EXPotemkin
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Hey that's me and it's still me. lol
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Your biggest regret in life so far?
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Hey that's me and it's still me. lol
Death Metalist
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No regrets. Only experiences and learning from said experiences.
to let my parents kill all enthusiasm I had for learning.
I was a little boy and really wanted a book by stephen hawking. My father has enough money to buy a book without thinking twice but I just got a "you would not understand anyway"
or "I want to learn japanese" "why? you would not be able to learn it anyway" and so on and so on.
Now I am studying japanese studies and east asien art history and it still hunts me. every time I face a problem in studying I am like "shit..why do I even try". Sad that I am 28 and still not over it even after all those years.
I was a little boy and really wanted a book by stephen hawking. My father has enough money to buy a book without thinking twice but I just got a "you would not understand anyway"
or "I want to learn japanese" "why? you would not be able to learn it anyway" and so on and so on.
Now I am studying japanese studies and east asien art history and it still hunts me. every time I face a problem in studying I am like "shit..why do I even try". Sad that I am 28 and still not over it even after all those years.
triplestation
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Fucking off in high school
Oh look, it's me!
Man that's messed up, reminds me of my parents somewhat...I guess they came from meager beginnings and any time I'd come to them with a problem in my own life they'd be like..."that's not a real problem, wait til you're an adult like me with real problems". Got to the point where I stopped coming to them with any of my feelings or problems. Worst part is if you don't watch yourself you start to see yourself do similar things to your own kids.
But as for the OP, when I was 7 at a yard sale I had a choice between an erector set:
and a classic full voltron:
and I chose the erector set. Basically set me on the path to being an engineer. Man if I had chosen that voltron who knows what I could've been.
you would have been the engineer to build the first voltron. go build a Time Machine NOW!
EXPotemkin
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Man that's messed up, reminds me of my parents somewhat...I guess they came from meager beginnings and any time I'd come to them with a problem in my own life they'd be like..."that's not a real problem, wait til you're an adult like me with real problems". Got to the point where I stopped coming to them with any of my feelings or problems. Worst part is if you don't watch yourself you start to see yourself do similar things to your own kids.
But as for the OP, when I was 7 at a yard sale I had a choice between an erector set:
and a classic full voltron:
and I chose the erector set. Basically set me on the path to being an engineer. Man if I had chosen that voltron who knows what I could've been.
You could've been a defender of the universe! You dun goofed!
Girl I used to work with. I had a massive crush on her. We'd worked together for two years. We became close friends. She dropped the bombshell she was moving to Australia. At college one day, on lunch, I bunped into her in town. She was getting ready for her flight. We said our goodbyes and that was it. As she walked away to her, she stopped and looked back, as if summoning me over. I waved and left. To this day, I regret not going over. I could've told her how I feel. She might've told me her true feelings for me. Urgh.
Herbspiceguy
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I asked my parents to buy Total Recall for the NES for me. Surely a game based on such a badass movie couldn't suck, right?
ReturnOfTheRAT
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Things will work themselves out.
Wolf Dawgz
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I regret not getting help in my first year of university. While I'm not exactly treating stuff that affects me like social anxiety, it would have been especially nice to have done it back then. Also related to that having a roomate in my first year. I didn't really like him too much, and it felt really weird for me.
Also regret not continuing with a computer science degree. Related to the social anxiety above, I did terrible in my first year. I ended up failing my first year CPSC course, and would skip the labs because I wasn't able to understand the TA(accent).
I ended up getting into academic probation, but in my second year I brought up my GPA and this year's GPA looks like it'll be even better.
Also regret not continuing with a computer science degree. Related to the social anxiety above, I did terrible in my first year. I ended up failing my first year CPSC course, and would skip the labs because I wasn't able to understand the TA(accent).
I ended up getting into academic probation, but in my second year I brought up my GPA and this year's GPA looks like it'll be even better.
Josh with a J
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One time I was bombing a hill (long-board term) and I hit a pot hole and broke both my arms. I almost had that hill defeated -_-
Always-honest
Banned
Smoking
JensenBeeswax
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Getting back together with a cheater. Four times (that I know of).
I'm an idiot.
I'm an idiot.
Patrick Bateman
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Not investing in Apple-stocks back in 2006.
Being too nice/a doormat and caving in to the wants of others instead of focusing on my education and putting my intelligence to better use to make something of myself. I'm starting to pre-study, get my finances in order and save so I can apply to university or a feeder college when I'm prepared.
Letting my parents dictate what university I could go to, saying I can't leave the city or they'll all move. Right now I could be second year pharm chem, and preparing for the PCAT at Waterloo, with an academic and athletic scholarship large enough to make residence/food cost irrelevant so my loans would only cover tuition. Deferred the offer, naturally, along with all the others - took an extra semester in high school, and after 6 months of attempting to convince them rather than just packing up and leaving myself, I'm at a local university. I travel anywhere between 1.5 and 2 hours depending on how the subway is feeling with delays, and while I'm doing well (albeit in comp. sci - which I enjoy, don't get me wrong - and psych) I'm incredibly unmotivated and feel like I've just wasted just under $10000 between tuition and travel costs.
What will probably be my biggest regret in life is something ongoing: being in my early 20s with zero social life, being crippled by insecurities. I'm following a path that will surely lead me to a lonely bitter life and I'm doing nothing to stop it.
The worst thing is that I know it and still can't/won't do anything about it.
The worst thing is that I know it and still can't/won't do anything about it.
Vicetrailia
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I just traded Draymond Green for Demar Carroll in my NBA fantasy league, all on accident and it got accepted. Never sending trades from cellphones again. :0
JensenBeeswax
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Have you looked into getting a gym membership? Good for health and confidence, and if you keep track and your numbers go up, it gives you a sense of real progress. Worked for my when I was at a really low point in my mid-twenties.
This seems to be a standard response to someone who has crippling social and self-confidence problems, and really it's pretty useless advice. I mean it's a good starting point but it's not going to solve those kinda of problems, not by a long shot.
I actually started going to the gym two months ago. It's early to say, I have improved somewhat, but hasn't made any difference mentally.
freakzilla149
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Not paying attention to things when I was younger. If I actually studied, tried to me nice t o people and generally make a difference I'd be so much happier now. For whatever reason I just coasted through my life until I couldn't.
Annoying Old Party Man
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Not doing enough to become some sort of artist or scholar, when I knew I had the talent for it. I wandered aimlessly at high school and in the end I dropped out of the university.
I truly believe I could succeed hardcore, but I'm too much into "Dolce far Niente"
I truly believe I could succeed hardcore, but I'm too much into "Dolce far Niente"
Delicious Waffles
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In college, not going for a degree in childhood education to begin with. Probably would've had a full-time job by now and a lot less student loans.
acheron_xl
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I didn't cheat in HS. I should've cheated on my homework. I always tested well, but did almost literally no homework, so I had about half the credits I needed to graduate after 4 years. I might've gotten a diploma if I had cheated, like every athlete and other shithead.
I also blew most of my 20s trying to get a band going in Iowa. It didn't work (obviously. It was also too early to leverage YouTube, as it hadn't been invented yet) So, I blew the only years I had to succeed in a place where success was almost impossible. Now I'm over 30 and unwanted by any band that wants to do anything interesting (being under 30 is a prerequisite, it seems).
I also blew most of my 20s trying to get a band going in Iowa. It didn't work (obviously. It was also too early to leverage YouTube, as it hadn't been invented yet) So, I blew the only years I had to succeed in a place where success was almost impossible. Now I'm over 30 and unwanted by any band that wants to do anything interesting (being under 30 is a prerequisite, it seems).
Freeza Under The Shower
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I tend to think of it as +10 resistance on bad feelings. It doesn't solve shit, but it's easier to defend against despair and it does remove a few things that would otherwise be causes for feeling even worse, in my personal experience.
That said, I now (kind of) regret not doing body building in my twenties 'for realsies', since that would have made a lot of difference in how I feel about myself and more importantly, what am I capable of ( and "good for" ).
other than that on this topic, of course: EVERYTHING.
BrightEyedPanic
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Aspects of moving to Chicago.
Vicetrailia
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Not doing something actually effective about owing my college $4035 for staying in a dorm freshman year, sooner. After I found out about the SS# transcription error I tried to pay them in many ways (and failed), but I really should have reported them to the CFPB. Good news is I can finally go back after I find a way to pay them 4 grand first.
being completely oblivious to this girl in school who was dying for me. I just didn't notice any of that, never spoke to her much, never knew her family or where she was from, and when her friends finally told me I just didn't give a fuck. Turned out she's from one of the richest dinasties in the country, and now she's happily married with children. I could be a damn millionaire now AARGH
FO-totality
Poet Centuriate
Not learning how to date/not going through all the ups-and-downs of adolescent romance. Dating might as well be a foreign language to me at this point.
friskykillface
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Going into debt by going to a private college
My parents are helping pay so they don't admit it but I think they delayed retirement a few years to help me pay
I feel awful about it :/ fuck
I gotta pay them back
Also being shy not asking a few girls out during high school x college , could have had something
Oh well.
My parents are helping pay so they don't admit it but I think they delayed retirement a few years to help me pay
I feel awful about it :/ fuck
I gotta pay them back
Also being shy not asking a few girls out during high school x college , could have had something
Oh well.
Yoda
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I spent my early college years (which I started two years late but that is another story) trying to please my family instead of doing something that I truly enjoyed. I was about to graduate and said to myself is this really the path I want to take? As going back later would surely cost me more than just staying. The cost of pursing what I love will mean I won't finish undergrad until I'm 26 (gotta love taking pre-reqs for credit intensive majors).
Aside from the above I had a relationship that truly was something else. It was my 3rd long-term relationship and I felt something for my SO that I'd never experienced with the other two, this despite being with them for considerably longer amounts of time. I'd never felt so happy in my life but I lost sight of what made our relationship what it was and saw someone who showed me what the idea of love really is remove me from her life. This added an extra year to my schooling as I promptly bombed the current and next semester due to depression.
TDLR: Learned the hard way that relying on ANYONE for anything that isn't small and insignificant in the grand scheme of your life is a bad idea.
Aside from the above I had a relationship that truly was something else. It was my 3rd long-term relationship and I felt something for my SO that I'd never experienced with the other two, this despite being with them for considerably longer amounts of time. I'd never felt so happy in my life but I lost sight of what made our relationship what it was and saw someone who showed me what the idea of love really is remove me from her life. This added an extra year to my schooling as I promptly bombed the current and next semester due to depression.
TDLR: Learned the hard way that relying on ANYONE for anything that isn't small and insignificant in the grand scheme of your life is a bad idea.
WesternHeretic
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That one time... when I bet 5k on a black jack hand inside a club.... yea put a black jack table inside of the club... genius people in Vegas man got me good.
Zeyphersan
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Clicking on that thread about the maggots laying eggs in someone's face
PlayALLtheGames
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Not working harder in college. Everything ended up working out for me but I wish I had tried a wider variety of classes and taken attendance more seriously.
Going to a community college for four years to study graphic design, and graduate with an associates in arts and what have you, only to realize that not only am I terrible at it, I just don't like it :\
Also, being myself in college (aka, anti-social, overly quiet and shy as all hell). That and still being fat in spite of the workout routines I've started, and abruptly quit, because of stuff that I will probably never have control over.
Also, being myself in college (aka, anti-social, overly quiet and shy as all hell). That and still being fat in spite of the workout routines I've started, and abruptly quit, because of stuff that I will probably never have control over.
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