Rodney McKay
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This happened to my girlfriend last Christmas.
She had a friend from high school and we even went to their wedding earlier in the year.
Around Christmas time she called my girlfriend asking for some money to buy a gift for her husband because they were short of cash.
We had forgotten to get them a wedding gift so we were just going to call it a gift but she insisted that she would pay my girlfriend back. But after a few weeks we heard nothing and after asking about it a few times they just stopped responding all together. A mutual friend told us her and her husband got into drugs at some point (and they were HEAVILY into Amway even before the wedding), so we basically just wrote them off.
I have yet to have someone ask me for money other than my girlfriend (who is very punctual about paying me back), but if I did, I will give that person a deadline, and probably one extra chance if they mess up and aren't able to have the money at that point. Also, I'd never loan anyone more than $50, maybe $100 if they're a legitimately close friend or relative.
If they fail the second chance, they'll never get another cent from me. I saw my girlfriend deal with an old roommate (TWO actually) who ended up owning her thousands of dollars in back rent because she's too nice of a person to put her foot down. One of the roommates was a literal con-man we found out afterwards. He ended up moving back to India before we could sue him, but there was another woman who he owed over 10K to.
I'm never going to let that happen to me.
She had a friend from high school and we even went to their wedding earlier in the year.
Around Christmas time she called my girlfriend asking for some money to buy a gift for her husband because they were short of cash.
We had forgotten to get them a wedding gift so we were just going to call it a gift but she insisted that she would pay my girlfriend back. But after a few weeks we heard nothing and after asking about it a few times they just stopped responding all together. A mutual friend told us her and her husband got into drugs at some point (and they were HEAVILY into Amway even before the wedding), so we basically just wrote them off.
I have yet to have someone ask me for money other than my girlfriend (who is very punctual about paying me back), but if I did, I will give that person a deadline, and probably one extra chance if they mess up and aren't able to have the money at that point. Also, I'd never loan anyone more than $50, maybe $100 if they're a legitimately close friend or relative.
If they fail the second chance, they'll never get another cent from me. I saw my girlfriend deal with an old roommate (TWO actually) who ended up owning her thousands of dollars in back rent because she's too nice of a person to put her foot down. One of the roommates was a literal con-man we found out afterwards. He ended up moving back to India before we could sue him, but there was another woman who he owed over 10K to.
I'm never going to let that happen to me.