Long but brilliant, insightful read.
http://www.pattonoswalt.com/index.cfm?page=spew&id=167
On rape jokes:
http://www.pattonoswalt.com/index.cfm?page=spew&id=167
On rape jokes:
So thats how I saw the whole rape joke controversy. And, again, my view was based on my experience as a comedian. 25 years experience, you know? This was about censorship, and the limits of comedy, and the freedom to create and fuck up while you hone what you create.
But remember what I was talking about, in the first two sections of this? In the Thievery section and then the Heckling section? About how people only bring their own perceptions and experiences to bear when reacting to something? And, since theyre speaking honestly from their experience, they truly think theyre correct? Dismissive, even? See if any of these sound familiar:
Theres no evidence of a rape culture in this country. Ive never wanted to rape anyone, so why am I being lumped in as the enemy? If these bloggers and feminists make rape jokes taboo, or rape as a subject off-limits no matter what the approach, then itll just lead to more censorship.
They sure sound familiar to me because I, at various points, was saying them. Either out loud, or to myself, or to other comedian and non-comedian friends when we would argue about this. I had my viewpoint, and it was based on solid experience, and it was fucking wrong.
Lets go backwards through those bullshit conclusions, shall we? First off: no one is trying to make rape, as a subject, off-limits. No one is talking about censorship. In this past week of re-reading the blogs, going through the comment threads, and re-scrolling the Twitter arguments, I havent once found a single statement, feminist or otherwise, saying that rape shouldnt be joked under any circumstance, regardless of context. Not one example of this.
In fact, every viewpoint Ive read on this, especially from feminists, is simply asking to kick upward, to think twice about who is the target of the punchline, and make sure it isnt the victim.
Why, after all of my years of striving to write original material (and, at times, becoming annoyingly self-righteous about it) and struggling find new viewpoints or untried approaches to any subject, did I suddenly balk and protest when an articulate, intelligent and, at times, angry contingent of people were asking my to apply the same principles to the subject of rape? Any edgy or taboo subject can become just as hackneyed as an acceptable or non-controversial one if the exact same approach is made every time. But I wasnt willing to hear that.
And lets go back even further. Ive never wanted to rape anyone. Never had the impulse. So why was I feeling like I was being lumped in with those who were, or who took a cavalier attitude about rape, or even made rape jokes to begin with? Why did I feel some massive, undeserved sense of injustice about my place in this whole controversy?
The answer to that is in the first incorrect assumption. The one that says theres no a rape culture in this country. How can there be? Ive never wanted to rape anyone.
Do you see the illogic in that leap? I didnt at first. Missed it completely. So lets look at some similar examples:
Just because you 100% believe that comedians dont write their own jokes doesnt make it so. And making the leap from your evidence-free belief to dismissing comedians who complain about joke theft is willful ignorance on your part, invoked for your own comfort. Same way with heckling. Just because you 100% feel that a show wherein a heckler disrupted the evening was better than one that didnt have that disruption does not make it the truth. And to make the leap from your own personal memory to insisting that comedians feel the same way that you do is indefensible horseshit.
And just because I find rape disgusting, and have never had that impulse, doesnt mean I can make a leap into the minds of women and dismiss how they feel day to day, moment to moment, in ways both blatant and subtle, from other men, and the way the media represents the world they live in, and from what they hear in songs, see in movies, and witness on stage in a comedy club.
There is a collective consciousness that can detect the presence (and approach) of something good or bad, in society or the world, before any hard evidence exists. Its happening now with the concept of rape culture. Which, by the way, isnt a concept. Its a reality. Im just not the one whos going to bring it into focus. But Ive read enough viewpoints, and spoken to enough of my female friends (comedians and non-comedians) to know it isnt some vaporous hysteria, some false meme or convenient catch-phrase.
Im a comedian. I value and love what I do. And I value and love the fact that this sort of furious debate is going on about the art form Ive decided to spend my life pursuing. If it wasnt, it would mean all of the joke thief defenders and heckler supporters are right, that stand-up comedy is some low, disposable form of carnival distraction, a party trick anyone can do. Its obviously not. This debate proves it. And I dont want to be on the side of the debate that only argues from its own limited experience. And I dont need the sense memory of an actor, or a degree from Columbia, or a moody, desert god to tell me that.
Im a man. I get to be wrong. And I get to change.