Dippindork
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How long was your engagement and how much was the ring, if you don't mind sharing?
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Engagement length and rings
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Inferno313
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I'm engaged right now. I spent a little over $2000 on the ring, and we'll have been engaged one year as of this weekend (going to Disney to celebrate tomorrow, in fact.) We're taking our time with the engagement, although while we initially did plan on having a wedding, we're talking more and more about taking a trip to the UK this fall and eloping, as family are making it all a literal nightmare.
RedNalgene
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4 month engagement. Ring was built around a family heirloom diamond so I got it custom remounted and it cost something like $5k
yanipheonu
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Really long engagements aren't too uncommon these days. I've seen a few couples have to live apart for a bit because of work, or decide to wait until they have a more solid employment situation.
Laevateinn
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We were a couple for 11 years before we decided that it made sense to be married. We didn't bother with rings, didn't invite anyone to our wedding, and spent nothing more than court fees on it.
Been with my girl for 9 years, planning to propose by the end of this year. How long that engagement goes, I guess we'll see. Rings I'm looking at are all roughly around 2 to 2.5k. Swear I'm probably going to have to drag her somewhere to pick one out cause I keep getting mixed signals on designs.
I *just* got engaged like three weeks ago, but it'll be at least a year before we get married, and maybe another year before we have a reception/party to celebrate (we're not doing a ceremony). My girlfriend wants to finish grad school first, so we're just gonna wait it out. The ring was $5000.
I have some advice to give on engagement rings:
- The most important thing is that this is about making your partner feel special, so it's not about buying a monstrous shiny rock as much as it's finding something that suits their tastes and style. My now-fiancée specifically told me she didn't want something that was too big or gaudy-looking. So the center stone is only 0.75 karats (though there is a halo of other diamonds around it, as well as tiny diamonds on the ring itself in a kind-of leaf pattern).
- The second most important thing to keep in mind is that all of the value in engagement rings is in the center stone. Even if you dropped multiple thousands of dollars on the setting/decorative stones, if you ever tried to sell it down the line, the only thing people would care about would be the center stone.
- Some partners will wanna go to the store with you and do everything side-by-side, others will want it to be a surprise, in which case you'll need to fill in the gaps.
- You can save money buying online, but if you feel clueless, a good jeweler will make a big difference in guiding you towards good decisions. I used Ethan Lord here in Chicago, and I'd HIGHLY recommend them to anyone in the area.
- There is no "magic price." Just pick a reasonable budget and go with that. "Three months salary" or "half the price of your car" or whatever is complete BS.
I have some advice to give on engagement rings:
- The most important thing is that this is about making your partner feel special, so it's not about buying a monstrous shiny rock as much as it's finding something that suits their tastes and style. My now-fiancée specifically told me she didn't want something that was too big or gaudy-looking. So the center stone is only 0.75 karats (though there is a halo of other diamonds around it, as well as tiny diamonds on the ring itself in a kind-of leaf pattern).
- The second most important thing to keep in mind is that all of the value in engagement rings is in the center stone. Even if you dropped multiple thousands of dollars on the setting/decorative stones, if you ever tried to sell it down the line, the only thing people would care about would be the center stone.
- Some partners will wanna go to the store with you and do everything side-by-side, others will want it to be a surprise, in which case you'll need to fill in the gaps.
- You can save money buying online, but if you feel clueless, a good jeweler will make a big difference in guiding you towards good decisions. I used Ethan Lord here in Chicago, and I'd HIGHLY recommend them to anyone in the area.
- There is no "magic price." Just pick a reasonable budget and go with that. "Three months salary" or "half the price of your car" or whatever is complete BS.
Inferno313
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I can't agree with this enough. I'm in the Tampa area, and if anyone reading this happens to be need a suggestion in the area, I whole-heartedly endorse Mavilo's. Fantastic service. They made the process painless, while still offering a very reasonable price.
Schwarzbier
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About $1200 and we'll be engaged a year and a half before we get married.
My fiancee gave me an example of what she'd like style wise and that was it. She ended up still being super surprised because she never thought I'd actually ask her, and loves the ring.
We decided on a somewhat long engagement because we're both busy people and our families are all around the country/world so getting people here requires a little planning and lead time.
My fiancee gave me an example of what she'd like style wise and that was it. She ended up still being super surprised because she never thought I'd actually ask her, and loves the ring.
We decided on a somewhat long engagement because we're both busy people and our families are all around the country/world so getting people here requires a little planning and lead time.
Buying the dude band online is easy, smart and cheap. I would go local for the woman's band.
I can recommend https://www.gemvara.com/ for the groom's needs.
I can recommend https://www.gemvara.com/ for the groom's needs.
Wait who the fuck would do that.
Also been looking for a band of my own, frankly I don't even like rings. Saw some dude degolve his finger working retail in HS and I've been terrified since.
Hispanic! At the Disco
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2 months dating then 1 month engagement.
The ring was passed down from her parents but spent $70 to resize, will need to rezise again soon and will probably be much more expensive so idk how much it'll end up being. Overall; cheap.
Her ring to me was $40 and its great
The ring was passed down from her parents but spent $70 to resize, will need to rezise again soon and will probably be much more expensive so idk how much it'll end up being. Overall; cheap.
Her ring to me was $40 and its great
Pagusas
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i planned the ring, had it designed and built over 5 months.
I proposed 2 DAYS after getting it (due to a very late delivery from the jeweler, I was super pissed).
We got married 4 months after getting engaged. Flew to our honeymoon right after the wedding and Packers game (Got married on a Sunday afternoon, went to the Packers vs Vikings Sunday night game, which they won ). Went to the game in my tux and her wedding dress, flew to the Bahamas right after.
ring was $6k. We had been together for 3 years by that point.
I proposed 2 DAYS after getting it (due to a very late delivery from the jeweler, I was super pissed).
We got married 4 months after getting engaged. Flew to our honeymoon right after the wedding and Packers game (Got married on a Sunday afternoon, went to the Packers vs Vikings Sunday night game, which they won
). Went to the game in my tux and her wedding dress, flew to the Bahamas right after.ring was $6k. We had been together for 3 years by that point.
SmokinGunZ1981
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Together for 4 years before I proposed, 12 month engagement and spent £4000.00 on the ring. Wouldn't change a single thing about it!
Schwarzbier
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Great advice. My fiancee told me not to spend a lot, just find something she'd like. Just communicate with your partner, find out what they want their preferences are. You can still make it a surprise if you're creative (she never saw my proposal coming).
LegendofDragoonLives
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This is amazing :')
RedNalgene
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i planned the ring, had it designed and built over 5 months.
I proposed 2 DAYS after getting it (due to a very late delivery from the jeweler, I was super pissed).
We got married 4 months after getting engaged. Flew to our honeymoon right after the wedding and Packers game (Got married on a Sunday afternoon, went to the Packers vs Vikings Sunday night game, which they won
ring was $6k. We had been together for 3 years by that point.
That's amazing.
WeAreStarStuff
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Been engaged since last August - dated for about two years prior. We still don't have a date set for the wedding, but we don't plan on having a traditional wedding. We sill sign the papers at court, throw a huge party with friends and family, and then do some traveling. Ring was around $8,000. I went with a local jeweler and worked with him to design a custom ruby (her favorite) ring. I think going with local jewelers is the way to go.
Pagusas
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sixteen-bit
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lol, I wonder if they got on the jumbotron
Mattakuevan
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9 year relationship, 2 year engagement, $5k custom sapphire ring.
Was a good purchase, no regrets.
Was a good purchase, no regrets.
Schwarzbier
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The ad on this thread is win 😘
pokeystaples
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6 months. $250. She wanted rose gold and morganite. Made for cheap shopping.
Maedre
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Wtf? You Americans and your engagement rings.
5 1/2 years after the first date and we were engaged for 19 months. 300 For the engagement ring. 500 for the weddingring.
KingCookie5
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Just got engaged, almost 5 years (4 years, 9 months). 12,000 CAD on the ring. Just signed the paperwork to build a new house (our first). Stressful but exciting times!
ThatStupidLion
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dated 8 years.
engaged for 1 year.
married for 2.5 years.
i honestly can't recall how much total i spent on a ring, but i used 3 diamonds that were passed down to her in a ring/earrings which offset the cost a lot i'm sure, plus bought from a family friend so they gave me some sort of deal
engaged for 1 year.
married for 2.5 years.
i honestly can't recall how much total i spent on a ring, but i used 3 diamonds that were passed down to her in a ring/earrings which offset the cost a lot i'm sure, plus bought from a family friend so they gave me some sort of deal
BurritoBushido
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Getting Married in December
16 months
$0 (grandmother's ring, and we both agreed engagement rings are overpriced and a waste of money)
16 months
$0 (grandmother's ring, and we both agreed engagement rings are overpriced and a waste of money)
Jellycrackers
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Engaged for 8 months, spent $550ish on an engagement/wedding ring combo.
Into the Light
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9 years $3,000
Darth Karja
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We were together 2 years, then our engagement was almost another 2 years. In 2 weeks we will be having our first year anniversary. The engagement ring/ wedding band set was $32 off of Amazon, and she loves it. She has been wearing it for 3 years and still gets frequent compliments​from people on how much they love it.
Matrix XII
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8 month engagement
$6000 ring
$6000 ring
BarringGaffner
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Together 5 years, then engaged in February and married in October of the same year. $10kCDN ring, custom through a local company.
Highly recommend getting married asap. Being engaged sucks. Being married is good.
Highly recommend getting married asap. Being engaged sucks. Being married is good.
SkeptiMism
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We got engaged after a year of being together but waited for 3 more years to marry.
Spent about a 150 euros to the engagement rings if I remember correctly (we got one for each other) and I think about another hundred euros for her marriage ring. All of the rings are fairly simple but beautiful.
People don't usually spend that much on rings here in Finland. Something like 2000 bucks that you read in this thread sounds completely absurd to me already as it is. But to each their own.
Spent about a 150 euros to the engagement rings if I remember correctly (we got one for each other) and I think about another hundred euros for her marriage ring. All of the rings are fairly simple but beautiful.
People don't usually spend that much on rings here in Finland. Something like 2000 bucks that you read in this thread sounds completely absurd to me already as it is. But to each their own.
shiftplusone
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we were together 3, engaged for 6 months and spent nothing on an engagement ring
Same, and I'm from Texas. My wife would rather us spend 2 grand on something awesome instead of just the ring. That is crazy to me too
Same, and I'm from Texas. My wife would rather us spend 2 grand on something awesome instead of just the ring. That is crazy to me too
The Albatross
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We were engaged for... lemme think... 15 months I think. We had been together for about 4 years prior to getting engaged, I think.
Her engagement ring was $6500. We were both against spending a boat load on a ring, and the style she liked fit into the budget I set for it.
Her engagement ring was $6500. We were both against spending a boat load on a ring, and the style she liked fit into the budget I set for it.
GHG
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Manmademan
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Engaged in 2011, married in 2013. We met in 08 so it was a decent amount of time.
We went ring shopping together because her tastes are entirely different from mine. Ring was 3 to 4k (I THINK...don't quote me on that) but I was firm on paying cash and not financing.
Had a baby due in March of 2012 and was getting ready to buy my house in July of 2012 and wanted as little debt as possible.
Not that financing 8 or 9k for a ring is ever a good idea regardless, but I was firm on not going that route.
We went ring shopping together because her tastes are entirely different from mine. Ring was 3 to 4k (I THINK...don't quote me on that) but I was firm on paying cash and not financing.
Had a baby due in March of 2012 and was getting ready to buy my house in July of 2012 and wanted as little debt as possible.
Not that financing 8 or 9k for a ring is ever a good idea regardless, but I was firm on not going that route.
The_blonde_and_blue
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- Hmm. I think we were engaged roughly a year before the big day.
- More than I care to admit. I think I spend roughly 8k?
LeroyPantwether
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Why does being engaged suck?
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