ElectricBlanketFire
Member
15 people I know have posted it and counting.
EDIT: To clarify, men are posting it too.
EDIT: To clarify, men are posting it too.
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People posting "me too" on social media if they've been sexually harassed/assaulted
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superdeluxe
Member
My TL has been filled with that. It's disappointing and troubling for sure
Shao Kahn Brewing a Stew
Banned
Me too.
KoopaTheCasual
Junior Member
Not just women. I've seen some of my male friends post me too, as well. It's depressingly common.
Nearly every single woman ive ever dated or known has had some level of sexual assault or Harassment by men. Be it family members, boyfriends or strangers. Its infuriating to me when any men really don't understand why this is such an issue and/or argue about the small minority of women who may lie about this stuff.
Nearly every woman has a story or many and they are strong as hell for having to deal with this shit all the time.
Also this is also for young boys and men it may happen which also is a big issue.
Nearly every woman has a story or many and they are strong as hell for having to deal with this shit all the time.
Also this is also for young boys and men it may happen which also is a big issue.
plagiarize
Banned
It's been all over my social media. I'm ashamed to admit I didn't think it was as common as it clearly is. The list of my female friends who haven't posted it is much shorter than the list who have.
Deadly Cyclone
Pride of Iowa State
Unsurprisingly, a lot on my wall too. Including my wife. Something needs to be done.
superdeluxe
Member
Maybe this attention on sexual assault will help change the mind of the woman who declined to press charges on Nelly because they felt the system would fail them
Hispanic! At the Disco
Member
superdeluxe
Member
It still fails them sadly. But more should still document and come forward especially against powerful men.
Alcotholic
Banned
Me too.
ElectricBlanketFire
Member
I've asked a mod to change the title to "people" to include men too. An oversight on my part. I'm sorry.
Keyser Soze
Member
It seems incredibly common for a random guy to reply and chime in "but they are just assholes." I am glad some are calling that bullshit out too.
Puck Beaverton
Banned
Yeah its pretty common. Woman in my therapy group has been assaulted by a man and a woman.
Earthbound64
Banned
Pankratous
Member
It seems incredibly common for a random guy to reply and chime in "but they are just assholes." I am glad some are calling that bullshit out too.
The thing about that is that some things do have some crossover, in that some people (men and women) will find a comment or action to be sexual harassment, whereas others (again, men and women) will not find the same comment/action to be harassment at all. In that sense there's almost a degree of subjectivity to it, so it makes sense to see some comments like that.
Just like to add that I'm in no way defending sexual harassers - just giving my two cents as to why you'll see "nah, he's just an asshole" comments.
Pilgrimzero
Member
I see this posted here. Then go to Facebook and the first post on my feed is a girl Ive played board games with back in the day has Me too posted. 
Pai Pai Master
Banned
I see this posted here. Then go to Facebook and the first post on my feed is a girl Ive played board games with back in the day has Me too posted.
In reality it's probably more than half the women you know and some of the men as well.
SuperBanana
Banned
I'm glad this awareness and openness is finally coming out and not being shunned or ignored but it's disheartening knowing that a man who openly bragged about sexually assaulting a woman was then voted in as president. It makes you realize so many people just don't care.
Baraka in the White House
2-Terms of Kombat
Sexual abuse is shockingly, depressingly common, I've learned.
And think of all the women who voted for / support him.I'm glad this awareness and openness is finally coming out and not being shunned or ignored but it's disheartening knowing that a man who openly bragged about sexually assaulting a woman was then voted in as president. It makes you realize so many people just don't care.
Diprosalic
Banned
i don't think i know a single woman who hasn't been harassed in one way or another. some with more minor cases but a whole lot had some disgusting stories.
men aren't so eager to share.
H.Protagonist
[-_-]/
Yep. That's the reality. Don't think I know (know well) a single woman who hasn't been sexually harassed or assaulted in some way. I know it's no great surprise to people that this is the case, but maybe getting a scope of it visually will impress upon guys just how bad it actually is.
Yeah, I've been seeing lots of people posting about this on Facebook. It's terrible, but what's also terrible is how not-surprising it is.
Sexual harassment and assault isn't exclusive to men, but I think, as men, we should use this as an opportunity for introspection. The vast majority of us are not Harvey Weinstein, but we live in a deeply misogynistic society and culture. Most of us (if not all of us) contribute to it or have contributed to it in some way. Think about times when your behavior or comments might have made women feel uncomfortable, unsafe, or unheard. Think about opportunities you have in the future to create a more lady-friendly environment, whether it's at work, school, or just out and about.
Also, remember, inaction is its own choice, and it has its own repercussions. What you do when you encounter sexism and/or harassment is your own choice, but as men (especially those of us who are straight and white), we're often shielded from the worst of consequences. We can use that privilege in a positive way.
Many of us are good dudes, but we can all do better. Let's do better.
Sexual harassment and assault isn't exclusive to men, but I think, as men, we should use this as an opportunity for introspection. The vast majority of us are not Harvey Weinstein, but we live in a deeply misogynistic society and culture. Most of us (if not all of us) contribute to it or have contributed to it in some way. Think about times when your behavior or comments might have made women feel uncomfortable, unsafe, or unheard. Think about opportunities you have in the future to create a more lady-friendly environment, whether it's at work, school, or just out and about.
Also, remember, inaction is its own choice, and it has its own repercussions. What you do when you encounter sexism and/or harassment is your own choice, but as men (especially those of us who are straight and white), we're often shielded from the worst of consequences. We can use that privilege in a positive way.
Many of us are good dudes, but we can all do better. Let's do better.
sooperkool
Member
I'm 47 years old and almost every single woman I've dated had told me they have been harassed or forced to have sex at some point in their life, be it physical force or coercion. Think about how many women that is. And I wager that it's even more common in minority communities.
Astral/H3X
Member
Me too.
Vicetrailia
Member
Pretty much all women I know have been sexually harassed, especially when around people drinking alcohol, and at work.
My wife has been debating with herself on whether or not to join in. She's spent years working through it all with personal and professional help. She's at the point where she's not letting it own her, then this Me Too thing shows up and it's all over her social media. Kept her up at night trying to figure out if she's an asshole for not wanting to partake. Haven't really had a good response to it if I'm honest. It's definitely made me wonder how many people are in similar shoes as her and hanging back.
I'd be surprised if the number isn't nearly 100% of women. I can't think of a single woman I've ever talked to who hasn't been sexually assaulted or harassed. Most of them can talk about one experience when they were very young, too. When my wife posted hers she said she can vividly remember at least 4 separate instances before she even turned 13.
Meanwhile... As a man, I can't think of any times I've been.
Meanwhile... As a man, I can't think of any times I've been.
ElectricBlanketFire
Member
She shouldn't feel obligated to post. It's a very personal thing to share.
Had a bunch of posts. Two guys posted it as well.
One of my female FB friends posted that she hopes it causes guys to look back at their pasts and consider whether they've ever put women in this position. Gave me food for thought. I thought back to when I was a drunk 16 year old and grabbed a female friend's ass and made her cry. I then spent a while in the shower feeling like shit. Self-reflection is a good thing.
One of my female FB friends posted that she hopes it causes guys to look back at their pasts and consider whether they've ever put women in this position. Gave me food for thought. I thought back to when I was a drunk 16 year old and grabbed a female friend's ass and made her cry. I then spent a while in the shower feeling like shit. Self-reflection is a good thing.
It seems incredibly common for a random guy to reply and chime in "but they are just assholes." I am glad some are calling that bullshit out too.
Or "he was just a boy not a man" Like we try to minimize this behavior in some way like no. Grown ass men are doing this.
Yeah I saw someone post "but men get sexually harassed too tho". Way to miss the point.
Onimusha78
Member
I'd say 70% of the girls I've dated have had something happen to them. And I'm only in my early twenties smh
excelsiorlef
Member
It takes an asshole to respond to someone else's experiences of sexual harassment by downplaying it and minimizing it and dismissing it by telling them that they're wrong and it's just someone being an asshole.
Isn't there a big difference between sexual harassment and sexual assault though? I'm not sure why they are lumped together. I'm sure almost everyone has experienced sexual harassment at some point just like almost everyone has experienced bullying at some point. I know I have had my share of both but I have never been assaulted (in any form).
Edit: Just before any questions it, I'm not saying sexual harassment isn't bad. It is and it sucks when it happens to you. I just think that sexual assault is a lot worse.
Edit: Just before any questions it, I'm not saying sexual harassment isn't bad. It is and it sucks when it happens to you. I just think that sexual assault is a lot worse.
I hope this doesn't get me banned but it's how I'm feeling atm. I've been sexually harassed and I've been raped. Tbh I feel weird about lumping all sexual misconduct together. But of course now it's time to put shit on the table and I'm so proud of everyone who's had the courage to do so. And I'm proud of the people who are silent as well and getting through it because getting up in the morning can be a challenge post trauma. I support every victim of sexual harassment, assault and rape. So I'm not sure what I'm getting at. Everything is so complex.