hm well i'd like to actually get off during sex cause my girl wants me to and i'd like to be able to properly maintain my erection outside of her vagina.
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The Great Porn Experiment (TEDxGlasgow)
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hm well i'd like to actually get off during sex cause my girl wants me to and i'd like to be able to properly maintain my erection outside of her vagina.
well since thers no real guide only experiences others had, lets give it a rule of thumb.
you can go for the weekend-sex-strategy. if you cut out the porn alltogether, chances are you will see a positive development in the next weeks.
that being said id at least propose a no-sex-policy for most of the 90 days so you can reboot physically aswell as mentally. I'd say just try it out and im sure your girl will understand and support you in the experiment.
Haha, I don't think my girlfriend will be ok with not having sex, we are having way too much fun for that.
Vicetrailia
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Guys, I'm failing at this so hard.
Every 7 days I have to bite, number of sex situations withstanding.
In the morning I need to get the fuck up and not sleep for another 10 minutes, and at the late night I need to not be on the computer. That's the key to success.
Every 7 days I have to bite, number of sex situations withstanding.
In the morning I need to get the fuck up and not sleep for another 10 minutes, and at the late night I need to not be on the computer. That's the key to success.
Keavy_Rain
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30 days and today marks my first day of no libido and dead dick.
Tuesday night must have been the last hurrah for my sex drive, as I had one helluva sex dream. Me and three nude ladies all begging for me. It was crazy, yo.
Anyways, I am happy to say I'm 1/3 through.
Tuesday night must have been the last hurrah for my sex drive, as I had one helluva sex dream. Me and three nude ladies all begging for me. It was crazy, yo.
Anyways, I am happy to say I'm 1/3 through.
well, your way should work out good as well.
way to go, bro. thers gonna be tougher bumps on the road, but it looks like you got the hang of it. IMMA BELIEVE IN YOU!
see it as a blessing. no temporal libido, no urges. the next two thirds will fly by in no time. Do you feel any significant changes so far?
Master Milk
Member
I have no desire to continue.
I have no will power, at all.
Ten days down. Ninety to go.
Fuck everything.
I have no will power, at all.
Ten days down. Ninety to go.
Fuck everything.
Keep it going bro! I'm one day ahead of you. Day 9 was the worst of it. It can only get easier!
3-4 weeks have passed. Feels good, no significant urges. Constantly thinking about my former girlfriends but I'm too stubborn to call them and they don't want me anymore anyway. Too busy to start another relationship, too bored with dating sites.
I'M GOING STRONG. let's see if I can make it.
I'M GOING STRONG. let's see if I can make it.
Day 10 in the bag and the urges are starting. Usually first thing in the morning, when I'm horny as fuck. I found myself stroking to pictures of my girlfriend. Surely that's not as bad as it sounds, right? 
I didn't cum, was just touching myself.
Other than that things have been gravy. :|
I didn't cum, was just touching myself.Other than that things have been gravy. :|
sebajuNujabes
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Give me your secrets.
It's been pretty cake so far except for a few instances where I've come across a picture of a hot chick by mistake. Of course it doesn't help that I've been watching Game of Thrones and the unrated cut of 40 year old virgin(that 70 year old virgin gaf thread made me want to watch it for the first time).
Cuban Legend
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I BELIEVE IN ME, NOW I TRANSFER MY STRENGTH TO GAF, BELIEVE IN YOURSELVES!
HOLD STEADY!
RatskyWatsky
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Day 15 and I finally caved. I was away from the computer for most of the day and with nothing else to do and no GAF to keep me celibate, I managed to talk myself into masturbating. I didn't use any porn (I should have no problems going 90 days without it) or my imagination, but I still feel like I let myself down.
Ah well.
Day 1 begins tomorrow!
I was away from the computer for most of the day and with nothing else to do and no GAF to keep me celibate, I managed to talk myself into masturbating. I didn't use any porn (I should have no problems going 90 days without it) or my imagination, but I still feel like I let myself down. Ah well.
Day 1 begins tomorrow!
Lionheart1827
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12 days in. Had some moments of weakness where I almost caved but I just pushed through it!
I need to turn my life around and I'm very busy doing that. Abstention gives fuel to my fire. Also bad sex/fapping just drain you out.
Master Milk
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*sigh*
Yesterday sucked.
Day 1 is now.
Yesterday sucked.
Day 1 is now.
Don't unzip your pants.
Day 15 and I finally caved.
Ah well.
Day 1 begins tomorrow!
I personally wouldn't restart. I would just consider it "falling off the wagon" and press through while trying to avoid that situation again the next time.
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
I don't know, it sort of feels like "cheating". :/
Navidson REC
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I'm in the same boat. Day 14 and I caved in, but without any external stimuli, so basically just like you.
I'm also considering whether I should reboot or keep going and maybe add a few days...
On the other hand, I'm really happy that I pulled through those two weeks, actually. It's not like I had been doing it super frequently before, but multiple times a week was usually the norm. Looks like that's about to change.
I broke a couple of times. I'm still having sex with the girlfriend, but trying to avoid masturbation. Have to say though, no jerking off for a couple of days puts me on a quicker trigger when I'm having sex though, the endurance isn't quite as good. I'm having a hard time studying for some really tough exams too.
What I've decided to do is to cut way down on the masturbation; once a week max. Cutting the porn off entirely. Should wind that down a lot.
What I've decided to do is to cut way down on the masturbation; once a week max. Cutting the porn off entirely. Should wind that down a lot.
90 days is a long time and I'm more of the mind to see it through than to keep restarting and never finish. At the very least, you can push through and at the end of 90 days if you still feel like it was cheating you can tack on an additional 15.
Buckethead
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There's another TED talk called "Make Love, Not Porn" might be an interesting watch/read.
Just a heads up.
Just a heads up.
Barbacoatl
Banned
Another 2 weeks tomorrow. I don't think too much about it anymore, feel like I'm not fighting it, perhaps I'm more self-aware and conscious of my feelings/decisions. Been having some strange sexual dreams, 'tho. I really want to bury my face in some ass. Ah well.
I'm on about 15 days or so now. Its not too bad, but i do get the urge. Its interesting getting half a chub from full frontal in a movie again, that hasn't happened to often since my teenage years.
The longest I think I ever went was about 7 weeks in boot camp. It was amazing when I finally did, it was like the first time all over again.
The longest I think I ever went was about 7 weeks in boot camp. It was amazing when I finally did, it was like the first time all over again.
oh gaf.
I had an interesting dream, but I'm not doing the program.
RatskyWatsky
Hunky Nostradamus
I'm in the same boat. Day 14 and I caved in, but without any external stimuli, so basically just like you.
I'm also considering whether I should reboot or keep going and maybe add a few days...
On the other hand, I'm really happy that I pulled through those two weeks, actually. It's not like I had been doing it super frequently before, but multiple times a week was usually the norm. Looks like that's about to change.
I mean, if the goal is to go 90 days with no porn/masturbating, and you break that then what's the point of trying to continue? The whole point is sort of lost.
15 days is the longest I've ever gone without werking it since I first started around 10 years ago, so I'm not completely disappointed with myself. I figure that if I can at least go 15 days without masturbating each time, then I'll be in good shape. Maybe I can work up to 90 days; instead of staying abstinent (or whatever the equivalent is for masturbating) for 90 days right off, maybe I can go 15, 30, 45, etc. and then reach 90 that way. Obviously this will take much longer than what everyone else is doing, but I'm sort of interested in doing this for more than 90 days anyway. Seems kinda lame to go 90 days and then revert back to your old ways.
Why didn't you jerk it in bootcamp?
AdventureRacing
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This is the main change i'm noticing as well. I'm actually getting erections when i wouldn't normally get them (like running on the treadmill not sure what's up with that lol).
Honestly sex and masterbating has never really been that big of a thing to me so i think i will definitely follow this through to see how much of a change it makes.
I start to understand why abstention plays a big role in some religious practices. This shit totally clears one's mind.
I won't be updating my status here because this challenge made me think about things I usually ignore. It's not about 90 days anymore, I don't give a damn about a date. The trip has become too personal to share and I don't want to limit myself by some preset number of days. If I meet somebody I want to fuck I'll fuck her without hesitation, 90 days or not. If I don't meet anybody I'll go beyond 90 days.
I recommend every man to try this abstention course once in a life (edit: if you want to learn more about yourself).
I won't be updating my status here because this challenge made me think about things I usually ignore. It's not about 90 days anymore, I don't give a damn about a date. The trip has become too personal to share and I don't want to limit myself by some preset number of days. If I meet somebody I want to fuck I'll fuck her without hesitation, 90 days or not. If I don't meet anybody I'll go beyond 90 days.
I recommend every man to try this abstention course once in a life (edit: if you want to learn more about yourself).
True. You could also ask what the point is if you restart every 15 days
. If you're dedicated to the extra length of the challenge by restarting then all the power to you. And good luck as well.
Congrats. Glad to hear you're getting something positive from it.
I just want to add an addendum. Masturbation, in of itself, isn't terrible and there has been some research to suggest that it's actually quite healthy. I would be very hesitant to say I'd never masturbate after this (especially considering how the challenge changes the longer you do it). Though, I definitely agree with giving up porn if you're in a relationship.
I think, ultimately, it's all about moderation.
This is awesome to hear. I'll come back and read this post whenever the next urge presents itself.
Edit: I wonder if I should also go the full abstention route, as opposed to just the "no porn and no masturbation route" I am currently on. At least for 90 days.
I think "90 days" matter if you do a porn reboot. When you go the full abstention route this doesn't matter. It just a thing you want/need to do until it matters.
this was my reason.
Vigilant Walrus
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I didnt knew you guys were completely abstained. I have just avoided seeing porn for half a month now. I've realized that it has had some effects for sure.
but to not jerk off at all?
if I dont rub on one out it will actually hurt... it physically hurts my balls if I dont. is it possible to have so much testeterone that it would make it feel like pain? pain might be to strong a word.. big annoyance. mental pain perhaps. hard to explain. its like a pressure.
but to not jerk off at all?
if I dont rub on one out it will actually hurt... it physically hurts my balls if I dont. is it possible to have so much testeterone that it would make it feel like pain? pain might be to strong a word.. big annoyance. mental pain perhaps. hard to explain. its like a pressure.
I'm with you on this. I've just quit porn as that in itself seemed tough enough! Also that's the message I got from the presentation in the OP that quitting porn was the key thing to do. Sure, maybe abstaining from masturbation altogether might give even better effects but you know what, I'm proud of myself just for taking a break from porn. It's been a month for me so far and I'm already noticing some positive changes.
How did you guys that are totally abstaining avoid wet dreams? If I go a few weeks with no release at all, I will definitely have one.
Vigilant Walrus
Member
Ok. Mate lets keep going and reporting back to see if we find the same or some of the same benefits!
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