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FrostuTheNinja

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Would you want them to love science fiction, while being moderately tempered and having a naturally forgiving nature? Maybe you desire that their inevitable upbringing will net you a doctor, an artist or perhaps the humble, starlight wish of raising a sports god.

What do you want your kids to be like when they grow up?
 
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For me it's about not failing my kid/s. Besides that I hope:
  • he/she is not born as socio/psychopath
  • he/she does not have resort to prostitution to make ends meet (during grown up years)
  • he/she should practice safe sex in time
  • he/she should never go down on anyone without being expected the favour to be returned (esp. for a woman)
  • he/she is capable of learning from mistakes
  • he/she understands that he/she owes me nothing
  • he/she is capable of a variety of thoughts
  • he/she live life without being emotionally shattered while trying to reconcile ideas/thoughts that produce cognitive dissonance
 
My strengths without my shortcomings. I want him or her to be cautious but not cynical, strong but humble, smart but not alienating. But I can't decide what he or she will carry from me, my influence will only do so much.
 
I'll accept and love my child for whoever they are, but I do hope that we will have something in common or something to bond over. I really don't have that with my parents and it would break my heart if my kid and I had such a bad relationship as I do with either of my parents.
 
i-Lo said:
For me it's about not failing my kid/s. Besides that I hope:
  • he/she is not born as socio/psychopath
  • he/she does not have resort to prostitution to make ends meet (during grown up years)
  • he/she should practice safe sex in time
  • he/she should never go down on anyone without being expected the favour to be returned (esp. for a woman)
  • he/she is capable of learning from mistakes
  • he/she understands that he/she owes me nothing
  • he/she is capable of a variety of thoughts
  • he/she live life without being emotionally shattered while trying to reconcile ideas/thoughts that produce cognitive dissonance
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Sometimes a woman is willing to do that but doesnt take the effort to clear their own brush. I dont want to floss my teeth.
 
FrostuTheNinja said:
Would you want them to love science fiction, while being moderately tempered and having a naturally forgiving nature? Maybe you desire that their inevitable upbringing will net you a doctor, an artist or perhaps the humble, starlight wish of raising a sports god.
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I think you just try not to fuck up too much, and instill upon them how important it is that they try to be a good person.
 
Though as mentioned in the other thread, from what I've noted, every other generation of my family is wild, where the imbetween gens are more timid. I'm timid gen, so it's kinda gonna be a challenge. On the flipside though, I don't think I'd mind letting them get up to stuff other parents probably wouldn't allow at a young age, I'm just going to try and ensure they balance whatever stupid shit they want to do, with working hard.
 
Conor 419 said:
Though as mentioned in the other thread, from what I've noted, every other generation of my family is wild, where the imbetween gens are more timid. I'm timid gen, so it's kinda gonna be a challenge. On the flipside though, I don't think I'd mind letting them get up to stuff other parents probably wouldn't allow at a young age, I'm just going to try and ensure they balance whatever stupid shit they want to do, with working hard.
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I hope this is true for the sake of my lil shit, both me and the baby mama are pretty self destructive, chaotic people.
 
BannedEpisode said:
Sometimes a woman is willing to do that but doesnt take the effort to clear their own brush. I dont want to floss my teeth.
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A bit of context here. I came to Canada from a culture that was free to talk about sex (among friends of both gender) but overall was sexually repressed (ironic since my ex-birth country gave the world Kama Sutra) when it comes to the acts. Also, there was (not any more I guess) this general lack of access to internet porn. Before 2004, I really did not have a proper understanding of what all the sexual acts meant let alone entailed.

Now, in Canada (2004) when I saw all the goodies here, one thing stuck out is how a woman gives blowjob down on her knees or rather assumes a position below the man while performing the act and the way it generally ended with it being one sided. To me it felt exceedingly degrading. It wasn't the act (which now I am desensitized to) rather the perception of power in that the porn industry had imbibed the male gender. I don't know if I am the only one, but given what women (generally) in porn industry have to do to satiate the myriad of sexual desires of viewers comprising of males (mostly) and females, my respect for them (and women in general) rose over the years.

Sex and all its acts form a part of power play in a relationship and if I have a son/daughter (especially the latter given we do not yet live in an egalitarian society) then I would do well to teach him/her the importance of not being taken advantage of.
 
i-Lo said:
A bit of context here. I came to Canada from a culture that was free to talk about sex (among friends of both gender) but overall was sexually repressed (ironic since my ex-birth country gave the world Kama Sutra) when it comes to the acts. Also, there was (not any more I guess) this general lack of access to internet porn. Before 2004, I really did not have a proper understanding of what all the sexual acts meant let alone entailed.

Now, in Canada (2004) when I saw all the goodies here, one thing stuck out is how a woman gives blowjob down on her knees or rather assumes a position below the man while performing the act and the way it generally ended with it being one sided. To me it felt exceedingly degrading. It wasn't the act (which now I am desensitized to) rather the perception of power in that the porn industry had imbibed the male gender. I don't know if I am the only one, but given what women (generally) in porn industry have to do to satiate the myriad of sexual desires of viewers comprising of males (mostly) and females, my respect for them (and women in general) rose over the years.

Sex and all its acts form a part of power play in a relationship and if I have a son/daughter (especially the latter given we do not yet live in an egalitarian society) then I would do well to teach him/her the importance of not being taken advantage of.
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That is perfectly reasonable. Just remind them to trim the hedges. No need to scorch the earth but some maintenance is required.
 
I'm not having kids, but I do kind of want them (just not enough to ever do it). I pretty much just imagine a somewhat idealized version of myself. So maybe it's good that I'm not having kids...
 
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"I don't think he needs to be rich or famous, but I want him to be a thoughtful, strong boy".
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I always liked that scene. Can replace boy with girl also of course, and strong obviously not simply in the physical sense.
 
If he/she has a good head on their shoulders and has a heart, that's good enough for me. They show common courtesy to others, apply themselves, and learn from their mistakes. And even more importantly, they learn from my mistakes so that they're better off than I was at this age. They can work at mcdonalds or be on the cover of a medical journal. They can sleep around a lot or join a convent. They can like classical music or Lady Gaga. Those aren't the things that will dictate whether or not I'm proud of them. And ideally making me proud is all it takes.

I'm still a long ways off from that though; I can't take care of myself much less other little people.
 
If he doesn't generate more lifetime earnings or higher prestige, he's a failure.

Same for a girl, though I know it's a bit tougher.
 
FrostuTheNinja said:
Would you want them to love science fiction, while being moderately tempered and having a naturally forgiving nature? Maybe you desire that their inevitable upbringing will net you a doctor, an artist or perhaps the humble, starlight wish of raising a sports god.

What do you want your kids to be like when they grow up?
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Being better than my failures
Being themselves

If they do that alone I will die quite happily. The rest of it is immaterial bs that we do to survive.
 
I'm raising my kids now both 13 (already have a 21 year old stepdaughter) to be better than me in all aspects of life. If I achieve that then I'm happy. I don't care what they are or what they choose to do as long as they are better at their age than I was at that same age.

It really shouldn't be much of a challenge for them at all. My 21 year old already has a full time job making decent money is in college and pays for her own place. She's miles ahead of where I was at the same age.

Be better than dad. If that happens we all win.
 
If I ever have a kid I would want them to be the next Khan or Guevara anything less and I will cast them out of my home.
 
to be a beautiful person, inside and outside. The thought of having an ugly child kind of scares me, honestly. Maybe I'm a terrible person
 
My CoD bro, he's going to actually fucking check my six and not just bait me for fucking kills. None of that fucking lame ninja knifing shit too, it's unbecoming.
 
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