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Why haven't you gotten a vasectomy?

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I'm 35, have 2 kids already and we both don't want anymore.

I honestly consider this but there are a couple of things stopping me. First is the idea of the pain and hearing 1 in 20 has continual pain just doesn't seem worth it to me to take that chance. Also, it costs money and we are perpetually broke.
 
GhaleonEB said:
In my case - I'm 39 and my wife is 40. We're done having kids, while we use other contraception, we really don't want any accidents at our age, so the peace of mind will be nice. Plus, it will be nice to relax a bit on the other methods.
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This. I think people in their 20s without kids shouldn't even consider it. It's a fairly permanent solution to something you may not be sure about.

But in your late 30s, married for almost a decade and with multiple kids already? Snip away.

I got one last year after my wife had our second child. It was free thanks to a high deductible plan getting hit by the birth.

Downside is I was one of the less common to have a LOT of pain following. I was practically bed ridden for almost a week and I was in pain pretty consistently for the next 6 months.

For most, it's a weekend recovery though and back to 100% in a few weeks.

Much safer than a woman getting her tubes tied (that's a major surgery) and a lot more peace of mind than other contraceptives.
 
garath said:
This. I think people in their 20s without kids shouldn't even consider it. It's a fairly permanent solution to something you may not be sure about.

But in your late 30s, married for almost a decade and with multiple kids already? Snip away.

I got one last year after my wife had our second child. It was free thanks to a high deductible plan getting hit by the birth.

Downside is I was one of the less common to have a LOT of pain following. I was practically bed ridden for almost a week and I was in pain pretty consistently for the next 6 months.

For most, it's a weekend recovery though and back to 100% in a few weeks.

Much safer than a woman getting her tubes tied (that's a major surgery) and a lot more peace of mind than other contraceptives.
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Heh, I'm doing it this year for similar reasons. I got food poisoning in January and the hospital visit caused me to hit my out of pocket limit on our HDHP for the year - so if I do it this year, I won't pay anything.
 
The pill is much easier, though I am planning on getting a vasectomy as long as everything works out with our second baby, which is currently in the proverbial oven.
 
I'm late 30's, married, no kids and no desire to have any. I would have gotten one a few years ago but my wife wasn't ready to pull the trigger the last time we talked about it. I've been meaning to bring it up again.
 
Sometimes it's due to completely misunderstanding what exactly a vasectomy entails. A lot of guys think they'll have a reduced sex drive, or fear that they may become impotent. I've seen several posters on GAF saying that they don't want one because they would feel weird if they climaxed and nothing came out (not how it works). There is quite a lot of misunderstanding out there.

Got one myself at 33...haven't looked back. Sex with the wife is better than ever.
 
Shadybiz said:
Sometimes it's due to completely misunderstanding what exactly a vasectomy entails. A lot of guys think they'll have a reduced sex drive, or fear that they may become impotent. I've seen several posters on GAF saying that they don't want one because they would feel weird if they climaxed and nothing came out (not how it works). There is quite a lot of misunderstanding out there.

Got one myself at 33...haven't looked back. Sex with the wife is better than ever.
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I thought all of these things until my friends explained how it actually works.
 
Got mine and I agree sex with my wife is better now. Worry free!

We both got to the point were we realized we were happy without kids and the toll that birth control had on her was too much so it was a no brainer for me really. Condoms also suck.

As for pain, guys are such babies about this. It is not bad at all. Yes some discomfort but the new procedures are quick and simple.
 
Boyfriend's planning on one after we have kids. Birth control hasn't always been kind to me, and I'm sick of the hassle of them. A vasectomy is pretty quick these days and low-risk. A friend had one and he loved it.
 
Really not into surgery, regardless of how intrusive or non-intrusive it ia. Don't have a long-term SO at the moment, so I don't bareback and won't anytime soon. When Vasalgel goes on the market though, I'll definitely look into that. I'm fine with needles, and it costs way less.
 
I got one four years ago. Never, ever remotely wanted kids and nor does my fiance. We're happy as hell to not have mess with birth control pills or condoms.
 
Because I plan to have one more kid. Even then....you never know. It's not easily reversible. So I think I'd rather not do it.

If it were easily reversible I'd get it done the day my next kid was born.
 
Because i hate the idea of surgery, especially there. My wife and i are not sure about kids yet. She is on birth control. If she should get accidently pregnant, we would just keep the baby.
 
I want to, but the wife wants me to wait til 30. We have talked about not having kids. I think when we agree to the procedure it will be real for her and I dont think she wants to deal with that atm.

Shes on the pill at the moment.
 
I'm married. Have 2 kids don't want any more and I feel like an asshole for not getting it done now. However what is keeping me back is the procedure. Even though it is now scalpel free and takes 5 minutes or something, I'm so piss scared of medical stuff that last time I had a blood test my heart rate went down to 30 or something and they had to keep me there till I stabalized.

If I could take an Ativan prior to going it would probably help. That or get super drunk.

BTW I don't think a man can just walk in and get one. Last time I had a friend without kids get one in his 30s they made him wait and think it over in case he wanted kids one day.
 
I have one. Insurance did not cover it and it was ~$600

Reversal is NOT easy or guaranteed. In fact, doctors will go to great lengths to confirm and reconfirm that you indeed want to do it and that you should not expect to be able to undo it.

Also, it becomes exceedingly difficult to find a doctor who will do a vasectomy if you don't already have kids or are not married.

For me, it was pretty painless with just a bit of discomfort and I'd recommend it to someone who was completely sure they didn't' want any more kids, not to someone who wants a 'temporary' form of birth control.

I'd also be curious to see the statistical breakdown of who are getting abortions, id hazard a guess and say couples who already have children are the minority, and that is who vasectomies are aimed at.
 
Im 38, two kids, we're done, I got snipped in March, and everything still works just fine.

Its a pretty easy surgery, I was awake for it which is odd, but you only feel a little tugging, and the pain in recovery wasn't bad (just a tylenol now and then), 2 days of doing nothing (ROCKET LEAGUE) and 2 days of light activity (ROCKET LEAGUE) , and back to work on Monday.

No pain at all now. A third kid now would mean I'd need a bigger house, and two bigger cars. We didn't fall for the trap of "WE NEED A 5 BR HOME and 2 MINIVANS!!!" just because we have two kids, we have a large 3BR home, and two midsize sedans, and an actual savings account to be proud of..which a 3rd one would decimate.
 
I've thought about it, since I don't want kids. Don't have a girlfriend so it's only my decision, for as long as I can remember I've never wanted kids. They why haven't I done it yet?
I don't like pain and I keep hearing some people have ptoblems afterwards.
I'm so afraid something is going to wrong, I already have problems getting it up and I don't want to risk anything happening, that might make it worse (if it hurts).
 
It's not a necessary surgery for me and while I currently don't want kids I'm not 100% sure I never will, and it seems a lot of effort to go to just to get it potentially reversed later. Maybe when I'm older and know for sure I want no (more) kids.
 
I want kids, but anytime you do an elective surgery where you destroy or endanger healthy tissue and replace it with scar tissue... you're asking for trouble. I've had health problems before and I'm far more cautious ever since. Nothing's 100%.
 
Warm Machine said:
If I could take an Ativan prior to going it would probably help. That or get super drunk.
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My doc prescribed me 1 generously sized Valium for before the procedure. I have mild Tourrettes, and didn't want to risk castration if I had a twitch. If you explain your anxiety, the doc might do the same for you.
 
rokkerkory said:
What if your parents did this OP?
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Uhm....then I guess I wouldn't be here..?

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Also, to everyone else..I even said in the OP that I'm referring to people who know for a fact that they don't want to have kids. I mean if you know you don't want them..why risk it? Condoms break and birth control (the pill) is only effective if you take it properly. I can understand monetary reasons. But women who don't want kids get abortions (sometimes multiple times) if they don't want kids..whereas a vasectomy is a one time procedure. And they can always collect sperm from you or reverse it later on.

Edit 2: sounds like a lot of people are worried about the pain as well..so that's also understandable
 
Because I don't quite want to rely on testosterone supplements to support my already shaky memory.

Plus, I feel that a surgery seems a bit drastic for something that I can counter with contraceptives (Side-note, male birth control needs to be more of a thing). I mean, I don't think I want kids, and I'm thinking I'd adopt if I could, but that doesn't mean I want to waste thousands of dollars in case I change my mind down the road.
 
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Zubz said:
Because I don't quite want to rely on testosterone supplements to support my already shaky memory.

Plus, I feel that a surgery seems a bit drastic for something that I can counter with contraceptives (Side-note, male birth control needs to be more of a thing). I mean, I don't think I want kids, and I'm thinking I'd adopt if I could, but that doesn't mean I want to waste thousands of dollars in case I change my mind down the road.
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As far as science is concerned, nobody has proven any link between vasectomies and reduced testosterone levels.

And I have gotten a vasectomy. After 11 years of marriage and neither my wife or I changing our minds on the no kids thing, I figured it was time for her to get off of her birth control.

I was sore for a couple of days. Had to ice. Not lift anything. Stay sat down. It was uncomfortable and all that, but it was no big deal really.
 
I'm thinking about it.

I'm about to turn 36 and have 2 kids. We don't want anymore. I'm just terrified they'll fuck something up and do irreversible damage.

It's just paranoia I guess.
 
Zubz said:
Because I don't quite want to rely on testosterone supplements to support my already shaky memory.
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You don't have to worry about that part - it's a vasectomy, not a castration.

But if you have any doubts about potentially wanting kids at some point I wouldn't do it. It's too expensive to reverse and not always successful either.
 
AxeMan said:
Chicks can get their tubes tied.
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It's also a much more risky surgery for "chicks" to get their tubes tied than for a dude to get a vasectomy.

I got one when I was in my 20s. My partner and I had/have zero desire to have kids. It's one of the best decisions I ever made. The most painful part of mine was having to listen to Jack Johnson for an hour waiting for the doctor to get into the room to finish the surgery.
 
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