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I specifically say it to be passive aggressive and rude without getting called out

Along with walking into someone's house I know doesn't have pets and asking where their dogs are

And asking your name even if we've met seven times and I don't like you

And asking someone where they ran from when they get to a meeting to imply they look like frazzled shit even if they don't

Honestly I have a huge list of these types of insults I've made up on my phone

 

[ubique]

People say i look tired all the time. When I ask if they mean I look ugly, they say yes

 

[Gaius Cassius]

I suffer from severe allergies, so my undereyes always are always dark and eyes red and veiny. I'm told that every day, unfortunately.

 

[crisdecuba]

Just saw a coworker tell the other that she looked tired. You could tell she was annoyed.

I hear people say this shit all the time. I feel like it's a pretty rude thing to say. Basically telling someone they look like shit, which I've overheard people tell others as well.

What do you all think of this?

Does anyone here actually tell people this? Do you get told that you're tired? What do you think of it? lol

I only say it to close friends who genuinely look tired -- it's said with empathy as a way to express care and invite them to share what's going on.

I wouldn't do it with acquaintances.

 

[Zoe]

Yeah. It shows a level of concern. Be happy that people even give a shit. If I don't give a fuck about you, then you won't hear a single word from me. I've never really taken, "you look tired" as a negative. I appreciate it, if anything.

Seriously. Some of you people must hang around or work with shitty people to be so suspicious.

 

[crisdecuba]

I specifically say it to be passive aggressive and rude without getting called out

Along with walking into someone's house I know doesn't have pets and asking where their dogs are

And asking your name even if we've met seven times and I don't like you

And asking someone where they ran from when they get to a meeting to imply they look like frazzled shit even if they don't

Honestly I have a huge list of these types of insults I've made up on my phone

One to add to your list:

Pretending not to understand someone's joke so they have to repeat it or explain it, thereby ruining the joke.

Am I right in assuming you only do this with people you dislike? ;-)

Seriously. Some of you people must hang around or work with shitty people to be so suspicious.

It really depends on how it's said. It can easily be said with an air of disdain as opposed to empathy.

 

[dbztrk]

I've been told this a few times at work. I don't make a fuss about it because the people who have said it look awful their damn self.

 

[Linkup]

People tell me this sometimes. I think it's the bored face I have sometimes when they expect a smile.

 

[Creamium]

My experience has been when someone tells me I look tired, I'm fucking tired so ya.

Yep. I will never take offense to that because they're probably right lol.

 

[Nabbis]

I don't say that unless i have the power to free that person from the job and im willing to do so. Someone who looks tired already knows he is tired.

 

[CrimsonSquall]

More dependant on the canthal tilt of your eyes and the display of tear troughs

 

[NoblesseOblige]

Does anyone here actually tell people this?

Only when people look tired.

Do you get told that you're tired?

Only when I look tired.

What do you think of it?

I think you look tired.

 

[LookAtMeGo]

I get this all the time when I'm hung over. Im like "yeah im super tired"

 

[AppleSeason]

My Panda Eyes are permanent, and since I stopped wearing makeup, it's pretty much my normal state.

If they tell me I look tired at the office, I probably haven't slept in the whole night and I'm moving like Wall-E in the mornings.

 

[Symphonia]

I have a genetic deficiency that affects the thickness of my skin around my eyes, making me appear permanently tired. If you say this to me I will fucking smack you

You look tired, mate.

 

[Vincent Grayson]

I think it's pretty fucking rude, honestly.

 

[Ethelwulf]

I don't see the problem really. If someone says that to me is probably because they are right.

 

[Hagi]

Most people at my work place will just straight up say "are you okay? You look like shit" no sublte stuff here.

 

[John Kowalski]

Yes i am tired

 

[Monocle]

I specifically say it to be passive aggressive and rude without getting called out

Along with walking into someone's house I know doesn't have pets and asking where their dogs are

And asking your name even if we've met seven times and I don't like you

And asking someone where they ran from when they get to a meeting to imply they look like frazzled shit even if they don't

Honestly I have a huge list of these types of insults I've made up on my phone

I kind of love this.

 

[Kain-Nosgoth]

when i see some reactions here, i just think we should never talk again to anybody... you try to be nice, but apprently it's not okay! I mean really?

-"hey man are you ok? You look tired!"

-"FUCK YOU, YOU'RE RUDE TO ME, AAAAAAAAAAGH"

 

[Escargo]

It's pretty much saying you're looking ugly

 

[Blue Ninja]

In my experience, the people telling me usually care about me, so I don't take it badly. When I look tired, I usually am tired.

 

[Kazuhira]

I don't find it offensive and i think most of the time people just ask this to start a conversation with no ill intent behind it.
Then again you're tired and with a terrible mood so you find any comment offensive haha.
You could go the other way and say 'i've had a terrible day and i'm really exhausted but none of my workmates had the decency to ask me how i am,what a bunch of dickheads.."

 

[Vincent Grayson]

It's pretty much saying you're looking ugly

Yup, and this is why it sucks. This is especially true if you just kind of always "look tired" even when you're perfectly fine (until someone basically says you look like shit).

 

[notsol337]

My manager recently told me I look tired, and asked if I wanted to take an on-the-clock nap to recharge.

I love this place.

 

[Jobbs]

It's rude, and it's surprising to me how casually people are rude to eachother in this area. One of the twitch streamers I watch is a woman - And occasionally she streams with little or no makeup (how dare she!) and the "you look tired" comments are endless.

 

[trixx]

In my experience, the people telling me usually care about me, so I don't take it badly. When I look tired, I usually am tired.

yeah never took it in negative manner. People that i interact with are generally pretty honest

 

[skypunch]

You're not saying they're ugly, you're just saying they look tired. There's a difference.

 

[Anteater]

Either a polite way to say you look like shit or a shitty way to ask "are you okay? how are you doing?"

 

[SummitAve]

I have long hair right now and I get random questions or comments about it work fairly regularly.... I think it's them trying to make small talk and just saying dumb stuff unintentionally. I just don't say anything about how people look at work ever because I genuinely don't give a fuck.

 

[patapuf]

People that say this to me are

a) usually right

b) acutally care and it's not meant as some wierd double meaning or whatever.

I'm glad i work at a place with decent people. Can't imagine hating my coworkers and not caring about them at all.

 

[oneils]

I'm younger than some of the folks on my team and they tell me this out of concern. It's allergy season so I am tired all the time. I don't really mind the questions as it comes from a good place.

 

[30yearsofhurt]

Who are these arseholes showing concern for their colleagues? /s

 

[JasonUresti]

I specifically say it to be passive aggressive and rude without getting called out

Along with walking into someone's house I know doesn't have pets and asking where their dogs are

And asking your name even if we've met seven times and I don't like you

And asking someone where they ran from when they get to a meeting to imply they look like frazzled shit even if they don't

Honestly I have a huge list of these types of insults I've made up on my phone

I would just think you were slightly developmentally delayed or had a learning disability. You would have my pity.

 

[LegendofDragoonLives]

I'm surprised at how some of you can make it through of the day getting insulted over completely trivial things like this.

 

[The Salt Life]

I usually respond with "you saying I look like shit?"

Especially if I told said person in the past I have problems sleeping.

 

[BAW]

Hell yeah I look tired. It's because of those 12-hour workdays I've been working for God knows how many years. Now disappear from my sight before I muster the last of my strength to bitchslap you.

 

[pbayne]

I think its just an empty conversation filler type thing. Like if you see someone yawning a lot you usually ask if they're tired without really thinking about it. I don't see any real harm in it.

 

[ManUnkindH]

Is it a polite way of telling someone they're drunk?

 

[itwasTuesday]

Jim breuer hates this.

 

[Winterblink]

Just saw a coworker tell the other that she looked tired. You could tell she was annoyed.

I hear people say this shit all the time. I feel like it's a pretty rude thing to say. Basically telling someone they look like shit, which I've overheard people tell others as well.

What do you all think of this?

Does anyone here actually tell people this? Do you get told that you're tired? What do you think of it? lol

I think feeling annoyed by it is a massive overreaction, unless it's the person telling you this is a total stranger. For the most part I've only EVER said that to people I know well, when I could actually tell they look like they've had a rough day or honestly do look tired because I've seen them often enough to know when that's the case. It doesn't mean they look like shit, and I've never had anyone take the comment that way.

 

[SomTervo]

One of the worst things.

I've got really bad allergies and a result of that is that my skin is often very inflamed and dry. Can be in subtle places (joints, back) or obvious places (face, hands).

When my face is in a bad state I've had two people straight up say "You look awful".

Funny you say that - I feel totally fine! I absolutely don't feel like my skin is an alien entity hanging on my face that I want to scratch off!

I used to do this, guilty. my wife set me straight. I always meant it as a sympathetic/empathetic gesture. I was wrong.

TBF, everyone I've had say something like this to me has had a sincere/empathetic motive behind saying it.

It never comes of well, though. I think it's just passable if you're on a 1:1 basis, like there's no one else around.

I specifically say it to be passive aggressive and rude without getting called out

Along with walking into someone's house I know doesn't have pets and asking where their dogs are

And asking your name even if we've met seven times and I don't like you

And asking someone where they ran from when they get to a meeting to imply they look like frazzled shit even if they don't

Honestly I have a huge list of these types of insults I've made up on my phone

 

[ZackieChan]

I'm surprised at how some of you can make it through of the day getting insulted over completely trivial things like this.

This was my thought, too. Jesus Christ, GAF. Get a grip.

 

[fastford58]

my supervisor told me I looked tired today


she was fuckin right

Was going to post something roughly the same lol

 

[Doc_Drop]

Honestly I feel its best to not say this as it shows I am looking at my colleagues, judging their appearance, and feel like I am entitled to announce that judgement.

It can make people feel self-conscious or can be taken badly.

If someone is acting tired however I think it's fair to show concern.

But then again I work in a workplace that is mostly made up of women and as a man I try and judge their appearance as little as possible. This covers weight, hair, make up, clothes, etc. It's not my place to say and is inappropriate.

 

[sc0la]

I just respond, "I am tired."

Because I usually am.

This

 

[DeliciousDoc]

Next week on Gaf: Some weather we are having huh?

gaffer: Are you small talking me because you think im small? what an asshole.

 

[The Broken Ska Record]

When I was a cashier, one customer asked me if I had stayed out all night. I hadn't.

Spoiler

I did take a sleeping pill the night before that made me drowsy all day though.

 

[MilkLizard]

Say that their mom was quite the workout.

There will be sensible chuckles all around.

I actually do that and it works.