like a good meal, your life can have multiple courses. You can have a pretty, empty plate (a woman), and then put food on top of it (intelligent people who aren't your woman) to fill you up.

....which means you're single. Thanks for letting us know!

sorry, I don't think you're rich enough to buy into the "trophy wife" system.

 

[Forgotten Ancient]

I'm actually in love with a girl who doesn't fit some of my standards. I've been told I have high standards in the past, but now that I've fallen for one who doesn't meet them, I'm in a shitty state of depression and doubt. Trouble is, I'm a co-dependent ****tard who can't let go and hopes that she'll change.

My standards:

Non-Smoking, Non Drug-using, moderate to non-drinker
Must be attractive
Fun, Funny
Smart
Loyal
Nice
Must genuinely be interested and attracted to me

Now...the problems I'm having are that:

She doesn't want kids (I want to have a family someday)
She doesn't want to "grow up"
She wants to hang out with certain guys I don't feel comfortable with her hanging out with. (guys who've come onto her in the past, guys who've tried getting her to leave her exes for them)

I think my girl's incredible. She's got a big heart, is beautiful, makes me generally feel good, and has great taste in music/movies. Despite that, certain problems and standards clashes have made the last few weeks very difficult and I worry it might lead our relationship to ruin. We've already almost broken up a few times, but it kills me to let her go. Just hoping things will smoth out in time. She's just turning 19 now and I'm almost 24, so it's natural to have these differences. Ideally, the answers to our most pressing issues are just a matter of time...realistically, I dunno.

/Livejournal

 

[ghibli99]

Mine are pretty 'laxed... first and foremost, no drugs and no smoking.

We have to have some things in common, like our sense of humor should click. Nothing is more annoying than sitting there laughing at a TV show or a movie while your GF sits there silent, rolling her eyes. Then you find out that she thinks Ryan Seacrest or the women on The View are hilarious. No.

While we don't have to share interests, an understanding of one another's passions is important. Obviously, I like video games, and my GF, while not a "gamer", loves hearing about why I love gaming, and she understands the kinds of games I like and what about them I find appealing. By the same token, she loves to read (I like reading, but not to the same extent), so when I hear her talk about the nuance of certain writers, it's an incredible turn-on and is also intellectually stimulating. I can also show her a video of DJs like Klever, Craze, Qbert, etc., and while she doesn't know anything about DJing, it'll still be fascinating to her, and she'll ask how they did a certain thing or made a certain sound. That kind of interest in what I like (and vice versa) is really one of the most rewarding.

Physical attraction is important to me, but she doesn't have to look like my avatar to get the nod. People might not agree, but like Jules said, personality goes a long way. I really believe that, but I wouldn't lie to myself and put *all* of my eggs into the personality basket.

 

[Pedigree Chum]

ghibli, who's the chick in your avatar?

 

[miyuru]

As long as the girl is normal, socialble, etc., you know, that's good enough for me.

Apparently, my standards are much too high.

 

[Yamauchi]

- Cute or beautiful. A woman that is good to look at. I don't really care much about weight (except too skinny or too big), height, etc.
- Smart.
- Nice.
- Independent.
- Not an American-raised white woman. Sorry, I can't stand the personality of these women. Mostly loud obnoxious whores or cutters. I've found very few in between.
- Isn't a complainer. All day I'm around stupid women that constantly complain about the dumbest crap. I can't stand this.
- Preferably quiet.
- Preferably not a Republican, though I've been with these.

 

[DaCocoBrova]

:lol @ midget splitter.

 

[Catzgirl]

They have to have a nice shaped ass and a flat stomach. Mandatory. The times I've always overlooked that aspect, I regret it. It's like opting out of getting alloys and a sunroof when buying a car. You will eventually regret it.

Intellect. I find most women aren't too swift. You can say and do anything and they'll fall for it. That's no good. I have to have faith in a woman's ability make sounds decisions. I also like to learn and would prefer a woman that can teach me things from time to time.

Fashion sense. I hate being with a woman that wears cotton underwear. That's tacky.

If they're stuck up, or too into themselves, I like to 'break 'em'. Let them know that they have it twisted. Let them know that it's me they want, more than I want them.

This is something I've realized I want as I've gotten older. I want a woman to be somewhat domesticated. I don't want to have to cook every night. I don't like cleaning toilets and shit either. It seems that since my focus has always been on how a woman looks, I always end up w/ the beauty queen, that can't cook or clean. It's even worse when you let them know and they try, because they suck at it. I lost count how many times I hit them w/ the 'I ain't eating that shit! Thanks tho.'

lol wow! There are some pretty odd and high standards in this thread, but I think this post wins. And what's wrong with cotton underwear?? :lol It's hygienically better for women to wear cotton you know Ugh and that cooking and cleaning part just makes you sound like a jerk fyi. "I aint eating that shit!"? At least she cared enough to try and cook for you, that says a lot in itself. Maybe you need to analyze your own worth and attitude before demanding so much out of another.

 

[TheWolf]

a good personality consists of a chick with a little hard body, who will satisfy all sexual demands without being too slutty about things, and who essentially will keep her dumb ****ing mouth shut.

btw, tight little cotton panties are hot.

 

[Patrick Klepek]

i guess i have standards, but most of the time i run on an on-the-fly reaction, rather than searching based on a set criteria. i've found that you eliminate too many people that way; if someone's a right fit, you'll lax on a "feature" you were looking for in the opposite sex simply because it honestly doesn't matter that much. then again, i tend to fall into my relationships by accident; my current gf has been crushing on me for years, but i never knew about it until recently since i'd been away at college and she'd moved into chicago. i didn't even have to make any moves, and it's been the best relationship i've ever had so far.

and she loves to cook.

 

[AlanHemberger]

a good personality consists of a chick with a little hard body, who will satisfy all sexual demands without being too slutty about things, and who essentially will keep her dumb ****ing mouth shut.

btw, tight little cotton panties are hot.

:lol :lol

 

[Chairman Yang]

....which means you're single. Thanks for letting us know!

sorry, I don't think you're rich enough to buy into the "trophy wife" system.

Who needs money when you have charm

 

[Dr. Jade]

Here comes Papa Jade



Even if a girl doesnt meet all your initial requirments ... if you generally enjoy spending time with her ... give a relationship with her a chance and chances are you will grow to fall in love with her ...

 

[Nick]

Woooo mama, I am boarding with some picky ****s.

 

[maynerd]

She must have a hole that she allows me to insert stuff into. Preferably 3 holes.