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BobbyRoberts said:
But it does speak to the outdated notion of the internet being a lesser form of communication, one that doesn't, and shouldn't, count as much as some other, "realer" form of communication.

Again - when you try to draw these imaginary lines between "real life" and "internet," who you trying to convince?
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Agreed, regardless of the method of communication, how can anyone defend telling someone to kill themselves is acceptable behavior?
 
Pimpwerx said:
Someone should tell her and others who keep ending up in these stories that it's normal behavior, and clearly a viable option for success in the relationship. The track record is undisputable after all.

When I was raised, you had an issue with someone, you ask them about it. I don't need to ask the internet how to ask my spouse about their weird internet behavior. The internet doesn't know him. The internet wasn't married to him 9 years. My friends or family are people I can turn to, but the internet?

Keeping it anonymous isn't the point. The point is she needed advice from strangers on how to approach the person she's been married to for 9 years.

I'll leave it at that. PEACE.
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Kazerei said:
So when does a relationship become too long to ask for advice on GAF? Just wondering if I ever make a relationship advice thread.

http://www.neogaf.com/forum/showthread.php?t=89933
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freenudemacusers said:
The first rule of the nude trading network is: You do not talk the nude trading network.
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I don't understand the appeal of it when porn is abundant and free. The only reason I can think of is that they get off on violating the privacy of women. Sure they sent the images to their boyfriends but I would guess most of the time they were sent only for their boyfriends who then get bitter after a breakup and decide to be assholes. The fact that the poster already mentioned that it is easy to identify women from nudes makes me think some people take it even further and stalk, shame, or attempt to ruin the lives of these women. Good times I guess?
 
rjinaz said:
I don't understand the appeal of it when porn is abundant and free. The only reason I can think of is that they get off on violating the privacy of women. Sure they sent the images to their boyfriends but I would guess most of the time they were sent only for their boyfriends who then get bitter after a breakup and decide to be assholes. The fact that the poster already mentioned that it is easy to identify women from nudes makes me think some people take it even further and stalk, shame, or attempt to ruin the lives of these women. Good times I guess?
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of course this is it... and it's pretty gross
 
Kimawolf said:
Wow, this thread took a turn, lets hope Mr. Wreckless doesn't kill himself over all the bullying going on. and luckily I have nothing in my old threads for Gaf detectives to dig through or i'm sure the mob would be on me too.

I still think she overreacted because my best friend was addicted to pain pills, I knew it, his mom knew it, everyone knew it. If I was like this woman, or half the posters in this thread like JDSN I'd ask him one time to get help, when he said no i'd told him cool and to fuck off.

People who think like that are the worst kind of people in my opinion. You think his issues are big enough to go get "counseling" then you must think he has a problem. So yeah to me she overreacted and instead of trying to work on and help the "love of her life perfect man for 9 years" she said "oh alright we're divorcing."

Then made a thread on Reddit about it. Yeah, thank god none of you have to deal with real peopel who have issues. They'd all be dead.
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Nothing, huh?
 
Kimawolf said:
Wow, this thread took a turn, lets hope Mr. Wreckless doesn't kill himself over all the bullying going on. and luckily I have nothing in my old threads for Gaf detectives to dig through or i'm sure the mob would be on me too.

I still think she overreacted because my best friend was addicted to pain pills, I knew it, his mom knew it, everyone knew it. If I was like this woman, or half the posters in this thread like JDSN I'd ask him one time to get help, when he said no i'd told him cool and to fuck off.

People who think like that are the worst kind of people in my opinion. You think his issues are big enough to go get "counseling" then you must think he has a problem. So yeah to me she overreacted and instead of trying to work on and help the "love of her life perfect man for 9 years" she said "oh alright we're divorcing."

Then made a thread on Reddit about it. Yeah, thank god none of you have to deal with real people who have issues. They'd all be dead.
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You heard it here first, gang. Drug addiction is the same as telling teenagers to kill themselves.
 
Byakuya769 said:
You heard it here first, gang. Drug addiction is the same as telling teenagers to kill themselves.
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Are you saying a mental illness is not a serious thing? Because the prevailing thing n this thread is that the dude has serious mental problems and the wife in leaving him for it.
 
Kimawolf said:
Are you saying a mental illness is not a serious thing? Because the prevailing thing n this thread is that the dude has serious mental problems and the wife in leaving him for it.
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I don't think that's prevailing at all. Most people are just calling him an asshole, a few want to foster some sympathy for this "afflicted" man. But a lot of those latter people are kind of getting exposed left and right...
 
Kimawolf said:
Are you saying a mental illness is not a serious thing? Because the prevailing thing n this thread is that the dude has serious mental problems and the wife in leaving him for it.
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That's a fair point because it could be an illness theoretically. That being said, the husband is refusing to get help for it. The wife was willing to give him a chance to change or get help, but when somebody doesn't want the help or refuses to admit they have a problem which seems to be the case here, there is little to nothing that can be done. Some people spend their entire lives with psychological disorders and never get treated because they refuse to accept they have a problem. I'll also note that not admitting to a problem could very well be a symptom of the disorder, which makes psychological disorders even more complicated. But with a child on the way, the mother will do what she thinks is best and she had decided.
 
Devolution said:
Nothing, huh?
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Hey this is no different than calling a radio show to say something to an asshole caller. Or posting a comment on a news story.
rjinaz said:
That's a fair point because it could be an illness theoretically. That being said, the husband is refusing to get help for it. The wife was willing to give him a chance to change or get help, but when somebody doesn't want the help or refuses to admit they have a problem which seems to be the case here, there is little to nothing that can be done. Some people spend their entire lives with psychological disorders and never get treated because they refuse to accept they have a problem.
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And I agree. I just think a marriage of 9years deserves more than two attempts then a reddit post talking about divorce when dealing with such a thing.

Some people don't and that's fine. But I don't attack them for their viewpoint. You think I'm wrong great. But don't devolve into personal attacks.
 
Kimawolf said:
Are you saying a mental illness is not a serious thing? Because the prevailing thing n this thread is that the dude has serious mental problems and the wife in leaving him for it.
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She's leaving him because he refuses to get help or acknowledge that his behavior is a problem.
 
Kimawolf said:
Are you saying a mental illness is not a serious thing? Because the prevailing thing n this thread is that the dude has serious mental problems and the wife in leaving him for it.
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Of course it is. But when the person continues to refuse to take any help offered, there comes a time when one has to look out for oneself. Especially when she soon has a kid to take care of as well.
 
Wow, that husband is a real POS. But separating because of his online persona? Yeah....I don't know about that. But this is one of those issues where an ordinary outsider couldn't possibly imagine the strain this revelation may be putting on their marriage, so I defer to the wife in whatever she decides to do.
 
I only insult people when I'm really mad at them/absolutely hate them as a person.

To go to the extent demonstrated in the OP merely to troll and try to exploit one's insecurities at that age is profoundly indecent. smh
 
Kimawolf said:
Are you saying a mental illness is not a serious thing? Because the prevailing thing n this thread is that the dude has serious mental problems and the wife in leaving him for it.
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Even if he wasn't refusing treatment, no one is obligated to hold your hand through your bullshit.
 
Oh my god, this thread. It just keeps on giving.


Also, to address the issue that seems to keep coming up in this thread about "how could she just give up on the marriage," where are people getting the impression that she has already divorced the guy?

Her ultimatum was for him to get help or she would begin the separation process, and when he refused she asked him to leave the house. Separation is not divorce. Many people go through a separation period while they work through issues in their marriage, in cases where it would be difficult to continue to live with their partner until they have come to terms with the issues. In some cases it's a wake up call to people to say "I'm this close to losing my marriage, I better do something to fix it." Though admittedly, many separations ultimately end with divorce, it is important to make the distinction.

It is very possible that if he learns his lesson during the separation and stops his behavior she might be willing to take him back. In fact, she posted the following in response to a comment on her post:

I am hoping that we can come to a resolution by the time our child comes. There is enough time that he could come around, somehow. But I don't believe he will.
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So she hasn't "given up" or "thrown away her marriage". She is still trying to convince her husband to be the kind of man she can continue to love. She is just getting herself out of a bad situation (having to live with a man who she can't respect, and having to look him in the eyes every day knowing how he treats other people) in the meantime.
 
I...just...this thread...

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At any rate, the woman in the OP has far more patience than I would've had in this situation...but then, she had been with him for nine years. It must be so shocking to discover the utterly callous and twisted nature of a person that you'd previously trusted with all your heart.
 
someone tell this man to play videogames
nothing helps stress better than beating the crap out of random stuff
and unlike the internet theres actually no real people
 
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